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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

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Expanding on her viral post that has become an international phenomenon, a psychotherapist offers simple yet effective solutions for increasing mental strength and finding happiness and success in life.

As a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor, and psychotherapist, Amy Morin has seen countless people choose to succeed despite facing enormous chall
Hardcover, 272 pages
Published December 23rd 2014 by William Morrow
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Ahmet I ordered on Amazon and I got it now I am reading it, still the introduction. Just started.

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Jennifer Heise
Apr 15, 2015 rated it did not like it
The fourteenth thing Mentally Strong People Don't Do: read this book or associate with counseling professionals who express themselves in this way.

I tried to give this book a fair shake (as an audiobook) but when I kept yelling at the CD player it's probably best to give up. I had hoped that the author was just using jargon in her personal list, and that she was more useful in a book length. I really did try. I really did try to set aside my frustration with the terminology and see what I could
Clumsy Storyteller
Mar 05, 2016 rated it really liked it
“People who avoid failure also avoid success." --Robert Kiyosaki.

Recognizing and replacing the unhealthy thoughts, behaviors, and feelings that may be sabotaging your best efforts is the key to building mental strength.

This is my first non fiction Self help book and i absolutely loved it , i loved how this book discuss Mental strength and how developing mental toughness is a skill that can improve our performance in every area of life. !!!

No matter what your goals are you’ll be bette
Sambasivam Mani
Jan 28, 2015 rated it really liked it
One of the eye opener book that explains how to be mentally strong. As humans we're mentally strong but not all the times, especially when we face lots of problems in life. I'd recommend this book to readers who is stressed, depressed, wants to get rid of their problems and be strong. I hope happiness and success comes to people who follow all 13+ things mentioned in this book as chapters,

1. Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Yourself
2. Don’t Give Away Your Power
3. Don’t Shy Away from Change
4. D
Jun 26, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Earnest Youngster Shames Suffering People

A tiresome, lecture-y, scolding screed by a young woman who has a rather limited view of life and why some of us struggle with life differently than she has. Think your way to happiness! Stop "feeling sorry for yourself"! Pish-tosh, get a move-on!

Long-term depression, the effects of trauma and abuse on brain chemistry, the effects of sex, race, and poverty on those at the bottom of the privilege pile - this therapist is strangely silent on the real scienc
Tan Markovic
Oct 10, 2018 rated it liked it
Nothing that I haven't really heard before; I feel like some of the points made needed fleshing out a little more instead of just stating things.
Having said this, I did enjoy the real life examples she gave to illustrate some of the points she makes.
Mar 22, 2015 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: listened-to
I can't believe I listened to nearly this whole thing. Oof. Such is my hunger for Self Improvement! that I will suffer through the most simplistic presentations.

Yes, the first several chapters had some freshness to them, illustrated with apt scenarios. But as we wore on, the examples became cringe-worthy -- this book seems nothing but an update on Mr. Dale Carnegie's equally cringe-worthy How to Win Friends...! The case studies draw heavily from the business world (Hershey?!) and the definitio
Robin (Bridge Four)
This book wasn’t really for me. DNF at 34% and skimmed the rest.

First, I tried to do this in the audio format, however the author is also the narrator and while she isn’t horrible if you are going to have an audiobook spend a little money and get a professional to do it unless you also double as a voice actor. I’m finicky with audio and gave up on that format after Ch 3 or 4.

Second, this did have some personal family trauma in it suffered by the author about some severe losses in her adult life.
Sarah Howe
Dec 29, 2016 rated it it was ok
TRIGGER WARNING: If you are still working through grief or trauma or self worth pieces in your life, this is not the gentle and supportive book you need. Morin dismisses so many important emotional aspects of mental processing that it is actually hurtful to those of us struggling or in the middle of the work. Many passages were so square and edgy they sort of cut right to the 'how come you haven't done this already', as if changing your thought process is just that easy for everyone. I almost ex ...more
You can never read too many self-help books!
juvenile, repetitive, nothing not covered in most mindfulness books/tapes, bit of an ego trip for the author
Jenny Baker
Some readers took offense to this book, but I didn't see anything horrible about it. When I read self-improvement books, I'm mainly looking for a few tips that will help me in some way and I skip anything that I don't think is relevant.

Here are the 13 things:

1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
2. They don't give away their power.
3. They don't shy away from change.
4. They don't focus on things they can't control.
5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone.
6. They don't fear tak
Oct 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
Rating things is getting harder the more I read.
I was actually slightly surprised about the bad reviews of this book but by the end I realized it's impossible to read and not feel like at least one of the chapters is ABOUT ME. Which, depending on how you take criticism, would get one Rather Riled Up. That and the tone of this book is a bit odd. For the author having been through SO MUCH BAD her tone actually doesn't sound sympathetic which is a bit confusing. On the other hand, it makes sense,
May 16, 2018 rated it it was ok
Reads like a rehash of almost every other self-help type of book that I’ve ever read. Might be useful to someone not well-read and/or young. The case studies are mildly interesting, but the advice seems largely self-evident.
biblio_mom (Aiza)
5⭐️ isnt enough for this masterpiece!

"If you choose to look for the silverlining, even in a bad situation, you'll experience joy and happiness much more often"

First of all, I can't relate to some of the bad and hate reviews on this one because the points are amazing and it had changed some of my point of views of dealing with things since I've read it.

This books is the framework to identify whats the exact thing among the 13 don't do's that I have been doing my entire life, that had affected my
W. Whalin
Mar 10, 2015 rated it it was amazing
In the face of several unexpected family deaths, Amy Morin has learned to meet these challenges head on. Each of these chapters are filled with skilled insight for the reader. I found the various principles easy to "get" or understand then apply to every day life. Each chapter ends with dual sections called "What's Helpful" and "What's Not Helpful."

Some people may wonder about the negative focus of this book (things mentally strong people don't do). Morin answers this objection in the introduct
Jan 13, 2021 rated it did not like it
0 STARS. A repetitive, moronic lecture from someone who comes of as, and probably is, an entitled brat.

Her hardships were endured as an adult, and useless to anyone who didn’t have a privileged childhood.

Terrible book
Debbie "DJ"
Oct 19, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: own, non-fiction
So I read this book a few months ago, and thought it had some really good topics. Most, I was already aware of, but definitely a few gems...wish I could remember them!
Tim Johnson
Mar 24, 2016 rated it liked it
After reading this book I can honestly say that mentally strong people are a bunch of selfish, narcissistic jerks.

Just kidding. There's no doubt that Morin has survived some really rough times and she therefore has my deepest sympathies. She has developed a list and although I don't struggle with most of the items on said list there were one or two that made me stop and think.

I don't worry about things I can't control or repeat mistakes. I don't fear change or expect immediate results. Some mist
Connie Kuntz
Dec 10, 2015 rated it liked it
I wrote a review a few minutes ago, but when I clicked SAVE, I lost the review. Sadness. In any event, all you need to know from me are these 13 Things I Gleaned from this Book:

(1) The section about her dog Jet was hilarious. Reminded me of an old friend who also hated linoleum. (Woody, my dog.)

(2) I will work on NOT being such a people-pleaser, especially since I now realize that people-pleasing is inherently arrogant and selfish.

(3) Time spent complaining should not take more time than the act
This book is a great read. It isn't a fun read, or even an entertaining one, but it IS great. Why? Because it summarizes really well a huge chunk of the skills and reflections I've learned through years of medical attention for mental health issues. Morin really knows how to make her points clear, and expresses them in a way that allows the reader to reflect without guilt. Questions are asked to help people identify the point within themselves, and then good and bad habits are discussed with qui ...more
Dave Warawa
Dec 06, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I was a huge fan of Amy Morin's blog post on this topic when it went viral. The moment the book came out, I knew it would be at the top of my reading list. The 13 Things that she refers to are synonymous with success on a business or personal level. Amy gives you the framework to recognize where you stand on the 13 Things, as well as tips and suggestions to improve. I found myself shaking my head occasionally saying - "Yep, I do that." If you are looking for an excellent self-improvement book, t ...more
Diana Johnston
Jul 26, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
My journey continues

As my journey to self help and health continues this was a great read! It’s amazing to think that in all of my years I am still making mistakes associated with poor choices. This book is a great source of information and I highly recommend.
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was ok
I’m quite sure there was not a single original idea in this book. It felt cliched and tired and trite. I sympathize with the author. She’s been through some terrible things in her life. But there is absolutely nothing here that hasn’t been said a hundred times before, and better.
Sep 11, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
Carol  Jones-Campbell
Mar 03, 2018 rated it really liked it
In the book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," Amy Morin describes 13 very common self-defeating behaviors that many people often do in response to stress (and life, generally) and how you can learn not to engage in these behaviors.

in the audiobook, Amy starts by engaging the reader with her personal stories of loss and of how she coped with the resulting grief. Amy is a psychotherapist and a licensed clinical social worker, so she knew what people should do when loved ones die. When
Christopher Lawson
Oct 25, 2014 rated it it was amazing

“People who avoid failure also avoid success." --Robert Kiyosaki.

This book grew out of a series of tragic events in the author's life. Three years after her mother died, Amy's husband, still young, suddenly died of a heart attack. Now she not only had lost her mother, she had lost her husband as well.

After these tragic events, the author decided to write down what she had personally learned: 13 things mentally strong people don't do. “They were the habits I'd fought so hard against to come out
Emily Udell
Dec 16, 2014 rated it really liked it
Full disclosure: Author Amy Morin sent me a copy of this book gratis because I wrote a roller derby version of the Forbes article she wrote, which was a sort of truncated version of the full work.

This book gives you a lot of truly helpful strategies for improving your capacity for dealing with adversity and becoming someone who can handle challenges, find everyday happiness and satisfaction, and prime yourself for success. Morin draws on her experience, not only as a therapist, but having dealt
Tim Larison
Sep 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-help
What caught my eye when I was considering reading Amy Morin’s “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do” was (1) the title and (2) these chapter headings:

Aug 05, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2020, non-fiction
The title is a little over-reaching, to my mind. As someone who has been through a fair amount of professional therapy, I felt like this was a solid refresher. I don't know that I gained any new insights but I was reminded of why things have worked in the past and was given the opportunity to revisit other tools. It was worth my time for that, though I did find myself skipping all the stories related to each chapter heading that sets up each point. I was able to understand what "Not being able t ...more
Farah Irshad
Jul 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
Here are some of the qualities author attributed to mentally strong people
- They are flexible.
- They don't react easily when others try to provoke them.
- They don't focus on wild goose chase.
- They aren't afraid to take calculated risk.
- They don't let their past get on their nerves.
- They aren't people pleaser.
- They learn from their mistakes.
- Failure doesn't stop them to make progress
- They aren't afraid of loneliness
- They don't indulge in self-pity
- They have patience
- They let bygon
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Amy Morin is the editor-in-chief at Verywell Mind. She's also a psychotherapist and the host of the Mentally Strong People podcast.

Her article, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," has been viewed by more than 50 million readers.

Her book explains the personal story behind that article and provides practical ways to avoid those 13 common pitfalls that can hold us back from reaching our gre

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