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Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life

4.24  ·  Rating details ·  666 ratings  ·  79 reviews
Popular parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham, author of PEACEFUL PARENTS, HAPPY SIBLINGS, has garnered a large and loyal readership around the world, thanks to her simple, insightful approach that values the emotional bond between parent and child. As any parent of more than one child knows, though, it’s challenging for even the most engaged parent to maintain harmony and a ...more
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Published May 5th 2015 by TarcherPerigee
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Danielle Wells
Sep 19, 2017 rated it it was amazing
(As with almost every book I read), While I didn't agree with every conclusion or method the author puts forth, I took away a lot of good information and ideas to use in parenting that I had not heard before. That is not to say that the author's ideas are unique or not easily found elsewhere; it is to say that my background and convictions would not have easily "allowed" me to put a book like this into my sphere of knowledge and therefore this is one of the first few books I've read in this spec ...more
Aug 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Pokud se musíte rozhodnout a přečíst pouze jednu z knih o AHA rodičovství, tak si určitě vyberte tuhle (pokud tedy máte či plánujete více než jedno dítě), ale jistě je lepší si nejdříve přečíst první knihu - AHA! rodičovství: Jak přestat křičet a začít žít s dětmi v harmonii - a až pak pokračovat s touto. Četla jsem se hned za sebou a to mi přišlo jako ideální.

Stejně jako první kniha, i tato stojí na respektujícím rodičovství a na potřebě nejdříve si utřídit svůj život a až pak řešit ty dětské.
Kate Winsor
Jun 05, 2016 rated it really liked it
"The answer is always more love!" This book was very motivating for me to be a better mom and role model for my kids. It definitely starts with me and I love how it talks about that. This book provides real life examples of dialogues you can have with your kids. Although some of the situations don't cater to my family, there were plenty of examples that I can use on some of the things my kids struggle with. I definitely need to read the first book out from the author. One more tool in the tool b ...more
Aug 16, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Četla jsem česky, ale byla jsem líná zkoumat, jak se přidává cizojazyčná edice. Sorry.

Aha! Sourozenci mi připadali asi i inspirativnější než Aha! Rodičovství. Přála bych si, abych to četla, když jsem měla čerstvě druhé dítě - i když jsem se hodně připravovala a nepřipadá mi, že bych vyloženě selhala, mohlo to být ještě lepší. I tak je tam každopádně pár postřehů, které mi usnadňují každodenní existenci a kooperaci s dětmi. Nicméně i u téhle knížky, jako u každé jiné knížky "o výchově", je potřeb
Dale Mullings
Feb 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
This book was a good follow up the the authors former work, but it didn't resonate in the same way with me. Maybe it was that at many times I felt like the author was speaking to and quoting mothers often, and it made me feel less connected to the content as a father. There are strategies I've employed that have changed the way I parent, just not at the same magnitude as her earlier books.
Sep 28, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
This is not a book to read all the way through. Since there were some parts that did not apply to my situation. But the parts that did apply, it was very helpful. I wasn't entirely thrilled with the writing style. Sometimes it sounded a little condescending. And it was more apparent when I was listening to the audiobook. But there were many helpful things and take away from.
May 10, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: aborted-read
I didn't finish this book, because it got repetitive and didn't really address the younger years as well as she claimed. We have a young toddler and baby, and they are not going to be talking out and resolving issues together, and the toddler is not going to offer to share his toys with the baby. He hasn't developed any empathy yet.

This book is 80% "worked problems" where she shows how you can guide your kids through resolving their own problems within 5 exchanges or fewer. It all sounds a litt
Lea Ann
Jan 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
Every time I read a Laura Markham book I vacillate between thinking I'm a terrible parent, and then that maybe I'm doing okay. As my children are getting older and conflict seems to be inevitable, Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings was a good resource to find some ways to foster their relationship.

Markham begins the book with some of the foundational precepts that made me appreciate Peaceful Parent, Happy Child, and served as good reminders of those things I have casually forgotten in the two years
Mar 29, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
I don't see eye to eye with the author on her no punishment principles, which is the basis for her parenting philosophy. Especially at the beginning of the book it was so prevalent that I didn't think this book would be of use to me at all.
However, I really love the author's emphasis on unconditional love and her reminder to think about what you're conveying to your child through your actions. She also has many useful tips that I want to use with my own children. Eventually, these things won me
Petra Lazarkova
Apr 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
krásně kontaktní kniha o sourozencích vycházející z principů knihy Respektovat a být respektován. Pro "majitele" sourozenců must have. Plná super použitelných praktických tipů.
Dec 10, 2017 rated it liked it
I knew I liked Markham's approach, based on her website Aha Parenting. This book was informative if a little repetitive. Gave me some new strategies to try. They are a lot of work but I think they might be helping.. hard to say. In any case, I like the premise; you don't want your kids to be kind to each other b/c they're scared not to, but because they want to be decent human beings, and your role is to coach them on how to do that.
Apr 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
Very helpful information about how to talk to your children and coach them to communicate with each other. I got a ton of useful, practical suggestions to put in place with my toddler and preschooler. The author has a whole section on when you're expecting another baby, that I'm going to start recommending to friends pregnant with their second (or more). I also highly recommend reading "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids."

My favorite parts:
The way you discipline your child becomes her model for working
Jan 14, 2015 added it
I am researching books about parenting, and specifically on siblings, because I have twins, but I won't read this author anymore. How can anyone trust Dr. Laura Markham to tell the truth in her parenting advice if she hides and ignores anything that goes against her own ideas?

I questioned an article on her blog with a comment, but comments are hidden by default. When she read my comment, rather than making it visible and commenting back with an honest conversation, she left my comment hidden and
Jun 23, 2016 rated it really liked it
This book takes the best parts of Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids will Talk and translates them to young kids. It starts from the same framework as Markham's Peaceful Parenting. Basically: get yourself in order first, figure out how to be aware of your own emotions and recognize when you are tired/hungry/stressed and try to head off issues before they begin. The crux of the book is about building empathy in your children and coaching them ...more
Sarah Street
Jan 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
Fantastic book. Not as good overall as "Siblings Without Rivalry" HOWEVER this was (I felt) more practically useful for parents of babies and toddlers. "Siblings Without Rivalry" is still useful but geared toward parents of school-aged children. The entire third of this book is a preparation for *before* your second child even arrives, which is awesome! Lots of guidance on communication with children who aren't yet using a ton of language to communicate their needs & wants. Wish I would have ...more
Jun 09, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015, parenting
I love this author's advice and that she provides SCRIPTS of what to say. I didn't love that this book had a pretty intense summary at the beginning of the principles from her first book. I liked that it was pretty skim-able and I could read through to the sections most interesting to me.
Sep 21, 2016 rated it liked it
It was ok. There are some good ideas and I like the overall parenting philosophy. Pretty hard to get past feeling like every squabble and tantrum is the caregiver's fault though.
Mar 06, 2017 rated it really liked it
A very useful book for parents with very young kids, specially parents with a new born and a toddler. My kids are older and the age gap is 3 years and 6, so it wasn't really useful in my case.
Erika RS
Sibling rivalry is universal. Children want the time and attention of their parents; for siblings this is an even more limited resource. Add to this that all close relationships experience some conflict and that children are still developing self regulation skills and it is no wonder siblings have conflict. However, using the techniques of peaceful parenting, parents can help children manage the inevitable conflict so that over time they become better at self-regulation and conflict resolution.

Kalisha Grimsman
Jan 20, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
I really enjoyed this book. The philosophical approach seemed quite in line with the authors of the Whole-Brain Child, it just dealt more specifically with sibling conflict. There were a lot of great tools given here, though I struggled a little more with how to implement them with my 2-year-olds. That being said, there were tons of real-life situational examples with all different variations, including helping younger kids with older siblings and older kids with younger siblings.

I really appre
Jun 09, 2017 rated it liked it
A 3.5. There's a lot of useful information in here, but the content is disorganized and kind of repetitive. Still, the examples are useful, the text is empathetic to the difficulty of parenting, and the gist of positive parenting is nicely laid out the beginning. That said, Markham makes it clear that there are no easy outs. Parenting is an all-in sort of deal.

Some chapters won't apply to all folks, such as how to tell a sibling about a new baby, bringing home baby, deciding whether to do tande
Jul 16, 2018 rated it it was ok
My biggest parenting struggle right now is the endless bickering between my 2 kids. It's extremely draining to referee 24/7 so I'm always looking for help. This is your typical parenting book - first couple of chapters on the what and why followed by chapters on how. The how part uses dialogue scenarios to illustrate the author's points. There's really nothing new in this book. The author encourages you to be more empathetic and understanding with lots of "talking it through". This of course is ...more
Jan 19, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
I picked up this book many years ago when I discovered her first work on Peaceful Parent, Happy Child. But, I delayed reading it until now based on the cover (my bad). I wrongly assumed that based on the kids on the cover, this book would be about siblings who were preschool and elementary age get along. But it's not. It's about how a young toddler gets along with a new baby. Why they thought this was a good cover for that is beyond me.

Having said that, I still found some of the suggestions help
Jul 11, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
Loved the concept of this book.
The final note basically summarizes it for me.

Not to be perfect, but wanting to change and be better, grow ourselves as a parent, for our children.
Preventative maintenance with each child is something I want to focus on.

Empathy and being very conscious and regulating our own emotions was something I was already working on (feel like I am improving).

Creating empathy and understanding between the children, giving them the tools to increase their own emotional intelli
Darcy Kaushagen
Mar 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book really changed some important things for me. I feel like I should be reading a couple pages of day every day until my kids are grown. Just reading and re-reading it so I remember daily to implement this stuff. At home, my boys fight hard (screams, name-calling, hitting, crying). Often, I lose my will to care because they are so frequent. Im talking three fights for every ten minutes sometimes. I do get tired doing this strategy because of the frequency, but I try to do my best. This es ...more
Aug 07, 2018 rated it really liked it
I liked this book much better than the first one, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids. It gives the gist of the first book, while answering so many questions I had. I still think this parenting style is the best, yet most difficult to pull off. My only complaint is that the book is really written for parents of pre-school age children. A lot of this book, including the whole third section, I was able to skip/skim because it was written for parents with a new baby. I really wish she'd write a book for pa ...more
Jul 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is my new favorite sibling parenting book. Lots of examples of how to help children talk to each other and express their feelings.

Wish I'd found this sooner. She also has a section at the back specifically about helping children adjust to a new baby - this would be an excellent gift for a mother that was expecting a second (or even third or fourth baby).

My favorite parenting book is How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk. The authors of that book wrote Siblings Witho
Angela Hedworth
May 20, 2017 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this. Very helpful ideas. However, the next time my kids fight, I'm going to have to grab this book and search for the correct script to use as I do not remember each detail, scenario, etc. I'm sure that will come with practice. I'm embarrassed to say some of their "don't do examples" were me! But I was already doing the validating feelings part, thanks to Tara. :) I'm going to read her other book and added both of these to my amazon wish list as I really need to be able to refe ...more
Courtney Hatch
Mar 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2019
I really liked this one. As with every parenting book, I didn’t agree with every little thing, but I really liked how the book was set up to give you things you can do immediately as a parent to strengthen the relationships between your children. I loved all the suggestions, and it helped me feel empowered as a parent. I’ve implemented several things from this book and have felt less stressed because of it. Pretty good stuff.
Tammie Smith
Aug 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book is giving parenting advice on how to stop the fighting between siblings. It teaches instead of getting frustrated with the children, you point out to them that what they are doing is wrong and tell them what the right behavior should be. There are all lot of practical suggestions in this book that are very beneficial to having the day run smoother and to keep the parent from having the meltdowns.

Thank you to Laura Markham and Goodreads.
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