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The Well-Adjusted Child: The Social Benefits of Homeschooling

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Socialisation may well be the single most important aspect of education today. With high and rising rates of divorce, drug abuse, youth violence, alcoholism, teen promiscuity, and so forth, we cannot afford to let this issue go unexamined.
Paperback, 262 pages
Published June 8th 2007 by Mapletree Publishing Company
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Krystal Racca
Oct 06, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: People who wonder about the social aspects of home school
Makes the point that home schooled children are often "better" socialized than their conventionally schooled counterparts, with less problem behaviors, equal levels of self-esteem (at least), and higher maturity levels. She points out that most people who ask, "But what about socialization" have a fundamental misunderstanding of what home school actually is, and what it isn't. It isn't just school at home, it's much more, and involves lots of opportunities for "socialization", just in a better o ...more
Caterina Fake
Preface -- Hardest thing about discussing homeschooling with others is the "socialization" question, which has as its subtext the assumption that you are handicapping your children by keeping them out of school.

- First the book discusses what homeschooling generally is, and how it's generally not kids sitting at desks learning from their mother standing at a chalkboard, but more varied, social and out-of-the-house.

- "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." -
Feb 24, 2009 rated it it was ok
I was looking forward to this book, but it was really disappointing. The problem was that the author set her sights too low. The point--that homeschooled kids aren't just a bunch of hermits, and that socialization can happen without school--was pretty easy to establish, and then after that was done the author just kept running around in circles. There were lots of laundry lists, some as long as most of a full page, enumerating all the things a homeschooled child could do other than sit at home. ...more
Apr 11, 2008 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: those worried about homeschoole socialization issues!, homeschoolers and those interested
I gave this book only 3 stars because I already knew everything mentioned in it (because I'm already a homeschooler). If you are thinking about homeschooling or if you are "concerned" about a loved one's decision to homeschool (because of "social" reasons), then this book would be great for you to read! The beginning is a little drawn out and I wish she would have just gone on with her research and facts rather than give a summary at first. It also seemed like she was repeating herself a lot or ...more
Jul 06, 2010 rated it it was amazing
LOVED this book. Anyone unwilling or hesitant to homeschool because of the fear that their kids will lack in social skills MUST read this book. It tackles all the concerns about socialization in Homeschooling. I worry about isolating my kids from the world in attempts to shelter them, but this book gives great knowledge and arguments for the benefits of socializing in homeschool families. It also has great ideas for providing oportunities for their kids to interact with others. I feel much bette ...more
Mar 02, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2011-reads
I genuinely enjoyed this book, but it may be because (based on previous reading and research, as well as my limited personal experience) I found myself "on board" with many of the points Gathercole was already making. But there were several things that bothered me about the book.

First, there was a kind of "the lady doth protest too much" issue with this book. I don't think it would have made less of a case for homeschooling to admit that one educational approach CAN'T do it all. I found her chap
Jan 08, 2009 rated it liked it
I found this book to be very repetitive. It would have made an excellent research paper or essay, but as a book it was tiring to get through. That being said it is a thorough discussion of the many social benefits to homeschooling. Most parents who choose to homeschool know that this is the question on the minds everyone else. Will your child be weird, will they be able to fit in to the real world, and will they have friends? I didn't find any new info in it personally, and felt that Family Matt ...more
Mar 03, 2009 rated it it was ok
Shelves: home-schooling
f you've never picked up a book on homeschooling and don't know anything about it, this book will do an adequate job of explaining the "socialization" concern over homeschooled children. If you don't "get it" after reading this book, then you never will.

But for me, who is in the midst of researching homeschooling in general and whether it's right for me and our family, this book was like taking a club and bashing it repeatedly over my head just in case I didn't get the main point the first 351 t
Jun 24, 2012 rated it liked it
I came to this book 90 to 95% convinced that I will be homeschooling my own children (for various non-socialization reasons) and wanted to find out how to best counter the argument that homeschooled children are hopelessly unsocialized and condemned to a life of solitude and misery.

Her central argument (that homeschooled children might be better socialized than conventionally schooled children because homeschool is more "real life" than conventional school) is good and valid, but the way she pr
Emily Mellow
Aug 13, 2008 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: anyone considering homeschooling
As always when I read about homeschooling, I got really inspired and excited by our decision to homeschool. At the same time, I just don't think the author can write! She uses too many metaphors and poorly edited quotes. It is still a great book to read for anyone with doubts about how children are socialized when they homeschool. It is packed full of examples of how poorly children are really socialized at school compared to in the real world, in communities, and with their families when they a ...more
Avery Watkins
Oct 26, 2020 rated it really liked it
After about halfway, I felt that I had gotten enough out of the book. Plus it was very repetitive. However, it was fantastic in addressing the assumptions about the role of school in socialization and whether good socialization can occur without the school environment. I'll admit that I had some assumptions that choosing to home school would "hurt" my child's "socialization", but I am sure that it does not, and this book helps open the conversations that come up regarding socialization and homes ...more
Jun 21, 2019 rated it liked it
The well adjusted child says that homeschooling in fact can be a social environment. It questions what social is and which way is best. At one point it argues that schools are in fact not the best for social acquisition, that they can in fact be harmful. This book makes a lot of good points. It brings up gun violence and schools, how schools are really rather a new invention in history (about 200 years old) and that social behavior has actually declined in recent times. It mentions how a lot of ...more
Amanda Dudenhoeffer Wyatt
If you are considering homeschooling but worry about the social aspect then this book is a wonderful guide. It breaks down the various aspects of socialization and what it means for homeschoolers. The author interviewed many HS kids and parents to get their opinions. With all that said however, my issue with the book is that it didn't offer much information for the "veteran" homeschool parent. I've been HSing for several years and while I'm not concerned about my kids socialization I wanted some ...more
Mandi Pimental
Feb 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book was incredible. From the ease of reading to the testimonials and real life stories, it made for amazing family discussions each evening.

Great points made on all aspects of social lives of both child and parent.
Jun 24, 2017 rated it liked it
It pretty much confirmed what I already knew about the socialization criticism of homeschooled children. Lots of great anecdotes and stories from homeschooled children/families.
Jul 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
Man, it took a while but I finished it! Loved this so much! It was so information dense that I really wanted to give it the time and thought it deserved. I am 100% on board with homeschooling my kids one day.
Feb 25, 2012 added it
Recommends it for: Parents of young children, for or against home school.
Maybe home-schooled kids are not social misfits. Could they be better socialized than their peers? Can parents be intentional in creating social opportunities with other home-schooled kids; emphasize interaction with people while doing real-life stuff (shoping, working, chores, etc.)?

This is a myth-buster regarding an increasingly popular option for parents. Homeschool is more normative historically and globally than the school we take for granted in the modern West, a subculture that begat beha
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book made me do a total 180. I have always loved school and learning, and been a pretty "good" kid (for the most part). It made me re-think my own education, as well as my desires and goals for my children. It gave me a more critical eye as well as a more deeply thoughtful one. Rather than thinking that one needs to simply find the best school, I began to think about how one can best learn. This book is an incredible apologetics for homeschooling, and does a fantastic job of walking through ...more
Michael Fitzgerald
Mar 08, 2014 rated it it was ok
Shelves: another
Reads like a master's paper written by a mediocre student. It quotes extensively from a few significant sources (especially Family Matters: Why Homeschooling Makes Sense and Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children) and then pads things by adding supporting quotes from a group of original interviews of homeschooled kids and their parents (with dreadfully repetitive transitions like "James, a homeschooling father, adds his ...more
Dec 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: homeschooling
Okay, I'm convinced. Socialization has made it's way close to the top of my list of reasons to homeschool our children. I've always observed it to be true: Homeschoolers do well, socially. I enjoy watching close family and friends successfully raise and educate independent, confident, happy, respectful children (all markers of good socialization, right?), but now I'm willing to say that I think our kids will be better socialized with a "family-and-community-based" approach.

Rachel Gathercole hits
Feb 23, 2011 rated it really liked it
As someone who is considering homeschooling, I found this book very interesting. The issue of "socialization" always comes up in conversations about homeschooling and Gathercole does a good job pointing out the ways that homeschoolers may actually be better (or as adequately) "socialized" than children in traditional school settings. She's pretty repetitive and I ended up skimming over a lot because I felt like I got the point. She also tries to appeal to everyone a little too much. She often sa ...more
Mar 01, 2011 rated it liked it
Systematically covers every conceivable angle of the "socialization" of homeschoolers, neatly debunks myths and misinformation and provides convincing arguments for the advantages of a "socialization" that is more home, community, and family-centered than that available at public school. Particularly for my ADHD child who has difficulty in many social situations, the "socialization" he received when associated with dozens of his peers all at once was not particularly healthy and doesn't reinforc ...more
Apr 28, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2015
I am a homeschool graduate, and a mom who hopes to homeschool her own children, and I really appreciated this book. I can't tell you how many times people have brought up the "socialization" question to me (I don't know whether to be insulted or not since I am a homeschool graduate), and this book addresses all possible concerns with the issue in a very well thought-out way. I could relate personally to everything the author talked about from both sides, since I also went to public school throug ...more
Jul 09, 2009 rated it it was ok
Shelves: homeschooling
"The Well-Adjusted Child" is not a book for people who want to know all about homeschooling. This book focuses on only one aspect to the decision to homeschool: will my child be socialized?

Gathercole makes a good argument for debunking the myths surrounding the social aspects of homeschooling. Contrary to urban legends, homeschooled children make good friends, know how to act in public, and learn how to get along in the outside world. However, the author goes on to make the same argument over an
Amanda Mysonandi
Jul 02, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: homeschool
My husband and I are planning to homeschool our two year old. We have recently started getting questions about what school we would like him to go to and when our answer is none, we will be homeschooling, we get the obvious follow up questions. I have never been concerned about how well he will be socialized because we live in an urban environment and I have already met a few homeschooling families at the park by chance. However, I wanted to read this so I could have a deeper understanding of th ...more
May 23, 2016 rated it really liked it
This book calmed my fear about homeschooling. Like most parents who consider the idea for the first time, I found myself drawn to the many benefits of this decision but scared of the "s" word, socialization. This book addressed all of my fears and put them to rest. I did not finish the book because it became repetitive and belabored points that did not need proving (in my opinion). For example, there was a chapter in there on why bullying is socially detrimental to children. As a person who was ...more
K.L. Lantz
May 04, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Fantastic, thoughtful book about how "socialization" in public schools isn't all it's cracked up to be. As someone who was injured by the social atmosphere of public schools, I've been waiting for a book like this to speak for me. Homeschooling in our family has been really wonderful so far, for many of the reasons Rachel Gathercole mentions in this book. For anyone skeptical about homeschooling, I recommend The Well-Adjusted Child. And for homeschoolers who do feel their kids aren't getting eno ...more
Apr 23, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2008
This book provides a lot of good answers to the question, "What about socialization," when it comes to home schooling. I would have given it 5 stars except for two things. I really got tired of the excessive use of quotes from not very eloquent homeschoolers. I also wished she had used more studies or research to back up some of her claims. She would say, "It is evident that homeschoolers are better prepared for life as adults," but then she wouldn't give any research to show this to be true. Th ...more
Dec 12, 2008 rated it it was ok
I didn't read all of it. I bounced around to the different chapters that appealed to me. I think if I would have read the whole thing I would have rated it higher.

I liked what she had to say, but of course I'm partial and will agree with anything to do with homeschooling and social skills. : ) I thought it was more of an emotional book rather than a book giving you lots of facts and ideas. I left feeling more committed about the "socialization" issue, but not with anything to say logically to a
Feb 14, 2009 rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenting
I thought that The Well-Adjusted Child had a lot of good points and from this book I recorded in my journal several useful and thought provoking quotes about the relationship between socialization and homeschooling. However, I feel like the author said a lot of the same thing over and over again in slightly different ways and the writing wasn't very succinct. In my opinion this book could have been condensed to half its size and still included the important information. I do recommend it to anyo ...more
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