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3.54  ·  Rating details ·  1,444 ratings  ·  103 reviews
Ъпдайк дири тъкмо в любовта още един от бързо развенчаващите се митове на съвременна Америка. Разсъждавайки трезво, той извлича обобщенията си от действителната социална почва, опрян на остро, проницателно наблюдение. Едновремешните разбирания за любовта вече не съществуват — те се разпадат, както се разпада самото общество, както се разпада семейството. Така търсеното ...more
Paperback, 224 pages
Published 1979 by Народна култура (first published 1971)
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Apr 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: romantic readers of satire
Oh, the romance of that moment, as his heart is fluttering wildly and the dream of a life is playing out before his eyes so vividly he can see the children they will make together, and the woman in front of him is so ideal and desirable he wishes to link himself to her forever. Oh, that romantic moment when nothing is yet spoiled, the moment just before he says with all the hope and loving intentions in the world: "Marry me."

If only we could bottle that moment, what a life we could have!

Tatevik Najaryan
I am in trouble, I am in big trouble. I can't do anything but read today. This is my second finished book for today and I fear of starting a new one, because I may accidentally finish it too. I need a prison bar over my bookshelves for a night.

I don't remember lately reading a book with such deep feelings showed. One word to describe the book - deep, this book was deep. It was so real. It seemed I was seating in a living room with these 4 people, and they were living their lives, talking,
Apr 02, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read all the reviews of this book before picking it at the book store. Now that I'm finished with it, I have to say I'm a little disappointed in a lot of you.

The reason I actually read it despite the reviews was that like most of John Updike's books, once I started I couldn't put it down. I was literally standing in the book store aisle, 20 pages in and realized I didn't want to stop reading.

John Updike has such a beautiful way of describing things. I love the settings he establishes, the
Mark Merenda
May 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
John Updike was the Mozart of modern American literature. There was nothing that he could not do well. This book is fascinating, quite apart from his wonderful prose style. It apparently is closely based on an actual affair that almost blew Updike's first marriage apart. He alludes to it in his book "Self-Consciousness", saying something along the lines of "I tried to break out of my marriage and failed." He did not publish the book "for personal reasons" while married to his first wife, but ...more
Apr 04, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Marriage, if it is lived honestly, holds a mirror to our faces. It shows us who we really are. Romance shows us who we'd like to be.

Sometimes the pain of facing ourselves in marriage is so great that we seek an outside romance through which to lie to ourselves, or obtain a reprieve from our true selves - a place to hide in a candlelit glow. We run from our "Ruth," the truth, to a safer view.

Although many times the book offended me - it was ugly, the language could sometimes bite - Updike
May 18, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Rather boring exhaustive description of an affair between two
married people that may or may not end with a divorce and, possibly,
a wedding. Of the four characters involved, the adulterers stand out
as being influenced by religion and rather stupid.

I found one memorable quote, though:

[He was seven.] He was the most logical of their children and
without a theory of 'jokes' grown-ups would not have fitted into
his universe at all.
Angelina Rotenhajzer
Well, wonderful. Despite the authors making a joke he called it a 'romance' because people didn't behave that way any more, the book is acutely correct in its understanding of the evolution of human desire and the description of the mental angst when facing the consequences. The characters' behaviour is nauseating, irritating, trying the readers' patience by being so understanding towards each other it leaves every one of them too many options. The multiple choice and indecision throughout the ...more
Jul 26, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: english
More than thirty years ago I read Marry me and it made a big impression on me. Rereading it all these years later was a sheer pleasure. It is Updike’s typical stomping ground: couples, marriages and adultery in a middleclass setting. I remember an interview in which Updike said of this subject matter: ‘If I haven’t exhausted it, then it certainly has exhausted me’.

In Marry me the story is about the married couples Jerry and Ruth and Richard and Sally. It is set in the early sixties in a small
Mar 15, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
loved it. and wanted to die after I finished. bleak. raw. jerry conant is a motherfucker. put me on suicide watch for an hour and hide the liquor. jesus.
alice brightman
good, very good. but a fluffy last chapter that made me end the book being incapable of either remembering the good parts, or liking any of the characters
Jul 11, 2007 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Could anyone explain to me what happened in the last two chapters? I just couldn't understand what Updike intended by them.
Bruce Beckham
Oct 22, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I’ve realised that John Updike is not everyone’s cup of tea. However, for me, he’s like Earl Grey, which I spend far too much of each day drinking. To date, I’m neither tea’d out, nor Updiked out.

Marry Me is set in the mid-seventies, in a small coastal town somewhere outside of New York City. In a nutshell it is about two couples, Jerry & Ruth, and Richard & Sally. Jerry & Sally are having a heavy-duty affair; Ruth & Richard once had a lite version (unbeknown to their partners).

Rebecca F.
Overall a decent representation of what Updike can do -- but certainly not his best. Much of the content in this book will be familiar to regular Updike readers -- marital problems, infidelity, inner conflict, obsession with questions of death and God. Bright spots are the many majestic metaphors done with classic Updike panache. He has such an incredible eye for connecting the physical world to the psychological/emotional in a unique and moving way. Main characters here resemble the major ...more
Apr 25, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: mad-men, 60s-70s
Between 3 and 3.5 stars for this, but settled for 3 because, despite the obvious strength of talent, Updike as always leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth afterwards--and not an insightful 'wow!' kind of bad taste either.

I've long had issues with Updike, even before college, and now he's finally dead (and nifty male reviewers, esp of his own generation or near it, can stop the accolades except from a distance) I really do wonder for how long and just how profoundly his reputation will remain
May 24, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: kindle, lapl
This reads more like a play than a novel. And felt like a riff on the "No Exit" theme- hell is living with other people or living in a love triangle for the rest of your life. The whole book had an overwrought, over-analyzed, Woody Allen kind of indecisiveness. He wants his mistress, he wants his wife, he wants his mistress, he wants his wife. I don't think I've ever read a book that seemed so real and unreal at the same time. I kept thinking: Is this what marriage was really like in America ...more
Jun 03, 2009 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book is depressing. The worst perspective on marriage I've ever read. Honestly, it is so far from what my relationships with men have been like that it didn't come across as real. But then, I've been faithful to my husband for 17 years.

A great book to read if you are considering an adulterous affair, because you'll run away from that lover faster than I got this book out of the way (2 days). I would have never finished it if it weren't the book up for discussion this month. I'm interested
Gemma Williams
Apr 27, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a story of adultery and betrayal featuring a quartet of rather horrible, selfish, self-obsessed hysterical neurotics, detailing the twists and turns of their hideously sticky and compromised relationships. It would be vile, but Updike really can write like a dream.
Linda DiMeo Lowman
I did not like this book and that's disappointing because I've read other John Updike books and liked them. Two of the three main characters have no redeeming qualities and are immature adults with children. The premise of this book is that women must have a man, preferably a husband, or their lives are over. I know the book was written in 1976, but seriously, that's a ridiculous story line. Finally, the end is not an end--it is three endings, none of which I liked. What a copout.
Ármin Scipiades
I read this for the first time in Hungarian, when I was a teenager. It confused the shit out of me. Figured I'd give it another go now, in the original language, more than fifteen years later, armed with life experiences and stuff! It confused the shit out of me.

It's a jarring, depressing, exhausting, bleak, horrible book. But isn't it the task of art to show you just how bleak and horrible the life you're living really is? To show you uncomfortable truths, to make your eyes open up, to stir up
Cathryn Conroy
Sep 14, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is titled "Marry Me: A Romance," but it should be titled "Marry Me: Anatomy of an Affair." It's 1962. Jerry and Ruth are married with three children. Richard and Sally are married with three children. They live rich, privileged, affluent lives in a rich, privileged and affluent Connecticut town. Jerry and Sally have an affair. The first two chapters detail that affair--mostly lots of sex in lots of places. And angst. Lots of angst, too. Then we see the affair through the eyes of Ruth. ...more
Kaiva Koenig
I started out disliking this novel, the reading prodded along from one awfully dull page to another, the viewpoint character (Jerry) was so unpleasant I didn't want to know him. Until I got to the meat of the story, which is all in Ruth's very agreeable, normal POV! :-) Then I loved it. Updike created a wonderfully realistic contemporary romantic comedy, just perfect for readers who like their romance with a touch of cynical reality.
Jul 20, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An exploration of Mad Men era adultery and its aftermath. Really didn't know how it would end. Do the lovers break up? Do the marriages fail? Will there be any new relationships? Contemporary questions, for all eras. I liked it.
Jun 05, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love Updike, and "Marry Me", being the fourth novel of his that I have read, solidified that love even more. I love his darkness, his black sense of humor, the painful and soulless truth of being married in America. Right on, John.
Feb 08, 2009 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
i wanted to read one of john updike's books while he was still alive. you know, in case i got a chance to chat with him about it.

reading this book is my way of saying "crap, you are dead"
Sep 25, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I have read this book solely because it was part of a 400 plus collection of unread books I've amassed since the 1970's, and now that I've retired have promised to read each and every one of them. Big mistake! Struggled to page 70 and gave up, and then unfortunately remembered my promise. What a depressing, sordid collection of morally-bankrupt characters. Jerry for one should have been put down at birth...what a whinging, immature, miserable foul-mouthed soul he was...I wouldn't dream of ...more
Melisa Wells
Jul 21, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read many of Updike’s books thirty years ago and recently decided to revisit them to see if I would still enjoy his work after having aged three decades, and I do. This 1960s infidelity story was fascinating and beautifully written. It was also a great reminder of what traditional gender roles were in the mid-20th century and how far we’ve come since then. Once I started it I could put it down.
Jan 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Oct 11, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
ugh, Updike...but then again, he CAN write, he just doesn't really no shit about women, or sex and all his books are about women and or sex, so that's a conundrum...he writes good dated fiction. Makes nice sentences. That's sometimes good enough, and it was.
G M T Barnes
Jan 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

Updike writes in another consciousness. Rooted in and yet removed from life. His command of language is total and awe inspiring. Bravo!
May 15, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Meh, actually ugh! I was looking forward to reading Updike. I really wanted to like this book,just couldn't get past his portrayal of women , a definite struggle to get through.
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John Hoyer Updike was an American writer. Updike's most famous work is his Rabbit series (Rabbit, Run; Rabbit Redux; Rabbit Is Rich; Rabbit At Rest; and Rabbit Remembered). Rabbit is Rich and Rabbit at Rest both won Pulitzer Prizes for Updike. Describing his subject as "the American small town, Protestant middle class," Updike is well known for his careful craftsmanship and prolific writing, ...more
“it was somehow wonderful of her to be, in every detail, herself.” 6 likes
“Sweetie, the bluebird has flown. We're too young to sit around the rest of our lives waiting for it to fly back in the window. It won't. It can't fly backwards.'

He was using his hands again in that disagreeable stagey way, and Ruth was angered by the flicker of conceit in his expression when he struck upon the image of the bluebird fying backwards - a piece of animation on the screen of his face.”
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