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The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands

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Are you living with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule and aching with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul? 

Lysa TerKeurst is learning that there is a big difference between saying yes to everyone and saying yes to God. In The Best Yes she will help you:

Cure the disease to please with a biblical understanding of the command to love.
Escape the guilt of disappointing othe
Paperback, 272 pages
Published August 19th 2014 by Thomas Nelson (first published August 12th 2014)
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Jul 29, 2015 rated it it was ok
I got some positive takeaways from this book, but I would be careful about recommending it to just anyone.

My main criticism was that this book is written for a very narrow demographic of women. It's not for single moms, not for underprivileged women.... not really for women who have a lot of problems. Now, I fall into the demographic of women for whom this book WAS written, but I can see how many women will not relate to this book. While she had solid points, her examples were laughable. Maybe m
Brooke — brooklynnnnereads
Jan 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: books-i-own
I read this at a perfect time and it was just what I needed. I'm going to be candid and say that lately, in the past year or so, I have been struggling with balance. I have believed it to be more of a work-life balance but I now realize that I haven't been balancing my personal life very well either. I realize it all sounds cliché but in the effort of trying to "do it all", I probably wasn't doing any of it to my full potential. I knew I wanted to eventually read this book and that I wanted to m ...more
Jan 27, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Run-on sentence alert:

You know how there are some books where you were so touched and shaped by its message that, even though you've long since finished reading, you keep it in your bag to as a visual reminder of the lessons learned-- as if keeping it in your line of sight will somehow catalyst a magical process of osmosis wherein you don't have to reread the book in order to instantly remember the specific points that were so profound in the first place?

Yeah, this is that kind of book.

There are
Wendy Hudson
Jul 08, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I bought this book to read at a time when I was being asked to do multiple things between church, family and homeschool. I was torn and wanted to do it all or say no to it all. This book helped me tremendously. Decisions are hard and I wanted to make sure I was saying yes or no for all the right reasons.
Lysa is amazing. What I received from this book was way more than just help with decision making. She is very transparent with her life and she has a wealth of knowledge. Her gift of writing is
Jan 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I started reading this book and thought "maybe I should read this at a later time. I don't have problems saying yes and no right now", but as I turned to the next page and the next I was finished before I knew it. I realized that this book is more than just about saying yes and no to situations to make your life easier or when you're feeling overwhelmed (although, yes, those are great reasons), you uncover a deep layer of who you are and where you want to be. Lysa Terkeurst is incredibly relatab ...more
Oct 28, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2014-christina
I liked this book, but I didn't love it. But you might. I'd like a 3-1/2 star option for this one. Here are some pros/cons:

1. This book seemed a bit long (19 chapters) to cover the topic material. I felt some of the chapters could have been combined.
2. There is not a straight Bible teaching book, so when I signed up for the online corresponding "Bible" study of this book, I felt a little misled. I would say this book is more suitable for a book club setting, and is not for a Bible study.
Leah Good
Jan 26, 2017 rated it really liked it
Never is a woman so fulfilled as when she chooses to underwhelm her schedule so she can let God overwhelm her soul.

I'm the type of person that thrives on busy. I enjoy organizing events, knowing that my days won't be boring, and making sure there are no long stretches of time that are unpeopled. I've even been known to get an adrenaline rush from the stress of looming deadlines. (Yeah, I know I'm crazy.) All that to say, this wasn't a book I actively sought out. I was making another purchase and
Oct 14, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book really spoke to me as balancing my time has been really hard for me over the last year or so. If felt similar to another book that I also loved Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion, and Joy and I needed the message again.
Felicia (Little Prairie Library)
I enjoyed this book. I think it had a lot of good information on making wise decisions, and learning to be okay with saying "no" when we need to. I liked that the author included a lot of Scripture. Toward the end I was finding it a bit repetitive, but overall I think it was really good. There definitely is a certain target for this book; adult Christian women who are involved in ministry of some sort and have families, and I mostly fall into this so it was helpful for me.
Liz Higgs
Aug 23, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I love The Best Yes! Wise, warm, honest, funny, and do-it-now practical, this guide to making smart decisions is just the thing for those of us who have too much on our calendars and need help to stop the madness. Lysa has clearly lived and learned what works and what doesn't. Her stories, examples, and advice all ring true, and wisdom pours from every page. This is her best yet!
Heather {}
Oct 13, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Such a hard hitting, and timely book for me...and honestly, probably for most women I know. We are living in an age where "busy" is next to godliness, but I think that the constant state of doing to much is leading us astray.
Heather Mcculloch
Apr 09, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Great book! Great message... Many things are underlined which is a good sign of meaningful things...
Jun 30, 2016 rated it liked it
Though I'm giving this book three stars, my heart may grant it four as I move away and contemplate what I've learned. This book, written to help women learn how to stop feeling overwhelmed with commitments and find their "Best Yes", does a pretty amazing job of rooting every precept heavily in Scripture. I valued this a lot, especially when so many self-help, Christianese books lack serious meat or insights that go past the surface.

Her anecdotes, while too lengthy, were helpful in tying her tact
Rachel Dawson
May 01, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2015-radreads, faith
I could not have read this book at a better time, when I'm wrestling with what to say "yes" to and what I need to let go of in order to be the best me and have the best life possible. This book is insightful and refreshing and freeing-- ladies, do yourself a favor and pick this one up. You'll feel empowered and ready to conquer your life boldly and wisely afterward!
Aug 16, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Source: self-purchase.
Rating: 5 stars for excellent.
The back cover of the book does not share the thrust of the book's emphasis. I purchased the book because of the author, secondly for the title and subtitle. The subtitle states the summary of the book perfectly: Making Wise Decisions In The Midst Of Endless Demands. If you ponder the subtitle, making wise decisions is what most Christians want to make; however, how can this be achieved? Lisa Terkeurst examines, explains, and answers th
Nov 22, 2015 rated it really liked it
This was a gift from a friend who is right, I needed it but still, here I am, dithering, dithering three or four stars? Humph. Yes, the irony is not lost on me. Dithering. About a book about making decisions for Pete's sake. I

So, let's get the bad news over with first. In the minus column we have:
1) It took me for ever to read, even though it is an easy read.
2) Sometimes she annoyed me but I don't suppose everyone would find repetitive uses of the phrase pee pee pants quite as annoying as I did
Lauren (books & tea & all things me)
I read this book as part of a Bible study that I lead for 6 weeks with young women in my church. I had heard many good things about this book, and knew I liked Lysa TerKeurst's writing so I chose this book for our group to study and I am so glad I did! We had an amazing 6 weeks reading through this book, as well as using the videos and study guide. If you are not reading this book with a group or using the other study materials, you will still really enjoy this book. It can definitely still be r ...more
Jan 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
I think, because I'm an 'older' mom, meaning my kids are nearly out of the house, some parts of this resonated more than others. HOWEVER, I loved it, and would adore facilitating it in a small group. TerKeurst is one of the few authors in this genre whom I can read and not be put off by the saccharine/perfect follower of Jesus factor. For me, a person's willingness to learn with me and to be vulnerable towards changing as the Holy Spirit directs is priceless. With Lysa, I feel like I have a best ...more
Mar 14, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
I enjoy Ms Terkeurst's books because she is so transparent in sharing her own struggles in the situation she is writing about. In this case, the desire to please others by saying YES, when sometimes the answer should be a gentle NO. One of my favorite quotes in this book, Saying Yes all the time won't make me a Wonder Woman, it will make me a Worn Out Woman! This is so many times have i taken on tasks I am unsuited for or have little time to do a job well? Lysa shares many ways we can ...more
Feb 22, 2015 rated it liked it
The central insight of this book - that overwhelming our schedule leads to spiritual underwhelming (aka burnout, aridity) is excellent. Good data to back everything else. I know that this was targeted at women but should be read widely throughout the Christian community because of that impulse to do instead of just be. Great insights on where our spiritually deadening business comes from.
Kelsey Grissom
Mar 08, 2017 rated it it was ok
Holy sentence-fragments, Batman!

If you can get past the speech-to-text writing, the cloying, saccharine tone, and the bizarre mix of theologies, there are a couple of good *moments* in this book. I won't be recommending it to anyone, though.
Nov 30, 2014 rated it liked it
The book has a great message, but it's really more for women who are moms. Maybe I missed something in the description, but as a single woman who isn't a mom, I couldn't relate to a lot of the motherhood-related stories, which was most of the book.
Nov 16, 2014 rated it liked it
I just could not get into this book. I read maybe a third. I think it was a bit too self-help for me ... and I don't find myself in the position of not being able to say no, so I couldn't relate to a lot of the book.
Apr 07, 2016 rated it it was ok
Shelves: pr-book-club
*2.5 stars*

Though this book grew on me as I read, I was never able to completely stop pausing, cocking my head, and inserting "no...," "huh," and the high-pitched uncertain "mmmm." I know I would have appreciated it more at another time in my life, but not at this point.
Dana Vaudrin
Jan 01, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Maybe timing is everything, but so many times I found myself involuntarily audibly connecting with the wisdom Lysa shares in this book.

I'm not one to re-read books, but I will definitely revisit the highlights of this one!
Jan 04, 2016 rated it liked it
While there are definitely some points worth remembering & referencing in this book, it didn't live up to the hype I heard that led me to read it.
Ciara Wilkie
Sep 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
"A woman who lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul." 🍂
QOTD: Do you struggle with saying no?
This book has been so eye-opening for me. It doesn't hurt that I also had to read about boundaries for my ministry class. I think God is trying to tell me something... 🙌

I struggle with setting limits for myself. I like to think I can do everything and then when I'm in the midst of trying to do everything I realize I overscheduled myself.
Apr 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
“Find that courageous yes fight for that confident no”

“Todays choices become tomorrows circumstances”

“Show me a decision and i will show you a direction”

The best yes. Beautiful, emotional, moving.
Somehow reading this i feel like a better and a worse person at once. The best yes is saying yes to God and no to other distractions. Doing what you believe God created you to do in his world. I feel as though i have no purpose as of now and need to re-evaluate my life and what im working on to better
Jan 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book was a breath of fresh air. The word “yes” is in the title but some of the most helpful parts of the book were about saying “no.” When do you say no? Why do you say no? How do you say no? Other helpful questions were explored: How do we balance the guilty tug of doing more for others while also recognizing the God-given limitations of our minds and bodies? Is saying yes to a lot of little, immediate things making it hard to say yes to a bigger, time-consuming commitment that you may be ...more
Feb 18, 2018 rated it it was ok
I think my issue with this book is it lacked nuance - so it felt longer than it needed to be. The overall point of the book is good - say yes to things that you can give your best at. But I would have liked more examples of what a hard, “best yes” looks like. The examples seemed trivial up until the end, when the author mentioned heavier topics (like marital struggles).

This book is likely really good and timely for a lot of readers, but I didn’t feel like I fell into the audience she was writing
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Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the New York Times best-selling author of Univited, The Best Yes, Unglued, Made to Crave, and 18 other books. Her newest book, It’s Not Supposed to be This Way, is scheduled for release in November of 2018. Lysa was recently awarded the Champions of Faith Author Award and has been published in multiple publications such as CNN and Fox News ...more
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