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Intercultural Marriage: Promises & Pitfalls

3.81  ·  Rating details ·  83 ratings  ·  12 reviews
Dugan Romano identifies nineteen troublespots and interweaves the lessons learned to deliver this 'reality check' for anyone already in or contemplating an intercultural marriage. ...more
Paperback, Second Edition, 226 pages
Published March 26th 2001 by Nicholas Brealey Publishing (first published October 1st 1988)
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May 05, 2008 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
If you have not considered the issues in this book, you probably shouldn't be getting married. Also, it was sexist and some of the "examples" were just people being assholes, regardless of culture (e.g., the guy who kicks his children, and they beg their mother to stop interfering because it "just makes it worse"? Wtf?)

It did make me feel somewhat better because we've thought about all of these issues and don't have problems with most of them.
Jan 16, 2009 rated it really liked it
Gifted to me by friends when I got engaged, pretty straight forward about the pitfalls, etc. of marrying someone from another country. Written by someone who has experienced it and interviewed countless others who have, there were no huge revelations or secrets here, but it was good to consider some things that it brought up and I find myself going back to it every once in a while to see what it has to say about difficult situations or decisions.
Feb 21, 2013 rated it it was ok
I read this in estonian and the translation wasn't very good, which was distracting. While the book did reaffirm some of my thoughts and feelings, I didn't really learn anything new and some of the things seemed pretty self-explanatory and not just for multicultural couples but couples in general. ...more
Aug 23, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Romano's ultimate thesis is on the rich gains provided by intercultural marriage, self-expansion and relationship skills exponentially grown by vastly unique challenges and strains placed on intercultural couples. Intercultural couples have their work cut out for them, but the hefty labor can yield big long-term dividends. Romano's expertise is solidified by both her own intercultural marriage and her professional work as a counselor. Over time, as more couples have married internationally, risi ...more
Oct 25, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
Found it interesting and somewhat helpful in a limited way. The book is too short to cover the topic properly. There was too much information crammed into a limited space - it would have been even more helpful to provide more examples for certain areas and thus make the book longer.

An attempt was made to include relevant issues to each stage - before marriage, during marriage and even dealing with the death or divorce of the partner. Obviously the book was geared mostly towards those couples wh
Nov 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book truly helped me understand my own intercultural relationship. Reading it was like looking in a mirror.
Mar 16, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My doctoral thesis is related to intercultural marriages so I used this book as a reference. It‘s an interesting book in which some elements of intercultural marriages are analyzed and highlighted.
J. Joan
Jan 26, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
There really is very little in terms of a self-help book on this subject, so there is really little choice but this one book. Overall - it's interesting, but not very practical or helpful in terms of advice. The author primarily takes us through anecdotal "notes" based on a number of couples she's claimed to work with.

But the anecdotes are just that - you don't really get to know who the couples are, what they are about, what their circumstances were, whether they divorced or stayed together hap
April Yamasaki
Dec 18, 2012 rated it liked it
This is a helpful guide that discusses values, food, sex, male-female roles, raising children, communication, and other challenges identified by couples in intercultural marriages.

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Apr 18, 2008 rated it really liked it
A solidly helpful book with central points illustrated with case studies of several couples with partners from several different countries. It offers common sense advice on basic things to be considered, and the real couples and their stories make it easier to see how it might apply.
Jun 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Need to buy. So many insightful questions. Made me ponder about what conversations to have, untold expectations that I didn't even know we're expectations. I love this book, and it belongs on my bookshelf!!! ...more
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