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The Alabaster Girl

4.51  ·  Rating details ·  572 ratings  ·  60 reviews
"Sit back and relax... I will sing you the song of women.
What women? you ask.
All women, I answer.
Even me? you ask.
Especially you, I answer.
And what will you sing to me? you ask.
Ah, my love, I will sing to you of hidden truths
Yes, hidden truths and secret secrets..."

On a nameless train somewhere between here and nowhere, a woman and a man sit facing each other. She is a jou
Paperback, 414 pages
Published December 14th 2013 by Ars Amorata Press (first published 2013)
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Jan 02, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
This is not a book for boys trying to trick some poor girl into giving him a blowjob. This is a book for men that want to learn and are worthy of learning the ways of being a true lover.
This kind of men knows there is no sense in playing games, in trying to “have” something by the use of tricks, “have” one more line, “have” one more “magic pill”. You can call that “one more excuse to be mediocre”, “one more way to hide yourself from the thing you want, but can’t actually face” as Kundera so bril
Alejandro Saint-Barthélemy
The cover is so hideously kitsch and Zan's poems are as bad (I only remember the one at the end, and God knows it is enough) as the general content of the book is good.
Zan is a horrible writer (his try-hard stylish prose completely backfires in terms of good literature, falling in too many commonplaces and affectation), but a knowledgeable and experienced man.
Paradoxically, it is a great book (for black belt pickup artists and/or everyone interested in interpersonal relationships) about kindne
Rafal Szymanski
Nov 30, 2015 rated it really liked it
> "At some point, every man needs to stand in front of the mirror, look himself in the eye, and ask himself the big questions, the hard questions, the immense questions. The question I asked myself was this: Have you ever been a woman’s fantasy? If not, why not?"

I decided to read this after seeing someone recommend it on the /r/seduction section of Reddit. While it does masquerade as a guide on how to appreciate and fully engage with and find beauty in women, it's also a guide on how to live a l
Krzysztof Wróbel
Mar 11, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Those who seek some deeper knowledge
Recommended to Krzysztof by: Nobody - I was waiting for it.
There was Chao Sin then Cleopatra, after that the time for Casanova and few like him have come. Every century have its own. For people of our time, I would argue it is Zan Perrion who have best answers for seduction/romantic related questions. The Alabaster girl can be understood in many way as a, as very honest and insightful confession of a free spirit, as a modern version of “Story of My Life” by G. Casanova , as a tribute for the mysterious Jennifer but If you are looking for some answers fo ...more
Feb 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I ordered this book because someone strongly recommended it to me. I was skeptical that it would help me with my problems connecting with women, but I decided to give it a try anyway. I was blown away by the messages within the book and couldn't put it down. Since I ordered it back in November of 2016, I've read it 3 times and am starting on my fourth read of it now. This book will be a book I read periodically throughout the rest of my life . It is that good! It's almost magical because every t ...more
Joseph Knecht
Nov 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Most people write from their minds, but I think this is the only book I have read written from the heart. It is so genuine, flowing, moving, inspiring. It is poetry written in prose form.

It is evident that Zan is an artist but not in writing, or storytelling, or poetry, but he is an artist of life. He makes beauty, love and freedom his primary values in life and continually dances between them. Once he becomes too preoccupied with beauty he remembers to be free and moves into the world with eas
Daniel Meschter
Nov 14, 2015 rated it liked it
Decent takeaways, but Mr. Perrion would do well to tone down the floweriness of his prose.
Taimur Shah
If you want to learn about how to live excellently, read this book.
Jeffrey Zeth
Jan 10, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A Master Seducer Reveals No Secrets

This is not a book on how to pick up women. If you're looking for techniques or routines, you'll be disappointed. Rather it's a celebration of why we love women; of why we as males should cherish all women. The master seducer doesn't discriminate: his mission in life is to make every woman feel beautiful and special, with no energy wasted on what he'll get in return.

"A man who loves women is loved by women." That is the book's central premise. What it means to
Dec 24, 2014 rated it it was amazing
The best book I've read so far and I read a lot.
Jan 16, 2015 rated it it was amazing
All I say for this book is that it comes from the author's heart. Highly recommended!
Kaushiki Rai
Feb 17, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Truly beautiful and one of a kind! I felt quite sad when i completed it. Men can learn great deal from this book while women can realise what they already know. 5/5
Jun 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you are wanting to know off the bat is this book going to help you have sex with beautiful women the answer to your question is most likely no.

However this book gets five whole pandemic stars for pure entertainment value. It stuck with me for a solid 3 weeks after I read it just because it was so novel in content. As far as literary value, it gets no stars. But as a collection of stand-alone quotes, I found it unexpectedly entertaining and sometimes insightful. It was like the quote machine t
Aug 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Part self-help, part seduction, part poetry, part memoir. Admittedly i had my reservations, considering that Zan has adopted the "Johnny Depp" persona in late years, both in his outer style and the way he approaches seduction.
And yet the book actually delivers. It managed to capture the essence of seduction, close it in a bottle and infuse it in it's pages, bringing into light everything holding you back from truly loving and capturing the female spirit. Required reading, both for delving into
Ronald Roschnafsky
Feb 11, 2015 rated it really liked it
4/5 (I'm honest, I just don't agree with everything).

I really enjoyed reading this book and I will re-read some passages for a lot of times again. First of all I just fell in love with the amazing beauty of the writing style, but also about how Zan sees the world, his life and his view on relations and especially women.

He goes to a really deep level which you can't really understand if you're not that experienced yet. You will only understand a lot of those situations by time, when you're on yo
Tony D.
Sep 29, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really wanted to not like this book. I've only glanced into Zan's stuff from time to time. Being a reformed "pickup artist" myself, I found his philosophies to be wishy and washy and overly vague and poetic. But after reading The Alabaster Girl, I can say, yes, he is wishy and washy and overly poetic, but he's also a really good writer, a sensitive soul, and an incredibly insightful man.

His core philosophies on women, love, travel, career, have really opened my own ideas up to a few new ways
Franklyn Gonzalez
Aug 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Admiring beauty and being thankful for what woman offer men.

At first, this book had conflicts with my views on red pill group or what a "white knight" is. And yet, the feminine quality a woman has, to go with a masculine man without an agenda, is what beauty is all about. Freedom. To enjoy what is given to you. What the world has to offer.

It feels good to understand and appreciate the moments we have with women. And that is what these beautiful moments are, happy memories.

A French proverb - "
Glen Grixti
Sep 01, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: best-reads
This book takes you on a journey, evokes intrigue and connect you with the modern dating world and a glimpse into the mindset of a seducer. When I was reading this book, I had a pen to underline the parts that stand out to me and I found it so compelling that I wanted to absorb all that I could. What I ended up with was endless chapters of underlined literature on every single page. This book is a breath of fresh air and will be the best companion for those who are willing to learn more about me ...more
Jan 08, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book is like no other book about women out there, there is no sense of giving advice or other self help nonsense.

Instead the author shares his point of view, the beauty he has seen and is even willing to share with us his most beautiful encounters with women.

The Alabaster Girl is full of golden nuggets and provides the perfect inspiration to open up to more beauty in your own life.

This book is for women and men alike, and I'm sure both will appreciate it.
Aug 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing
High level advice and very emotional. Very good if you're looking for a very natural approach to game.

Main ideas:
Be a lover of the feminine spirit! Surround yourself with women, do not only game the pretty ones! Charisma is not sth you turn on and off, it's something you are!
Feb 03, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A book about beauty, how to celebrate it and keep it for always in our lives.

Thank you Zann for bringing these insights in our lives.
Aug 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Game over book. Renounce everything
Dec 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A delightful engaging book.

This isn't a book on tips or tricks to get women in bed. It's a book on celebrating women and life. It's an absolute pleasure to read.
Nikolay Genchev
Sep 20, 2019 rated it really liked it
Enigmatic, charming, different, definitely offers an interesting perspective on intergender dynamics, seduction and aesthetics. I personally found Zan Perrion's style of writing quite beautiful, when others my find it try-hard or cheesy, it's all a matter of how it makes you feel and how you react to that type of sentimental expression. The book opened my eyes to a deeper side of connecting with other people, not only women. It showed me the importance of being empathetic, relaxed, observing, bu ...more
Luis Cardentey
Dec 20, 2019 rated it liked it
The book had decent and true advice, but for the most part is this bad poetry and unnecessary words. I understand the author is trying to convey a story within a story, but at the same time acting as a narrator and a recolector of stories, but they end up being from his perspective. Ending with him and the reader both getting overwhelmed.

I stopped fully reading at the “way of women” which is the second to last chapter and decided to glance over the rest. I decided to this because I honestly was
Yashashavi Ladha
Oct 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
There are lot of self help book & how to books. And, most of these books are great for problem solving, but what if your approach is not looking for band-aids but for discovering the essence ? That's where "the Alabaster Girl" comes in.

What is beauty in women, in men & life ?

Like every great book ever, it raises important questions, inspire deep introspection & grows with the reader ( i.e. evey repeated reading lends some new gems). When I completed this book, I felt "Man, I should have read t
Fausto Guillen Aguilar Jr
Not what I expected

It’s like a story / brag sesh or maybe I didn’t get the point of the changing narratives? Had some good gems here and there but overall it didn’t live up to the hype. My favorite sentences were: men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears.... To end with a positive note - if you have minimal to no experience with dating and sharing/respecting space with the feminine energy - give this is a shot (it helped other men)!
Sep 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I read this book like 4 times and re-read my summary often. It is needed to repeat Zan's message over and over to prevent going back to autopilot. Yes it is over the top and has flowery language, but that is excactly the point. it is Zan's way of trying to get people understand how he views women and how he interacts with them. I also highly recommend the Yoube series: ' In search of the Alabaster Girl', where the author and 3 friends go in depth about the contents of this bok.
Apr 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing
You can tell when reading this that the book took years to complete. There is wisdom and spirituality dripping off every page. The book does women a great service by encouraging men to understand women better and to love all women. He doesn't promote the manipulation of women but by getting guys to appreciate women more he teaches them that true polarity draws them. A great book. I will probably need to read again to re-assorb what it has taught me.
Aug 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Beautifully written. Zan’s love for women is truly without conditions. This book contains an abundance of enlightenment and truth in almost every page of the book. It has transformed my life and opened my eyes to Mr. Zan’s outlook in the “land of women” as he refers to it. I feel the love, I’ve absorbed the knowledge and I’ve found my self and my foundations. What a great self help book. Highly recommend.
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Zan Perrion is internationally recognized as one of the most original and insightful voices on relationships and seduction in the world today. A regular media commentator, he has been widely featured in the international press.

Zan is the founder of the Ars Amorata philosophy— a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. He is also a

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