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3.97  ·  Rating details ·  9,261 ratings  ·  723 reviews
Kom hier dat ik u kus is een roman over Mona, als kind, als vierentwintigjarige, en als vijfendertigjarige. Een verhaal over waarom we worden wie we zijn, geschreven met humor, scherpte en veel schaamteloze eerlijkheid. Over ouders en kinderen. Over kapotte mensen en hoe zij ongewild anderen ook kapotmaken. Over waar verantwoordelijkheid eindigt en schuld begint. Over gehe ...more
Paperback, 382 pages
Published September 26th 2014 by Prometheus
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Angela M
3.5 stars but not quite 4 for me.

Every now and then, I read a book by an author from another country that was published in the language of that country and translated into English. When I do I often wonder if the translated version reflects what the author intended or reflects how good the writing might have been in the original language. I can’t say I was taken by the writing, but I was by the story. I was drawn to read this because of my friend Jaidee’s beautiful and powerful review. I didn’t
Jun 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: those reflecting on their own life trajectory
Recommended to Jaidee by: kismet
Shelves: five-stars-books
5 "superlative, heartbreakingly funny and sad" stars !!!

8th Favorite Read of 2019 Award

Thank you to Netgalley, Amazon Crossing and the author for this book. I am offering this review in exchange.

Wow and whew !

This book was originally published in 2014 in Belgium and its English translation is due out in November 2019.

This book is about Mona. Middle-class Mona. Creative and loving Mona. Mona who struggles with her self-worth, her identity and her ability to be independent. We see Mona at th

Is Mona extraordinary? Nah. But is she pensive, sensitive, and smart? You bet. So I got pulled into her trials and tribulations and had a good read.

Mona’s family is dysfunctional (aren’t most?) and she goes through lots of turmoil as she grows up, but none of it is overly dramatic. I just loved buddying up with Mona while she pondered what was happening in her head and heart as life happened to her. The internal monologue never overpowered the story. Plot to pondering ratio: excellent.

Like t
Elyse  Walters
I was excited to read this book.... I’ve enjoy other books from the Netherlands.
Belgium is bordered by the Netherlands.
So, as soon as I learned about this book - [Thank You, Jaidee...>her review and passion for this book is heartfelt and wonderful], .....I downloaded a copy myself.

“Mona In Three Acts” was ‘surprisingly’ much longer than other novels I’ve read from this region of the world. I felt it was too long. The translation was fine...but there were pages upon pages of very ordinary descri
Renee Godding
Rating: 3/5 stars
ARC provided by publisher

Mona in Three Acts is the first novel by well-known Flemish author Griet Op de Beeck to be translated into English, and the first one I read both in translation, as well as in its original Dutch. Many thanks to the publisher AmazonCrossing for providing me with an early copy of the former.

As with most of Griet Op de Beecks books, Mona in Three Acts is a literary contemporary novel, that centres around coming of age in a slightly dysfunctional family-un
Apr 13, 2019 rated it liked it
Family life: it’s complicated, part 2
Last week I read Celeste NG's Everything I Never Told You, a very successful evocation of a family that is shattered by the death of one of the children. Ng portrayed very nicely how not talking about tricky issues (in her case gender and race related), and constantly adapting to avoid discussions, can lead to a dramatic result (see my review . This novel by the Flemish author Greet Op de Beeck ties in perfectly with
Mona in Three Acts tells the story of a child growing to womanhood and how the actions of her family and others around her formed her thoughts, feelings and ability to deal with life. It is very relatable in how we often bend our will to others, allowing them to mold us, often causing us to keep our own desires at bay.

Mona's strict and sometimes cold mother is killed in a car crash when Mona is young, and her father quickly remarries. With a father who has been distant most of her life, and with
This book was a bit hard to get into. I'm not sure if it was the original writing or just the translation of it, but I couldn't really enjoy it because of it. I thought the story was intriguing, and so were the characters, but again, I couldn't really enjoy it because of the writing.
I'm sad to say it wasn't for me.

*Copy received through NetGalley
*Rating: 2/5 stars
Aimee Dars
Nov 18, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction, netgalley
We first meet Mona when she is almost ten, locked in a dark room in the basement by her mother, Agnes and accepting the punishment as her due since she has internalized her mother's criticisms of her being difficult and poorly behaved. But, the cruel discipline soon ends when her parents are in a devastating car accident that kills Agnes.

Mona's distant father, Vincent, waits only nine months before marrying Marie whose moods are erratic. Marie often lapses into paranoia, believing Mona or her br
Vic Van
Apr 02, 2015 rated it it was ok
Nope. She didn't convince with this novel either. For some reason, I find her characters hard to relate to. Although I am not averse to novels relating the misery and hardship, the grief and sadness that some people are repeatedly confronted with in life, I got annoyed by the downcast atmosphere of the book.
Maybe I have seen too much already due to my profession, but at no point was I moved in any way.
No, I find it very hard to understand all the praise this book has been given so far.
ʚϊɞ Shelley's ʚϊɞ Book Nook
1.65 Stars
I only liked one third of the book, so it gets one third of five stars.

I really enjoyed the first act of Mona's life but once she grew up her life, and the book, became quite boring and mundane. The story felt like it was written by a first time author who had trouble with the plot, and it was lacking in character development.

Mona leads an uninteresting life of neglect not only by herself but also by those around her. The story was trite and uninteresting - an amateurish and then scri
Jul 16, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It took me a while to get into this novel of family dynamics and family dysfunction, but I found it exerted more and more of a grip on me as the narrative progressed and by the end I was fully invested in the characters and felt great empathy for them. As the title suggests, the story is in three parts, the first being set in Mona’s childhood, the second when she is in her twenties and the third in her thirties. It was the first part I had the most trouble with as everything is seen through the ...more
Lien Braeckevelt
Oct 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
Katia Valadeau
Mar 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It took me a while to cop this book was based in Belgium. I'm not sure why, I thought it was based in rural England, go figure. Beautiful character development and a long but interesting story line. I felt a bit frustrated by some of the knots being left too loose in my opinion, but a great book nonetheless and I related to the main character so much, which in itself is not a good place to be. ...more
Oct 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
Oooh, Mona.
Mar 17, 2016 rated it it was ok
Apr 30, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Beautiful book. Bit sad, felt melancholic while reading it (most of it at least) , but beautiful.
Pratiksha Rath
Oct 21, 2018 rated it it was ok
Well, i guess not a book for me.
Logan Landman
Jun 04, 2019 rated it it was ok
Very boring read was hard to get trough. The idea was nice but not very well worked out
Kirra (thebooksofkirra)
This book is about the maturation of a poorly raised girl with questionable parents. Written from her perspective over the course of her life and touching on her own self worth and esteem. I really enjoyed not only how this was written but also the message and time for reflection within each chapter and each section. I like how it’s written in a way that highlights that the impact on how you say or do things to others can affect someone differently. I would definitely recommend!
Sophie Anna
Oct 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Ruth Parker
Mona in Three Acts follows our title character Mona through three different stages in her life. She is a tragic figure and her hardships in life are shown throughout the novel. The eldest of three children, Mona has trouble adapting after her mother's untimely death and we read about her family dysfunction which impacts her life, following how she adapts and copes with these circumstances.

This book was a bit of a struggle to get through. I didn't feel much of a connection with any characters an
Jun 04, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
What a wonderful explosion of emotions and family dynamics. The writing style is beautiful and inviting , full of tremendous metaphors and descriptions. This book draws you into the heart of Mona's family which is filled with trauma, dysfunctional parents, stepmother and siblings. I felt like cheering when Mona eventually gains insight into what life and love could mean for her thus breaking her free from the embedded belief that she should placate and make everyone else happy. A great read. ...more
LianaReads blog
Oct 24, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
3.5 stars
“Thanks NetGalley and the publisher for my review copy “

Although I had a hard time to get into the story at the beginning, in the first act as the title suggests as well, the story picks up a lot after the second part and it makes good and reliable points in a young woman life nowadays. The way she sees life now and how she got there, her upbringing was an interesting read overall, heartbreaking at times but as said, reliable.
Jul 18, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
3.75 stars rounded up! Mona in Three Acts is a tragic story outlining important years in Mona's life. It shows how events in our childhood will shape how we interact as adults. Important people in her life would constantly manipulate her into being who they wanted her to be, and finally at the end she grabs hold of her life and happiness and makes a 180 towards happiness. ...more
Mieke Breuning
Feb 24, 2015 rated it really liked it
Must-read for any eldest daughter in the family. Written in near-staccato sentences, evoking the loneliness one feels when you have to be the "oldest end therefore the wisest" daughter in the family. ...more
Jul 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Marieke by: Carolina Mout
What a great book. Recently I am becoming more and more aware of the irreversible damage that is done to people during their childhood. Not talking about 'difficult' subjects leaves scars deeper than cuts with a knife. ...more
Sep 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Mona in Three Acts will be in my top ten books this year, My heart ached and I was horrified. I laughed and cried. I know a Mona. But this book, it demands to be read. Thank you for opportunity tonread for a fair review.
Lolly K Dandeneau
Jul 24, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
via my blog:
'Lying is a national sport in our family. We learned it when we were little and it’s gotten into our bodies like blood and water for other people.'

Mona in three acts is an emotional journey, maybe too downhearted and crawling for some readers but it clicked with me. This is a novel about the way we are shaped by our families, not often for the best. Three Acts, part one and it is 1976 when Mona says, “They say your eyes get used to the dark”, fr
Kaitlyn Joy
I received a reviewer copy of Mona in Three Acts by Griet Op de Beeck from AmazonCrossing s from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

What It’s About: This book follows Mona, a young woman from Belgium through three different periods in her life. Part one follows Mona as a nine year old who has just lost her mother and is gaining a stepmother. The second part follows twenty something Mona getting into a job in the theater and finding her partner. The third part follows Mona and her father'
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