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When Mama Can't Kiss it Better: A Journey of Unconditional Love, Loss and Acceptance

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WHEN MAMA CAN’T KISS IT BETTER is the raw account of a true story that rocked the nation in 2010. Gertz was America's most hated mother when news of a decision to place her adopted child in another family broke in the media. Her memoir details the journey to the decision that she couldn’t continue to parent her daughter, the steps toward acceptance, and the depths of compa ...more
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Published September 18th 2014 by First Edition Design Publishing
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Elyse (retired from reviewing/semi hiatus) Walters
MUST-MUST-MUST-READ!!!!!!

Heartbreaking, poignant, courageous, informative, and deeply profoundly human.
This book deals with dark difficult important subjects. Fetal alcohol syndrome disorder, shortcomings of conventional treatments, adoption services, daily horrific challenges and how to find a helping hand, and excruciating choices.

Couples, Parents, interested parents, anyone who has ever gone through the adoption process, (or considering it), educators, medical doctors, (psychiat
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Mauoijenn
*NetGalley book review*

This is a true story of a gut wrenching choice a mother made to better her families life and a lone child's. I don't think I have ever read a book that was packed with so much different emotions. This was a very well written and gripping chain of events that will leave you thinking about this for a few days if not for a while.
Krazybooklady
Nov 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Normally, I wouldn't have given a book like this 5 stars because it is basically just about this family, the circumstances surrounding their decision to adopt, and how their life was changed after the adoption. I did start skimming through much of the book.

However, I decided to give it 5 stars because it does an excellent job of highlighting the woefully inadequate care this country provides for people who are mentally ill. The discussion of the school's refusal to provide obviously needed serv
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Marjorie
Nov 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing
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When Mama Can't Kiss It Better, A journey of love, loss and acceptance by Lori Getz isn't a must read at all. IT'S A HAVE TO READ! This book is one that everyone who have children or work with children should read. It is about fetal alcohol Syndrome and what happens to a family when they adopt a child that has it. Once you sit down you will be stuck on your seat as you turn the pages and turn the pages and turn the pages again. You won't stop unt
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Rebecca Fuoco, MPH
Jan 20, 2015 rated it it was amazing
When Mama Can’t Kiss it Better powerfully transcends past media misinterpretations of the Gertz family’s case as a “failed adoption” tale. Taking charge of her story, Lori Gertz balances moving storytelling with enlightened analysis to reveal a far bigger picture. She presents chilling proof that our medical, educational, and legal systems are quick to place blame for a child’s invisible disabilities (and thus responsibility for “fixing them”), squarely on the mother. Indeed, at least half of the 38 d ...more
Victoria (RedsCat)
Oct 23, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2014
Some books really amp up my anxiety level. And I mean that as a compliment: connection with the reader and good story-telling.

Lori Gertz's memoir, When Mama Can't Kiss It Better, had my anxiety level maxing out many times throughout the pages. Imagine you are a nice couple who want to expand your family. You have a small boy, but then miscarriage after devastating miscarriage. You decide to adopt. And you are deceived.

When the Gertz's find a late-term mother who wants to give up her
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Pam Thomas
Nov 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This is one of those you have to read books as its a very poignant , heart breaking and soul wrenching story, after so many miscarriages and having to go down the road to adoption is a big step in anyone's lifetime but when you do adopt a little girl who shows no affection or emotion, who you find out that her real mother was a alcoholic, how alcoholism affects the brain of the unborn child, it is easy to see from what encompasses how difficult the road to travel is, but as a mother and father w ...more
Karin
Nov 11, 2014 rated it it was amazing
A book that details the challenging and difficult life of a FASD child and her adoptive family. The author courageously describes her struggle to get her daughter the help she needs to navigate life. It gives immense insight into a system that is not properly prepared to help not only FASD children but mental illness as a whole. It breaks your heart that this child was doomed to fight mental illness her entire life because of the actions of her birth mother during her pregnancy. Mental health pr ...more
Lorie
Dec 13, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This mother's journey is heartbreaking and inspiring. The battle that she wages in order to garner treatment for her child is a relentless one, and the path is full of roadblocks, misinformation, and misunderstanding. As someone who is actively in the process of foster-to-adoption, I found this book to be inciteful and thought-provoking. Throughout the book there were many times that I questioned whether I would have the fortitude that she showed in continuing to fight to help her child when I t ...more
Mel
Oct 27, 2014 rated it really liked it
received this via netgalley. a good informative read based around a adopted Child with fetal alcohol syndrome which the adoptive parents were not aware of when adoption took place. I felt the book was wrote with honesty and through the pages you could feel the mother's despair at trying to find someone who could help her little girl and put the family back together again. I would love a follow up to hear how the child and family are doing in the future. a must read.
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Lori Gertz was born and raised in Western Massachusetts. A writer since she was six, her love for proverbial ink on paper led her to a 14 year magazine publishing career followed by 15 more years running her own strategic marketing company. She received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, where she graduated Summa Cum Laude. She is the author of the A ...more