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Words We Carry

4.85  ·  Rating details ·  20 ratings  ·  16 reviews
“I have been a great critic of myself for most of my life, and I was darned good at it, deflating my own ego without the help of anyone else.”

What do our shopping habits, high-heeled shoes, and big hair have to do with how we perceive ourselves? Do the slights we endured when we were young affect how we choose our relationships now?
D.G. takes us on a journey, unlocking th
Kindle Edition, 130 pages
Published October 21st 2014
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Sally Cronin
Nov 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Words We Carry is packed with the accumulated knowledge, wisdom, survival tips and strategies from someone who went through difficult and unhappy childhood and teen years.

I think it is fair to say that most of us are less than confident about our body shape, and that is particularly tough when you can no longer use the excuse of puppy fat, and your friends are heading out in slinky black dresses and high-heeled shoes.

Unfortunately, not all mothers are born with the nurturing gene and as soon as
Lisa Thomson
Jul 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-help
This would make a wonderful women's book club read! There is so much material in "Words We Carry" that women will relate to, and want to weigh-in on. Physical beauty vs. inner beauty, self acceptance, fashion, make up, relationships and how they all converge to create a positive self image and overall lifestyle.

D. G. Kaye shares her childhood and early adult experiences that shaped her self esteem. She also shares many ways to improve self esteem for anyone who has gone through a tough childhood
Natalie Ducey
Jan 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
As a writer, I have immense respect for fellow writers who share their personal journeys and challenges with the sole intent to help ease the burdens of others. In Words We Carry: Essays of Obsession and Self-Esteem, Author D.G. Kaye not only shares her very personal journey to self-worth, she does so with an enlightened, grateful heart. Personally, I loved Kaye’s candid, engaging, and often times humourous writing style. This is an incredibly personal read and one that offers guided hope and en ...more
Sep 09, 2016 rated it it was amazing
‘Words We Carry: Essays of Obsession and Self-Esteem’ is a perfect title for this collection of memoirs about growing up with self-esteem issues, and the obsessions created by that situation, both in defence, and in growth and recovery.
D.G. Kaye presents us with another no-holds-barred insight into her difficult childhood, and how it formed the strong, confident adult she has become. This book also appealed to me on the grounds that I grew up in the same time period, and remember fondly the fash
Carol Balawyder
Dec 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
In her introduction D.G. Kaye says "I wrote this book to share the negative experiences and obstacles I've encountered in my own life. I have tracked my own insecurities and the self-esteem issues of my past in an effort to recognize and conquer the negative image I had of my youth...all so I could finally learn to love myself."
Anyone who has read her previous books knows that you can count on D.G. Kaye to be open and candid and in her own words, "baring my raw self to the world." Her honesty an
Janice Spina
Jul 27, 2016 rated it it was amazing
A thought-provoking book!

The author candidly shares her feelings over issues of self-esteem and Inadequacy that stemmed from her family life. She opens her heart and pours out the pain and suffering that she had to endure before she found her true self.

She relates her experience with ill-fitted relationships and how she saved herself from being dragged down by their harmful psychological and mental abuse. Everyone at one time can feel the angst that she describes from jealous friends, possessive
Luna Saint Claire
Authentic and Intelligent. I read the introduction to Words We Carry, and I couldn’t put it down until I finished. Everything D.G Kaye wrote about growing up—the obsession with fitting in, being slim to point of hipless, trendy fashion, big hair, makeup and even the high heels that we practiced walking in from the time we were three years old, had me nodding my head until I felt like a bobble-head doll. I was struck by a sentence in her chapter on flirting. “Our egos may lead us to believe that ...more
Vashti Quiroz-Vega
Sep 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Once in a while you come across a book that really speaks to you. Reading ‘Words We Carry’ by D. G. Kaye was like having friends over for coffee and revealing our innermost secrets or speaking to your mentor about life and how to make it better. The author, who has natural psychology, opened my eyes and made me ponder why I react the way I do to certain things or certain people. I enjoyed author, D.G. Kaye’s writing style––so friendly and warm. This book is well written and is easily one that ca ...more
Deborah Bowman
Oct 30, 2014 rated it it was amazing
D. G Kaye Bares Her Soul to Resolve the Self-Sabotaging "Words We Carry" THAT AREN'T EVEN YOUR FAULT!

D.G. Kaye uses all her feelings of empathy, compassion, and honesty to reveal the power of WORDS that hurt, destroy, and demean. Words that in most cases have been forced upon us, and we never forget their poignant sting or understand the devastating effects they have on our lives and our relationships. You create the reality that has been engrained in your mind whether it's wrong, unfair, or jus
Jane Carroll
Mar 01, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I really gained a lot from reading Ms. Kaye's memoir. I appreciated her struggles with self-esteem and how she came to terms with herself and began living life on her terms. I appreciated her candor about the process and her advice for how other women can do the same. And yes...I've been more conscious of wearing my lipstick...thanks D. G. :)
John Maberry
Mar 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir
I entered the inner sanctum of the other gender. The perspective of those members of the female sex who are concerned with appearance is foreign to me. I've heard it said that women dress for women and so do men. I have seen some truth in that but also have some reservations. Still, D.G. Kaye's evolution of her own concerns with hair, makeup, clothes and more was interesting and informative to me. As a man, it's difficult to fully appreciate the stresses and strains of all the effort that goes i ...more
Ann Fields
Jun 30, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is the second book (but certainly not the last) that I have read by Debby Kaye. In “Conflicted Hearts,” the first of her books that I read, I was amazed at the transparency in which she opened her life to readers. That approach proved effective in helping me to connect with her. I took away much from that reading experience, as I did with this one, “Words We Carry.” In WWC, Debby does it again - bares her life. Using excerpts from her childhood, teenage and young adult years, Debby shares s ...more
Colleen M. Chesebro
I purchased this book months ago, and for whatever reason, let it languish in the dusty corners of my Kindle. What a mistake! My eyes have been opened...

D. G. Kaye bares her soul by sharing some of the experiences she endured as a child and onward into her adult years, at the hands of a narcissistic mother. It's all there, in excruciating detail, the shaming and the harmful words used to inflict pain resulting in the author's low self-esteem.

She says:

"Many factors contribute to the complexities
Balroop Singh
Oct 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing
‘Words We Carry’ by D.G. Kaye is a brilliant memoir about building self-worth, learning to love yourself, understanding your inner voice and coming to terms with whatever life offers. We have to face negative experiences at various stages of life, some in the form of negative people we meet and others in the form of words that at hurled at us by bullies. Those words keep hurting even when we grow up unless we address them to put them in their perspective. Kaye shares her own struggle with those ...more
Oct 31, 2017 rated it it was amazing

This book was very inspiring snd to the point. The information make you take a moment to reflect on my own life .
Aug 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing
A real treasure of honesty and sound advice. The author shares her reflections and experiences with low self esteem and how she has managed to rationalise, analyse and overcome the effects this has had on her life and relationships.
Writing about her mother who was intimidating and cold, attraction to the wrong guys, attraction to older men and many other themes, D.G.Kaye never fails to hit a nerve and turn her bad experiences into sound advice. I want every young girl to read this and understand
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D.G. Kaye is a nonfiction/memoir writer. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

Kaye writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and the lessons that were taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome some of the many obstacles that challenged her. From an emot
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