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Leaving Mother Lake: A Childhood at the Edge of the World

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The Tibetans refer to Moso country as 'The Country of Daughters' because of their unique matrilineal society. In Moso culture, daughters are favoured children. There is no word for father, marriage is considered a backward practice, and property is passed on from mother to daughter. LEAVING MOTHER LAKE is the haunting memoir of a girl growing up in a remarkable place. In h ...more
Paperback, 290 pages
Published December 1st 2005 by Abacus Software (first published 2003)
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Jeanette
Dec 30, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This autobiography is certainly different. Not just in the cultural matrilineal context but in the voice of the speaker, Namu. I don't believe that in all my years of reading, and in anthropological or any Asian ethnology or even in fiction, have I come across a female as nervy, bombastic, and frankly egotistical. Others might see it differently or perceive only some form of sparkling personality from the get-go, but I still think she is highly unusual. For any culture. And not only in her react ...more
Nick
Aug 30, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The Moso (also spelled Mosuo) are a small minority who live in southern China near Tibet. They are famous for the unique relationship between the sexes practiced by most groups. Women manage not just the household but the domestic economy (and work) while men are often away trading or herding yaks. The women of a family reside in the same house, each with a separate room where they receive visits from men they are free to choose; relationships are usually transitory, and jealousy is discouraged. ...more
Liralen
Yang Erche Namu grew up in an isolated area of the Himalayas where relationships play out rather differently than most of the world considers to be the norm. For the Moso (also spelled Mosuo), matriarchs rule, and individual couples do not move into houses of their own; instead, male lovers visit their female lovers at night for as long as both are amenable, and all children stay with their mother.

Not a ton has been written about the Moso, and this is the only memoir that I know of by somebody w
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Tom
Mar 12, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Terianne Petzold
Shelves: 2008-books-read
I first learned of Chinese pop singer Namu when she was quoted in the New York Times as offering to marry French President Nicolas Sarkozy. So, I Googled her and this book was a prominent mention there, and in a recent New York Times profile.
This is a fascinating look at an old Chinese-Tibetan ethnic group so isolated Namu writes of dirt floors, and the pig living in the courtyard (before he's slaughtered and eaten - every bit). And this was the 1960s.
The Moso is an ethnic group that has a matri
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Dannie
Sep 18, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the most interetsing culture I have ever heard about! The Moso are a Chinese minority near the Sichuan / Yunnan provinces border who have a matrilineal society, where property is handed down through female lines. There is no marriage, but men go to visit their lovers at their house and then leave in the morning. If a woman wants to end the relationship, she hangs his pack near the front gate as a message. Children are raised in the mother's house with their uncles as the male presence.
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Ariel
Jan 25, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
this was an amazing story. i gave it four stars because i did not find the writing all that great. but the story is incredible and a real inspiration. about a young girl from Moso country, a matrilinial society. the concepts in this woman's culture were so hard for me to imagine actually existing - a culture in which, for instance, young women have sex and babies with various men (of their choosing), and then let them know when they don't feel like seeing them again. a culture where men never li ...more
Cathy
Apr 21, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction, kindle
Wow, this was fascinating stuff. A teenage girl from China's minority Mosu culture, where women take lovers instead of marrying and everyone lives in extended matrilineal households, leaves for the bright lights of urban China to become a singer in the '80s. It’s refreshing, because she LOVES the outside world – cars! Hot showers! Fashion magazines! But she also has great love and affection for her home, and is able finally to move between them. Usually this kind of narrative ends with the concl ...more
Audrey Chin
Oct 11, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Some books just capture you with content. This is how it was when I opened the pages of Leaving Mother Lake.

I read this book just before a trip to Lugu Lake, the Country of Women where Yang Erche Namu grew up. It brought the culture alive for me;)

It has been said that Yang Erche exoticized the lifestyle of the Mosuo. Indeed, it's true, there is much less of the traditional "walking marriage" lifestyle she writes about. Nonetheless, I thought the book provided a very good background to the still
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Kristianne
Perhaps matriarchy is not what we expect, one of Mathieu's professors points out. What we call matriarchal culture is usually more accurately matrilineal culture, which is neither inherently matriarchal nor egalitarian. He thinks the difference lies mainly in that patrilinial societies accept the domination of women by their fathers and husbands and in matrilineal society they are bullied by uncles and brothers.
This problemitizaion of viewing the Moso people's seemingly female-driven culture thr
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Karen Floyd
Apr 27, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
A fascinating look at the life of a particular young girl in a unique matrilinear culture, and her relationaship with her mother. The Moso are a matrilinear society, NOT matriarchal, which is a completely different concept. Property and the home pass from mother to daughter, and the sons and daughters remain in the home of their mothers, so, while there are no "fathers," there are brothers cousins and uncles. The elders of the family, of both genders, make the decisions, but the home and all the ...more
Krystle
Okay. Just... okay.

There were interesting bits here and there (basically anytime there was a potential for culture clash -- Han, Yi, etc.), but never enough to make me invested.


As a kick, I googled Namu, and found this TIME article.
Well. She's certainly a character.

But knowing that, I have a hard time separating the reality and fantasy of Namu's life, and what areas Mathieu had to fill in. And so now it's in that weird gray-zone between memoir and fiction -- and that doesn't sit well with me.


Hon
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Judy
Feb 02, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
It took me quite a while to 'get' into this story. Once I realized it was non-fiction I did better. I had it on my Nook and didn't realize it was a memoir of a young Moso woman. Honestly, I had no idea these people existed and was totally unfamiliar with their culture. Namu tells the story of her life in this odd, matriarchial world of the Moso. I found it funny how the Chinese have tried to understand them and have looked for ways to bring them into the Chinese way of living. Her story is a uni ...more
Lisa
May 19, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: recently-read
This was read on my memoir kick this year. I LOVE this story! I LOVE this community - a matrilinear community on the edge of China / Tibet. Men live with their mothers, and the women are the heart of the community. Sisters are indeed doing it for themselves! I can see this little village in my head, I am desperate to go and visit it. The story of the village alone was enough to keep me up at night. However, the "real" story is about the girl who started as a villager and ended as a world famous ...more
Pamela
Jan 12, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: china, 2011
An interesting account of a little-known minority of Western China--a matrilineal society that does not believe in marriage and maintains a strong, family-based society instead of a marriage-based one. I enjoyed Namu's journey from remote mountains to Shanghai. I also highly recommend that people read the afterword, as Christine Matheiu explains further how the people of the Moso culture live and work. A good read.
Sylvia Tedesco
Jun 23, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There is no marriage, but men go to visit their lovers at their house and then leave in the morning. If a woman wants to end the relationship, she hangs his pack near the front gate as a message. Children are raised in the mother's house with their uncles as the male presence.
I was a little slow to get into this true story and then I was completely involved and spent the day finishing it. It has the glow of reality to it and you can feel almost how it is to live in a matrilineal family that is
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Jennifer Page
Jun 08, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book goes on my short list of "Non-fiction I have loved." (I actually didn't realize it was a memoir when I picked it up -- if I had I might not have read it!) I found it on a list of 50 books by women of color (https://bitchmedia.org/art…/i-read-50...). I LOVED this book. It's about a woman born into the Moso peoples -- I'm not good at geography but I place them somewhere in between Tibet and China. One of the remarkable things about the Moso is that marriage is not part of their culture. ...more
Linda
Sep 14, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A really fascinating biography that is almost unbelievable in this day and age. It is the story of a young girl coming of age in the 70's in an unusual society in the Himalayas - a society run by women who control the households, pass property to daughters, make all the important decisions, consider marriage inconvenient and unnecessary... The women take many lovers, but live with none, in order to produce more daughters. (Hmmmm, maybe not such a bad idea...).
The author was a stubborn and rebel
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Aysegul
Nov 01, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Roman gerçek bir yaşam öyküsünden uyarlanmış, ancak gerçek olamayacak kadar alışılmışın dışında bir kültürden bahsediyor. Dünya tarihinde fazla örneği bulunmayan "anasoylu" yaşam tarzı oldukça farklı ve anlatılan hikaye ilgi çekici.

Buna rağmen 5 üzerinden 4 puan vermemin sebebi karakter ile yeterince empati kuramamış olmam. Karakterin kendini toplumdan farklı hissettiği ve hep yeni ufuklar keşfetmek istediği açık, ancak bu onun çıkarcı ve bencil biri olmadığı anlamına gelmiyor. Geride kalanlara
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Chris
Jan 25, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Highly recommended. In the afterword the co-author claims that the Moso minority group are not matriarchial merely matrilineal but their familial arrangements are fascinating and according to Yang Erche Namu's account their cultural mores seem to really work in avoiding a lot of the ills common the the rest of the world such as sexual jealousy, break-down of the family unit due to infidelity and divorce, teenage sexual experimentation. Could it ever work in a rich modern society?
Gustine
Aug 05, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the memoir of a girl who grew up near the Himalayas in southwest China in a region with a culture unlike any other in the world: their society is matrilineal, there is no marriage, and women sleep with as many people as they wish, with nothing negative attached. Her story is fascinating, and the writing is very evocative of the region. (I really felt I was there in the freezing cold, trying to warm up by holding my legs under yaks while they pee.)

Karen
As both a memoir and cultural snapshot of a little known people in southern China, known as the Moso, this book is a treasure. As in all well done memoirs, it has emotional immediacy and honesty. Although Yang Erche Namu is now only 44 years old, her experience spans a remarkable childhood among a people untouched by western modernity to her current life in the United States. I loved reading this book and highly recommend it.
Johanna
Jun 13, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: biography
I felt really interested in this book by the cover and I found it interesting to read about a culture so different from ours. It was interesting to read how she "discovered" the world, but at the same time I found the language and the text somewhat flat. It was a story, but not a story that grabbed me.
Ellen
Jul 15, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Priscilla Herrington
Yang Erche Namu is a professional singer; she comes from the Moso (Mosuo) tribe of the Yunnan Province of China, along its Tibetan border. The Moso are considered the world's last matriarchy.

Namu grew up in this remote area, sometimes living on a mountainside with her uncle herding the tribe's yaks. From this remote place, she traveled, ultimately to Shanghai Beijing, singing her native songs, winning competitions and a place as a student in the Shanghai Music Conservatory. Her personal story is
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Kathy
May 23, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir, travel
This was an interesting read, although as a memoir I had to take it with a grain of salt. It's a fascinating look at life in a part of the world I hardly knew existed: the Lake Lugu region of the Himalayan Yunnan province of southern China. Namu left her home to become an actor and singer in Shanghai, Bejing, and abroad, but she paints a detailed picture of the Moso people: matriarchal, peaceful, a culture that depends on keeping to traditional practices. Namu's individualism appears to have bee ...more
Liesje Leest
This book gives a great insight in the culture of the Moso people and their unique way of life. I know Namu is a bit of a controversial person and the book is telling you her life story through here eyes, it's not an academic study on the Moso, so it will be very biased, but it's entertaining and I'd still say it's informative for people who want to know more about this culture but don't want to dive into heavy literature. Besides the stories of her childhood at Lugu Lake I also enjoyed reading ...more
Nancy Eister
Jun 30, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The fascinating story of Yang Erche Namu, born in 1966 and now living in San Francisco and Beijing, growing up in the Moso tribe of northwestern Yunnan province of China, which is one of the few remaining matriarchal cultures left on earth. Her accounts of her childhood are in complete contrast to her later life at the Shanghai College of Music, and how and why she gets there make a very interesting story! I was surprised to hear the view from a tribal society still cohesive as late as 1982. She ...more
Alice Lemon
Mar 24, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this memoir of a woman from what is supposedly the only known society not to have an institution of marriage. I also have a (much longer) anthropological treatment of that society that I've been meaning to read, but I'm not sure when I'll get a chance...
Patricia
Mar 19, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting read.
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