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Somebody Stole My Iron: A Family Memoir of Dementia

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Now a Finalist for the High Plains Book Awards 2015 "Best Woman Writer"

This is the story of a daughter's care of her aged parents, a father diagnosed with dementia related to Parkinson's disease, and a mother diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. It is a story written from the perspective of the caregiver. It documents the learning process of the caregive
Paperback, 344 pages
Published January 17th 2014 by Praeclarus Press (first published January 1st 2014)
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Jan 25, 2014 Shari rated it really liked it
I must confess that this is the book of a friend of mine and I was anxious to read this, as well as feeling some trepidation, because I knew her family and suspected that this would be difficult for me. While there were places in the narrative that I could hardly continue through because of the horrors of this journey, I was impressed with the straightforward, honest (sometimes brutally so given the fact that it exposed all the innermost workings of Tapia's heart), informative, and helpful narra ...more
Pam Sanchez
Mar 07, 2014 Pam Sanchez rated it it was amazing
Being in the middle of this journey right now, I cried and laughed my way through the book. I realized what I was doing right and what I still need to do to keep my mother safe as we navigate this together. I am very grateful to have my sister by my side every day. Vicki, that you for sharing such an intimate family memory.
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Concerns over my family's long history of Alzheimer's disease drew me to Vicki Tapia's memoir Somebody Stole My Iron. As I peer into the future, the potential battle with this brutal thief is one of my greatest fears because of the way it robs what I treasure most—health, relationship, and memories. I wanted to learn all I could about this potential adversary. As a nurse, I have studied the medical side but was interested in the human and emotional aspects of this battle. I found what I was look ...more
Feb 18, 2014 Russell rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful book for anyone who has had to deal with a parent or relative that struggles with dementia, or any kind of condition that affects their memory. Vicki Tapia does a wonderful job of sharing her experience with her mother's deteriorating memory with a sense of humor, but also with a genuine sense of confusion and anger when she becomes the target of her mother's confusion. This book also offers practical advice about how to go about negotiating some of the more difficult aspects ...more
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Jun 12, 2015 Marianne Sciucco rated it it was amazing
This inspiring memoir chronicles the author's journey as caregiver of two parents with dementia at the same time. It is a deeply personal, in-depth, intricate story, sure to bring an understanding of the demands and sacrifices related to this horrific disease - the uncertainty and confusion concerning decision-making for parents who must now be parented, the loss, grief, and sense of being all alone. The author's brave and honest sharing of her experiences will guide caregivers on their journeys ...more
Oct 31, 2015 Shannon rated it it was amazing
Part memoir, part therapy session, part guidebook, SOMEBODY STOLE MY IRON is an unflinching look at Alzheimer's and dementia. Author Vicki Tapia was the primary caregiver for both her parents after her father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s related dementia and her mother with Alzheimer’s. Reflecting on the journey, she candidly shares the struggles and the missteps along the way, then stops to provide “lessons learned” for anyone else who may is headed down the same path. SOMEBODY STOLE MY IRON ...more
Feb 19, 2014 Marcia rated it it was amazing
This book opened my eyes about how Alzheimer’s and dementia can affect a family. It provides insights into the progression of the disease as well as providing advice on how to navigate through the stages. This book is a must read for families that have received this diagnosis.
Edna Wilkerson
Feb 28, 2017 Edna Wilkerson rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Guidelines for caretaking

This book shows two people deteriorating mentally. It is an insightful tale lived with duty to others in mind and told with love, humor, compassion, and accuracy of detail. Like a visual painting suggests concepts or ideas, this books draws a roadmap through the morass of caring for the patient with dementia. It is suggestive not literal. Each patient with dementia is different. Because of the conflicting emotions generated in the required role reversals, nothing in life
Judy Cornish
May 19, 2017 Judy Cornish rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful book - a warmhearted and honest account of one family's navigation of the world of institutional and dementia care. Vicki's insights will guide you and help you arrange better care for your own loved one.
Apr 04, 2016 K. rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir, dementia
Tapia chronicles the last few years of her parents lives as they lived with chronicle illness. Her father lived with Parkinson's Disease, her mother Alzheimer's Disease.

Because Tapia's mother was more active and strong willed than her father, Tapia spends considerable more space detailing her mother's challenges. Tapia's mother presents fairly coherent language for a long time, even though her memory, mobility, and self-care all start falling apart. Tapia is eager to believe her mother's report
Jean Lee
Jun 03, 2015 Jean Lee rated it it was amazing
As a daughter of two parents who also suffered with Alzheimer’s, I found many connecting points with Vicki Tapia’s book.

She begins with the earliest suspicions about her parents’ mental clarity and struggles with the guilt of moving them from their life-long community to the town where she lives so she can be actively involved in their care. Through a series of subsequent moves for increased needs and security, Vicki feels as though she abandons them when she has to tend to her own life, family
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Nov 15, 2015 Tryn Rose rated it it was amazing
Vicki has written a memoir, a how-to, and a deep look at her own journey through life. It's so much more than just a story, or just practical tips, or sharing feelings - the whole range of them - it's all of these, woven together seamlessly and beautifully. Vicki has lived through these challenging and inspiring times, and shares them now for the benefit of the reader. When you get this book, put a bookmark in every "Lessons Learned" section at the end of chapters, and you will be empowered to n ...more
Jul 30, 2015 Barbara marked it as to-read
I really enjoyed the book and would recommend it to everyone, especially people with elderly parents. It is a fast read book with lots of helpful information. This book is a must read. Thank you for writing it.
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**A Finalist for Best Woman Writer in the High Plains Book Awards 2015**

Vicki is a published author whose writing took a turn from the beginning of life to the end when she began keeping a diary documenting her family’s journey. Tapia was the daughter of two parents who suffered from dementia/Alzheimer's disease.

For many years, her passion was teaching. She worked with thousands of women and babi
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