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Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up

4.11  ·  Rating details ·  158 ratings  ·  18 reviews
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For many folks seeking to open up their lives and relationships, the road ahead is uncertain and foggy. Outside of traditional monogamy, relationship structure options and guidelines are often murky at best.

This book seeks to demystify the basics of healthy, consensual non-monogamy by sharing the lessons learned from both M
Kindle Edition, 66 pages
Published April 14th 2014 by Do the Work; 1 edition
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Louisa Leontiades
Sep 21, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: polyamory-books
My best friend fell in love, got pregnant and moved to Spain within the space of a year. She was deliriously happy if a little nervous. When she announced it to me on the phone I said,

'Wow that's brave of you. But how exciting.' Then I took a deep breath and said

'We're also doing the same thing. Moving I mean. To England to be closer to our poly partners.'

At the time my husband and I had just come out of the polyamorous closet. We'd fallen madly in love with another couple and just co/>'Wow
Beverly Diehl
This 66-page Kindle-only book does not cover every possible kink and permutation of polyamory, but it DOES cover most of the important ones. It makes for an excellent starting point for those either poly-curious, or entering into a polyamorous relationship for the first time.

The Eight Things/Tips include such things as the "right" way to do polyamory; Owning Your Own Sh*t; Guidelines, Rules, & Check-Ins, about NRE (New Relationship Energy), why Change is Good, and much more. Most
Winter Arcane
Oct 14, 2014 rated it really liked it
This is going into my must read list for anyone new to polyamory. While it doesn't go a great deal into depth with anything, it does a really good job of covering the key points anyone getting into polyamory should think about. It's short and reads like some blog articles stitched together, but in a way I think that gives it an accessibility that the larger, more academic polyamory handbooks can lack. As someone who has been doing polyamory for 20 years and have had to fill the poly guru role of ...more
MaryAnn Vega
Jul 13, 2015 rated it really liked it
Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up

As someone relatively new to polyamory as a concept and way of life, this book was exactly what I needed to start sorting through all the information in my head I had collected from morethantwo blog posts and other online resources. It is concise and helpful.

Particularly, as previously mentioned, it is a good resource for all relationship types whether monogamous or non-monogamous.

This is a short but really useful overview of polyamory and common stumbling blocks for those new to it. It's written in a straightforward and easy-to-read style, and a big part of it, aside from getting across some basics, is to direct the reader to other sources for particular follow up questions they may have, which is nice. My biggest quibble is the price - $8.99 for 94 pages is quite steep. So probably the people who will get the most out of it are those who are looking to use this as a too ...more
Leandra Vane
This book is a handy little item to have in my arsenal of resources on living in an open relationship. Though short, the book contains quality information so is great for exploring the topic without becoming overwhelmed. The narration is personable and easily understood. Definitely recommend.

For more check out the post I wrote for this book on my blog The Unlaced Librarian:
Oct 06, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: poly
The book is like a well performed podcast, which makes sense since Minx's podcast is really well done. It's well written, informal, and pretty high level. Would've like to see more detail on issues. It's very short for a deep subject.
SallyRose Robinson
Apr 20, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Interesting information and I would say a good resource for folks looking at trying Poly.
Minx is shares her experience and expertise as well as giving people some real life examples.

Good solid information. Give it a read if you are starting this journey.
Jul 21, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a great book for learning about poly. I do wish it'd had a bit more for the unicorn (it seemed largely couple-oriented), but it was still very thought provoking and a great resource.
J. Pablo
Jul 30, 2014 rated it liked it
I really recommend this book for poly beginners. It's short and to the point, and it had some good points, some of which I forgotten and I might re add to my life.
Sara Petrocelli
May 24, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As someone who often feels alone with no guidance in my love life, this short, to the point book did provide some guidelines to remember.
May 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: kindle
An excellent introduction to polyamory
Jul 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
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Writing this review as someone, who is staying in a healthy relationship for 14 years now (almost half of my life, since I'm 30) and as someone who is always reading books before trying anything new I found this one very helpful!

It does not only adress poly topics, but contains several very helpful tips for any healthy relationship. I can, for example, absolutely confirm, that the tips about communication in this book are gold and my own relationship is build upon exactly that kind o
This is an excellent short primer for those new to Poly. It doesn't get deep, but that's what's good about it. It really scratches the surface well and points the reader in the right direction for things to think about.
Nov 05, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
A quick and straightforward read, with good practical advice.
Feb 09, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
A good stepping stone book and brief overview on relationshipping successfully.
Jun 12, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I really like this short book. It's applicable to any type of relationship and covers 8 categories of (mostly communication) pitfalls. It is very practical. Some of her examples and observations of conflict a little silly as you can immediately sympathize with one partner and it's hard to reframe your reactions. I'm sure it would be super helpful to do so! I listen to her polyamory podcast, and she talks often about creating a short 'user manual' for yourself to enable self knowledge and also fo ...more
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