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Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

4.23  ·  Rating details ·  867 ratings  ·  87 reviews
Explores treatment and counselling options, and uses real-life case histories to examine the special challenges women with ADD and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) face, such as the shame of not fulfilling societal expectations. This book includes a chapter on friendship for women with ADHD.
Paperback, 354 pages
Published November 1st 2005 by Underwood Books (first published October 1st 1995)
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Nov 17, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book has changed my life. If you are a woman, or know a woman who has been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, read this book!
I think it is especially important for women like me. I had a lifetime of dealing with issues, beating myself up, & feeling frustrated. This is not uncommon, because most women as young girls don't exibit obvious symptoms. I made good grades & didn't cause trouble. I was the daydreamer in class, unless it was a class I liked. I was a pleaser, who worked extra hard. We
Jan 02, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was very helpful and totally nailed me. I've known for years that I had "something a bit like A.D.D." but always assumed that my low energy levels proved that I didn't have a disorder often referred to interchangeably as "hyperactivity". I was surprised to learn that the sluggish feelings and the inability to put thoughts into action are actually a symptom of one kind of Attention Deficit Disorder.

I read the original version, which is possibly the only reason I'm giving this 4-stars
Nov 29, 2008 rated it it was amazing
As I was reading this book I thought, "Oh my gosh, my WHOLE LIFE makes sense now!" No wonder I'm a disorganized librarian---I have adult ADD! I'm being treated for ADD now with medicine and I can't believe what a difference it is making!
Jun 17, 2014 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2014
It was okay. Very informative in the beginning about the common misconceptions about what ADHD is and how it often goes undiagnosed in women because it often shows up as internal inattention but not external hyperactivity - aka daydreamers.

But the rest of the book? I kept reading because I thought I would find hope. Instead I felt more hopeless about having ADD than I ever have before in my life. Acknowledging all my flaws didn't help me: it made me angrier at my current situation and feel
Oct 05, 2016 rated it it was amazing
ADHD is criticized by many as an over applied diagnosis. I've heard someone say, "Oh everybody has that", and I've heard others say it's just an excuse for laziness or not trying hard enough. Frankly, I feel it is under diagnosed, especially in women.

In 1995, I inquired into the possibility that I might have it and was almost immediately dismissed. I was 18 and maybe didn't have the surest footing into my own identity, but I was pretty sure something was different about me from most everyone
Aug 27, 2017 rated it liked it
Helpful information, even if not all of the suggestions are practical (wouldn't we all love to be able to afford daycare so we can get the housework done, bookkeepers for our businesses, and professional organizers and coaches to help us set up systems that work for us? Not gonna happen, though, and getting a promotion/higher-level job while requesting extra accommodations and assistants just because it might work better seems like something that's probably never happened for anyone who wasn't ...more
Jan 02, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nobody
OK, so maybe I didn't read the ENTIRE book but I did read a solid 65% of it until I just couldn't stand it any more. It wasn't until Chapter 11 that I found some remotely useful few pages and then it was back to downhill from there. I imagine that many of Sari Solden's professors often wrote comments about how general her writing is/was. In 188 pages, all she told the reader was that ADD is very stressful for women, it's real, and that you need to deal with it -- over, and over, again. I will ...more
Mar 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Ginny by: Library Find
Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

Many women think they are the only one who struggles with the demands of work, motherhood and other issues that women face in today's society. Quite frequently women are unaware of having ADHD much less, how it contributes to these struggles. However, Ms. Solden has written an excellent book discussing this topic. She not only shares examples of what other women are facing, but also explains why the strictures
Sep 23, 2009 rated it it was amazing
It's rare that I read "self-help" books to begin with. It's even more unusual when a book reads like my autobiography.

Sari Solden describes not only the "typical idea" about ADD, but differentiates between ADD and ADHD. She also expands on the concept, describing common traits that occur when a woman has only sort of dealt with having ADD. Solden explains that many women struggle due to familial expectations -- the expectation that women must keep their homes and lives (plus those of family
Jan 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
It's like the author is writing about ME. I've never felt so deeply understood as I do reading this book.
Nov 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
the best!! The relationship/family parts don’t really acknowledge that lesbianism is a thing; she says “partner” but only really talks about straight relationships. Understandable since she’s drawing from her own life a lot but don’t be lulled by the p word ;) really helpful though esp if you haven’t read anything in depth about being a woman with add. Rereading it years later it was cool to see how much of the sad emotional stuff DOESN’T apply to me as much now that I have the framework she ...more
Jun 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
So eye-opening. Although I don’t identify as a woman, I was raised as one and thus related to a lot of this book. It’s more aimed at women who have a spouse and a family than anyone else, but there was still so much useful info here for a single person like me. I feel much better about getting treatment for my own ADHD in a way that’s healthy and productive for me.

Highly recommended for literally everyone, especially those who see ADHD as a thing that happens to only hyperactive white boys (and,
Dec 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Sari took a microscope to my brain in this book.

My only gripe is the assumption that we all have money to hire outside help. No ma'am.
Rachel Smalter Hall
I was expecting to react very emotionally to this book, and was surprised when that didn't happen. Other women have said that this book changed their lives or finally made them feel understood for the first time in their lives. While I didn't have that reaction, that didn't stop this from being the best book about women and ADHD that I have found.

Sari Solden really covers it all, from diagnosis to medication, treatment, the grief cycle, and redefining your core self-concept. It's breadth made it
I have always known I was different. I fitted in without really fitting in.
I'm what most will qualify as being a good functioning ADHD person.
Mostly because I am finished my degree, got a job I love and generally don't stand out as a ADHD prone person. That is, until you see how I am living and learn the way my mind works. Then there is absolutely no doubt. I've got ADHD. Some days it is the worst curse in my life and i hate it with all my heart. But most days it's just something that are a
Nov 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing insights

This book is incredible — personal, narrative-based and informative. Even if you don’t have ADHD if you are a chronically disorganised woman this will resonate with you.
Jun 02, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2012
I have torn had people jokingly say that I was " so add". I picked up this book at half price books and before the end of the evening had used all my post it page markers. Things that I had attributed to depression for years were mentioned specifically in this book.

It would not have been helpful for me to have picked this book up after a diagnosis, but I think the information gleaned from the pages will help my therapist and I develop a plan for the future.

I can't begin to describe how elated I
Dec 11, 2008 rated it really liked it
A little wordy, but a must-read for women with ADD. A comprehensive book on the non-attentive type of ADD, it specifically deals with womens issues and experiences and combines real life composite histories and treatment experiences with the latest clinical resarch. Also provides new information on medication, diagnosis, treatment, therapy, counseling, and support groups, work and family relationships.
Aug 09, 2010 rated it it was amazing
This book is going to save my life. I have found the 'missing link' Hallelujah! Praise the Lord, I've been Saved! It's like someone took a magnifying glass to my life, it's been that powerful. Oh, and I just got it today to see if 'may' apply to me. It's been a Godsend.
Have I praised it enough?
Jan 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Every woman who struggles with organization, ADHD or not, should read this book. Life is defined by more than being neat and/or orderly but it is easier when you can find your keys.
Gillian Freeman
Jun 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
That awkward moment when you’re a month away from 38 years-old and your whole life suddenly makes sense. Great book clarifying what ADHD (inattentive type) looks like in women (and girls).
Jun 25, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: adhd
A must read for every woman who has ADHD. Husbands would learn a lot about their wife also.
May 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This was admittedly an impulse buy from a thrift shop, but I'm so glad I went with my gut! I was diagnosed ADHD later in life (long story short: started therapy at 12 on and off, prescribed anti-depressants at around 18, then at around 22-23 finally convinced therapists that there's something else wrong and am not just depression/anxiety, went through tests with mental health professionals and was finally diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed Adderall at 23, now I'm 25), and everything I've read in ...more
Lauren Williams
Dec 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A Solid Foundation for Change

This is an invaluable guide to understanding the lives of women with ADD. Ms. Solden examines several possible journeys of such women, beginning in their early childhoods and following them to middle-age. She illustrates common differences between the experiences of men and women with ADD. She coaches her readers through the processes of self-diagnosis, third-party professional diagnosis, treatment and long-term progress. Ms. Solden is a clear writer, making
May 10, 2017 rated it liked it
I listened to the audiobook version of this, so my review is based on that. In general, I didn't mind the voice recording but disliked the actor voices and background soundtrack. It became extremely confusing to listen to her words at some points over the talk or music. I also found it difficult to relate to many of the scenarios due to personal thought patterns and a totally different inner voice to what the actors were saying.

Much of it felt very contrived and false, and while this is not
Mar 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
A good book about an important topic that is still not discussed enough. As a cognitive psychologist who has focused on creativity and cognitive control I find it very interesting that ADD is still a misunderstood mental illness that leads to a lot of suffering if it is not diagnosed and treated. Women especially are unter-diagnosed and often adults with children before they get a diagnosis and proper treatment. This book is well researched and written and a great in-depth look at the disorder, ...more
Nov 01, 2017 rated it really liked it
I am not diagnosed with ADHD and I don't think I have it but I think I have the tendency to it. Things like this, I think, is a spectrum and we all have some tendencies to some disorder or syndromes.
So it was really helpful to read the book because I can apply some of the advices eri apply to my life to make my life better.
What helped me the most was to keep things simple since ADHD women tend to have so many things going on in their brains that they get easily overwhelmed.
I tried to keep my
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The first book I’ve read on ADHD after I got my diagnosis about a week ago. Certainly an eye opener, it was as if the author had a camera hidden around me and I’m sure it was the case for many readers. Slightly outdated, I found, on gender roles (it was originally written in the 90s) and the Kindle copy was horrible: many typos, completely missed words, half of all illustrations missing -but I didn’t take stars off for those. It was that good.
Melinda Christensen
Sep 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book was recommended to me by a counselor in psychology who knew I had ADD. It took my reading it before I could identify this disorder for myself. Later, I was diagnosed with ADD. This all-encompassing, informative book is a must read for those who know or suspect that they or their children might have this disorder. I found to be very helpful.
Feb 03, 2020 rated it it was amazing
THE book I'd recommend for any of my friends with ADHD. It really highlights the differences between typical ADHD cases ie male versus female and helped me open a dialogue with my therapist. The questionnaire really forced me to self reflect even though it took me days to do. I'm thinking of buying a physical copy so I can highlight and write in the margins things I need to remember.
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Sari Solden, M.S, is a psychotherapist who has counseled adults with ADHD for 30 years. She is the author of Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, Journeys Through ADDulthood, and co-author of A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD (July 2019). She serves on the professional advisory board of ADDA and was received their award for outstanding service by a helping professional. Her areas of ...more
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