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Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

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And Then They Lived Happily…
We enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope, and excitement--we've found the 'one', so we plan and forge our futures together.  But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undone; they don't work out. Commonly, we view this as a personal failure, rather than an opportunity. And instead of honoring what we once
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Published September 22nd 2015 by Harmony
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Title: Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
Author: Katherine Woodward Thomas
Publisher: Harmony
Reviewed By: Arlena Dean
Rating: Five

"Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After" by Katherine Woodward Thomas

My Thoughts...

This was a very good self help read especially if you are going through a breakup of
any kind...this read is for you.

Here are some of what I took from the read....

Bad experiences can be turn into positive ones.

Wisdom and Guidance's...hand
Brian Tucker
Jan 05, 2016 rated it it was amazing
For the love of god. Everyone please read this.

Update 12/10/16 - I've read this 7 times this year and it gets better every time. This has become one of those special books. I hope it makes a difference in your life as it has in mine.
Oct 21, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I learned so much from reading this book. My intention behind reading this book was to help understand some of my many relationship patterns - work, friends, family, etc. It certainly delivered on that intention. I've read it once, and will reread it in the coming weeks. Taking more time to dive into exercises.

My first read opened my eyes to some deeper thoughts on creating a new foundation/filter for my relationships. There were even a few moments where the light bulb clicked on to long held m
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I found the ideas in the book to be very powerful and worthwhile. Being involved with singles through my retreats for singles and being single myself, I have seen a lot of pain and suffering when a dating relationship does not work out or hearing the perspective from divorced people about their breakups.

There is no
I am crawling through this book, FINALLY on page 129. I am taking my time with each of the 5 steps to be really ready for the next. This is the first book that gave me tools to calm my emotions and wrap my mind around my divorce. For the first time, I could make it through a day without crying and I just kept getting better and better as I worked through these steps and really did the emotional work of growing.
Katrina Sark
May 25, 2016 rated it liked it
"Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you." (Jean-Paul Sartre)
Albertine Davies
Jul 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book was an eye-opener. Several things in the first chapter made me really think. It seems so obvious that the length of a relationship should not be the deciding factor in its value, and yet somehow I needed this spelt out for me. Some people may have been together 50 years and counting, but may not be happy, just because they are still together. Others are brave enough to value what they have had together and when it ends in its current form, to try to evolve into something new and loving ...more
Mar 22, 2017 rated it liked it
Enjoyed the writing and simplicity of language as a self help book, but didn't necessarily learn anything new. Well structured and organized information.
Nov 13, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book! Anyone going through a breakup, of any kind, should read this.
Nov 27, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book is a guide for those who choose to grow through life's experiences in a positive way. Divorce can be more than something to just get through. It can be a catalyst for transformation.
Oct 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
What you will get out of "Conscious Uncoupling" depends on your commitment to turning a breakup into a positive learning experience. The book itself will not change your life, but it will give you a framework to follow to change your life for yourself. It's a book to be used, rather than a book just to be read.

I bought this book after my long-term relationship ended, and while it did not cure me of my grief, it gave me the tools to identify and start to work on patterns of behaviour and thought
A. Y. Berthiaume
May 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
Conscious Uncoupling was more than I expected. I picked it up because I liked the idea of turning the coined and tried phrase "Happily Ever After" on its head, but I never imagined it would be full of anecdotes from the author's life or people she's worked with; research and theory; and/or self-help meditations and guided questions. It felt like part memoir, part (relationship) psychology, and part self-help. And completely useful to not just those going through divorce but anyone going through ...more
Mar 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I’m going through a divorce right now. It’s [supposed to be] an amicable one, but a divorce nonetheless. As I’m going through a downward spiral felling sad, lonely, not respected and betrayed, this book showed that I’m not the first and won’t be the last to go through separation, and if we think about long-term well-being (forever live with the consequences) instead of the short-term vengeance there is a light in the end of the tunnel. Lots of questions aiming to get to the root cause of the pro ...more
Feb 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
I first heard about conscious uncoupling like most people when that famous couple made it known. I didn't really think anything about it until I saw this book and being myself now in the middle of a divorce I thought I would give it a read. I actually took a lot of positive things away from this book and I don't think this is only for people going through a divorce but also people who have gone through a bad breakup, ending of a friendship etc. I'm glad that I gave this book a chance because I a ...more
Aug 20, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Nem egyszerű eldönteni, hány csillagot is érdemelne ez a könyv. Szomorú, hogy napjainkban ilyen témában is kell olvasható irodalomnak lennie, de egyben pozitívnak tartom azt, hogy itt egy békésebb, barátibb elválás felé terelik a feleket. Mert van az a pont, ahonnan nincs visszaút, alakuljon így bármilyen okból kifolyólag is. És én ha ilyen helyzetben lennék, inkább szeretnék emberien elbúcsúzni, mint háborúzni. Más kérdés, hogy az olvasottak alapján ez bizony nem is olyan egyszerű feladat.
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Picked this up to gain a better understanding of the "conscious uncoupling" term that seemed to be tossed around everywhere after the Gwynyth Paltrow/Chris Martin split was announced. Seems the basic idea is for adults to try to act like adults in the wake of the end of a romantic relationship, something that is especially important if they have children together. There were some good quotes in the book from a variety of sources (Elizabeth Gilbert, Maya Angelou, William Shakespeare, and Paulo Co ...more
Oct 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Brief comments about the book: Thought the author did a good job in the attempt to enable the breakup to be as positive as it could be always reminding the couple to think about the effect of the children. Lots of self assessments along the way and exercises could be done individually or as a couple. I didn't read the book word for word--just scanned to get the jist of what was being said. I thought the quotes (more than a hundred of them dispersed throughout the book and enclosed in boxes) were ...more
Oct 13, 2016 rated it really liked it
I read this book and worked with an authorized coach to go over the steps in this book.
It presents information in a simple yet personalized way that I found very compelling.
The forgiveness exercises are best done with someone like a coach to help keep you working and honest on them.
I found the book very helpful in my process and highly recommend to anyone who is having relationship challenges.
I would also recommend to anyone entering a long-term relationship, as you will learn helpful techniques
Merry Lee
Oct 06, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Hugely informative, including scientifically so. Wonderfully hopeful approach to a supremely painful experience. Full of lightbulb quotes. My fave: "I have woven a parachute out of everything broken" by William Stafford.
Jan 23, 2016 rated it it was amazing
A wonderful book with new ideas on how to end relationships. I found it very helpful and encouraging.
Sep 30, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Such an amazing book. One of my fave things about the book is the 'Conscious Uncoupling Creed' in the back. I read it first and loved the book that much more throughout.
Tammy Nelson
Apr 22, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Excellent book - this book changes the way we look at endings. Powerful and empathetic.
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Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT is the author of the New York Times Bestseller Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After which was nominated for a Books for a Better Life Award, and the national bestseller, Calling in “The One:” 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life. She is also a licensed marriage and family therapist and teacher to thousands from all corners of the world ...more
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