The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing
Japanese cleaning consultant Marie Kondo takes tidying to a whole new level, promising that if you properly simplify and organize your home once, you'll never have to do it again. Most methods advocate a room-by-room or little-by-li...more
Only you can decide what will bring you joy. Follow your instinct!(less)
For example, she advises to first gather all of the clothing from everywhere in the house -- not just that which is already in the closet or in the drawers of the bedroom dresser ... but EVERY single scrap that's wandering about the resident's home (In fact, she mentions that, with her clients, when they do this exercise together with her, if they forget to bring in an item from another room ... she does not even give them an alibi. The rule is that the item has to go!)
Although it sounds like a gargantuan process, she says you must physically take each garment or accessory in hand and go by the way it makes you feel. If you are not enlivened somehow by it, then it has to go. According to the author, her principles followed closely will result in the participant/reader never backsliding to having to repeat the process all over again. It is supposedly foolproof and maintainable for life.
I am only halfway through the book, but I'm intrigued and hopeful, as I've already gotten into the spirit of it, and I managed to rid myself of two HUGE contractor bags full of Tupperware and kitchen drawer odds and ends, things like unnecessary plastic cups with theme park designs, old chipped plates, etc. (I did all of that BEFORE I realized I was supposed to FIRST begin the entire process with the closet and then move in sequence from there ... whoops!)
I have seen those reality TV shows, and I can tell you that I'm by NO means a hoarder; but I have lived most of my life suffering the frustration of ADHD and the heaviness of feeling/being "chronically disorganized," mostly with books, clothing and loads of "important paperwork" (spending hours upon hours some nights just trying to find that one critical paper for the next day ... ugh, so MUCH wasted energy and time). So this book is a breath of fresh air that I welcome with open arms!
If you are considering buying or reading this book, and it helps, I will sum up the major point that I get from it so far; and that is that we must realize that not everything or everyone is meant to be in our lives for a finite amount of time. We cannot go through a lifetime collecting and keeping everything that "sticks" to us, is given to us, or that we accumulate in some way. Some gifts, no matter how well-meaning, don't fit who we are. Some people are just trying to unload their own tangible crap on us, and that's unfair of them (she goes into that, too -- don't just rid yourself of stuff by giving it to a poor, unsuspecting relative).
The stuff that enters our lives has its defined purpose ... sometimes it's just a fleeting moment to be enjoyed. The greeting card has done its deed when it conveys the feeling of love and warmth across a thousand miles from a loved one; and yet many of us feel compelled to keep them all, carting them from one residence to another, piled in boxes as if the recipient might somehow be secretly notified and then hurt at the moment that we throw them away. If anything, that person would probably be sad that their cards caused so much work instead of joy for the recipient!
Books are often meant to be read when the feeling strikes us to choose them and to immerse ourselves in reading their stories. Years later, their time to be read has passed, and it is okay to donate them to someone else, to move past that nagging feeling that we didn't finish something.
The purpose of the book could have been to convey one simple truth to the owner. That cocktail dress you never really wore? Though you loved seeing it hanging in your closet, a deep satiny blue, beckoning you to the life you dreamed of ... but maybe never quite lived? It's okay to release it, get rid of the guilt of never wearing it. You were changed by it just the same, because possibly it taught you who you were not going to be in this life.
Really, it's okay ... that's what I'm learning from this powerful book ... after 42 years of feeling bad about throwing things away and trying to find better organizing tips or more storage space. Those actions don't fix the problem. They only allow the problems to live on ... deal with your stuff! That's the answer she's giving us here. I think the message here IS truly life-changing as the title implies. Enjoy!(less)
The Good Wife and I are trying to purge, to clean up after decades of marriage, kids, three moves, etc. "We've got to do something about all this stuff we keep bumping into or dusting," I keep saying, "something more than the penny ante efforts we're doing so far."
Enter a New York Times feature on THIS book, calling it the greatest thing since sliced sushi:
To begin, you have to touch each and every possession and ask yourself if it brings you joy. If it doesn't, it needs to be discarded. Do you know how hard it is to summon joy for beige underwear or Neosporin? Yet summon you must. I like my carrot peeler but is joy too strong a word?
It gets tougher. ...more
I really thoroughly loved this book. I've always been interested in minimalism - trying to stop material goods being the things that bring us happiness, and not owning more than we need - and picked this book up after hearing a few people around me enjoy it. I was hoping it would give me a few tips on how to lead a more clutter-free existence, and while it accomplished that, it also did so much more.
The thing that most stuck me about ...more
If it does not spark joy, throw it out.
"My basic principle for sorting papers is to throw them all away."
Believe me - I have been throwing away (and selling, and donating to Goodwill) with a vengeance for the past few days, and tidying. I refuse to fold my socks though. Folding socks is for people with all the time in the world.
Quite possibly the funniest line I have ever read in a book. Because she is dead serious.
Although there were several helpful sections about how to declutter and organize your home, much of this book is ridiculously funny.
This woman obviously has no children (and no life) as she speaks to all her inanimate objects daily, empties her purse EVERY SINGLE DAY, and doesn't own a dish rack, preferring instead to put all her dish ...more
Despite all of that, this book isn't really about tidying, at its core. It's about living very intentionally and allowing your surroundings and possessions to become an expression of yourself. If that last sen ...more
Yesterday I finished this charming little book about the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing, and this morning I woke up filled with ENTHUSIASM and was ready to open up every drawer and every closet and to simplify, simplify, simplify.
Of course, such projects always take longer than you expect. I was trying to follow the spirit of Marie Kondo's guidelines, which involve handling each one of your possessions and asking: Does this spa ...more
"Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth." --Mary Schmich.
I'm trying, Mary. I really am.
Oh, screw it.
This was the most stressful book I've ever read. I haven't been thrown into such a fucking frenzy of hatred since The Book Thief, and as with The Book Thief, I'm astounded that audienc ...more
Admittedly she costs a "bit" more than this book and wants a computer lesson during her time but she Fabuloso's my floors, the airing cupboard is stacked with neatly-folded linens and once in a while we go at a place (like my son's room) that lacks 'magic' and garbage-bag everything. This is a ...more
Anyway, I definitely didn't enjoy this as much as I thought I would. And I certainly didn't enjoy this as much as The Joy of Less.
Maybe it was the fact that I had read that book prior to this or the fact that I have been reading a lot of minimalist blogs and sites that already extrapolated the best parts of this book and the KonMari Method...but I just found m ...more
Actualización: después de hacer todo lo que esta señora decía en pocos días (porque ella así lo recomienda) mi piso ...more
1) She talked as though inanimate objects have feelings or as though they are alive so you have to say g...more
If you took the words, tidy, tided, and tidying, out of this book you would be left with a pamphlet. I have this thing called misophonia and I made the crucial error of listening to this book on audio. Repetitive stuff can really get under my skin and there were a few instances when listening to this book that I had to stop myself from throwing my phone out of my moving vehicle. “Say tidy one more time! Do it!” Crunch.
This isn’t the type of book I would normally ...more
يعاب على الكتاب فقط التطويل الزائد عن اللازم والتكرار غير المفيد، كما توجد بعض النصائح التي لا تتناسب مع ثقافاتنا، لكنه كتاب ممتع على أي حال
I know a secret. If you have too much stuff and it’s bugging you then get rid of it. All of it. Well, nearly all of it. Save a few things but only the things you absolutely love, the things that spark joy within your being (you’ll know it when you feel it, says the author) and don’t bring more things into the house unless you love and/or need them. Don’t think you can do that? Well, never mind then.
This author wants you to be absolutely ruthless with your possessions and do it in one fell swoop ...more
Things I like:
-the idea of tidying by category
-the joy factor
-"we should be choosing what we want to keep, not what we want to get rid of."
-she's not very judgemental
-the sweet Japanese anthropomorphizing of objects
-her approach to clothes and thanking the objects for their service
-her order and suggestion that tidying needs to be done just once in a big swoop and in a certain order: discard first, figure out where things go after
-like the idea of seeing what you need/don't ne ...more
1. If you name a method after yourself, you conjure up instant credibility as an "expert".
2. If you are a neurotic nutcase with an obsessive-compulsive disorder, try to turn it into a virtue, or even better, a lucrative career.
3. If you use the words "spark joy", "feel happiness" and "reduce anxiety" enough times, people will want to follow your lead and pay you good money for your advice.
and on a practical level I've learnt t ...more
The author, Marie Kondo, has made tidying up her life since she was a small child, and shares many anecdotes about her early days as a stealth clutter-control operative in her family home, as well as some of the false starts she had on her way to her tidying ...more
Kondo's best-seller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing has been published in more than 30 countries.
She was listed as one of the world's 100 ...more