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Loveyoubye: Holding Fast, Letting Go, and Then There's the Dog

4.20  ·  Rating details ·  41 ratings  ·  18 reviews
When Rossandra White walks into her Laguna Beach home one day to find that her husband of twenty-five years has disappeared-leaving behind only a cryptic, hastily written note on the kitchen counter as an explanation-she knows he'll come back. It's not the first time this has happened, and she trusts that their marriage, though tumultuous, will endure. But she soon learns ...more
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Published April 8th 2014 by She Writes Press
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Mark Fine
Apr 03, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Similar to author Rossandra White, I spent my childhood in South Africa and now live in Southern California. Again, similarly dogs play a central role in my life. It did not surprise me that it was the bonding relationship between these incompatible humans and their dogs that I found to be the most emotionally moving (yes, I actually sobbed!). Yes, there are those perplexing Mars versus Venus issues that plague so many well-intended love-matches; where the man is non-verbal and withdrawn and the ...more
Apr 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Someone once told me that releasing a first book is akin to hanging one’s soul on a meat hook in a display window for all to see (something like that), and I had to admit that was a pretty good assessment. So when I first received Rossandra White’s debut work, Loveyoubye: Holding Fast, Letting Go, and Then There’s the Dog, I remember thinking it was rather brave of an indie author to release a memoir as her first book.

But White carries her own in this fantastic tale that opens to the morning rhy
Rossandra White
Jun 11, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)  ·  review of another edition
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Harmony Kent
Dec 14, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is an entertaining memoir by Rossandra White. It is an easy and quick read. The book opens with a note from her husband, which simply says "Gone to Mexico. Adios." This is the second time he has just up and disappeared without so much as a word. Her marriage is on the rocks, her mentally and physically disabled brother--who lives in South Africa--is unwell, and so is her little dog. It seems her life is crumbling around her. She has to face her demons--sticking a band-aid over things just i ...more
Alice Taube
Feb 10, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I LOVED this book by Rossandra White! It was beautifully written and took me on a journey through this period of her life which had me captivated! I laughed and I cried and thoroughly enjoyed her turn of phrase and sense of humor. Highly recommend it.
Dec 01, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Sometimes a dog can give you what no person can, your family, your friends, your spouse. I eagerly turned the pages to read about sweet pea. I cried a copious amount of tears to.

Oh Sweet Pea I love you can't you see
Love you, love you, love you can't you see
Oh Sweet Pea, won't you be my girl?
Won't you? Won't you? Won't you be my girl?
Tommy Roe
Babs Hanson
Dec 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Heart wrenching memoir

For any woman who has gone through emotional decisions and has second-guessed herself and her heart, this book is a treasure. After reading it, I got another book by the author, who seemed like an old friend. I loved it and could not put it down, reading it constantly for one full day.
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When Rossandra White invited me into her world through her memoir, Love You Bye: Holding Fast, Letting Go and Then There's the Dog, I was quickly engrossed in the drama playing out in her southern California home. Surprisingly, I next found myself on the continent of Africa, exploring the many facets to her story. Not only does she tell the stories of her childhood vividly, she places that time in the historical context of apartheid and the changing politics of the places she lived.

Can you imagi
Robin Chambers
Jan 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Rossandra White is saying a kind of “Goodbye to all that” in a well-crafted account of life, love and loss. The book is beautifully written, painfully honest and achingly familiar, This is the best kind of non-fiction: written by someone capable of writing really good fiction.

There is ample and telling detail factual detail (she refers to her journal, which must have helped keep the memories sharp) dressed by a vivid imagination. When introducing two of her major characters, Jake and Sweetpea (h
May 29, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a no holds barred memoir of the ending of a long time marriage; the devotion & diligence of staying connected to family who live far,far away; and as the author puts it: "and then there's the dog." Each of these life events could be a memoir unto themselves but as often happens in life, they occurred in concert. The beauty of the book is that White weaves these stories together in virtually seamless fashion, and the reader hangs into her words for the ride.

As someone who lived through t
M.a. Adler
Apr 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Rossandra White tells her story simply, honestly, and lyrically. From the first page, she carried me along on her journey, not chronologically, but organically, as her then-present life resonated with the past. Usually, I would be impatient with a woman who stayed with a narcissistic man who lived his life without regard for his wife and family, but the author tells her husband's story with generosity and love, with sympathy and candor, and made this reader understand why she spent years trying ...more
Lene Fogelberg
Mar 13, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
Against the enchanting backdrop of Southern California and South Africa, Rossandra's marriage since twenty-five years dissolves despite her earnest efforts to save it. Honest and heartfelt, this book made me long for places I have not yet visited, to see for myself the rich foliage of South Africa: "purple gladioli as big as my fist; magenta, orange, and white bougainvillea blooms the size of teacups; and lawn on steroids, all of it seeming to grow as you watch." And the dogs! I have to get myse ...more
Diane Shute
Sep 21, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Compelling, revealing, tender and at times so insightful that I felt myself move through its pages. Rossanda White weaves a compassionate and insightful look at the tragedy of rejection as her marriage ends in divorce, and her committed devotion to her family, which includes the dogs that bind her with her free-spirited husband. At once poignant and amusing, it is the tale of strength with a glimpse into the complexity of blending roots from South Africa into the casual disengagement of life in ...more
Gwendolyn Plano
May 05, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
When I finished Loveyoubye, I sat quietly with the book for a while. It deserved my respectful silence; a child had become a woman. The author's journey crisscrosses continents and emotional divides, traveling through the sorrows of love lost, love buried, love redefined. I was brought into her heartache with its tears and with its sweetness, through dialogue and descriptive writing that painted exotic scenes as well as imprisoned dreams. This is a beautifully written memoir, one that beckons a ...more
Apr 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this book! The author does a great job of talking about her life in a way that is really easy to relate to; so many times I saw myself when she was describing how she was feeling in different situations. It really is hard to let go, especially when the person you're trying to let go of keeps coming back (whether you like it or not). I also loved the way she described her relationship with her dogs; my boys are my babies and they've helped me through some pretty tough times. Than ...more
Apr 25, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I received a copy of this book from the Good-Reads First-Reads program. I loved the story and everything about it. The woman's life certainly makes for a good book. Losing her husband and her dog to such a terrible illness. The author takes it all in stride and has amazing strength Loved this book Highly recommend. ...more
For some odd reason I'm feeling ambivalent about the story. Perhaps the writing style isn't very attractive for me and tends to be more snappy than anything else.

I won this from goodreads firstreads.
May 07, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Rossandra White is able to write a captivating memoir of a very challenging part of her life, and leave the reader feeling her struggle, her strength, and her personal growth.
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Rossandra White, a fourth generation South African, spent the first twenty-three years of her life in Zambia, where she had a baboon for a pet and learned to tell a log from a crocodile. She’s the author of the recently published novel, Monkey's Wedding, set in Zimbabwe, as well as the memoir, Loveyoubye: Holding Fast, Letting Go, And Then There's The Dog. She lives in Laguna Beach with her two St ...more

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