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Written in 1943, this book was written as an act of revenge against the woman who nearly destroyed the author's life with the celebrated philosopher, Jean Paul Sartre.
Unknown Binding, 416 pages
Published October 9th 1995 by Flamingo (first published 1943)
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Susi R. wood Love is an understatement. I've read this book many times since I first discovered it 30 + yrs ago. It is enveloping, fierce and sympathetic. Maybe…moreLove is an understatement. I've read this book many times since I first discovered it 30 + yrs ago. It is enveloping, fierce and sympathetic. Maybe because the human condition is timeless, maybe because somewhere in every woman is the one who was betrayed by a great love, the one who would rail against her fate and finally take matters into her own hands, I can't imagine any forthcoming era where this would not be accessible to the reader. The story only becomes richer with time in its historic backdrop.

Re-reading is immediately rewarding, the ending a small volcano of open-mouthed awe... reader is vaulted over that line of smoky rooms, not casual conversations, the lilt and lull of the heart into an abrupt finish that surprises every time. Well, the first few times. You will find yourself picking it up every 2 or 3 years after your first read, I think often because you simply miss their company. Who would not want to sit beside Simone and Sartre in the fading afternoon, bitter marc at your elbow, if for no other reason than to bear witness?(less)

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Your guy, whom you are totally smitten with, somehow talks you into agreeing that it's OK for him to extend your relationship into a menage a trois including another, younger woman, that you don't really like very much. You're seething with jealousy, but, because of various abstract principles, you can't even admit it to yourself in so many words. So you write a novel based on real events, where you describe her as the empty-headed little bitch she is, and conclude by killing her, which you alwa ...more
Rebecca Evans
The subject matter of this novel by Simone De Beauvoir, who was the long-term partner of famed French existential philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre, seems a somewhat odd one for a prominent feminist. The relationship between De Beauvoir and Sartre was not a conventional one- far from it in fact- and is explored in this story of a woman suffering an existential crisis caused by the introduction of another woman to form what becomes a rather bizarre menage à trois.
Françoise (quite obviously a represent
Ian "Marvin" Graye

"Xaviere was watching Pierre with a kind of voluptuous docility..." (page 238)

"Her fresh lips slowly plucked off each syllable of the word: vol..up..tu..ous." (page 151)

Simone de Beauvoir's novel was first published in French in 1943 and in English in 1949. Nabokov's famous syllabic enunciation of "Lo-lee-ta" appeared in the novel "Lolita", which was written in English, and first published in 1955 in Paris, in 1958 in New York City, and in 1959 in London.


Oct 14, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
نگاه فمنیستی و اگزیستانسیالیسمی مثل بقیه آثار دوبووار مشهود است و او سعی دارد وابستگی عاطفی زن به مرد را به تصویر بکشد.
دوبووار به آزادی معتقد است اما در میهمان این امر را می رساند که گاها انسان ها سر تسلیم به جبر محیط فرود می آورند و اینکه جوامع و همچنین خود زنان برای پذیرش آزادی فردی خود آماده نیستند و این آزادی فقط در قالب حرف نه عمل نمود می یابد.
زنان در شرایطی که داشته هایشان را در خطر می بینند در مقابل هم می ایستند و حس حسادت و کینه آنان را وادار به خشونت که خود واکنشی مردانه است؛می کند.
Nov 14, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
اعتراف می کنم که از این کتاب سر در نیاوردم. شاید کتاب مشکل ترجمه نامناسب داشت . اما بر خلاف دیگر آثار سیموون دوبووار که بسیار روان و دلنشین هست، در فهم این کتاب مشکل داشتم
وقتی دوبووار را به عنوان فیلسوفی فمینیست در نظر می گیرم در فهم این کتاب دچار مشکل می شوم و جالب اینجاست که خود نویسنده این اثرش را به عنوان "خود زندگی نامه" یا اتوبیوگرافی نامیده است
شاید برای فهمیدن این کتاب هنوز سوادمن خیلی کم هست، شاید سالها بعد فهمیدمش و شاید هرگز
Oct 24, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Primera novela de Simone. Cuesta un poco entrar en ella hasta que logra ubicarse a los personajes, a las complejas relaciones entre ellos e, incluso, a esa inquietante frivolidad en sus relaciones habida cuenta que están en los meses previos al estallido de la Segunda Guerra Mundial. Sin embargo, Simone, con un estilo narrativo lento pero fluido, logra hacernos danzar con los personajes: tan complejos, tan de carne y hueso, tan claroscuros. Françoise y su vengativa abnegación; Pierre o el hombre ...more
بثينة العيسى
لم يعجبني الكتاب، أقول ذلك الآن بعد أن أنهيته، وطوال الـ 600 صفحة لم أكن قادرة على الانحياز له أو ضده! ورغم أنه كتاب طويل نسبياً، إلا أنه كان من الصعب علي أن اضعه جانبا وأن لا أواصل القراءة، فقد تمت صياغته بمهارة، وهو غني بالحوارات التي جعلت صفحاته الكثيرة تنساب بسلاسة إلى ذاكرتك القرائية، وعنصر التشويق الأغنى - من وجهة نظري - هو أنه سيرة مبطنة لتجربة خاضتها سيمون دوبوفوار مع جان بول سارتر!

يحكي الكتاب قصة زوجٍ يعيش حياة مثالية من السعادة ( فرنسواز / بيار )، سعادة متحققة ومكتملة لدرجة السأم، ويبد
Oct 20, 2008 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is billed as the book SDB wrote when one of Sartre's lovers (Olga Kosakievics) entered their lives and threatened to disrupt the famous partnership about which so much has been speculated. This description doesn't do the book justice.

It does, nevertheless, need to be admitted from the start that Beauvoir is not remembered best for her novels and this one illustrates why: this is no literary classic. It is not a page turner, not a tour de force - at times I had to make myself pick it up to g
Milica Anđelić
Nov 01, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorite
I was trembling with anger during the entire book. The characters are intentionally led to the extreme of their emotions. Simone did this to question love and relationships: how tolerant and honest can you get? Francoise couldn't bare to be honest, but she was extremely tolerant. Did she suffer her "tolerant" humiliation because of love or pride? She wanted to hide this petty human emotion that consumed her and that's why she was silent until the end. She couldn't bare the thought of someone kno ...more
رانيا محيو الخليلي
إثرقراءتي لروايتين متتاليتين لسيمون دوبوفوار، قبل "المدعوة"،
"دماء الآخرين "، أصبح بإمكاني التأكيد أنها لم تتقن قط فنّ الرواية، وأن أسلوبها السردي مليء بتفاصيل وحوارات لا تفيد حيثيات الأحداث كثيرًا. لا أخفي أنني شعرت بالملل أمام الكثير من المقاطع. لكن إصراري على إتمامها وفضولي لمعرفة النهاية التي سبق وتحدّثت عنها بمذكراتها دفعاني لإنهائها. سيمون دوبوفوار برعت في كتابة المذكرات، وبرعت في كتابة الأفكار الفلسفية والمقالات، لكنها لم تبرع وتبدع كروائية على الإطلاق. لم أقرأ بعد روايتها الحائزة على جائ
Oct 01, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: french-lit
Nje nga librat me te mire qe kam lexuar se fundmi. De Beauvoir duhet te lexohet me patjeter sidomos nga ata qe kane shume pikepyetje ekzistenciale.

Ngjarja, apo historia e thurur ne liber nuk eshte aq terheqese vecanerisht ne fillim. Nuk kuptohet se si mpleksen rrethanat ne menyre te atille qe Ksaviera i bashkohet ciftit te pandashem Fransuaze e Pier. Nuk ka ndonje arsye te mirefillte pse keta njerez krijojne ate te famshmen trio dhe nuk ka ndonje shpjegim per sjelljet e tyre ne raport me njeri-
Jun 26, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ah, existentialism. The philosophy of freedom...

Sure. If you're a white, middle-class guy like Sartre.

Existentialism and practicality don't really go hand in hand. Lovely theory, though.

Francoise and Pierre invite young, beautiful Xaviere to share their relationship, and, initially, they're delighted with the fresh perspective she gives them. It all changes when Pierre and Xaviere declare their love for each other, and suddenly, Francoise feels trapped in the relationship that was meant to be
Apr 24, 2008 is currently reading it
I have always, ALWAYS been obsessed with the love triangle of Jean-Paul Satre, Simone de Beauvoir, Michel Foucault since my cherished time in England when I learned a whole cultural theory of philosophy not taught in the American educational system. I then became an avid obssessive student of post-modern dialectic. Although I have read the Second Sex, it is her lovers and relationships with the men in her real life which fascinate me. This novel is supposed to be the story of her obsession and d ...more
Apr 08, 2011 rated it really liked it
Strong and almost striking at times.
Beauvoir makes you love and hate all her main characters in this powerfully written book.
Ahmad Sharabiani
نخستین داستان «سیمون دوبوار» است، تحقیق و مطالعهی تلخ و نیشداری است درباره حالات روحی یک زن، همین عنوانش شد «میهمان» و در سال 1943 نشر یافت ...more
mai ahmd
Jan 11, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: روايات
هذه الرواية تحكي دو بوفوار جزء من سيرتها الذاتية وأساسها علاقة الصداقة والحب التي جمعتها مع الفيلسوف جان بول سارتر وكما جرى في الواقع عقدت فرانسواز وبيار عقدا يناسب أفكارهما الوجودية وينادي بالحرية والإخلاص في آن واحد , اتفقا الإثنان على ان يسمح الواحد منهما للآخر بإقامة علاقات عاطفية على شرط أن تكون علاقتهما هي الأساسية دون أن يسمحا للواعج الغيرة أو رغبات التملك أن تسيطر عليهما وحيث أن فرانسواز التي كانت تمثل شخصية دو بوفوار متيمة ببيار فقد دفعت ثمن هذا الإتفاق طوال صفحات الرواية كانت فرانسواز ...more
Dec 17, 2015 rated it really liked it
Based on the reviews I had read on Goodreads prior to starting the novel, I thought She Came to Stay would be a long arduous journey between me and Simone that I would't really enjoy, but that ended up not being the case. It was a quick read, mostly dialogue and not at all difficult. I would not suggest this book to someone who wasn't interested in Sartre and de Beauvoir's work already. It is an easy read but dry and without a strong narrative arc. What makes the novel worthwhile is that so many ...more
Luís C.
Lisbon Book-Fair 2016.
Mar 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
It's almost unbelievable how much meaning can be extracted from a novel that essentially lacks a narrative other than artistic professionals simply going about their daily lives. “Hell is other people,” says Sartre, and Simone de Beauvoir certainly doesn't disagree. She does however offer a different perspective on the role of the Other, portraying it not only as disturbing one's peace and causing confusion and frustration, but also very much a "necessary evil" that helps people challenge their ...more
Julie Iskander
Aug 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I was taken aback by how it ended.
The book is known to be a recounting of a real story of a young woman that came into the lives of JeanPaul Sarter and Simone de Beauvoir. According to the novel , she wanted to break their unique bond and have Sarter for herself but she failed.

I feel the book is more of an attempt to understand what happened and how complex relationships and human can be. To me the restless obnoxious Xaviere was so irritating and at times painful.

The book is an complex journe
Ana Rita
Jun 26, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Too big, though, and exhausting at times
Jan 25, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2012-reads, classics
Otherwise known as 'Never get on the wrong side of Simone de Beauvoir'

I first came across Simone de Beauvoir through looking at quotes from her most famous work, The Second Sex, an iconic re-constructionist feminist text. Her ideas really interested me, and so when I found out that she had written novels I was really intrigued. She Came to Stay is particularly interesting as it is based on the real life relationship between de Beauvoir and the philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre with whom she had an (v
Natalie Richards
This book went on could`ve been much shorter. This book is supposed to be based on the author`s relationship with Jean-Paul Satre, and I suppose I just don`t understand how such a prominent feminist could be ok with agreeing to having an open relationship. ...more
Fabián Tapia
Sep 13, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Una novela sobre el teatro parisino y sobre un amor CAÓTICO Y AVASALLADOR cuyas relaciones te enredarán hasta asfixiarte.
Esperen la video reseña o directo xd No sé cómo será el método. <3
El único fallo: Beauvoir no es buena narradora.
Oct 29, 2009 rated it did not like it
Shelves: book-clubbers
I can't finish this book. In fact, I think I hate it.
Bahjat Fadhil
المدعوة | سيمون دو بوڤوار

عندما كانت سيمون تحاول الكتابة نصحها سارتر بأن تكتب عن حياتها ، رغم إنها فكرة مرعبة بالنسبة لها ، لكنها الأفضل في الوقت الذي كانت فيه سيمون لا تعرف ماذا تكتب أو تقدم للقارئ !
كتبت سيمون هذه الرواية (المدعوة) أو (أتت لتبقى) وهي أول رواياتها ، عن الفتاة التلميذة الصغيرة التي دخلت حياة سارتر ، الفتاة كزافير (أولغا ) ذات المزاج الحاد وصاحبة الحب الأناني !
حسنًا من بين جميع نساء سارتر ، أختارت سيمون هذه الفتاة لتكون موضوع لسيرتها ، وهذا كفيل بأن يُرينا معاناة الكاتبة مع هذه ال
Dec 21, 2015 rated it it was ok
Ég veit ekki hvort ég geti með góðri samvisku mælt með She Came to Stay (1943) því hún er allt of langdregin og tilgangslaus á köflum þó svo að það hafi í fyrstu verið spennandi að vera fluga á veggjum þeirra kaffihúsa sem þau sóttu, Café de Flore og Les Deux Magots, ýmist að fá sér Kaffi Ólei, áfengi, eða bæði. Stöðum og fólki er lýst með alveg vísindalegri hárnákvæmni - og svo kemur oftar en ekki í ljós að staðirnir og margt fólkið kemur söguþræðinum ekki við og hefði betur mátt munda niðursku ...more
أقمار المسيري
نبدأ في ثاني رواية لي للكاتبه العملاقه سيمون

أمر عجيب ان تعود احداً ما ، مجرد امرأة ، امرأة تسرع لأن ثمة عملاً عاجلاً في انتظارها . لم تكن هذه سوى لحظة كسواها من لحظات حياتها . رواية المدعوة . سيمون دوبوفوار

كلما وهن عزمها لم يكن عليها سوى النظر في عينيه الرماديتين لاستعادة ثقتها . المدعوة . سيمون دوبوفوار

لا يخطر له ان المرأة القوية يمكن ان تتعذب كأي امرأة اخرى . المدعوة . سيمون
Apr 17, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
حسنًا جيدة بما يكفي , هذه الرواية التي تدعى المدعوة دفعتها بوجهي ذات صباح صديقتي حنّو وهي تقول لي في الليلة التي تسبقها سأحضر لكِ "فتنة" في الصباح وفي يوم اشبه بالغيم قالت لي بصوت هامس "تفهمك" انا كزافيير أخاف بأن أغير عاداتي الصغيرة ,امكث في بيتي طويلًا وأندس عنهم جميعًا , لم يكن الكتاب الوحيد الذي اجدني فيه فأنا غالبًا اجدني محشوة بين الأسطر .لم تكن الرواية الأولى التي اغلقها وأنا اهتف يالله , ولم تكن الرواية الشاذة التي احبها بعمق وأتكيف معها بعمق لدرجة التخلص من الحياة التي تحيط بي . لكن هي ...more
Khashayar Mohammadi
Dec 31, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: femenism, french-lit
I gotta admit that I did not think too highly of this book in the first few chapters, even considered abandoning it, but luckily the more I read the more I realized how well-written and purposeful the characters really are. This book is a fascinating love story, with poignant passages that are now embedded in my brain.

Francoise holding back her tears as she desperately attempts to console Pierre that his beloved Xaviere is deeply in love with him, or how tears flow mercilessly from her eyes as s
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Simone de Beauvoir was a French author and philosopher. She wrote novels, monographs on philosophy, politics, and social issues, essays, biographies, and an autobiography. She is now best known for her metaphysical novels, including She Came to Stay and The Mandarins, and for her 1949 treatise The Second Sex, a detailed analysis of women's oppression and a foundational tract of contemporary femini ...more
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