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I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You

3.39 of 5 stars 3.39  ·  rating details  ·  8,699 ratings  ·  899 reviews
"Where'd You Go, Bernadette" meets "Beautiful Ruins" in this reverse love story set in Paris and London about a failed monogamist's attempts to answer the question: Is it really possible to fall back in love?
Despite the success of his first solo show in Paris and the support of his brilliant French wife and young daughter, thirty-four-year-old British artist Richard Haddo
Paperback, 368 pages
Published April 7th 2015 by Touchstone (first published June 1st 2014)
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Cary Pohlhammer If you like a love story that goes in reverse, then yes. If you want to see a man who has a daughter and wife, both of whom he loves, try the best way…moreIf you like a love story that goes in reverse, then yes. If you want to see a man who has a daughter and wife, both of whom he loves, try the best way he can to win back the love of his wife, then you would love this book.(less)
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The review blurb on Amazon said this: "In this reverse love story set in Paris and London, which Glamour hailed as one of the “10 Best Books to Add to Your Summer Reading List Right This Second,” a failed monogamist attempts to woo his wife back and to answer the question: Is it really possible to fall back in love with your spouse?" The blurb later references the "charming and engrossing portrait as one man's midlife mess." It sounds interesting and appealing, yes?

But 25% into the book, I just
2.5 stars.

I had trouble putting this book down. But I have no idea why.

It certainly wasn't sympathy for the narrator. Was I supposed to feel sorry for him? Puke! What a jerk. He needed to take a grow-up pill. In addition to being a self-indulgent cheater, he was pretentious as all get out. I sort of liked his wife, but she was pretentious, too. (Had to be to end up with the likes of him).

I also wasn't satisfied with the conclusion. I suspected the author wanted to write a more ambiguous book,
Just loved this book. It's smart, no question. Funny, yes. But, most importantly, true. A book that makes you feel--gratitude, doubt, sadness, hope, resolve... Having been married twenty years, I know it's a process, will never stay quite the same and takes two people who want to keep growing together. Often requiring pain, boredom, kindness, forgiveness, creativity… Maum captures these stages perfectly. The writing is tight and swift, culturally right on--brutal in some depictions, kind in othe ...more
Larissa Rose
It gets two stars because it kept me reading until the end, but honestly, I thought it was so stupid. The narrator is so whiny and selfish, he spends the whole first half of the book talking about his mistress, even though the shit has already hit the fan and he claims to want his wife back. It wraps up way too fast, and it's all too facile. Their actual marital problems are completely glossed over, and nothing about it felt real. Also, it takes place during the beginning of the Iraq War and I t ...more
Helen McAlary
My goal for 2014 is to read 60 books, which is pretty ambitious for me. I have found that there are some books that I start and I don’t really care to finish – but I do finish them because otherwise I will be behind on my goal! This is one of those books. The book is told through artist Richard Haddon and at the outset we learn he is mourning an affair with a mistress who has left him. Richard is an exceptionally selfish and whiny man who longs for his wife to come back to him and for his mistre ...more
Nov 20, 2014 Elizabeth rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Elizabeth by: ???
Shelves: fiction
This is a book about a fussy man who gets butt hurt when his married life gets a little too predictable and so self soothes by having an affair. BUT do not fear b/c he realizes what an absolute cad he's been and falls back in love with his wife (the little minx!). BUT she is not so sure she wants him back. He whinges a lot whilst trying to figure it all out. Will they or won't they? More important, who cares?

And, yes, the little minx was used in a sentence.
More than once.

Peggy Strack
Richard Haddon is bored and disillusioned with his marriage and his career as an artist. So what does he do? He finds some excitement through an extra-marital affair. When it ends, Richard's life is in shambles. He wants to fall back in love with his wife. He wants to escape from the demands of a commercial art world, but how does he turn these desires into reality. Author, Courtney Maum takes us on Richard's maddening and heartfelt journey of how he tries to make this happen. This novel totally ...more
Courtney Maum
Sep 15, 2014 Courtney Maum rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  (Review from the author)  ·  review of another edition
I don't usually think that women can write from a man's point of view but Courtney Maum had me convinced! Wow! This book is awesome! Maybe female writers aren't so hopeless after all!
Richard is a whiny, self-indulgent, want-a-be center of the universe, annoying man! I had had enough of him by the middle of the book and had to force myself to continue. I scanned most of the rest of the book (because I HATE bailing out in the middle if I think I can stand it to the end) but I should have just quit. The end of the book just felt like the author gave up too and just strung some words together to end it all.

Many reviewers thought this was a “funny” book, but I didn't find it so.
Chele Hipp
Ack! What a painful book to read! Hundreds - literally hundreds - of pages about a guy feeling torn between his amazing wife and his amazing mistress who dumped him. So boring. I wanted to see what happened plot-wise so I just scanned the book for plot advancements. There were very few. And, lo and behold, they all ended up rom-com perfect.

Also, who was the person having fun? It wasn't either of the primary characters and it certainly wasn't me. What was the point of the title?

Another book beg
I read a bunch of this funny, compelling novel on the cliff side overlooking the ocean in San Diego and it was one of the greatest reading experiences in recent memory: not just for the ocean view but for the book itself. I loved this narrator, even as he fucked up and was such a dolt. I loved the art. I love the sex scenes. I loved the descriptions of clothing. Such a great read. At times the first person narrative over-explained what was clearly implied, which distracted me. Otherwise, fun and ...more
Somewhat overlong and angsty exploration of a marriage in crisis. The narrator, a British artist in his 30's, has cheated on his French lawyer wife with an American {horrors!!}. Once his wife discovers his infidelity, he suddenly realizes what he has lost and sets about trying to win her back. She resists, he persists, for 330 pages.

Some interesting glimpses of the art world and life in Paris, but otherwise I didn't find it especially compelling.
I've been on a roll lately, every book I've read has been excellent and this is no exception. Loved it!
Jenny (Reading Envy)
Aug 03, 2014 Jenny (Reading Envy) rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Jenny (Reading Envy) by: PW 4/7/14
Shelves: read2014
Sometimes the ennui from a longterm relationship sets the stage for people to make decisions that can cause a great deal of pain. Who knows how to just be honest to start with? How else to deal with drudgery and overfamiliarity than the excitement of a fling?

Richard Haddon is an artist who has enjoyed some measure of success (as in people are purchasing his work) at age 34, but only from selling out to a more commercial idea. And in the same way he's let his authentic artistic self slip, he's st

Courtney Maum's debut novel I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You seemed right up my alley: a cross-cultural romantic comedy mixed with one of my favorite unofficial literary sub-genres, the White Male F&ck-up Novel. You see, it's about a British artist (Richard) who cheats on his French lawyer wife (Anne-Laure) with an American journalist (Lisa) during the run-up to the Iraq War... and oh, it's primarily set in Paris.

Doesn't sound that romantic, huh? But it's the 'ole "boy loses girl, b
Gina Shores
One of those books where I hated absolutely every character in it, yet couldn't stop reading. This book is heartache porn.
The jacket hailed the author as a fresh new voice in fiction and I will agree. I have no idea of the author's life circumstances but her ability to paint a portrait of the struggles of marriage from a British male point of view married to a French woman shows remarkable talent. Her insight into how difficult married life can be was illuminating.
Beware, long quote ahead but feel the need to recite in its entirety to show the brilliance of this book.
"And no one tells you what it's going to feel li
Paris is for lovers....well not always. The much maligned philanderer gets his story told in Courtney Maums wonderfully titled, "i am having so much fun here without you". The seven year itch hits Richard hard and he falls off the monogamy wagon with a thud. After 7 years with the pretty perfect Anne, a well healed but sexy (of course) French lawyer, a gorgeous three year old daughter, a house in the 14th arrondissement in Paris, wealthy bourgois inlaws with the summer house in Brittany, Richard ...more
Kate Hilton
Courtney Maum's debut novel reverses the classic tale of infidelity, telling it from the point of view of the regretful philanderer. Richard Haddon, overcome with midlife malaise, has a passionate affair with a younger woman. The affair offers the one thing now missing from his otherwise perfect marriage: the thrill of sex with a new partner. As the book opens, the affair has ended, leaving Richard listless at home and work. The crisis comes when his brilliant, beautiful wife, Anne, discovers a ...more
Dannalie Diaz
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Richard Haddon is unsatisfied with his beautiful, brilliant and supportive wife and his successful career as an artist even though his life is as close to perfect as it gets! He’s not a likable character and I didn't care much about what happened to him, or his near-perfect wife. I felt no sympathy for this self-absorbed man, even though he went to great lengths to restore his marriage in crisis. BUT that didn't matter because the book was less about these characters and more about marriage in g ...more
An enjoyable romantic comedy with a veneer of sophistication. Artist Richard Haddon has strayed from the marital bed and as the novel opens he's been thrown over by his lover and his wife has discovered his infidelity. Even the success of his first solo art show in Paris feels hollow since the work that is selling are paintings he feels mark his departure from his earlier, more authentic political art. What is a poor sod to do?

Make no mistake, Richard is narcissistic, immature, and unsympathetic
3 - 3.5 stars

[I couldn't help but think that there may be an element of "wish fulfillment" in the way the plot progresses in this book. The philandering husband...who realizes and comes to regret his terrible mistake...who tries to win his wife back (short of practically grovelling)...etc etc]

It was *just* okay. I didn't feel that the story (or the writing) revealed anything particularly powerful or insightful about the nature and course of marital love. (In part, I wonder if this could be becau
Ket Lamb
Paris, relationships and art are usually a winning combination, but not in I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You. British artist Richard Haddon is torn between his French wife Anne and his vibrant American ex-mistress. Little does Anne know that he's been cheating on her not once, but for months. When his mistress slams the door on him for good, Richard conveniently decides to throw himself wholeheartedly back into his marriage. Though Richard is the one who betrayed his family, it doesn't st ...more
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3.5 stars

Richard is an artist and has been cheating on his wife for seven months, when his mistress decides to leave him and marry someone else. He is devastated. Meanwhile, when his wife finds out, Richard decides he doesn't want to lose her, either, so he tries to win her back.

I didn't think, at first, that I'd like the book, because I hated Richard so much right away. However, the book got more interesting as it went along, and I was amazed to find myself, later in the book, sort of rooting
Michelle Cristiani
I liked this one. Set in Paris, the story from a cheating husband's point of view. Props to Maum for writing like (I think) a man would write. Also props for some really deep gems on the philosophy of why long-term relationships work, and how they endure through great mutual pain and/or distrust.

I do feel like this book felt a little green, and I can't put my finger on why. It was straightforward and pretty solid. It meandered a little, and the characters didn't grip me until I was pretty far in
Victoria Miller
He’s an artist and British; she’s an attorney and French. They meet and marry in the USA, settle in France, have a lovely child, successful careers, and live happily ever after. At least until the seventh year, when he meets an American hottie who creates an itch he just has to scratch. And then the story becomes about things falling apart and being reconfigured, in which respect the book itself is quite a work of art. Part of what fascinated me about this book is that it is written in first per ...more
Excellent writing, excellent plot. Brilliant characterisation. Dave and Dan were hilarious. Anne, mon cherie Anne, was so well depicted. Svelte with some hautiness. The narrator,Richard, I couldn't get. His physical-ness. I couldn't get a mental picture. British born, studied in America and now lives in Paris with his wife, Anne, and daughter, Camille. Camille escaped me maybe it's because I couldn't see her father.

The story is quite basic. Richard, after 5 years of marriage, has/had an affair w
3.5 stars: “I Am Having So Much Fun Without You” is a beach read with introspection. Yes, it’s light and airy, it’s witty, it’s entertaining, but there’s some meat in it about the workings of marriages.

At the beginning of the novel, I almost gave up because the protagonist, Richard Haddon, was a bit creepy for me. He’s married to a devoted and beautiful woman, has a lovely 5 year old daughter, and he’s a philanderer. Because the writing is witty, and this novel has received great reviews, I cont
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Courtney Maum is the author of the acclaimed debut novel “I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You,” which was rated a book of the year by Real Simple, Bustle, and Flavorwire, and a book of the month by Amazon, iTunes, and Library Journal. Hailed by publications from O Magazine to the Wall Street Journal as a “literary beach read”, her tale of a failed British monogamist trying to make good establ ...more
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