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The Queen of Distraction: How Women with ADHD Can Conquer Chaos, Find Focus, and Get More Done

3.75  ·  Rating details ·  369 ratings  ·  59 reviews
Do you rule the realm of disorganization, clutter, and chaos? Are you constantly battling to get things done? Are you ready to give up and toss your day planner into the dungeon (otherwise known as your closet)? If so, you might just be The Queen of Distraction. And whether or not you’ve been formally diagnosed with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you prob ...more
Paperback, 224 pages
Published October 1st 2014 by New Harbinger Publications
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Rianne Ranta
Apr 17, 2015 rated it it was ok
This book was mostly terrible. I got one or two good meal planning tips out of it but most of it was annoying or useless.
It's a book for women with ADD. Because it's a book for women, the emphasis is on childcare and housework. I was hoping for practical advice, instead I got 'PMS gives you mood swings! Let's talk about parenting! Give yourself a room full of pillows!'

Any book that cites a WEbMD article loses any remaining respect I may have had for it.

I technically finished this, but skimmed th
May 26, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This is one of a few books my doctor recommended me too read to help me with my understanding of ADHD and how it is effecting my life. It was strangely unreal to read many sections of this book which felt like someone was following me around most of my life and jotting down notes for later, a little unnerving to be honest. But it was so helpful, many tips and tricks to use. I also get the ability to understand that my ADHD is not just about my hyperactivity or my inability to pay attention but a ...more
Beth Ten have
Mar 26, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: add-adhd
I loved this book and found it very helpful. The only part I didn't like was the section on marriage, which was written from the perspective that any problems in the marriage were the fault of the person with ADD. Having ADD does not make you responsible for everything that goes wrong. The way your spouse responds can make a big difference, for good or ill, even aside from any issues of their own that they bring to the table.
Eva Johnson
Apr 15, 2016 rated it really liked it
Well, this explains a lot! ;)
Kirsty ❤️
Dec 19, 2014 rated it really liked it
Synopsis: Do you rule the realm of disorganization, clutter, and chaos? Are you constantly battling to get things done? Are you ready to give up and toss your day planner into the dungeon (otherwise known as your closet)? If so, you might just be The Queen of Distraction. And whether or not you’ve been formally diagnosed with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you probably already know that something’s got to give. .

Me: Once upon a time someone suggested I may have ADHD. Discussion
Bonnie Morse
The most you can take from my low rating is that this book did not help me. The author says she's an expert on women dealing with ADHD, and I'm certainly not, but I am an adult. I was seriously turned off by the cutesy puns, the use of headings like "Kitchen Klutter", and the author's insistence on cramming everyone into neat little compartments ("Morning Person or a Night Owl?" "Morning Person or Night Owl", she says, over and over, in a book that is supposed to help those whose brains resent r ...more
Aug 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

I have had issues my entire life with oversensitivity, brain fog, and disorder. I never considered that my issues might stem from ADHD. It explains so much and helps me see how I can manage my environment so I can be happier.
Sep 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arc, read-in-2014
As a person who has ADHD, I found this book great. Very helpful tips from someone who actually understands what ADHD is.

*I got an ARC of this book through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
May 17, 2016 rated it did not like it
Didn't actually finish it but it was kind of boring and filled with typical advice. Been there, read that.
Jan 13, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2018
This book has some good, practical advice for women with ADHD. I especially appreciated the sections about the effect of hormones on women with ADHD. Most of the book provides general overviews of topics without going into a lot of detail, however. Much of the advice can be found in greater detail in other books or was sadly outdated. (Meal planning on index cards in 2018? LOL. And instead of figuring out how to manage everything in your family's lives single-handedly, how about requiring your h ...more
Jan 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
While not all of the author’s advice will work for me (hire a professional organizer, write meal plans on index cards), there were definitely tips I could use. I love the idea of saying “I can” instead of “I have to.” For example, I am doing laundry because I can. I am fortunate enough to have a washing machine to wash my clothes. I also like her recommendation to actually time a task you had been dreading. In reality it rarely takes as long as you think it will, and you can quickly move on to s ...more
May 25, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This is one book that I would certainly put on my list to purchase!! I have been told by several people over the years that I have ADHD, but I never really believed it. After reading this book, I now realize that there are actually 2 different forms of ADD. Even though I'm not the hyper-active type, I still do have LOTS, ok, almost all of the qualifications for the other type of ADHD!! The author, Terry Matlen, goes into loads of information telling what this disorder is, the types there is, how ...more
Rachel Smalter Hall
The Queen of Distraction is a solid read with short chapters and practical tips for women with ADHD. Not every single suggestion will be applicable for every single woman, but I think it does offer something for pretty much everyone who could use help managing their ADHD.

Matlen's writing is warm and personable, and she peppers in anecdotes from her own life, making the book that much more relatable. It was also revealing / validating to read about some of the topics that I wouldn't have necessar
Oct 14, 2018 rated it it was ok
There are a few helpful tips in here, but more often than not I found myself skipping sections. As I have no children, I skipped anything relating to organizing your children's lives (probably a good third of the book). Also, I don't meal plan, so there goes another quarter.

Much of the rest is giving suggestions that really won't work when push comes to shove - "put it in your planner!" which is great, unless you forget that you even have a planner, in which case all the planning in the world i
Sep 30, 2014 rated it really liked it
What makes this book work is its simplicity. Matlen doesn’t suggest 10 different ways to organize your house – she gives you a few methods that can be adjusted to suit your lifestyle. This is definitely a book I would love to have on my e-reader, a place in my life that is surprisingly well organized. And while I’m not naïve enough to think this book can help me solve all my organization problems, it is a good starting point and even if it helps me get one area of my life more organized (I’m loo ...more
Sep 29, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This review was originally written for - I started reading this book thinking I would become better organized and not knowing that it would actually change my life. With each page I thought, "This is me!" In the first chapter I had an epiphany - I have ADHD. I'd never thought about it before, but it explained so many things that were wrong in my life. This book is wonderfully written and funny and so easy to understand. The perfect book for any woman with ADHD. And also a good book ...more
Pam Thomas
Jul 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Really enjoyed this book although I dont suffer from ADHD I have friends who do, so it makes a change to find a book that covers everything from diagnosis to help. I didnt realise that brain chemistry is different from the norm, that some people suffer from shame and guilt. Its about real stories from women with ADHD and how they feel, it also helps show how you can manage to declutter, has solutions for shopping, dressing and getting a sense of belonging and understanding . BRILLIANT READ - HIG ...more
Becky Voorheis
Feb 26, 2018 rated it did not like it
I found this book incredibly patronizing and unhelpful. If middle aged women are like Atlas holding up the world, then us readers of this book are doing it with one hand tied behind our backs and the author is suggesting tactics like laminating recipe cards and gluing pictures of the contents of file folders on the outside. I felt like I had told her my house was on fire and she suggested I paint the garage door. Plus towards the end I started screaming inside every time she listed her website a ...more
Debra Jeakins
Sep 24, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Great book if you are one of the many people who have ADHD. I am one of those. The book didn't bury me in technical doctor speak though it does give you information about ADHD. Its in English easy to understand. But, unlike most ADHD books I've read this one actually gives the reader some common sense ways to handle ADHD. If you know someone who is ADHD and want to give them a gift I recommend this book. Man, woman or child the book is a good common sense book.
Courtney Bowling
Dec 21, 2018 rated it liked it
This had some useful recommendations, but a good chunk of the book seemed pretty useless for me as a (happily) childless, single 20-something without the physical space for my own home office, or the funds to hire a professional ADHD home organizer. So I skimmed probably half of the chapters in this book. It would have behooved the author to get some imput from younger women with ADHD too, because our experience of the condition is apparently very very different.
Crystal Withem
Feb 04, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This is a really great book. I learned some things about ADHD that I was not aware of before reading this book. I can now see how having ADHD can be extremely frustrating as an adult as well as a child. There are some great tips to help someone with ADHD become more organized. Some of the tips are useful whether you have ADHD or not. Great read.
Nov 13, 2014 rated it really liked it
Reading this book has made my more aware of just how distracted my life is on a daily basis. There are specific steps shared to help you conquer the distractions. It is a process not a quick band-aid. Well written and encouraging! Enjoy! NetGalley and New Harbinger Publications provided an advanced review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!
Jul 04, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Have to read this again. Will probably buy it so I can do that and have it to refer to. Very emotional for me but useful. So much of my childhood in here too, too many people, too many loud noises. And the daily struggle of getting through the day at all let alone with kids. Still not much on meds though.
May 10, 2016 rated it really liked it
I enjoyed this books, gives you some insight of how to deal with ADHD. Also gives you some other books to read. I would recommend this book and I do hope it helps anyone suffering from ADHD.
Nov 23, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful read by Terry Matlen. I will most likely purchase this book for my personal collection.
Aug 01, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Full of really great ideas and tips. Definitely will be reading again.
Jan 26, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
just "okay"

It was too general. I felt that there could've been more specific and creative ideas for tools to help with time management
Rachel Kain
Sep 09, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'd like to just dismiss most of the advice as common sense, but if it were, I would be doing these things already. Great, straightforward, actionable advice for the woman with ADHD.
Sarah Marble
Dec 11, 2015 rated it really liked it
This explains a lot.
Katie Gnus
I don't have ADD, but I recently read an article on how differently ADD showed itself in women vs men, and that because the standard ADD type was a hyperactive boy, that many women had gone un-diagnosed. This, along with the descriptions of the women and their hardcore problems with clutter caught my attention because I could relate, at least to that. So I ended up picking up this book to learn more about life for people who live with ADD. There is some measure of solace to be found in learning ...more
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Terry is a psychotherapist, writer and consultant specializing in ADHD in adults, with a special focus on women with ADHD. She is the author of the books, "The Queen of Distraction" (2014 New Harbinger Publications) and "Survival Tips for Women with ADHD" (2005 Specialty Press) and is the founder/director of and . Terry also founded the social networ ...more
“Being overwhelmed can lead to procrastination, which often leads to being chronically late for deadlines and appointments. Being chronically late can take a toll on your self-esteem and damage your relationships. You’ve probably heard your whole life that you are uncaring, selfish, immature, or worse. Executive function impairment is tied directly to a distorted sense of time and a struggle to manage it.” 2 likes
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