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Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy

3.96  ·  Rating details ·  168 ratings  ·  18 reviews
"Among the best manuals for succeeding in finding and keeping love we have seen."—Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD

A program that not only leads to healthy relationships but that also steers us toward our own potential greatness—from well-known psychologist and relationship expert Ken Page.

     Lose weight. Be confident. Keep your partner guessing. At the
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Paperback, 288 pages
Published December 30th 2014 by Shambhala
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Daniel
Jun 10, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A powerful way to find love by first understanding & honoring yourself

A series of events led me to this wonderful book. At the turn of this year, I finally felt the longing for a meaningful relationship. I decided to pursue that with all my intention. But of course, life takes your plans and twists them in unexpected ways.

After a recent breakup, brief but potent, I chose self reflection. Oddly enough, it was the wisdom that I learned from the man who no longer wanted a romantic relationship
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Vijay Pande
Jan 19, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Surprisingly thoughtful, especially in its analysis of understanding when you're dating someone who's addicted to the chase vs is ready (and not scared off) to be truly close with someone who's ready to move forward as well. In particular, the exercises for identifying each type as well as how to come to peace with the fact that healthy relationships may in contrast look "boring" and one may even feel some apparent gap in attraction when in fact what's missing is the drama.

I wish I read this ye
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Aloha
Dec 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Enlightening!

I highly recommend this book for those who are trying to find meaningful love relationships. There are lots of insights that did not occur to me and I have read quite a few self-help books. This book teaches you to be kind to yourself and others.
Byurakn
Jun 19, 2015 rated it it was ok
definitely not meant for intelligent people who aready know the stuff written in the book
Jilles
Sep 12, 2017 rated it really liked it
Great book about relationships and embracing the shadowparts of you that are part of your Core Gifts that will hekp you attract the right person for you.
April
Oct 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing
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Akilah
Feb 11, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019, feb, self-help
The most helpful chapters to me here were the ones on the attractions of inspiration and deprivation because they honestly helped me learn more about myself and my relationships than most other books I've read. Everything after that was your standard self-help book fare, I thought, so if you're new to self-help, the whole thing will probably be super helpful. If you're pretty familiar with the genre, it'll be the first half of the book.

Also, and I will keep saying this, so many of these books on
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Wendell Hennan
Aug 29, 2017 rated it liked it
Full of good learning points and exercises and suggestions to help the reader, but not a quick and easy read. I found myself reading 20 pages and needing a break and some time to digest. A worthwhile read helping you to understand your strengths before seeking a partner.
Sophia Ciocca
Sep 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book was a total gamechanger for me, seriously -- I've already evangelized it to ~10 friends who are reading it. Ken Page takes an approach I'd never heard before: one that validates us and encourages us to honor our deepest feelings, needs, and desires as *gifts*. His concept of (and exercises on) attractions of deprivation vs. inspiration felt really really helpful to me. I feel super empowered after reading it. Highly recommend!
Stacy
Oct 26, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: relationships
I had a very hard time engaging with this book. Not in a "gee this reality is uncomfortable for me" kind of way, but in a "ok let me re-read that paragraph for the third time to figure out what he is trying to say" way. There are a few good metaphors, and I think the book is spot-on with its advise, but it's very hard to connect that dots for all the paragraphs in between. Didn't finish, too frustrating.
Casseroll
Oct 01, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Awkward for me to listen to on audiobook. He has a pleasant voice though. The author does make you think on your relationships and how you think about yourself. I need to look at the book to go back over the exercises.
Stacey
Feb 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book is a little bit different from regular dating book. It does not teach you too much about the game or tricks. Though the beginning and the end is as good as the mid chapters, listening to this book does bring me a joyful feeling. I think I will review this one again.
Jerry Williams
Jun 29, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A must read
L
Jun 07, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Some meditation exercises and advocates for more vulnerability. Seemed a bit repetitive at times. Good theories though.
Elyse
Oct 16, 2017 rated it it was ok
Some helpful concepts but found it a little repetitive.
Michelle
Sep 15, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Incredible book. I want to recommend it to anyone who values intimacy in their lives. Shit!!
Alev Dudek
Enlightening!
Sharon
Oct 03, 2016 rated it liked it
I like that he emphasizes being your true self as being the greatest attractor for a mate.
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