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Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I'll Never Do

3.27  ·  Rating Details ·  240 Ratings  ·  44 Reviews
An incisive, hilarious, and brutally honest memoir about life online and about how our obsessive connectivity is making us more disconnected;from former reality show contestant, MTV VJ, restauranteur, and go-to voice for millenials.

Social media and technology have fundamentally altered the way we do business, couple and break up, develop friendships, and construct our iden
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published June 24th 2014 by Scribner (first published February 19th 2013)
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Apr 23, 2015 Melee rated it it was ok
Shelves: memoir-bio
I’m actually not sure how this ended up on my to-read list. I think it must have been an afterellen recommendation? Anyway. Generally I am very bored by articles/books/inspirational videos that make the point that personal technology has changed our lives for the worse, making it hard for us to connect, blah blah blah. But this book actually convinced me this is 100% true. Not for myself, but definitely for Kim Stolz. Like... whoa. Dang, girl. You make me glad I don’t have a smart phone.
Jun 21, 2014 Denise rated it really liked it
Shelves: first-reads
Full Disclosure: I was chosen a First Reads winner, and received a free copy of Unfriending My Ex in the mail.

What a witty book, and so relevant to our lives today, where everyone spends so much time on iPhones, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram... etc. Kim Stolz has captured that universe in an honest non-fiction look at how social media shape our lives today. Well-documented with not only personal experiences and research but also viewpoints from numerous experts (even detailed in a notes section a
Sep 13, 2014 Jennifer rated it liked it
I guess I'm not as social media or reality tv knowledgeable as I should be. I had no idea that Kim Stolz was a celebrity of some type and I haven't watched MTV since they stopped playing music. I picked this book up solely for its relatable title and for my penchant for memoir-esque works of young women. I was not expecting more than just a basic, cute distraction.

I never thought I'd be saying this and I know it sounds really atrocious and shallow of me, but who knew a model could write?! The wo
Missy Michaels
Oct 27, 2015 Missy Michaels rated it really liked it
This book has an excellent title and I definitely enjoyed reading it. Kim Stolz is quite a good writer and I enjoyed the way she approached the subject and how current this book is. I could relate to it on so many levels. It's funny because unlike the writer I'm not addicted to social media. I didn't send my first text until 2008. I'm serious. My sons watched in amazement with their eyes widened, one of them even said quietly," mom's texting." I didn't join Facebook until 2009 and only because I ...more
Jonna Reczek
May 06, 2015 Jonna Reczek rated it really liked it
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Sep 08, 2015 Donnell rated it really liked it

Very helpful for gaining a broader perspective on how technology, specifically smart phones, are changing what it means to be human.

The image I'm getting is of a reality where we are all separate entities interacting with others, primarily, via the medium of a screen. Sharing the illusion that we are all together in a Cyberworld, we are actually very alone. Also, in the Cyberworld--every one is as good-looking as possible and lives as exciting and adventurous a life as possible. As Stoltz says-
Philip Cosand
On a pure achievement/ adequacy level, the book gest three stars. On a personal, what I feel level, it gets two.

IT seems hard to believe that this two hundred page book took three years to craft. Yet, Stolz tells us that she her addiction to phones and technology has killed her attention span, so maybe she only wrote a sentence here or there. The woman is obviously smart, accomplished, and goes out of her way to quote sources.

That being said, she offers nothing new.

Yes, technology is omnipresen
Mar 01, 2016 Megan rated it it was amazing
I'm a little surprised to see such reviews expressing distaste for this book, that the author was so unknown (why does that even matter??), that she was too deep in the online world she spoke of when it came to social media... Firstly, I didn't know who she was, even though I vaguely remember watching Top Model- I don't remember her. I'd don't care that I don't know who she was or is today. Personally, I'm not into social media like she was, but that was kind her point- being apart of reality te ...more
If the book is titled "Unfriending My Ex", you'd think there'd be more discussion about the ex in question or the breakup or SOMETHING to do with the relationship. That's the only reason I was really interested in this book in the first place because I, like many others before and many more after me, I'm sure, have had my heart broken and then had to wrestle with the fact that the person in question is only a click away. In light of this, a discussion about what this means for our daily lives - ...more
Oct 29, 2016 Breana rated it really liked it
I’m telling you, it took me all of two times of seeing Unfriending my Ex (and Other Things I’ll Never Do) by Kim Stolz in the store for me to finally just buy the book. I remember Kim Stolz from when she competed on America’s Next Top Model, when I still actively watched the show, which was a very long time ago. I didn’t really make the connection until I gave the synopsis a full read. I was interested. And you know what? That interest paid off, because Unfriending my Ex was a pretty interesting ...more
Feb 01, 2015 Jaclyn rated it liked it
First things first - I have no idea who Kim Stoltz is. I picked up this book because I saw the title and thought it would be a funny memoir, possibly about someone's dating life. Instead, it's more of an exploration of the author's digital-obsessed life.

Kim Stoltz apparently was a contestant on America's Next Top Model and also was (is?) on MTV. I don't recall ever seeing her on MTV and I don't watch America's Next Top Model, so I wasn't aware that this book was by a reality star. If you're fam
Jul 23, 2014 Allison rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fic, 2014
The level of social media addiction described in this book is much higher than what I've experienced, and yet it was scary how much I was able to relate to Kim Stolz*. I have also developed ADD! I have stressed out over the read receipt feature on my text messages! I have looked through someone's FB photos and lamented "everyone is having more fun than me"!

Technology has become more of a burden than a boon in our lives, which Stolz backs up with a number of scientific studies. She also shares a
Shannon Grant
Aug 04, 2014 Shannon Grant rated it really liked it
I enjoyed this book a lot - a lot of the points made hit very close to home, and serve as a good introduction to introspection. It isn't an academic book but serves as an accessible side note to what I hope remains an ongoing discussion. That being said, it ends on sort of a hopeless tone - the author essentially concludes by summing up her negative, sometimes horrifying descriptors of social media with "but we're going to keep using it anyway, and making any sort of realistic change in that reg ...more
Jun 20, 2014 Carissa rated it liked it
Shelves: first-reads
"Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I'll Never Do" is a great insight into how social media shapes our personal lives. The author doesn't shy away from examining her own experiences and backs up her claims with respected sources. This book definitely made me think about how often I check my facebook/instagram/tumblr and how I edit small details or put things in the best light possible to create this online, perfect persona.

While I did appreciate her witty tone through most of the book, at time
Jun 23, 2014 Rachel rated it really liked it
Shelves: first-reads
Disclosure: I received a free copy of Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I’ll Never Do through the GoodReads First-Reads program.

I found Stolz’s writing style to be naturally witty and honest. It was an easy read and delivered on its promise of an honest story of how social media has changed our lives… whether we wanted it to or not.

I found it easy to relate to the author. Her ability to force you to see it from two totally different perspectives, one being positive and necessary and the othe
Jul 29, 2014 Peacegal rated it liked it
A glance at this book makes it look like a Chelsea Handler-style humor collection, but it is in actuality a discussion of the ruinous effects social media and smartphones have on on the lives of a surprising number of their fans.

Facebook seems to take the brunt of the criticism, and for anyone who has successfully left the social behemoth, it's easy to see why. People are ridiculously mean on FB, and even when they're not, it's so easy to make yourself miserable "comparing lives" with other peo
Jul 14, 2016 Amy rated it liked it
the title is what grabbed my attention first, and then I thought the book might be funny. After the first few chapters I thought it might be more informative than funny. while I found a few social media habits I related to, I felt that the author lived in this attention obsessed world filled with no one who told the truth or seemed to even be true friends. Maybe there are people out there that feel those ways, but I hope this book is more on the extreme side. I also felt she repeated herself eve ...more
Becky Davison
This book will make you feel both bad about yourself and completely like everyone else featured in this book. How did we become so addicted to our phones and social media circles? I'd like to think I wasn't THAT bad, but I am! Do I have 564 friends? Oh hell no! But I'm connected to them via facebook.... this book is a great easy read that I picked up for $2 and read quickly. It discusses the way social media has changed relationships with our loved (lust) ones, our (true and less so)friends and ...more
Aaron Maurer
Jul 20, 2014 Aaron Maurer rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2014
enjoyed this book. This book is about social media and comes from the perspective of someone who made their name from social media and reality tv. However, this is not a trash read. What Kim Stolz has done is document her experiment and life of the consequences of social media. Throughout her stories she has infused many great points to think about as well as several pieces of research and facts that make this a good read. I found this read perfect to think about and process as I conducted my o ...more
Tracey Jackson
Jul 15, 2014 Tracey Jackson rated it it was ok
Good premise, though not one we have not heard before. I thought it would be more about her struggles to get off social media and less about her experiences on it. Some of which were repetitive.
She is perky and amusing. She is also redundant at times. Though I think this book needed a good editor to take it to the next level.
In a world where Hamlet's Blackberry is out there, I would read that over this if one wants an excellent book about the social media experience and how addicted we all are.
Sep 14, 2014 Mandy rated it liked it
I'm still not sure how Michael Cunningham ended up blurbing this book. That said, this was an entertaining and humorous memoir on social media's ability to distort and even harm personal relationships.

Stolz's descriptions of her personal addiction to social media, and the experiences of her friends, seem abnormal and exaggerated and it becomes difficult to agree when she applies those experiences as emblematic of larger societal ills. This book did make me more mindful of my own habits, and I h
Jul 02, 2014 Jill rated it it was amazing
I won this book from Goodreads Firstreads giveaways. It just arrived and I couldn't wait to read it - just from the front cover it had me putting the rest of my books down so I could read this first.

Right now I am taking a college course in Technology and I have already used the book as a reference in one of my papers. I have also recommended it to my classmates. It is fun to read, shows us a side of technology that we sometimes do not notice and it drew me in and made it so I could relate to mo
Oct 31, 2014 Veronica rated it really liked it
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Nov 07, 2014 Samantha rated it it was amazing
I thought that this book was really good. She shares so many different things that actually apply to real life. Even if you are one to not use social media and so on, I think that this book is still a good read.. I read this book with in a few days of getting it, and would recommend it to anyone. There are some really good things she pulled from other sources and books and it was helpful. Definelty a good book!
Dee Dee
Nov 25, 2015 Dee Dee rated it it was ok
I came across this book in the library and thought it might be an interesting read. while I do know a few people who are totally addicted to social media, 90% of the people I'm around are no where near like Kim or the extremes of the anecdotes she includes in this book. This book may be an eye opener for someone who are already down that rabbit hole, but I just couldn't relate and found myself annoyed by how repetitive each chapter felt.
Aug 25, 2014 Noëlibrarian rated it liked it

I didn't "like it," so much as "understood the importance of the book in explaining the way many millennials regard their phones." As a chatty, approachable pop-sociology book, it's clearly useful -- but I didn't enjoy reading it.

I would have preferred to have thrown it across the room with great force.

Samra Muslim
Sometime reading the obvious is just interesting - not earth shattering or life changing - just interesting!

We are who we are - we are addicted to our mobiles and gadgets and the personality traits that come with them ... But for better or worst it's a relationship we love to hate and cannot exist without so ... (Bah!)
Jul 22, 2014 Kristi rated it really liked it
I picked this one up simply from the title and realized later that the author is one of our favorites from America's Next Top Model. Creative and interesting take on our cultures obsession with smartphones and social media. Loved the little stories - took off one star due to parts I skimmed that were bogged down with research. Good reflection of our society.
Jun 03, 2016 Brittany rated it really liked it
I got through this one really quickly. I have met Kim and can attest that she was all but surgically attached to her blackberry in 2008 - but so were her New York/MTV coworkers and peers. It's a great topic for discussion, and basically a broad elaboration of a very common article - do Millenials spend too much time on their phones and what does that mean for our future?
Mar 18, 2015 Tracy rated it it was ok
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Former MTV News Correspondent and America's Next Top Model Contestant, Kim Stolz is VP of Equity Derivatives Sales at Citigroup. She is also a soon-to-be published author. Her first publication "Unfriending My Ex (And Other Things I'll Never Do", which explores the effects that social networking, smart phones and reality television have had on society and her generation, will be published in June ...more
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