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3.40  ·  Rating details ·  17,658 ratings  ·  2,291 reviews

Grace Reinhart Sachs is living the only life she ever wanted for herself. Devoted to her husband, a pediatric oncologist at a major cancer hospital, their young son Henry, and the patients she sees in her therapy practice, her days are full of familiar things: she lives in the very New York apartment in which she was raised, and sends Henry to the school she herself once a
Kindle Edition, 448 pages
Published March 18th 2014 by Grand Central Publishing (first published February 25th 2014)
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Marie Dee it is terrible. i'm 100+ pages in, and it's killing me. it needs to happen soon!
Mary LaPointe I hope so since I read it for an upcoming book discussion group.
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Patrice Hoffman
It took quite a long time for me to finish this novel and the first thing I thought was ok?!!? That was it? You Should Have Known is the newest novel by Jean Hanff Korelitz about a marriage counselor Grace Reinhart Sachs and her rude awakening with the truth of her "picture-perfect" world. This novel is about her journey to reinvent herself and salvage any nugget of her life in the before.

Grace is soon to be releasing a novel named You Should Have Known which is an advice guide to women, urging
Jul 23, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
On one hand, I found this book incredibly compelling. On the other, I found it very easy to SKIM, to get to what comes next. I had to restrain myself to read every line. I can't tell if it is because the plot was better than the writing or if I just had too much caffeine, the night I stayed up until 2 AM to finish this book!

This reminded me of an old-fashioned roller coaster: It starts with a pleasant ride - great characters and interactions. Then the suspense builds and builds and you come cras
Elyse  Walters
Mar 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I already wrote a review (lost it), Don't you hate that??? I'll need to forgive myself for getting a little sloppy on this one.

I also read other Goodread reviews I understand comments readers who gave less than 4 stars. I saw flaws in this book.
Its a worthy book to read! GREAT TOPIC!!!! The story is 'very interesting' much of the time. A few slow parts --yet --I sure as hell wanted to know 'what was coming next'.

I've been married for 35 years. I've an interest in relationships working. I'v
Lara Song
Mar 29, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
It took me over a week to force myself to finish this. "You should have known" is an understatement. I knew I was going to give a bad review. I felt it was necessary to finish before judging.

Third person POV was actually first person. The narrator had the worst case of ADHD I've ever witnessed. You know those people that take an hour to tell a story because they have trouble focusing? To top it off, the crap the narrator speaks of is absurdly boring and contributes nothing to the story.

The story
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switterbug (Betsey)
In this compelling portrait of a psychotherapist and her family, the eponymous You Should Have Known refers to a book written by relationship/marriage therapist, Grace Reinhart Sachs. Grace’s self-help/relationship book candidly opens up to women about their penchant to ignore signs of toxic partners. She identifies the red flags that one should detect when hooking up with a lifetime partner. Grace claims that most of us “know,” even from the beginning, when a partner isn’t right for us; too oft ...more
Melanie Garrett
This is a hard one to quantify. For the first third I was teetering between 1 and 2 stars. While there is nothing wrong with having a main character who starts out as exceedingly shallow, signs of growth need to be showing much earlier on. But with Grace, there was almost no sign of hope. There was just no internal landscape or emotional scope - other than one-note self-pity. Unless you are deeply interested in what it is to be a smug, judgemental New York City private school mom with an all too ...more
Mar 30, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction
I decided to take a little bit of a detour from the ARCs and library books that I’ve been reading to squeeze in this buddy read with one of my good friends. She was interested in reading this because she had heard that the book would be the basis for an upcoming HBO mini-series adaptation starring Nicole Kidman -- who is one of her favorite actresses -- and being the “informed watcher” that my friend is, she wanted to understand the backstory first so that she will be prepared when the series ac ...more
Mar 21, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I should have known after the second page that this book was over-written and under-edited. The description of Grace's office knocked this insomniac out. Seriously - better than Ambien. Yet I'd seen so many good reviews I thought I'd stick with it.

And here's the thing - it's a good story. But mired in ridiculous details. You don't have to mention Birkin bags ad nauseum - and Grace's nestled in it's protective bag - to let us know she's privileged and around others even more wildly so than she.
Dec 11, 2018 rated it really liked it
Grace Sachs is living the perfect life. She is lucky enough to live in Manhattan in the apartment she grew up in with her husband Jonathan, a pediatric Oncologist at Memorial and her well behaved and musically gifted son Henry. She is on her son's private school fund raising committee and mixes with some of New York's wealthier people. She has her own business as a psychotherapist specialising in counselling couples and is on the verge of publishing a book on the insights she has gleaned from co ...more
Nicole Overmoyer
Feb 04, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are a lot of things about You Should Have Known by Jean Hanff Korelitz that leave the reader, or maybe just me, conflicted. On the one hand, I absolutely didn't want to stop reading because I needed to know how things would turn out for marriage counselor Grace Reinhart Sachs. On the other hand, I absolutely loathed Grace Reinhart Sachs for about three-quarters of the book. This left me very confused as to why I cared what happened to her. Or maybe not so much confused, but guilty that I s ...more
Apr 12, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: book-club
The book starts slowly and then hits the brakes. We know before we start the book that all is not as it seems in Grace Sachs' world. But trying to ride along while she susses it out is excruciating in overlong passages that never seem to end, as this books is at least 200 pages too long.

Speaking of long passages, there are long passages about everything. Everything from cashmere twinsets to cigarette smoking is broken down in laborious detail. We spend all this time in Grace's point of view for
Dec 26, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned-book
4.5 Stars ~I realized that I had this book after I recently read about an upcoming series based on the novel (called, The Undoing).

Grace Sachs is happily married and a successful therapist with a newly published book when she is shocked to discover terrible revelations about her husband of 20 years. The novel recounts her extreme emotion as she comes to terms with this realization and is forced to gradually sever one life and create another for her child and herself.

I was born and raised in “K
Bam cooks the books ;-)
Grace Reinhart Sachs is living the perfect life: she is a successful marriage counselor about to publish her first book of relationship advice entitled You Should Have Known; she has been married to Jonathan, a handsome pediatric oncologist and the love of her life, for 20 years; and they have a talented twelve-year-old son, Henry, who attends an expensive private school. But in a blink of an eye that life begins to unravel and it all begins with the brutal murder of a young woman, the mother of ...more
Mar 04, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Grace Reinhart Sachs has got it all. The trendy New York apartment, a son enrolled in the best private school, an oncologist husband who specializes in pediatrics; the perfect marriage, the perfect life. In her own right, Grace, a couple's therapist, is the author of a book soon to be published called You Should Have Known. It's the book for all her clients suffering the demise of their partnerships. If they had only noted the early signs, they would have known their marriages were destined for ...more
Karin Slaughter
Jun 04, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Yeah, you should've known. I wish there had been more details about the murder. Sure, the narrator didn't want to know the lurid details, but I sure did!
Mar 19, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
You Should Have Known by Jean Hanff Korelitz

I bought this book on impulse after reading a review that sounded interesting.

I totally loved it-I read it in one sitting. It was actually addictive. It's sort of a mystery in which the both the crime and the criminal are already known.

The biggest problem is that it's somewhat facile, with story ends wrapped up too neatly, at least for me.

But that may be that I'm missing the point. In some ways, the book is a contemporary romance, with the conventions
Mar 31, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: novels, fiction
I Should Have Known:

*that reading this was not going to be anything as surprising and fun and dark like Gone Girl
*that it is entirely from Grace's point of view
*that hardly any questions get answered about the missing husband. The ones that do are rather predictable
*that I really don't care about prestigious Manhattan grade schools and the parental drama that comes with them

Yeah, I'm disappointed by this one. :(
Mar 08, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
5 out of 5 stars - "If a woman chooses the wrong person, he was always going to be the wrong person: that was all."

I loved this book, which surprises me because it's not typically the type of novel that strikes me -- a fan of suspense thrillers and historical fiction. The incredible power of this book comes from the voice of its protagonist in an almost stream of consciousness narration that grabs and holds the reader in thrall until the very end.I found myself marking up the pages, highlighting
Roxie (tokenfemale)
Dec 06, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: limp-noodles

After nothing happened for five LONG chapters of blah blah blah details blah yawn blah Birkin.

Even when chapter six began by saying that "The end came...", nothing bloody happened. NOTHING! Every reveal was boring. Every plot twist was a limp noodle. I kept reading because I was hoping something, ANYTHING, would happen. But nothing ever did.

The MC was a boring, stupid, wishy-washy, moron. Aren't psychotherapists supposed to be great at asking the right questions? I wanted to punch her.
Emily M
I JUST CAN'T with this book anymore. I am 300 pages in and officially calling it quits. It takes a LONG TIME for this book to go anywhere and then when you think it's going somewhere, it decides actually not to instead. Plus there's just wayyy too much foreshadowing -- so much so that I don't feel like I need to read the rest of the book to know the ending. Sorry, is this severe?

I do think the book has a interesting premise, but the writing wasn't outstanding enough to make up for the fact that
Mar 28, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Compulsively readable, well-written, and thought-provoking. Grace is a therapist, married to a pediatric oncologist, and mother of a 12 year old son, Henry. She’s wound very tight, is a snob, and not very likable. The first part of the book is a rather scathing portrayal of Grace’s rarefied world on the Upper East Side of NYC. But to Grace, life is good and about to get better with the publication of her book. The book's title is You Should Have Known (nice touch!), and is based on her experienc ...more
Malena Watrous
This book is all about the trees. Page by page, sentence by sentence, there's lots of good stuff. But if you stand back a bit, I question a lot of the craft choices that added up to the whole.

I like the premise--or at least, I find it intriguing: the notion that this woman Grace has no inkling that her husband was a serial cheater with the capacity to kill. A total sociopath. And that the woman in question is a therapist who considers herself an astute observer of humanity, and has written a boo
Cindy Bokma
I loved the premise of this novel- Grace, a therapist, has written a self help book for women called You Should Have Known and its slated to become a bestseller. In the beginning of the book, VOGUE magazine is even doing an article on Grace.

Grace is married to Jonathan, a successful pediatric oncologist, and has a son Henry. Grace and Jonathan are never together in the book so as a reader, we have no frame of reference for their relationship but Grace is happy in her marriage in her book, she s
Nov 13, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Grace, Grace, Grace, oh how hard you were to take with your sanctimonious habit of telling people what they had done wrong, all the while guilty of the same thing yourself! Your utter lack of self-awareness was headache inducing. The love and adoration you showered on your son could have been shared with a few others… your husband, your father, a friend. Instead you lived in this bubble of what you thought your life ought to be and was, so full of pride that you had made it reality and it made m ...more
Mar 25, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
You Should Have Known is the story of therapist Grace Sachs, who appears to have a (realistically) ideal life with her husband, Jonathan, and their only child, Henry in New York City. While they are not as wealthy as the parents of Henry's classmates at Reardon, they live a comfortable life. Grace's mother has died and her father remarried, so Grace and Jonathan live in her parent's former apartment. Jonathan is a pediatric oncologist, and we see him nearly entirely through Grace's eyes througho ...more
Apr 17, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Did not finish, was a third of the way through and realized I was so bored I wasn't paying attention to anything that was going on. Way too much description that was too dry and did not make me interested in the story at all. Characters were extremely one-dimensional as well!
Sep 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book. I loved the undercover irony of perfection , I loved the diminishing of “image” , I loved the clever escalation of this fine sample of domestic thriller. For me pure reading pleasure.
Grace Sachs is a successful therapist, mother to a young son and wife to a pediatric oncologist at a major cancer hospital. Grace is also the author of You Should Have Known, a book about women valuing their intuition and first impressions. It all hits the fan when the Grace's own marriage is in headlines. A bloody murder, a missing husband and unbelievable revelations rock Grace's world. She must heed her own advice and piece together what she knows and does not know.

I am the type of reader tha
Jun 04, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Clever little novel about a couples therapist who counsels people and writes a book all about how your gut feeling about your mate is usually correct. In other words, if you THINK "I wonder if he's gay? Oh well" and then proceed to have a relationship with him and marry him and then later he leaves you for a man, well, "you should have known." Or, if you notice him eyeing other woman while you're out, and think "well, boys will be boys!" and then he cheats on you years later, well, "you should h ...more
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Jean Hanff Korelitz was born and raised in New York City and educated at Dartmouth College and Clare College, Cambridge. She is the author of six novels: The Devil and Webster, You Should Have Known (Coming to HBO in October 2020 as “The Undoing,” written by David E. Kelley, directed by Susanne Bier and starring Nicole Kidman, Hugh Grant and Donald Sutherland), Admission (adapted as the 2013 film ...more

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