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Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) - A Study Guide for Women: Sexuality Purity in a Lust-Saturated World
Celebrate Purity
Overcoming lust is a process that requires diligent focus and accountability from others, and these in-depth guides help establish both. They’re designed for a variety of settings, from one-on-one accountability partnerships to Sunday school classes. Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) made the statement that lust is a human problem (not just a guy problem) and that Jesus can free anyone from its power. Going further, these gender-specific study guides feature questions and discussion starters that directly address the temptations unique to men and women. These resources are a must-have for anyone challenged to defeat lust and celebrate purity in their lives.
Lust Is Not Just a Guy Problem
Based on the bestselling message in Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is), Joshua and Shannon Harris offer a companion study guide specifically designed to address the issues women face. For use in a personal or group setting, this in-depth guide is a tool to help you apply the book’s principles as you go further on your journey to holiness.
“Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) offers help and hope—not just for those who are dealing with sexual lust, but for anyone besieged by temptation of any kind.”
—Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Author, host of the Revive Our Hearts radio program
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Includes a Modesty Heart-Check for Girls
Sidebar:
Each of the ten small-group sessions includes: Easy Review: A quick chapter summary makes review simple. Discussion Questions: Questions that serve as icebreakers, and then lead to deeper discussion and personal application. Accountability Follow-Up: Questions to help check each other’s progress in a truthful and caring setting. Meditate and Memorize: Key Scriptures that will help women gain victory over lust. Custom-Tailored Action Plan: Women will be led in a step-by-step formulation of an Action Plan, uniquely tailored to combat their specific battles.
Story Behind the Book
“I was preparing a message on lust when I realized that the book I wanted to consult hadn’t been written. That book would make it clear that only Jesus Christ can free us from the hopeless treadmill of shame and guilt that so many well-intentioned people end up on. It would instill a love for holiness and a hatred for sin without dragging the reader’s imagination through the gutter. And it would be for both men and women, because I’ve learned that lust isn’t just a guy problem—it’s a human problem.”
—Joshua Harris
Overcoming lust is a process that requires diligent focus and accountability from others, and these in-depth guides help establish both. They’re designed for a variety of settings, from one-on-one accountability partnerships to Sunday school classes. Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) made the statement that lust is a human problem (not just a guy problem) and that Jesus can free anyone from its power. Going further, these gender-specific study guides feature questions and discussion starters that directly address the temptations unique to men and women. These resources are a must-have for anyone challenged to defeat lust and celebrate purity in their lives.
Lust Is Not Just a Guy Problem
Based on the bestselling message in Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is), Joshua and Shannon Harris offer a companion study guide specifically designed to address the issues women face. For use in a personal or group setting, this in-depth guide is a tool to help you apply the book’s principles as you go further on your journey to holiness.
“Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) offers help and hope—not just for those who are dealing with sexual lust, but for anyone besieged by temptation of any kind.”
—Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Author, host of the Revive Our Hearts radio program
Starburst or banner:
Includes a Modesty Heart-Check for Girls
Sidebar:
Each of the ten small-group sessions includes: Easy Review: A quick chapter summary makes review simple. Discussion Questions: Questions that serve as icebreakers, and then lead to deeper discussion and personal application. Accountability Follow-Up: Questions to help check each other’s progress in a truthful and caring setting. Meditate and Memorize: Key Scriptures that will help women gain victory over lust. Custom-Tailored Action Plan: Women will be led in a step-by-step formulation of an Action Plan, uniquely tailored to combat their specific battles.
Story Behind the Book
“I was preparing a message on lust when I realized that the book I wanted to consult hadn’t been written. That book would make it clear that only Jesus Christ can free us from the hopeless treadmill of shame and guilt that so many well-intentioned people end up on. It would instill a love for holiness and a hatred for sin without dragging the reader’s imagination through the gutter. And it would be for both men and women, because I’ve learned that lust isn’t just a guy problem—it’s a human problem.”
—Joshua Harris
96 pages, Paperback
First published June 18, 2004
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March 30, 2024
Shanon is a better writer than Harris, but the books lacks information of neuroscience and other research data.
October 22, 2016
I found this book in Angela's living room cabinet. The title itself was stimulating, and I wasn't sure how to define lust. What it seemed as a 'light read' grappled my heart with some insights.
-Anyone besieged by temptation or battling with sexual lust, this will encourage sexual purity, challenge to stop playing hide-and-seek with lust, and prevent our minds to become 'the devil's playground.'
Biblical definition of lust:
(Ephesians 5:3) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.
-God wants to dig down into our hearts and uproot sexual greediness, which is always seeking a new sensual thrill. But if you're feeling like the bar is hopelessly high, don't give up. That's exactly what you should be feeling...
-I desire them to desire me. Often those who feel the safest are the most at risk (1 Cor 10:12).
-Don't grow weary. Consistency in the little areas will slowly strengthen you spiritually.
J-ust as compromise adds up, so your faithful investments into holiness will grow too.
-It takes God's design then lust distorts it.
-Men are tempted by the pleasure lust offers (sensual "feel good" pleasure), while women are tempted by the power lust promises (fantasy about a relationship using sexuality).
-Prayer request: love holiness and avoid the wrong visions of femininity the world constantly offers. Be virtuous, not seductive. It will accomplish more than you can imagine.
*Most vulnerable target: alone, isolated, without accountability*
*God calls you through it. On the other side of sacrifice is unspeakable beauty and indescribable joy. It's not easy, but it's worth every minute.
1. List your own top three lust triggers. How can you avoid them?
2. What time of day or week are you most tempted by lust? What can you do to prepare for those times?
3. Which locations are the most tempting for you? How can you limit your time in those places?
4. What five little battles do you need to be fighting more faithfully? Describe in detail what it looks like for you to fight-and win-these battles.
-Anyone besieged by temptation or battling with sexual lust, this will encourage sexual purity, challenge to stop playing hide-and-seek with lust, and prevent our minds to become 'the devil's playground.'
Biblical definition of lust:
(Ephesians 5:3) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.
-God wants to dig down into our hearts and uproot sexual greediness, which is always seeking a new sensual thrill. But if you're feeling like the bar is hopelessly high, don't give up. That's exactly what you should be feeling...
-I desire them to desire me. Often those who feel the safest are the most at risk (1 Cor 10:12).
-Don't grow weary. Consistency in the little areas will slowly strengthen you spiritually.
J-ust as compromise adds up, so your faithful investments into holiness will grow too.
-It takes God's design then lust distorts it.
-Men are tempted by the pleasure lust offers (sensual "feel good" pleasure), while women are tempted by the power lust promises (fantasy about a relationship using sexuality).
-Prayer request: love holiness and avoid the wrong visions of femininity the world constantly offers. Be virtuous, not seductive. It will accomplish more than you can imagine.
*Most vulnerable target: alone, isolated, without accountability*
*God calls you through it. On the other side of sacrifice is unspeakable beauty and indescribable joy. It's not easy, but it's worth every minute.
1. List your own top three lust triggers. How can you avoid them?
2. What time of day or week are you most tempted by lust? What can you do to prepare for those times?
3. Which locations are the most tempting for you? How can you limit your time in those places?
4. What five little battles do you need to be fighting more faithfully? Describe in detail what it looks like for you to fight-and win-these battles.
January 24, 2017
I just re-read this for a talk I was giving. I was amazed at how good it was, and how relevant it still is even though it was published in 2003. Dont jettison this one if youre wanting to deal with the subject matter or finding great struggle in the area.
April 10, 2022
Great book on how to overcome sexual temptation with practical ways. Strongly encouraged you to identify triggers for lust and have accountability. Author was transparent I liked story about video store, I liked idea of having accountability partner
May 21, 2014
"ultimately, lust doesn't want sex. it wants the forbidden, and its willing to take you deeper and deeper into perversion if you'll indulge its latest request."
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