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Defying Convention

3.80  ·  Rating details ·  82 ratings  ·  34 reviews
Danny and AJ have been online friends for years, and secretly in love with each other. When the opportunity to attend a comics convention comes up, they decide to go and share a room. But friendship online does not always translate to friendship offline, and both are anxious about how the meeting will go, and the friendship change, when faced with challenges easily avoided ...more
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Published January 28th 2015 by Less Than Three Press
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~✡~Dαni(ela) ♥ ♂♂ love & semi-colons~✡~
I applaud the author for writing a romance with a transgender MC.

Danny is a bisexual transman meeting his best friend AJ for the first time. Danny and AJ have been online buddies for five years, but they have never met face to face.

AJ was born a female and has female genitalia, but AJ is genderqueer/nonbinary and prefers not to identify as either male or female.

The author really struggled with how to refer to AJ and, unfortunately, settled on the plural pronoun they/their. But they and their
Nov 19, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Defying Convention is an unexpected and delightful novella that delves into meeting your best friend and the person you love for the very first time. Danny and AJ have been constant fixtures in each other’s lives for the last five years, but thanks to the internet, they’ve never been in the same room as one another. Brought together by fanfiction and fandom – with hours of getting their nerd on together online - Danny and AJ decide to spend the weekend with one another at a fan convention.

Apr 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
DEFYING CONVENTION is the story of two online friends who are in love with each other and finally meet in person at a comic convention.

On the one hand, there is AJ, a Sri Lankan-American, bisexual, non-binary person. On the other hand, there's Danny, a bi trans boy struggling with anxiety and panic attacks.

They both are adorable, and I love how they care about boundaries, and how this book emphasises communication, respect, and consent, because we need more of this in romance books.

This novella
Feb 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015, fiction, queer
One thing that consistently impresses me about Less Than Three is its comittment to characters that read like real people with real problems, making them so much more relatable. In this case, we have Danny's social anxiety issues and AJ's highly overdeveloped care-taking inclinations. Not a story that'll change the world, but you'll recognize at least some aspect of yourself in these characters, and that will probably make your day at least a little brighter.
Nicole Field
Jul 06, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: enby-characters
If you're looking for a quick, sweet read, then in picking up Defying Convention, you have come to the exact right place.

Danny and AJ come to meet for the first time at a sci-fi/fantasy convention. So much about the first half of this novella is the two of them trying to work out how their friendship--that has existed for 5 years online--works in real life face to face.

Honestly, they both overthink it too much, but that's just part of who they each are. There are no real dramas and the
Aug 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars!

so sweet and adorable!!!

Defying Convention is a novella about two online friends who are meeting for the first time to attend a convention together. They have crushes on each other and they are very cute and I love their love.

The story is told in dual 3rd person pov. Danny and AJ both have distinct voices and personalities. They are round and realistic characters. Danny is bisexual transgender man, he’s about 25 years old I think. He likes scifi movies and he’s just great. AJ is

This is a sweet (and hot) novella between a transgender man, Danny, and a gender fluid lead, AJ.

It is a friends to lovers, met online, nerdy good time with the ache of a panic disorder and the angst of meeting in person for the first time.

As with the last Wilde book I read locations are confusing and I would have loved to see the HEA play out a bit more but a really nice romance overall.
A.M. Leibowitz
I received a free copy via Inked Rainbow Reads in exchange for an honest review.

This was so cute and sweet and charming. I loved both Danny and AJ right away, and I loved how we got to know them without the specifics about their genders (other than their pronouns) until well into the story. I think that was probably the best part and certainly the hallmark of expert writing. I was also thrilled with having the premise revolve around the sci fi/fantasy convention. My inner geek rejoiced, and I
Anne Dirty Girls' Good Books
Danny and AJ are rooming together at a convention after years of being friends online. They each have feelings for each other, but aren’t sure they are reciprocated.

This book was full of stuff I love – lots of geek references and that mutual hesitation of a friends to lovers romance. It also has two characters who fall under the transgender umbrella (if I’m using that term correctly). Danny was born a female but transitioned to male, and AJ doesn’t fall into any binary (male or female) role.

If you liked Jen Wilde’s ‘Queens of Geek’ then you will definitely adore ‘Defying Convention’, which is pretty much its slightly older (and more mature) sibling. Online friends Danny, who is bisexual and transgender, and AJ, who is bisexual and AFAB non-binary/genderfluid, meet in real life for the first time when they attended a comic convention together. Exploring communication and consent, boundaries and respect, identity and acceptance, this sweet little friends to lovers romance full of ...more
Aug 13, 2017 rated it liked it
6/10 stars

"I just didn’t feel this one. As a longer story, I think it would have worked much better. - Matt

"I liked, but didn’t love. It was too sweet for my personal taste, and I would’ve needed a bit more of basically everything to give it more than three stars." Maria

Find our full reviews on our blog link: here.
Stella ╰☆╮╰☆╮
Jan 02, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 100-minus-pages, arc, strw
Danny + AJ

Review @ Scattered Thoughts And Rogue Words

Danny and AJ have been online friends for years, and secretly in love with each other. When the opportunity to attend a comics convention comes up, they decide to go and share a room. But friendship online does not always translate to friendship offline, and both are anxious about how the meeting will go, and the friendship change, when faced with challenges easily avoided behind the safety of computer screens…

“You’re perfect.” AJ smiled up at
Keysmash Blog
This story perfectly encapsulated a convention weekend. Except the characters had time to eat and sleep. Heh. Danny and AJ, long time internet friends, finally get together in person to attend a con. From the moment they were in each other's space they had physical chemistry, and it became clear pretty quickly that their feelings for each other were more than friendly. As their relationship became sexual, there was very little angst, and there definitely wasn't any miscommunication. They talked ...more
Lore Graham
Fabulous novelette featuring a romance between a trans man and a nonbinary person. Their relationship feels organic and earnest, with excellent pacing throughout the story (helped a bit by the characters' backstory of knowing each other online for five years). Danny also seems to suffer from an anxiety disorder, and I appreciate how it's handled. Overall, I found this to be a well-paced story with likable characters, and enjoyed it very much.
Jan 15, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This little story was so cute that I feel like a happy fluffy cloud. It wasn't a long story or an overly complicated one, more like something you'd read before Valentine's Day to feel the love. It worked and I'm glad that the main characters were queer(it's about time we see more and better variety of genders and sexualities in books). A strong 5 stars.
Feb 13, 2015 rated it liked it
Recommended to Kathleen by: Stella ╰☆╮╰☆╮
3.5 stars. As a geek, I had an enjoyable time reading this story set at a sci-fi/fantasy convention. I also really appreciated the intense focus given to issues of consent. I felt it dragged a little long for the amount of story told but overall it was definitely worth my time. :D
I had been wanting to read this for a while now and I think I might have built it up in my head, because I'm a little disappointed.

There are definitely things I love about this. The rep within the two main characters; Danny, a bisexual trans man with anxiety and panic attacks and AJ, a South Asian non-binary bisexual who uses they/them pronouns. The relationship between the two is very supportive and accepting and sweet. There are open, honest conversations between them about boundaries and
Emi 🐝
Feb 27, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
sweet and almost perfect

A bi trans man MC! A bi, nonbinary South Asian MC! Pining! Friends to lovers! One bed! Geeky cuteness! This was so sweet, and it had all my favorite tropes, and the bi representation felt real. There was a cissexist moment, and a minor subplot in which the trans man MC gets very publicly deadnamed and misgendered, which threw me off a bit since I was expecting only sweet fluff. It was handled fairly well, but I'm not entirely sure why it was a part of the story. Overall a
Nov 04, 2017 rated it really liked it
pleasantly surprised! i rlly liked the characters and aj is how i want to b in a couple yrs.

the fandom aspect was handled well i like that they stuck to timeless fandoms and speaking in an everyday manner bc that ages much better

im glad they chose cap and iron man as the comparison becuase theres a long history there and even if i don't personally like a ship w history (like kirk and spock) i can still acknowledge there's sth there and it's not cringey to read
Apr 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A super fun and charming book! I really liked the main characters, and the handling of the real awkwardness of meeting someone "offline". AJ was a great nonbinary character (I particularly liked the discussion on top surgery from both Danny and AJ's perspectives). Danny was relatable in their nervousness. A lovely read that will leave you very warm and satisfied.
Terri Jones
Oct 31, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Five stars for sweetness. Seriously, if you need a short, sweet friends to lovers story between a trans guy with anxiety and a POC whose pronoun is they, both geeks, at a convention, here you go. It's low-key and satisfying. No caveats on these counts. I'd give four stars for plot, since I generally prefer a little more challenge, but it left me happy. All the stars.
Jan 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I'm just in love with this book.
S.A. Crow
Jul 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: romance, queer, novella
So sweet, enjoyed this so much.
Jun 13, 2017 rated it liked it
Funny, hot, and I'm glad that they are happy in the end.
Jan 17, 2019 rated it liked it
It was cute, but didn't really click with me (except for the sparse smut).

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Mar 06, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
In the beginning I was unsure about this book and these characters. I'm glad I pushed through if only because the story of their relationship so closely mirrored my own and so this felt like wearing a warm, familiar sweater. Short and sweet and non-conforming. A good, wholesome, no-stress read.
Feb 21, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: faye
Review can be read at It's About The Book

Danny and AJ are finally meeting in person. For Danny with his anxiety disorders this is a huge step. AJ is much more self assured. They’re attending a convention together. They’re also sharing a room. Neither one has admitted to the other how long they’ve been in love with each other during their serious, multi-year, online friendship. Unfortunately, an unwelcome blast from the past tests Danny’s abilities to function. Fortunately, AJ is there to
Zane Kage
Dec 18, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2-5
I had read one of Cecil Wilde's books before (No Straight Boys) and was curious to read another. I did enjoy this book to an extent – there were things that worked for me, and things that were extremely problematic.

I love the concept of friends falling in love from afar and being in love before they meet. I find that to be both current and relevant. The actual meeting, the shyness, the difficulty of acclimating the physical with the emotional and mental - all were well done. There was
Mar 19, 2016 rated it really liked it
Title: Defying Convention
Author: Cecil Wilde
Publisher: Less than Three Press
ISBN: 9781620044773
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Reviewer: Teresa - Fallen Angel
Danny and AJ have been online friends for years, and secretly in love with each other. When the opportunity to attend a comics convention comes up, they decide to go and share a room. But friendship online does not always translate to friendship offline, and both are anxious about how the meeting will go, and the
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Cecil Wilde resides in Australia, accompanied by a cat who takes up most of the bed, a family of possums in the roof space, and more spiders than they’re entirely comfortable with. They write altogether cuter queer romance than their image as a grumpy cynic might suggest.
“Danny only realised he'd teared up when AJ reached out to put an arm around his waist and snuggled close, rubbing their cheek against his shoulder like a concerned cat.” 0 likes
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