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I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You

3.37  ·  Rating details ·  12,146 ratings  ·  1,280 reviews
Where'd You Go, Bernadette meets Beautiful Ruins in this reverse love story set in Paris and London about a failed monogamist's attempts to answer the question: Is it really possible to fall back in love?

Despite the success of his first solo show in Paris and the support of his brilliant French wife and young daughter, thirty-four-year-old British artist Richard Haddon is
Hardcover, 336 pages
Published June 10th 2014 by Touchstone (first published June 1st 2014)
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Cary Pohlhammer If you like a love story that goes in reverse, then yes. If you want to see a man who has a daughter and wife, both of whom he loves, try the best way…moreIf you like a love story that goes in reverse, then yes. If you want to see a man who has a daughter and wife, both of whom he loves, try the best way he can to win back the love of his wife, then you would love this book.(less)

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Jun 27, 2014 rated it did not like it
Shelves: abandoned
The review blurb on Amazon said this: "In this reverse love story set in Paris and London, which Glamour hailed as one of the “10 Best Books to Add to Your Summer Reading List Right This Second,” a failed monogamist attempts to woo his wife back and to answer the question: Is it really possible to fall back in love with your spouse?" The blurb later references the "charming and engrossing portrait as one man's midlife mess." It sounds interesting and appealing, yes?

But 25% into the book, I just
I really dislike the book synopsis for I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You. I don't think it is accurate at all. It is not a reverse love story. It is not an exploration of marriage. It is not about people trying to fall back in love. I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You is about an unfaithful asshole of a husband: Richard and the circumstances that lead him down the lonely road called discovery, remorse, and consequence.

I didn't expect to love a story that is based on an extramar
Apr 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Just loved this book. It's smart, no question. Funny, yes. But, most importantly, true. A book that makes you feel--gratitude, doubt, sadness, hope, resolve... Having been married twenty years, I know it's a process, will never stay quite the same and takes two people who want to keep growing together. Often requiring pain, boredom, kindness, forgiveness, creativity… Maum captures these stages perfectly. The writing is tight and swift, culturally right on--brutal in some depictions, kind in othe ...more
Helen McAlary
Jun 13, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooks
My goal for 2014 is to read 60 books, which is pretty ambitious for me. I have found that there are some books that I start and I don’t really care to finish – but I do finish them because otherwise I will be behind on my goal! This is one of those books. The book is told through artist Richard Haddon and at the outset we learn he is mourning an affair with a mistress who has left him. Richard is an exceptionally selfish and whiny man who longs for his wife to come back to him and for his mistre ...more
Larissa Rose
Jul 04, 2014 rated it it was ok
It gets two stars because it kept me reading until the end, but honestly, I thought it was so stupid. The narrator is so whiny and selfish, he spends the whole first half of the book talking about his mistress, even though the shit has already hit the fan and he claims to want his wife back. It wraps up way too fast, and it's all too facile. Their actual marital problems are completely glossed over, and nothing about it felt real. Also, it takes place during the beginning of the Iraq War and I t ...more
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I read this for part of a group challenge, color in the title. I took it to include the title being in "color". I was excited to get to this and hoped to like it more than I did. A young hip couple, marriage and boredom ensue, an affair by the hubby, discovery by the wife, the sad husband trying to win the wife back...blah, blah, blah.

I had hoped for the characters to be a bit more in depth, but found them both a bit shallow. About half way through I was done with "woe is me,
Courtney Maum
Sep 15, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
I don't usually think that women can write from a man's point of view but Courtney Maum had me convinced! Wow! This book is awesome! Maybe female writers aren't so hopeless after all! ...more
reading is my hustle
Nov 10, 2014 rated it it was ok
Recommended to reading is my hustle by: ???
This is a book about a fussy man who gets butt hurt when his married life gets a little too predictable and so self soothes by having an affair. BUT do not fear b/c he realizes what an absolute cad he's been and falls back in love with his wife (the little minx!). BUT she is not so sure she wants him back. He whinges a lot whilst trying to figure it all out. Will they or won't they? More important, who cares?

And, yes, the little minx was used in a sentence.
More than once.

May 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
I confess thay I'm not a huge fan of books where marital infidelity is at the heart of a story. However,the eye-catching title drew me in and I just couldn't stop reading once I opened the book. I felt that the author presented an insight into the modern marriage that was refreshing and filled with raw emotion. There is another sub-plot that is equally interesting and ambitious -the 2003 invasion of Iraq and the isolation of the French by the Americans and how Richard, the British artist, tries ...more
Peggy Strack
Jun 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Richard Haddon is bored and disillusioned with his marriage and his career as an artist. So what does he do? He finds some excitement through an extra-marital affair. When it ends, Richard's life is in shambles. He wants to fall back in love with his wife. He wants to escape from the demands of a commercial art world, but how does he turn these desires into reality. Author, Courtney Maum takes us on Richard's maddening and heartfelt journey of how he tries to make this happen. This novel totally ...more
Jun 11, 2014 rated it did not like it
Richard is a whiny, self-indulgent, want-a-be center of the universe, annoying man! I had had enough of him by the middle of the book and had to force myself to continue. I scanned most of the rest of the book (because I HATE bailing out in the middle if I think I can stand it to the end) but I should have just quit. The end of the book just felt like the author gave up too and just strung some words together to end it all.

Many reviewers thought this was a “funny” book, but I didn't find it so.
Chele Hipp
Jul 18, 2014 rated it did not like it
Ack! What a painful book to read! Hundreds - literally hundreds - of pages about a guy feeling torn between his amazing wife and his amazing mistress who dumped him. So boring. I wanted to see what happened plot-wise so I just scanned the book for plot advancements. There were very few. And, lo and behold, they all ended up rom-com perfect.

Also, who was the person having fun? It wasn't either of the primary characters and it certainly wasn't me. What was the point of the title?

Another book beg
May 27, 2014 rated it really liked it
I read a bunch of this funny, compelling novel on the cliff side overlooking the ocean in San Diego and it was one of the greatest reading experiences in recent memory: not just for the ocean view but for the book itself. I loved this narrator, even as he fucked up and was such a dolt. I loved the art. I love the sex scenes. I loved the descriptions of clothing. Such a great read. At times the first person narrative over-explained what was clearly implied, which distracted me. Otherwise, fun and ...more
Jun 09, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I've been on a roll lately, every book I've read has been excellent and this is no exception. Loved it! ...more
Oct 06, 2014 rated it it was ok
One of those books where I hated absolutely every character in it, yet couldn't stop reading. This book is heartache porn. ...more

Courtney Maum's debut novel I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You seemed right up my alley: a cross-cultural romantic comedy mixed with one of my favorite unofficial literary sub-genres, the White Male F&ck-up Novel. You see, it's about a British artist (Richard) who cheats on his French lawyer wife (Anne-Laure) with an American journalist (Lisa) during the run-up to the Iraq War... and oh, it's primarily set in Paris.

Doesn't sound that romantic, huh? But it's the 'ole "boy loses girl, boy t
Jenny (Reading Envy)
Apr 16, 2014 rated it liked it
Recommended to Jenny (Reading Envy) by: PW 4/7/14
Shelves: read2014
Sometimes the ennui from a longterm relationship sets the stage for people to make decisions that can cause a great deal of pain. Who knows how to just be honest to start with? How else to deal with drudgery and overfamiliarity than the excitement of a fling?

Richard Haddon is an artist who has enjoyed some measure of success (as in people are purchasing his work) at age 34, but only from selling out to a more commercial idea. And in the same way he's let his authentic artistic self slip, he's st
Jun 05, 2014 rated it liked it
Somewhat overlong and angsty exploration of a marriage in crisis. The narrator, a British artist in his 30's, has cheated on his French lawyer wife with an American {horrors!!}. Once his wife discovers his infidelity, he suddenly realizes what he has lost and sets about trying to win her back. She resists, he persists, for 330 pages.

Some interesting glimpses of the art world and life in Paris, but otherwise I didn't find it especially compelling.
May 19, 2014 rated it really liked it
The jacket hailed the author as a fresh new voice in fiction and I will agree. I have no idea of the author's life circumstances but her ability to paint a portrait of the struggles of marriage from a British male point of view married to a French woman shows remarkable talent. Her insight into how difficult married life can be was illuminating.
Beware, long quote ahead but feel the need to recite in its entirety to show the brilliance of this book.
"And no one tells you what it's going to feel li
Dec 21, 2016 rated it it was ok
Update: I stuck with it, and I'm sad to report it didn't get any better. A cliché story about a middle aged white man with a cliché Madonna-Whore complex who still wins in the end without achieving any actual insight into his own (annoying) emotions or behavior. My book club girls will understand when I say this was basically the male version of 'Hausfrau'. Ugh.

Ugh. Guys, I'm halfway through and seriously considering giving it up. But, my friend Amy gave it 5 stars, and I respect her opinion, so
May 16, 2014 rated it did not like it
Shelves: not-finishing
I think I am just going to stop reading here, because this author? Thinks she is waaaaaay more clever than she really is (this isn't the first instance of "Oh, aren't I funny" but it's the last straw...): "'September 18, 2002. Dear Richard,' The letter started, as most letters addressed to me did." ‪#‎gobacktowritingschool‬ ‪#‎needsagoodeditor‬ ...more
Feb 16, 2019 rated it really liked it
Actually closer to 4.5. I need some time to process my thoughts on this one before I can do an honest review, but I loved it.
I love books on infidelity. I love the angst, it fascinates me how authors manage to write a story allowing characters to forgive and move forward with the consequences of their or their parterns infidelity. For me the story has to be told in a way that I can still like both characters at the end. Unfortunately, in this book, I didn't like the H at all. I wasn't convinced that he would still be trying to make his marriage work had his lover not ended the affair.

This book is the first I've read w
May 06, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: cheating
I liked this more than I thought I would. Richard is a fool, but he’s a fool that grows throughout the story. He realizes lust isn’t love and there’s a difference between a relationships built on one over the other. And as is the case in most infidelity stories, power to save the relationship is completely transferred to the cheated on partner, at the 70% point he realizes that ultimately only his wife can decide whether or not they can move forward—hard lesson learned.
Jun 10, 2014 rated it really liked it
Paris is for lovers....well not always. The much maligned philanderer gets his story told in Courtney Maum´s wonderfully titled, "i am having so much fun here without you". The seven year itch hits Richard hard and he falls off the monogamy wagon with a thud. After 7 years with the pretty perfect Anne, a well healed but sexy (of course) French lawyer, a gorgeous three year old daughter, a house in the 14th arrondissement in Paris, wealthy bourgois inlaws with the summer house in Brittany, Richar ...more
Kate Hilton
Aug 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Courtney Maum's debut novel reverses the classic tale of infidelity, telling it from the point of view of the regretful philanderer. Richard Haddon, overcome with midlife malaise, has a passionate affair with a younger woman. The affair offers the one thing now missing from his otherwise perfect marriage: the thrill of sex with a new partner. As the book opens, the affair has ended, leaving Richard listless at home and work. The crisis comes when his brilliant, beautiful wife, Anne, discovers a ...more
Ket Lamb
Dec 14, 2014 rated it did not like it
Paris, relationships and art are usually a winning combination, but not in I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You. British artist Richard Haddon is torn between his French wife Anne and his vibrant American ex-mistress. Little does Anne know that he's been cheating on her not once, but for months. When his mistress slams the door on him for good, Richard conveniently decides to throw himself wholeheartedly back into his marriage. Though Richard is the one who betrayed his family, it doesn't st ...more
Apr 07, 2018 rated it it was ok
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Tammy Parks
Sep 03, 2018 rated it really liked it
Touching and quite funny, I was surprised by how much I loved this book.
Richard, sleepwalking through his marriage to Anne, is reeling from the end of a seven-month-long affair. It isn’t until Anne, thinking he only had a brief fling, learns the full extinct of his affair and their marriage seems beyond repair that Richard realizes how happily married he really was and how special his wife was all along. He then begins the process of trying to win Anne back and make her fall in love with him ag
Christi Cassel
Jun 01, 2014 rated it it was ok
Let’s face it: there are many ways (some learned, some innate) in which men and women are different. We act differently. We talk differently. We certainly think differently. These differences are evident in real-life, and, on occasion, they positively glare from the pages of books. Sometimes, when a man writes a book from a female perspective or a woman writes a book from a male perspective, it’s just a mess. It comes off as inauthentic, sloppy, unbelievable, or just plain weird.

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