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4.27  ·  Rating details ·  228 Ratings  ·  40 Reviews
Messy Beautiful Love delivers an incredible testimony of grace that offers hope for today’s marriages and a spark for rekindling love.

Love gets messy. 

Financial problems, sickness, aging parents, a chronically unhappy spouse . . . trials will inevitably come that threaten your marriage. No matter how long you’ve been married or how strong your relationship is, sooner or la
Paperback, 240 pages
Published September 23rd 2014 by Thomas Nelson (first published September 16th 2014)
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Sep 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Messy Beautiful Love is a delightful book. Darlene gives a real look into her marriage & life. Instead of presenting a perfected family, she shares real struggles, mistakes, & feelings. That takes a lot of guts & I admire Darlene for that.

Her book is saturated with Scripture, prayer, & God's grace. Each chapter ends with a challenge for the reader to implement in their life. Her book has tough challenges on giving up your right to be right (chapter 4), stepping back and allow him
Bluerose's  Heart
Dec 02, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian, marriage
When I first discovered there was a whole new world of blogging encouragement, Darlene's blog, Time Warp Wife, was one of the very first blogs to enter my feed. Several years later, and I still find encouragement there. When I learned she was writing a book, I couldn't wait to get my hands on it!

I think most of us know the general rules when it comes to marriage. Putting them into practice is the hard part! Books like this one is the extra boost of guidance I need sometimes(always!). Messy Beaut
Barbara Repan
Sep 24, 2014 rated it it was amazing
There are good marriages and there are not so good marriages. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage.
This book is about how two imperfect, messy people can find hope, grace and beauty in the One who is perfect, Jesus Christ.

I enjoyed this book because Darlene is real, honest and vulnerable. She doesn’t portray that marriage is perfect. It’s messy. She shares her messy parts along with the grace of forgiveness and healing. I appreciate authors who tell life as it really is with grace and l
Nov 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
If you are a wife (or are planning to become a wife) you need to read this book.

In this book Darlene (aka Time-Warp Wife) takes us on a journey that could easily be described as our own marriages at times. The newlywed phase is amazing. But then real life takes over, schedules get crazy, kids get added to the mix, money gets tight. All these things work together to damage the relationship we have with our husbands. "Messy Beautiful Love" reminds us that our relationship with our husband is the
Brandi (Rambles of a SAHM)
Dec 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: marriage, non-fiction
What stood out the most to me in Messy Beautiful Love was the transparent honesty which Darlene Schacht used to tell her story. In the opening chapter you quickly find out that she had an extra-marital affair. I'm not sure that I would be brave enough to put that on paper for the world to see, but Darlene followed the lead of Christ and is using her story to reach those in similar situations.

The title of the book is very appropriate. If you have been married for any length of time you already kn
Lindsey Bell
Sep 05, 2014 rated it it was amazing
“There’s a saying that goes like this: ‘The world doesn’t read the Bible; it reads Christians.’…What does your marriage say about your relationship with the Lord?”

I read this quote in Darlene Schacht’s new book, Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages. It’s a powerful quote, isn’t it?

Because I don’t know about you, but my marriage does not always say a lot of great things about God. It should…but it doesn’t. At least not all the time.

Messy Beautiful Love is a marriage b
Sep 07, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Reading this book was like talking honestly over tea (no coffee, thank you very much) with the author. It was easy to read in that sense, though the subject matter wasn’t light and fluffy. I couldn’t wait to read the next chapter to see what relationship lesson she would share, some I knew from experience and some I have yet to work through.

I really think I needed to read this book. I needed to hear that marriage takes work and grace, that it’s both messy and beautiful to love your spouse enough
Simply Helping Him
Sep 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Throughout Darlene’s book, Messy Beautiful Love, you find authenticity. You’re not merely reading words on a page, you’re drawn into her life, it’s like sitting down and drinking a cup of coffee while chatting with a lifelong friend. You delve into topics that break your heart because of bad choices or wrong paths you’ve chosen along the way, you discover what an amazing gift marriage is and you learn how to be the woman and wife God created you to be. You can read the rest of my review here --& ...more
Sep 17, 2014 rated it did not like it
not my cup of tea.
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Title: Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages
Author: Darlene Schacht  (Blog) (Twitter) (Facebook)

Pages: 308

Publisher: Thomas Nelson Publishing

Genres: Nonfiction, Christian, Marriage & Couples

Messy Beautiful Love by Darlene Schacht - Review | #messybeautifullove

Via Goodreads: "Messy Beautiful Love" delivers an incredible testimony of grace that offers hope for today's marriages and a spark for rekindling love.

Love gets messy.

Financial problems, sickness, aging parents, a chroni

Jalynn Patterson
Oct 13, 2014 rated it it was amazing
About the Book:

"Messy Beautiful Love" delivers an incredible testimony of grace that offers hope for today's marriages and a spark for rekindling love.

Love gets messy.

Financial problems, sickness, aging parents, a chronically unhappy spouse . . . trials will inevitably come that threaten your marriage. No matter how long you've been married or how strong your relationship is, sooner or later you are going to have a mess to clean up.

"Messy Beautiful Love" is about cleaning up messes God's way, ex
Callie Domingues
Sep 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Without question…if you are married, you should read this book. Darlene lays out her heart about marriage and she reaches deep down in your soul and shows you what marriage is really about.

Marriage is all about God.

How He loves us so unconditionally that we as humans can never even come close to His all encompassing love.

How we, as wives, are to serve our husbands…and not in the way you have been told. Not the way the world have twisted and turned this amazing service of ones self…how God design
Jeff Bobin
Marriage is challenging and filled with unexpected twists and turns. Sometimes those twists and turns create messy situations that we never thought would happen to us. Darlene Schacht writes from the experience of a messy marriage and she created that mess. After having an affair her husband decided to love her with the love of Jesus Christ and offer forgiveness and grace. That model of love would launch her web site The Time Warped Wife ( and begin her on a journey to help ...more
Jan 22, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2014-reads
"Messy Beautiful Love" delivers an incredible testimony of grace that offers hope for today's marriages and a spark for rekindling love.

Love gets messy.

Financial problems, sickness, aging parents, a chronically unhappy spouse . . . trials will inevitably come that threaten your marriage. No matter how long you've been married or how strong your relationship is, sooner or later you are going to have a mess to clean up.

"Messy Beautiful Love" is about cleaning up messes God's way, exchanging your i
Rachel Devaughn
Sep 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I was given the wonderful opportunity to be a part of christian author, Darlene Schacht's launch team for her new book "Messy Beautiful Love". I was given her new e-book and pre-order freebies complimentary for blog and social media review.

I have learned so much with what I've read so far in her book-Messy Beautiful Love. I am not perfect and neither is my marriage, but I know if I read this book slowly and apply it; I can have a different approach and attitude to my marriage and can make it bet
Lindsey Silvestrini
Sep 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Every marriage goes through peaks and valleys. We have all know joy and experienced heartbreak on some level. It's only by grace and forgiveness that we solider on but there are many that choose not to weather the tough times as demonstrated by our high divorce rate. Some say certain things are unforgivable but often marriages that survive the unthinkable come out on the other side even stronger. Darlene Schacht is very candid about her own struggles in Messy Beautiful Love. The title alone adeq ...more
Helen Kerr
Aug 30, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Messy Beautiful Love is a real, authentic look at what it takes to make your marriage work in a Christ-centred way. Steeped in personal experience and snapshots of Darlene's life, this book is funny, charming and challenging all at the same time.
One of the most powerful aspects of the book is its honesty. Darlene starts with a story that is straight from her own real life- a situation that may well have fallen completely apart had it not been for the transforming power of forgiveness and God-giv
Sep 03, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Love isn’t always pretty. It can be messy, stressful, and heartbreaking. But God can clean up the messes you’ve made and turn your marriage into the beautiful thing He designed it to be.

The author, well known for her blog Time-Warp Wife, has written from the heart to bring wives a message of hope. She shares candidly of her own experiences and failures, but also of her triumphs and faith. The style of writing is like sitting down with a friend or mentor. It’s honest, funny, convicting, and inspi
Sep 06, 2014 rated it it was amazing
As a culture the world tells us that as long as we haven't committed any so-called huge sins against our spouse (or even just in how we live our lives) that we're okay. We can just skimp by, especially when our spouse isn't holding up their end of the bargain.

This book is written by a woman who has been transparent enough with “painful honesty” to share her sin, and remind me that there is so much more to daily honoring my husband in ways that the world may see as little but God sees as obedient
Jenn Gordon
Sep 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I didn't know what to expect before I "opened" this book. There are so many Bible-based books about marriage out there! Would this one be honest enough for me? Would it convict and challenge me?

Messy Beautiful Love is different. Beginning Chapter 1 I knew I could trust Darlene. She writes about the low point of her marriage. It's raw and vulnerable. I loved this. By sharing something so personal with her readers Darlene has made me feel like she is a real person with real feelings and struggles
Kathleen Smith
Feb 03, 2015 rated it it was amazing
It doesn't matter if you have a strong marriage or if your marriage is having problems. This book is worth reading! I love the way Darlene wrote this book. Sharing what she has been through in her own marriage and reminding her readers about what the Bible says about marriage. She has made me think about the kind of wife I want to be towards my husband. A loving wife. A forgiving wife. The kind of wife that is willing to say "I'm sorry". The kind of wife that a husband looks forward to coming ho ...more
Teresa Kander
Sep 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: christian
**I received a free copy of this book in return for an honest review**

I've been a fan of the Time-Warp Wife via Facebook and her blog page for a while now, and reading this book cemented that fandom. I will now be her fan for life!!

When I read the first chapter, where her husband confronted her and she confessed her affair, it was like reading my own story--including knowing that, with the grace and forgiveness of God,they worked through it and stayed together, stronger than before.

Every chapter
Kevin Bennett
Jun 04, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Perhaps written to wives, but enlightening to husbands--a great read.

When I acquired this book, I didn't realize that it was a book on Christian marriage written to WIVES. But having started to read it, I couldn't put it down. It was instructional, enlightening, motivating and uplifting to me as a husband. It was great to read about the importance of marriage--particularly one centered on God--from the perspective of the wife. The book conveyed an honesty and humility that gave its author and he
Anne Campbell
Feb 11, 2015 rated it really liked it
Only novels and movies make marriage happily ever. The truth is far from it. Marriages are often rough rides through uncharted badlands interspersed with valleys of great beauty and peace. The rough spots can be made a lot smoother when you follow God's recipes for husbands and wives.

Darlene begins her book with a shocking admission, one that could have torn her marriage to Michael Schacht but instead lifts it into the realms of God-given grace. It wouldn't have happened if the two of them hadn
Jana Kennedy-Spicer
Sep 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing
From the moment I picked up “Messy Beautiful Love” and began reading, I could not put it down! Chapter after chapter provided new insights and learnings about what it means to have Christ at the center of marriage and truly love one-another unconditionally. In Darlene’s new book, she pulls back the curtains of false perfection, leaves the mess out and invites us into the reality of being a Christian wife in a society which is striving every day to redefine the very meaning of marriage. Darlene i ...more
Jan 26, 2015 rated it really liked it
I love Darlene's brutal honesty in this book. Marriage and relationships are messy and take a lot of work, but they are so worth it. During the craziness of life we as humans and sinners have no problem making things worse when we become disenchanted with our spouse or expect miracles that only God can grant.
Darlene's book gives us a glimpse into her marriage and life with honesty that is so forthcoming. She gives us practical and Biblical guidelines to help us work through and appreciate the s
Oct 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A must read for all wives!

I was presented with a thirty-one day prayer challenge, with this book being the focus... I decided it couldn't hurt after all prayer is a must in all areas of our lives...
I began reading and was pleasantly surprised at the challenges, the mistakes, the feelings, the thoughts... so much like my own. so ladies if you're struggling in marriage or if you're in honeymoon bliss this book is a must....
Feb 15, 2015 rated it did not like it
I can't get on board with 97% of this book. Of what I read, I was incredibly disappointed. Any healthy relationship takes two people willing to sacrifice - maybe at the same time, maybe through different seasons - but the presentation of the material in this book places that burden solely on the wife. Sure, the intended audience is females/wives, but the more I read the more disappointed I became.
Nov 25, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2014
I read this as a part of Women Living Well's book study. The study guide was helpful but the blog wasn't so much. It was nice to share but not many people responded to the posts. I sometimes felt like the posts and the readings weren't connected. I did enjoy the book though and it has really led me to look at my marriage differently. I hope to continue using what I've learned to support my marriage even more.
horacio lacayo
Dec 26, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Awesome Book!!

Oh wow, what an awesome book. I stumbled upon this book looking for answers to fix my marriage and definitely found them in this book. But not what I expected. I have to fix myself. God will take care of my husband. Highly recommend this book to anyone wanting to grow closer to the Lord through your Marriage, and growing closer to Him.
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Darlene Schacht is known by her readers as The Time-Warp Wife. She's an Evangelical Christian whose number one priority is to serve Jesus Christ in every area of her life. She and her husband Michael live in Manitoba Canada. Married 26 years, they have four children, a bird and two pugs. She's an award winning and New York Times best-selling author.
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“I’m forever learning that prayer has everything to do with the Lord and nothing to do with my righteousness. Righteousness is imputed to us by faith. We merely need to seek Him with a pure heart.” 1 likes
“THE CHALLENGE Pay attention to the good qualities in your husband. What makes him different? What do you love about him? Take note of the good things he does and the kind things he says. Carefully notice the ways that he expresses his love, even if they seem insignificant at the time. Start building him up by reminding him how much you appreciate him and the many little things that you love about him.” 0 likes
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