Creating Union: The Essence of Intimate Relationship

by Eva Pierrakos, Judith Saly

Creating Union can help you achieve vibrant partnerships of fearless loving and mutual self-fulfillment. It provides insights into the deeper meaning of inevitable relationship difficulties. With a wise and gentle voice it will guide you in resolving difficulties while compassionately answering practical questions about sexuality, spirituality, divorce, fear of intimacy, creating mutuality, and how to keep the spark alive in long-term relationships.

Genres: Spirituality, Relationships, Psychology

212 pages, Paperback

First published November 1, 1993

About the author

Eva Pierrakos gave the Pathwork Guide Lectures on spirituality.

Reviews

[Alicia Zuto · Rating 5 out of 5]

I know I read books a little past their prime but nonetheless I was impressed with this book. It will definitely stay in my library to reflect on. It's the number one book I've read in regards to more than just telling you, but also showing you the importance of self-love. It guides you in steps on how to reach self-love and acceptance of all parts of you. You change without changing. It explains the extent of the how, why and individual varying degrees of extremes that humans have in multiple areas. It proceeds to go on and explain which areas. It is explained in a very patient and easy to understand tone. Valuable info that should be reflected on every so often. The over stated Idiom, "you must love yourself before loving anyone else" is a cliche only because it is true beyond words. We all tend to believe this but until you truly learn the multi-dimensional meaning this has, you still have work to go. Then again we always have work because we can learn about ourselves and others for years..it's an evolving process that will take our entire lives and beyond. Anyone interested in soul searching to the point of epiphany should read this. It's the perfect length because although I craved more, I knew if it went on any longer it would just be repeating unnecessary info. An enjoyable read on a journey of feeling completely content in yourself. Then the most rewarding part is the journey where you're able to freely give someone a deeper love that you never thought capable. I really enjoyed the part on Eros/the honeymoon stage and ways to make it last if you're with the right person that has the same depth that you have or is open to soul searching .

[Stacy · Rating 3 out of 5]

This can be read start to finish or completely out of order depending on where you are in your journey. I would read a chapter and it would mean nothing and then months later I would revisit it and it would completely connect for me.

[Lara · Rating 5 out of 5]

Essential book for improving any kind of relationship.

[Niko]

The book should definetly come with disclaimer warning about what I view as hard background of christianity values and views. The book might work for you if you have a share christianitys standpoint.

For me the book offered some nasty valuations on different groups of people. Like for example seeing prisoners as somewhat lesser humans. Seeing polyamoris relationships as not capable of some kind of soul connections etc. Some set that I strongly believe the basis of christianity itself wouldn't approve. I would have hoped more open minded and loving aproach to all humans, not just the ones that the writer approves of.

I struggled if I would be comfortable trying selling the book to someone or just use it as fire starter. I went with latter.

[Julie Crowe · Rating 3 out of 5]

What I liked about the book was the blunt, stark realism of how we hold on to and act out our childhood hurts on others. They tell it like it is, with deep insight. What I didn’t like, was that for 180 pages I felt a bit brow-beaten with... how we hold on to and act out our childhood hurts on others. Sometimes we need a good whack over the head. But maybe not an entire book’s worth of telling us how badly she selfishly we all behave. In conclusion, it was an eye-opener into some of my own poor behaviors, but it was a drag to read. I think you could find better.

[Nikita · Rating 2 out of 5]

Este libro hace que quiera arrancarme los ojos infinidad de veces. La escritura es terrible y la edición un dolor, la gramática y las intros a cada capitulo son aborrecedoras (el libro en sí es una transcripción diría que literal de unas charlas), y está escrito desde una mirada heteronormativa y convencional innecesaria. Pero me toca darle 2 estrellas, lo que se merece por ser una libro que te hace plantearte mil cosas y revisarte sin tapujos con mucha honestidad, no limitado necesariamente con la pareja que es la premisa, sino con todas las relaciones interpersonales e internas/propias, razón por la cual pese a las atrocidades literarias me ha echo llegar hasta la última página

[Monica · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was completely boring I couldn't get myself to finish it or even read through half of it.
It was a gift that came with the highest recommendations, nope, not my type, hated every minute of it

[Clara · Rating 5 out of 5]

Buenísimo para trabajar en uno mismo y las relaciones de pareja

[Cinthia · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really profound and impactful book. Doesn't just talk about the power between a man and a woman in a relationship, but also high level wisdom about all sorts of relationships. It has a good mix of psychology and spirituality.

[Sahajavidya · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some sort of sweet combination of Kashmir Shaivism together with the teachings of Gurdjieff.
This book utilises our relationships as avenue for sadhana or spiritual practice.
Observing and working with/against our mechanical nature or tendencies to obtain ultimate union with the highest.

[Jim Kelly · Rating 5 out of 5]

(Disclaimer: I was on the Board of this publisher when this edition of the book is released.) Nevertheless it is a wonderful, if difficult book to get through.

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Best book I've read about creating loving relationships!

[Annette · Rating 4 out of 5]

Somos recolectores de miedos y expectativas de sucesos negativos, no podemos amar sin temer, sin querer controlar y hacer del otro lo que queremos.

No funciona así, el detalle es que estamos en procesos de maduración del alma, en ocasiones amamos con el alma pero no estamos listos para en verdad amar.

Somos seres en crecimiento, pero en realidad la humanidad tampoco permite todavía la realización de los sentimientos puros. Para abandonar estos miedos y malas costumbres que arrastramos