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Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

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Explores treatment and counselling options, and uses real-life case histories to examine the special challenges women with ADD and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) face, such as the shame of not fulfilling societal expectations. This book includes a chapter on friendship for women with ADHD.
Paperback, 354 pages
Published November 1st 2005 by Underwood Books (first published October 1st 1995)
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Nov 17, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book has changed my life. If you are a woman, or know a woman who has been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, read this book!
I think it is especially important for women like me. I had a lifetime of dealing with issues, beating myself up, & feeling frustrated. This is not uncommon, because most women as young girls don't exibit obvious symptoms. I made good grades & didn't cause trouble. I was the daydreamer in class, unless it was a class I liked. I was a pleaser, who worked extra hard. We learn ho
Jan 02, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was very helpful and totally nailed me. I've known for years that I had "something a bit like A.D.D." but always assumed that my low energy levels proved that I didn't have a disorder often referred to interchangeably as "hyperactivity". I was surprised to learn that the sluggish feelings and the inability to put thoughts into action are actually a symptom of one kind of Attention Deficit Disorder.

I read the original version, which is possibly the only reason I'm giving this 4-stars in
Nov 29, 2008 rated it it was amazing
As I was reading this book I thought, "Oh my gosh, my WHOLE LIFE makes sense now!" No wonder I'm a disorganized librarian---I have adult ADD! I'm being treated for ADD now with medicine and I can't believe what a difference it is making! ...more
Jun 17, 2014 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2014
It was okay. Very informative in the beginning about the common misconceptions about what ADHD is and how it often goes undiagnosed in women because it often shows up as internal inattention but not external hyperactivity - aka daydreamers.

But the rest of the book? I kept reading because I thought I would find hope. Instead I felt more hopeless about having ADD than I ever have before in my life. Acknowledging all my flaws didn't help me: it made me angrier at my current situation and feel vict
Oct 05, 2016 rated it it was amazing
ADHD is criticized by many as an over applied diagnosis. I've heard someone say, "Oh everybody has that", and I've heard others say it's just an excuse for laziness or not trying hard enough. Frankly, I feel it is under diagnosed, especially in women.

In 1995, I inquired into the possibility that I might have it and was almost immediately dismissed. I was 18 and maybe didn't have the surest footing into my own identity, but I was pretty sure something was different about me from most everyone els
Aug 27, 2017 rated it liked it
Helpful information, even if not all of the suggestions are practical (wouldn't we all love to be able to afford daycare so we can get the housework done, bookkeepers for our businesses, and professional organizers and coaches to help us set up systems that work for us? Not gonna happen, though, and getting a promotion/higher-level job while requesting extra accommodations and assistants just because it might work better seems like something that's probably never happened for anyone who wasn't e ...more
Jan 02, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nobody
OK, so maybe I didn't read the ENTIRE book but I did read a solid 65% of it until I just couldn't stand it any more. It wasn't until Chapter 11 that I found some remotely useful few pages and then it was back to downhill from there. I imagine that many of Sari Solden's professors often wrote comments about how general her writing is/was. In 188 pages, all she told the reader was that ADD is very stressful for women, it's real, and that you need to deal with it -- over, and over, again. I will de ...more
Dec 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Sari took a microscope to my brain in this book.

My only gripe is the assumption that we all have money to hire outside help. No ma'am.
Feb 08, 2021 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2021-reads
I did rate this book a 4, but my brain has been obsessively mulling over a few points about this book that don't sit 100% with me.

This book described so many of my ADHD scenarios to a tee. Especially, considering the fact that I was only diagnosed last year at the age of 26! There were a few parts in the book where I had to put my Kindle down and go 'I am so glad, but also so sad that I am not the only person who has been through these sorts of experiences.' By not feeling so bad, I mean that I
Feb 11, 2021 rated it really liked it
How does this book know everything about me?! Totally insane to hear (listened to this as an audiobook, which offers the added bonus of leaving the listener free to play the Happy Mondays’ ‘Step On’ on a loop in their head as they devise a small dance they feel represents the experience of being both inattentive and hyperactive) experiences that were SO CLOSE to my own as well as get tips that might keep me from crying preemptively in 80% of work meetings. As other reviewers have pointed out, so ...more
Mar 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Ginny by: Library Find
Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

Many women think they are the only one who struggles with the demands of work, motherhood and other issues that women face in today's society. Quite frequently women are unaware of having ADHD much less, how it contributes to these struggles. However, Ms. Solden has written an excellent book discussing this topic. She not only shares examples of what other women are facing, but also explains why the strictures
Rachel Smalter Hall
I was expecting to react very emotionally to this book, and was surprised when that didn't happen. Other women have said that this book changed their lives or finally made them feel understood for the first time in their lives. While I didn't have that reaction, that didn't stop this from being the best book about women and ADHD that I have found.

Sari Solden really covers it all, from diagnosis to medication, treatment, the grief cycle, and redefining your core self-concept. It's breadth made it
Sep 23, 2009 rated it it was amazing
It's rare that I read "self-help" books to begin with. It's even more unusual when a book reads like my autobiography.

Sari Solden describes not only the "typical idea" about ADD, but differentiates between ADD and ADHD. She also expands on the concept, describing common traits that occur when a woman has only sort of dealt with having ADD. Solden explains that many women struggle due to familial expectations -- the expectation that women must keep their homes and lives (plus those of family memb
Jan 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
It's like the author is writing about ME. I've never felt so deeply understood as I do reading this book. ...more
Nov 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
the best!! The relationship/family parts don’t really acknowledge that lesbianism is a thing; she says “partner” but only really talks about straight relationships. Understandable since she’s drawing from her own life a lot but don’t be lulled by the p word ;) really helpful though esp if you haven’t read anything in depth about being a woman with add. Rereading it years later it was cool to see how much of the sad emotional stuff DOESN’T apply to me as much now that I have the framework she pro ...more
Jun 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
So eye-opening. Although I don’t identify as a woman, I was raised as one and thus related to a lot of this book. It’s more aimed at women who have a spouse and a family than anyone else, but there was still so much useful info here for a single person like me. I feel much better about getting treatment for my own ADHD in a way that’s healthy and productive for me.

Highly recommended for literally everyone, especially those who see ADHD as a thing that happens to only hyperactive white boys (and,
Kristina Zonk
Jun 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing
The best book I've read so far on the subject. Comprehensive, validating, challenging in places. May pick up a physical copy to have handy ...more
Jan 27, 2021 rated it liked it
This book is packed full of useful information in understanding how ADD presents itself in women. It’s well researched and referenced.

So what kept me from giving it 4 or even 5 stars? It needed more how on top of the why. This book is very long, with a lot of information, which made it very difficult for me, a person with ADHD, to process. With all the work I did to absorb the information, I learned a lot, but not a lot of how to change my circumstances. So much wants me to rely on others, but
Taryn Rodzinyak
I found the beginning quite helpful, as someone recently diagnosed. However, as the book went on, it began to feel a bit outdated in mindset and advice.
I have always known I was different. I fitted in without really fitting in.
I'm what most will qualify as being a good functioning ADHD person.
Mostly because I am finished my degree, got a job I love and generally don't stand out as a ADHD prone person. That is, until you see how I am living and learn the way my mind works. Then there is absolutely no doubt. I've got ADHD. Some days it is the worst curse in my life and i hate it with all my heart. But most days it's just something that are a pa
Nov 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing insights

This book is incredible — personal, narrative-based and informative. Even if you don’t have ADHD if you are a chronically disorganised woman this will resonate with you.
Jun 02, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2012
I have torn had people jokingly say that I was " so add". I picked up this book at half price books and before the end of the evening had used all my post it page markers. Things that I had attributed to depression for years were mentioned specifically in this book.

It would not have been helpful for me to have picked this book up after a diagnosis, but I think the information gleaned from the pages will help my therapist and I develop a plan for the future.

I can't begin to describe how elated I
Dec 11, 2008 rated it really liked it
A little wordy, but a must-read for women with ADD. A comprehensive book on the non-attentive type of ADD, it specifically deals with womens issues and experiences and combines real life composite histories and treatment experiences with the latest clinical resarch. Also provides new information on medication, diagnosis, treatment, therapy, counseling, and support groups, work and family relationships.
Aug 09, 2010 rated it it was amazing
This book is going to save my life. I have found the 'missing link' Hallelujah! Praise the Lord, I've been Saved! It's like someone took a magnifying glass to my life, it's been that powerful. Oh, and I just got it today to see if 'may' apply to me. It's been a Godsend.
Have I praised it enough?
Jun 25, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: adhd
A must read for every woman who has ADHD. Husbands would learn a lot about their wife also.
Jan 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Every woman who struggles with organization, ADHD or not, should read this book. Life is defined by more than being neat and/or orderly but it is easier when you can find your keys.
Gillian Freeman
Jun 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
That awkward moment when you’re a month away from 38 years-old and your whole life suddenly makes sense. Great book clarifying what ADHD (inattentive type) looks like in women (and girls).
Jul 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Wow, what a book.

The TL;DR of my review is: If you are a woman with ADHD, or a parent, friend or partner of one such woman, I highly recommend this comprehensive guide.

It's been about a year since I discovered I have ADHD. Embarking on this journey has been a whole lot of a lot but has offered me a better understanding of myself and how I navigate the world. In this I have been able to forgive myself for shortcomings, as well as find more effective ways to manage and talk about them. This has
May 10, 2017 rated it liked it
I listened to the audiobook version of this, so my review is based on that. In general, I didn't mind the voice recording but disliked the actor voices and background soundtrack. It became extremely confusing to listen to her words at some points over the talk or music. I also found it difficult to relate to many of the scenarios due to personal thought patterns and a totally different inner voice to what the actors were saying.

Much of it felt very contrived and false, and while this is not real
May 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This was admittedly an impulse buy from a thrift shop, but I'm so glad I went with my gut! I was diagnosed ADHD later in life (long story short: started therapy at 12 on and off, prescribed anti-depressants at around 18, then at around 22-23 finally convinced therapists that there's something else wrong and am not just depression/anxiety, went through tests with mental health professionals and was finally diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed Adderall at 23, now I'm 25), and everything I've read in ...more
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Sari Solden, M.S, is a psychotherapist who has counseled adults with ADHD for 30 years. She is the author of Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, Journeys Through ADDulthood, and co-author of A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD (July 2019). She serves on the professional advisory board of ADDA and was received their award for outstanding service by a helping professional. Her areas of specializa ...more

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