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The Rational Male

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The Rational Male is a rational and pragmatic approach to intergender dynamics and the social and psychological underpinnings of intergender relations. The book is the compiled, ten-year core writing of author/blogger Rollo Tomassi from

Rollo Tomassi is one of the leading voices in the globally growing, male-focused online consortium known as the "Mano
Paperback, 300 pages
Published October 1st 2013 by CreateSpace (first published September 30th 2013)
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Ori Drory
Dec 11, 2013 rated it it was ok
I revisited my review on this book and I am giving it 2 stars.

It's a book that promotes unhealthy relationships. It never talks about a healthy relationship with yourself. It only talks about how you can use the external world of women to boost your ego to a point where you can feel secure in your skin.

It doesn't teach you a thing or two about becoming a healthy human being.

edit: Since this review is being read I would like to spread some awareness. I read this book 3 years ago and since then a
Gerry Beane
Apr 03, 2017 rated it did not like it
There are very few books that once I start reading I refuse to finish; this is one. An acquaintance loaned me this particular book when I expressed an interest in philosophy. Apparently our ideas of the meaning of philosophy are a bit different. The author's primary hypothesis is that it is important, no necessary, that men maintain a position of power in male/female intimate relationships. This book is a poorly camouflaged version of "how to get women in your bed - and keep them there". It remi ...more
Saharra George
Oct 23, 2016 rated it did not like it
Tomassi's writing is essentially an imitation of what he thinks academic language sounds like. He appears to have bought into the myth that the use of jargon adds legitimacy or some form of enhanced truth to the subject matter being spoken of (either that, or he is cleverly exploiting the myth on whatever depressed males are buying into this).

At the end of the day, he has constructed an elaborate fiction of a world that doesn't exist, and convinced people they must engage and do battle with the
Austin Dobrik
Oct 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Probably one of the most interesting texts on gender relations and sexual strategy. Ever since I read The Game I have been interested in "seduction" but generally I thought the methods were strange or crass.

This book lays out why the initial PUA movement was able to have success but also digs a level deeper and tries to explain why many women act the way they do when choosing partners. I would highly recommend to all of my male friends who want a different perspective on dating in the 21st cent
Jun 02, 2017 rated it did not like it
First, I've just recently started my foray into understanding and grasping the differences between men and women, and accepting them as such, as differences. Not inherently good or bad unless we use them in that way.

Having had my eyes opened by books such as Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and exploring a modern primal lifestyle (which looks to our ancestry in order to find a basic framework for good health and contentment in our modern life), I expected a similar experience buying this b
Nov 06, 2013 rated it really liked it
Content is great; it's very thought provoking, to the point of headache-inducing. I think all men in America should read this book and get familiar with the concepts within. That being said, it really could use more editing. There are a couple typographical errors, and this book would greatly benefit from a glossary and index. ...more
Whiskey Hammer
Oct 07, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
A reviewer over at Amazon said it better than I ever could.

"The Rational Male is an easy to digest set of essays that essentially tune men into the real dynamics of the sexual marketplace, and the cultural/political forces surrounding it. It's easy to see when reading it that the author's primary intent is to educate the average guy about his potential, options, leverage and best strategies when interacting with women. It's particularly valuable because it does an excellent job of explaining wom
Jeff Finley
Jan 18, 2016 rated it really liked it
I finally read some stuff from The Red Pill without getting triggered. Before I would cringe at all their acronyms and apparently anger-based discussion around male-female relationships. But the more I learn and the more I heal my own inner alpha-male, I can see the truth and humanity behind what the "manosphere" has to say.

The Rational Male is a seminal book if you want to understand where a lot of men are coming from these days. The "positive masculinity" movement is a reaction against Femini
Oct 22, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Few books make you a better person. This book belongs to that elite category.

This book is essentially a collection of essays that explains why our society functions the way it does, down to the very minutiae we take for granted. The topics it covers are vast, and controversial, but it's all here. Everything from the dynamics of human relationships, sexual strategies, how to go about improving yourself (and why it matters), to how the reality we live in has a very obvious female-centric bias. The
Sergiy Lichenko
Jun 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Reading this book I was new to PUA topic and the psychology about it. Although the book is over wordy and doesn't always go straight to the point, I had lots of eye opening "Aha!" moments. A lot of concepts directly intersects with RSD teachings, but they are named differently (i.e. RSD - abundance, Rollo Tomassi - Plate Theory, same concepts, different names). And the one thing I remember the most from this book is "Hypergamy doesn't care..." joke.

Author describes todays world as a Matrix and b
Aug 23, 2017 rated it liked it

If you want the single best introduction to the concept of the Red Pill, look no further than The Rational Male (2013) by Rollo Tomassi. The description below from Amazon is an apt summary of what this book is about and I will not attempt to steal Mr. Tomassi’s thunder by rewording his explanation.

“The Rational Male is a rational and pragmatic approach to intergender dynamics and the social and psychological underpinnings of intergender relations. The book
Sep 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
After reading 64 percent of it..I quit reading for a day or so...I was in the state for two days where I do not talk want to talk to anybody. Just to be in silence...where the thoughts of books bombarding in my mind...I was stunned...shocked..and for the first time...I had different perspective of inter-gender dynamics...I laughed still felt regret that I was the used to be the plugged-in guy..before reading this book...I was not able to eat..not able to sleep in peace..not able to focus on othe ...more
Vatroslav Herceg
Nov 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Greetings to all humans and all form of life in this endless world!
This is my first review ever written in English so I am sorry for all the potential mistakes and feel free to comment them in the comment section. I did not write in English since high school and that would mean long six years have passed by without me writing anything in English.
This was my first ever fully read book on Kindle and I can say that I have developed an ONE-itis with my Kindle.
If only I read this book in my high scho
Phil Sykora
Dec 10, 2015 rated it liked it
There are definitely some interesting ideas in here, but what detracts from those ideas are the constant typos, misspellings, and unnecessary, occasionally misused jargon that occur every few pages or at least every chapter (one example: the "Afterward" at the end of the book). Small things can ruin an author's authority. You can imagine that's pretty damn important considering they come from the same root.

Also, I'm let down by the lack of raw scientific data to back up Tomassi's claims. Instead
erjan avid reader
May 07, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: game-pua
This book has so many interesting points that i will review it section by section:

Oneitis - very detailed explanation of how oneitis is social construct and how it influences men behavior.

Alphamale - that part i did not get completely, english is not my first language, so i could not get the main point; it seems rollo advocates that alphaness is already built-in every boy, we simply unlearn it and instead start acting the misguided way the society forces us into. It is unclear if alphaness is mi
Nasos Psarrakos
Dec 21, 2015 rated it it was amazing
One of the most entertaining, and great books I have read in my life.

Rollo Tomassi, grew on me. He shows such a perspective of manliness in today's world, that no man should live without this knowledge. It's just fundamental.

I am totally looking forward to read his second book "Preventive Medicine"
Kit Warren
Aug 17, 2017 rated it it was ok
A lot of interesting points, some true, mostly pseudoscience dressed up as fact to give hope to women-hating blokes who don't actually know any women by enforcing ideas that women have been against them this entire time and the only way they'll ever have successful relationships with them is by figuring out their 'tricks'.

The book has a wholly conspiratorial style (which the writer acknowledges in all fairness) with wisdom such as this gem; "as with most things women, what seems like the most d
T Bui
Aug 30, 2015 rated it it was amazing
There is nothing more humbling than realizing everything you were taught and believed in is false. That is what this book represents to me and to so many people who have discovered the Manosphere, The Red Pill, and Men Going Their Own Way movements.

This book summarizes and contextualizes the terms often used in the community, offers guidelines in which to navigate gender interactions, highlights both the societal and biological influences in the sexual marketplace, and provides advice as to how
May 18, 2017 rated it it was ok
Rollo is a manlet beta that doesn't lift but that said this book isn't terrible, just feels like a long blog post written by an internet blogger (which it is). All the "truths" and "red pill wisdom" are just regurgitations that have been written before by better men. One of the lines he writes in here is that "we are who we say we are" which is stupid as fuck. Rollo talks a big game online but you see pictures of him at beta convention aka 21 and he looks like a pussy.

The first rule of anything
Mar 12, 2015 rated it it was amazing
One of the most important books I will ever read. I would recommend this to everyone, but especially men.
Sep 27, 2016 rated it it was ok
I picked up this book not realizing it was for the PUA crowd. These blowhards remind me a lot of the advanced stats geeks who are ruining sports fandom--reducing the sublime to integers in a spreadsheet. This is likely an effective guide to giving the appearance of being a man, if only in the sense that accumulating sexual partners is the most socially expedient way to do so. The author makes some good observations, but pushes MGTOW hedonism as a vaccine for the feminist plague. All these wannab ...more
May 09, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Read this book or you'll regret it! ...more
Jan 18, 2016 rated it really liked it
This has been quite an eye-opening read for me and beyond what I had imagined too. I'm new to the "manosphere" and co. and I've found that their ideas harmonize quite aptly with thoughts that were scattered all over my brain but that I couldn't see as being so closely related to one another to form a scheme; thus I feel that the reading of this book has saved me an unmeasurable amount of time I would've otherwise spent in empirically realizing the phenomena, their causes and effects, that are ra ...more
I've been reading a lot of this pseudo philosophy to try and understand men and holy shit lmao

The main reason I'm logging it here is bc I found a pdf version that split it into 2000 pages and I need to remember I literally read through that much.
Nov 05, 2018 rated it it was ok
Probably the worst book I ever read. Reads like a conspiracy theory blog post, backed up with pseudoscience. If one abstracts away the bad writing skills, it is interesting anyway (like any divergent view on the world is in principle interesting).
Jun 23, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: relationships
Nope. Another pick-up-artist book talking about unhealthy relationships. The author tries to mask this up, pretending to be a "behavioral psychology" book, but obviously fails to provide any scientific sources.

I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.
Cristian Baltoc
Mar 10, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Best book I've ever read in my life. ...more
Lucas Rodrigues
Nov 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Take the RED Pill! Life changing and eye opening.
Oct 30, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2017, e-book
The Rational Male seems to mix bro science and game with pseudo-evolutionary psychological examination of inter-gender relationships. The author focuses on the Alpha & Beta male dichotomy and how the feminization of men has created more Betas to somehow serve the feminine imperative and framing of relationships. I disagree with much of the author's points, but in an effort to expose myself to more controversial areas to stress test and or reflect upon my values, I persisted through this book. Mu ...more
Mar 15, 2018 rated it it was ok
Book had an intriguing title, so I picked it up. But I had no idea this was PUA anti-fem literature. Author makes some pragmatic and interesting points about the male disadvantages in the canonical western relationship culture, as well as some internalized feminine social constructs unconsciously controlling male desires, but it goes way overboard to the point of being misogynistic. It's dated thinking that breeds young and impressionable men into disingenuous, chauvinistic, "hard" males unable ...more
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