Why Should I Be the First to Change? The Key to a Loving Marriage

by Nancy Missler

This is the remarkable story of the "turnaround" of a 20 year Christian marriage. It reveals the dynamic secret which releases the power of God's love that is resident in every believer. This discovery has healed relationships all over the world.

124 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1995

Reviews

[C.G.Koens · Rating 5 out of 5]

I laughed throughout this, because this was my experience learning how to love God, which requires total surrender of self. God's Word teaches us the "secret sauce" (Deut. 6 and Matt. 22) to "love the Lord your God with all your heart, souls, and mind," which leads us to the second greatest commandment (Lev. 19 & Mk. 12) to "love your neighbor as yourself." Learn what it means to love God...it will change everything. This is simply Nancy's story of how that happened for her and what changed. It could just as easily be mine...just with personal details changed. It can be yours as well. If you want to read her story, this is an older book, but the truths within are still relevant because God's truths never go out of date.

[Jennifer Buczynski · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'd summarize the book this way:

If you want to be happy in life, admit your sins, your hurts and your failures to God. When you give them to God, He will free you from the jail these sins have put you in and therefore enable you to love your spouse (and all others) and die to yourself and your own desires.

I enjoyed reading about Chuck and Nancy's marriage and lives. I've always loved hearing Chuck Missler's Bible teachings and I enjoyed reading about his marriage and life.

Rick bought me this book: it was on my amazon wish list and someone gave him an amazon gift card and he asked me if I wanted anything and I told him to choose a book from my wishlist and surprise me.

[Ann · Rating 4 out of 5]

A short and sweet testimony of God's work in the author's life. She shares how God healed her relationships starting with her. Two of the points that struck me are: 1. Finding God's abundant love is all about denying ourselves and laying our will at His feet. 2. Staying an open and cleansed vessel so that God's love can flow through us. These are accomplished by making moment by moment choices to look to God.

[Luann Habecker · Rating 5 out of 5]

YES!!! AMAZING!!! if u are in a relationship or thinking of getting into one...u need to read this!

re-read it 8/2010;

even if you think you can't identify with them, read it. i was deeply spoken to through this book. this time it was the AGAPE love of God that stood out to me, that i am in need of .. and will be reading her/their book on THE WAY OF AGAPE next.

[Tanya · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing

[Skip · Rating 4 out of 5]

Obviously from a woman's perspective but I really gained a lot out of the book. Man or woman, it does start with me. I can allow God to change me first and their are no pride issues in that decision.

[Julianne Bigler · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 stars