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Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up

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For many folks seeking to open up their lives and relationships, the road ahead is uncertain and foggy. Outside of traditional monogamy, relationship structure options and guidelines are often murky at best.

This book seeks to demystify the basics of healthy, consensual non-monogamy by sharing the lessons learned from both M
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Kindle Edition, 66 pages
Published April 14th 2014 by Do the Work; 1 edition
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Louisa Leontiades
Sep 21, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: polyamory-books
My best friend fell in love, got pregnant and moved to Spain within the space of a year. She was deliriously happy if a little nervous. When she announced it to me on the phone I said,

'Wow that's brave of you. But how exciting.' Then I took a deep breath and said

'We're also doing the same thing. Moving I mean. To England to be closer to our poly partners.'

At the time my husband and I had just come out of the polyamorous closet. We'd fallen madly in love with another couple and just couldn't see
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Beverly Diehl
This 66-page Kindle-only book does not cover every possible kink and permutation of polyamory, but it DOES cover most of the important ones. It makes for an excellent starting point for those either poly-curious, or entering into a polyamorous relationship for the first time.

The Eight Things/Tips include such things as the "right" way to do polyamory; Owning Your Own Sh*t; Guidelines, Rules, & Check-Ins, about NRE (New Relationship Energy), why Change is Good, and much more. Most of the tips app
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Winter Arcane
Oct 14, 2014 rated it really liked it
This is going into my must read list for anyone new to polyamory. While it doesn't go a great deal into depth with anything, it does a really good job of covering the key points anyone getting into polyamory should think about. It's short and reads like some blog articles stitched together, but in a way I think that gives it an accessibility that the larger, more academic polyamory handbooks can lack. As someone who has been doing polyamory for 20 years and have had to fill the poly guru role of ...more
Greg
Oct 08, 2021 rated it liked it
Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory is a good starting point for those interested in the lesser explored world of non-monogamy. Minx touches on a few of the most important challenges that come with these non-traditional relationship structures and tries to provide options and actions for happiness and success.

While Minx does not go into any depth with any one topic, these topics are great primers for thought and discussion. I feel that this level of detail is most appropriate for new r
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MaryAnn Vega
Jul 13, 2015 rated it really liked it
Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up

As someone relatively new to polyamory as a concept and way of life, this book was exactly what I needed to start sorting through all the information in my head I had collected from morethantwo blog posts and other online resources. It is concise and helpful.

Particularly, as previously mentioned, it is a good resource for all relationship types whether monogamous or non-monogamous.

Including great quotes like:

The h
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Stefanie
This is a short but really useful overview of polyamory and common stumbling blocks for those new to it. It's written in a straightforward and easy-to-read style, and a big part of it, aside from getting across some basics, is to direct the reader to other sources for particular follow up questions they may have, which is nice. My biggest quibble is the price - $8.99 for 94 pages is quite steep. So probably the people who will get the most out of it are those who are looking to use this as a too ...more
Brian
Oct 06, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: poly
The book is like a well performed podcast, which makes sense since Minx's podcast is really well done. It's well written, informal, and pretty high level. Would've like to see more detail on issues. It's very short for a deep subject. ...more
SallyRose Robinson
Apr 20, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Interesting information and I would say a good resource for folks looking at trying Poly.
Minx is shares her experience and expertise as well as giving people some real life examples.

Good solid information. Give it a read if you are starting this journey.
Abrea
Jul 21, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a great book for learning about poly. I do wish it'd had a bit more for the unicorn (it seemed largely couple-oriented), but it was still very thought provoking and a great resource. ...more
Pablo
Jul 30, 2014 rated it liked it
I really recommend this book for poly beginners. It's short and to the point, and it had some good points, some of which I forgotten and I might re add to my life. ...more
Sara Petrocelli
May 24, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As someone who often feels alone with no guidance in my love life, this short, to the point book did provide some guidelines to remember.
Jennifer
May 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: kindle
An excellent introduction to polyamory
Lona
Jul 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-it
Writing this review as someone, who is staying in a healthy relationship for 14 years now (almost half of my life, since I'm 30) and as someone who is always reading books before trying anything new I found this one very helpful!

It does not only adress poly topics, but contains several very helpful tips for any healthy relationship. I can, for example, absolutely confirm, that the tips about communication in this book are gold and my own relationship is build upon exactly that kind of good commu
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Eli Poteet
Nov 25, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: book-club, queer
i would hella recommend this guide to anyone just beginning in their polyam journey. theres no fluff and theres no pile of semi-relateable stories of strangers. i enjoyed the directness of the author and what topics were highlighted into chapters. i really enjoyed the emphasis put behind the concept of "own your shit"- in regards to your feels, wants, needs, hangups and such. also, i was impressed with the list of suggested reading recommends! ...more
Avni Pravin
Apr 15, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Really great primer on polyamory - mostly focuses on the situation of a couple opening up their relationship but there's still really good advice and info for the solo person exploring polyamory. There's a lot of very practical and practicable communication, listening, and self-advocacy advice. The author also includes a ton of suggestions for other resources to learn more about polyamory. ...more
De Shawn
May 17, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Five Stars!!

This book was great! An easy read (can be read in one setting). The topics were all essential for anyone interested a poly lifestyle. My favorite discovery was number seven! This book is a great foundation to start from. I’m definitely asking my partners to read the book as well.
Dharma
Sep 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
It is a very basic and solid introduction of the fundamentals. Gives suggestions for deeper reading, which is good for someone new to concepts and seeking direction of what to read next. Got it mostly to see if it would be helpful for clients and/or friends. Some the formatting is funky, as it is essentially printing a blog or website document.
Zyriel
This is an excellent short primer for those new to Poly. It doesn't get deep, but that's what's good about it. It really scratches the surface well and points the reader in the right direction for things to think about. ...more
Meg
Nov 05, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
A quick and straightforward read, with good practical advice.
Lani Draper
May 04, 2020 rated it really liked it
A good overview for those new to and now exploring Polyamory.
Denise
Feb 09, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
A good stepping stone book and brief overview on relationshipping successfully.
Sarah
Jun 12, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I really like this short book. It's applicable to any type of relationship and covers 8 categories of (mostly communication) pitfalls. It is very practical. Some of her examples and observations of conflict a little silly as you can immediately sympathize with one partner and it's hard to reframe your reactions. I'm sure it would be super helpful to do so! I listen to her polyamory podcast, and she talks often about creating a short 'user manual' for yourself to enable self knowledge and also fo ...more
Ixby Wuff
Jul 05, 2020 rated it liked it

(Taken from the description provided on Amazon):


For many folks seeking to open up their lives and relationships, the road ahead is uncertain and foggy. Outside of traditional monogamy, relationship structure options and guidelines are often murky at best.


This book seeks to demystify the basics of healthy, consensual non-monogamy by sharing the lessons learned from both Minx and thousands of podcast listeners who have built successful polyamorous relationships. While each relationship may be di

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Dan
Apr 15, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Start here. Eight Things is so fast and easy you won't even notice. This is the primer I wish I had been given 20 years ago when I considered something life this intead of bumbling around for so many years.
We've handed out more copies of this book to friends of any relationship type needing communication tools and insghts, including monogamous!
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