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Ill-Equipped for a Life of Sex: A Memoir

3.20  ·  Rating details ·  102 ratings  ·  21 reviews
We quickly became the typical I-must-talk-to-you-every-night-and-drive-over-to-your-house-at-10-p.m.-because-I-absolutely-cannot-go-to-sleep-if-I'm-not-in-the-same-bed-as-you couple falling in love ... But just as quickly our honeymoon period came to an end. At first it wasn't clear. And then it was very clear. And then it was so fucking clear that John and I found ourselv ...more
Hardcover, 334 pages
Published August 17th 2004 by ReganBooks
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Dec 30, 2008 rated it did not like it
Unbearable and narcissistic, even for a memoir. The best part is at the end, when Lehr's husband, who for most of the book is described as uninterested in having sex with her, unconvincingly tries to defend himself as a sex machine.
Melissa Po
Jan 06, 2011 rated it really liked it
This is an honest, shamelesss account of a couple's struggling sex life. But although I enjoyed its openness on the scarier parts of intimacy, I spent much of this book wanting to strangle the author (it's a memoir, so it's all about her). I love a good love story. I do not, however, revel in reading a love story where the main couple seems devoid of any actual regard for each other. This seemed to me to be a history of two people so stubborn as to force a relationship instead of acknowledge the ...more
Aug 31, 2014 rated it liked it
This was an interesting read. I was surprised that Jennifer would run to a therapist with her sex problems, but I suppose it's something, some people feel free to do. I first, was thinking "if you have to go to therapy with a Boyfriend, isn't that a sign, it's time to move on?", but then I found out that is her coping method. In her writing, I could see that she kept falling into the 'treads' that she eventually discovered she was doing. John seemed like a nice guy, but I kept thinking, "Some pe ...more
May 25, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoirs
This book is amazing for what it tells--everything! Seemingly everything about a lot of things most people tell almost nothing about. It took a a lot of guts to write it and even more to publish it. I admire Jennifer and her husband. They don't seem afraid to be out there, up close and personal. The snapshots of the other people with with the black tape over their eyes make me wonder, because if I knew the person with the black tape, I think I would know that was a picture of the person I knew. ...more
Apr 04, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: memoirs
at first i thought the book would be really interesting; a journey through someone's development as a sexual being. then it turned into a trashy tell-all. she gets 2 stars for sheer boldness. i was embarassed for her (and her husband) throughout the book and you have to give her props for not being embarassed to reveal the most intimate details of her life. and not just her sexual/romantic details...but her terrible personality details like her zero qualms about spending her husband's money on t ...more
Feb 01, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Jessica
This book was a fascinating look in to the life of the author. She unabashedly describes aspects of her life (sexual, financial, familial and romantic) in a language of honestly not normally expressed- except perhaps in the communications between best friends. They would have to be very close friends to open up this much. She discusses a great deal about her use of therapy and what a large role it has played in her life relationships. This book was hard to put down- I never could tell what she w ...more
Adrienne Urbanski
Jan 06, 2012 rated it really liked it
This book offers a refresh and unique perspective on sexuality and relationships, including Lehr's own psychological exploration as to why she is attracted to unavailable men. A bit of the storyline is repetitive (and the English major in me noticed several typos), but overall the book offers great insight into relationships and how one approaches long term fidelity.
Jul 08, 2008 rated it it was ok
Meh. Book was alright. Best thing about this book is the naked pictures of the author. I don't think I've have seen a better set of boobs in my life, for real yo. Perky, nice size and REAL! Other than that, book was filled with self loathing, narcissism, and whiney dialogues and therapy sessions.
Dec 15, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A no-holds-bar on her sexual history, her economic dependence on her parents, and her oh-so-LA therapy sessions. Her intensive self-reflection is nothing but honest - sometimes pathetic, many times sweet and sincere, but always raw.
Feb 18, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
To say that this was a courageous memoir is an understatement. Let's just say that Jennifer Lehr is awesome in her honesty (which at times makes you cringe), and that I haven't yet read a book that so obviously shows the screwed-up intimacy issues so many people have but would never admit to.
Jun 01, 2008 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoirish, nonfiction
I read this a few years ago and remember it as one of the least pleasurable to read books that I've ever picked up.

The most memorable moment involves poor bathroom hygiene. I still want to vomit every time I think about it.
May 05, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
So far, I'm having a love/hate relationship with this book. Jennifer at times annoys the hell outta me with her selfishness and tantrums, yet I can't help but relate to a lot of her intimacy issues. Intrigued to see how this will end...
Angie Never
Jul 14, 2011 rated it did not like it
This book came across as

1. incredibly cruel.
2. a scathing critique of monogamy.

I kept waiting to like it, and it never, never happened.
Destinee Sutton
Nov 15, 2007 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: voyeurs
Shelves: non-fiction
I don't know why I read this. It wasn't good. But it's crazy to read a book in which a woman just lays her awful sex life bare. It's like eavesdropping. You know it's wrong, but it's hard to stop.
Anthony Haden
Jul 24, 2013 rated it it was ok
Irrelevant, uninspired, narcissistic drivel.
Daniel Hernandez
Apr 03, 2008 rated it it was amazing
If everyone read this book, people would be able to be in a healthy relationship.
Jan 13, 2008 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonficadu, memoirs
A co-worker had read this and told me it was really funny. I guess there were funny parts, but I mostly found it depressing, even by my standards.
one woman's memoirs of her sexual history and relationships told in a hilarious, self-deprecating manner
Rachel  Cassandra
Jul 09, 2009 rated it really liked it
funny funny
and perfect for people who have intimacy and commitment issues.
i actually had a therapy-like breakthrough with this book.
Dec 16, 2007 rated it really liked it
Good, thoughtful memoir about making a relationship work.
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