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The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness
How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power—and shows that a well-placed “No” can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.
Drawing on their own stories as well as feedback from their readers and students, James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say no: To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no longer serve you. To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to the real you. When you do, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life—one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.
Drawing on their own stories as well as feedback from their readers and students, James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say no: To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no longer serve you. To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to the real you. When you do, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life—one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.
240 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2011
About the author
James Altucher
47 books957 followersJames Altucher is a writer, successful entrepreneur, chess master, and investor.
He has founded over 20 companies and sold some of them for large exits. He has also run venture capital funds, hedge funds, angel funds, and currently sits on the boards of many companies.
He has written and been profiled in most major national media publications like the Wall Street Journal, The Financial Times, CNBC, Forbes, and Business Week.
His blog, which began by detailing Altucher's precipitous fall from wealth and success to absolute rock bottom and then back to wealth, has attracted more than 10 million readers since its launch in 2010, and in 2011 inspired a comic book.
He has founded over 20 companies and sold some of them for large exits. He has also run venture capital funds, hedge funds, angel funds, and currently sits on the boards of many companies.
He has written and been profiled in most major national media publications like the Wall Street Journal, The Financial Times, CNBC, Forbes, and Business Week.
His blog, which began by detailing Altucher's precipitous fall from wealth and success to absolute rock bottom and then back to wealth, has attracted more than 10 million readers since its launch in 2010, and in 2011 inspired a comic book.
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October 21, 2014
For me there was no huge alignment on the theme of the book as in saying no to things, but I came to really admire James as an author and a person. While there was little new material in this book for me, it is often useful to hear the same stuff again from a little different angle and James delivers an entertaining performance.
I love his suggestion to read 500 books as a cornerstone to re-inventing yourself. I bet there's a fair amount of overlap between the books we've read.
Another stand out was his suggestion to "flex your idea muscle" by writing down 10 business ideas a day. I decided to try incorporating this into my daily routine.
"Let them finish their sentences" - James talks about the inverse of the "what would you do if today where your last day to live" scenario, meaning what would you do to others if it were their last day to live. One of the things he says to do is be patient with them and let them finish their sentences (even if you're light years ahead of them). This is something I've certainly struggled with, both in professional and personal circles. The thought of it being that person's last day to live; if you can do them no more good than to show them enough love and respect to let them finish their sentences. I made a commitment do re-double my efforts in this area.
I love his suggestion to read 500 books as a cornerstone to re-inventing yourself. I bet there's a fair amount of overlap between the books we've read.
Another stand out was his suggestion to "flex your idea muscle" by writing down 10 business ideas a day. I decided to try incorporating this into my daily routine.
"Let them finish their sentences" - James talks about the inverse of the "what would you do if today where your last day to live" scenario, meaning what would you do to others if it were their last day to live. One of the things he says to do is be patient with them and let them finish their sentences (even if you're light years ahead of them). This is something I've certainly struggled with, both in professional and personal circles. The thought of it being that person's last day to live; if you can do them no more good than to show them enough love and respect to let them finish their sentences. I made a commitment do re-double my efforts in this area.
February 12, 2015
INSANE, in an amusing and bizarre way! The husband gives us reheated Chopra and Tolle and presents exercises for the reader ("write down 10 new ideas a day. Sound too hard? Write down 20"). The wife chimes in with tales from the meditation cushion and anecdotes about jerky ex-boyfriends. You get the impression they're in their own little cult of two and are so happy about it. They might be right about everything, but I don't trust anything they say because of their general zaniness (not to mention the bottom-of-the-barrel typeface and layout). Pretty sure the whole package, from manuscript to galleys, took about three months to put together.
November 25, 2014
So this was an impulse buy because of an interview James Altucher did with Tim Ferriss on Ferriss' podcast. I admit it, I am a sucker for subtle marketing and commercialism. The interview was very interesting (check it out!) and Altucher came across as down to earth, realistic and pretty forward thinking. I was very surprised to see the opposite personality in his book, The Power of No.
It is 240 pages of kind of common sense (exercise regularly, eat foods that nourish your body, get lots of sleep, cut people who are cankers out of your life), wrapped up in hippy language and spiritualism, unrealistic demands on your time (oh, you don't have time for 1 hour of meditation? Go do TWO hours of meditation!) and untested exercises at the end of every chapter.
I can honestly say that I completed the book because I was looking for some level or piece of revolutionary knowledge, or a realistic and interesting way of managing time/energy/relationships. I don't know, something like "clear out your email inbox to 0 every single day and check it only once per day so you can clear your mind and meditate."
The most relevant and interesting part of the book was the lifestyle rule of not gossiping. While I continue that odious practice to this day, I now pause, stop to think about why I am doing it and to whose benefit it is, and do it less. That's a plus, I think.
It is 240 pages of kind of common sense (exercise regularly, eat foods that nourish your body, get lots of sleep, cut people who are cankers out of your life), wrapped up in hippy language and spiritualism, unrealistic demands on your time (oh, you don't have time for 1 hour of meditation? Go do TWO hours of meditation!) and untested exercises at the end of every chapter.
I can honestly say that I completed the book because I was looking for some level or piece of revolutionary knowledge, or a realistic and interesting way of managing time/energy/relationships. I don't know, something like "clear out your email inbox to 0 every single day and check it only once per day so you can clear your mind and meditate."
The most relevant and interesting part of the book was the lifestyle rule of not gossiping. While I continue that odious practice to this day, I now pause, stop to think about why I am doing it and to whose benefit it is, and do it less. That's a plus, I think.
March 11, 2022
Buku ini tepat dibaca ketika kita terlalu lama melakukan hal rutin, terlalu lama bergulat dengan corak pemikiran dan disiplin yang sama, terlalu lama bergelumang dengan masalah yang tidak selesai-selesai.
Saya membaca setiap baris, dan pada awalnya sakit kepala - kerana saya cuba amalkan, dan ya, untuk berubah kepada pemikiran atau tindakan baharu, memerlukan masa tetapi masa itu perlu kita tentukan. Bila? Hari INI!
Ada banyak situasi dijadikan contoh dan ia sangat berguna. Ada banyak tip diberikan. Ada banyak jalan dinyatakan.
Buku ini tidak mendesak kita. Buku ini menunjukkan jalan dan jalan menuju bahagia dalam diri memang banyak. KIta yang perlu mencarinya.
Selepas beberapa waktu membaca buku ini (ya, saya lambat membaca buku umum), saya terasa seperti hendak memberontak sahaja - seperti baru tersedar bahawa saya boleh jadi lebih baik dengan cara begini atau begitu yang diceritakan dalam buku.
Kemudian, saya rasa banyak kelegaan muncul dengan keberanian diri sendiri menukar bentuk pemikiran.
Buku versi terjemahan ini sangat bagus dibaca. Terjemahannya walaupun ada beberapa bahagian terasa janggal dan agak tidak kemas, tetap ia sebuah usaha yang bagus. Suntingan juga perlu diperkemaskan.
Saya membaca setiap baris, dan pada awalnya sakit kepala - kerana saya cuba amalkan, dan ya, untuk berubah kepada pemikiran atau tindakan baharu, memerlukan masa tetapi masa itu perlu kita tentukan. Bila? Hari INI!
Ada banyak situasi dijadikan contoh dan ia sangat berguna. Ada banyak tip diberikan. Ada banyak jalan dinyatakan.
Buku ini tidak mendesak kita. Buku ini menunjukkan jalan dan jalan menuju bahagia dalam diri memang banyak. KIta yang perlu mencarinya.
Selepas beberapa waktu membaca buku ini (ya, saya lambat membaca buku umum), saya terasa seperti hendak memberontak sahaja - seperti baru tersedar bahawa saya boleh jadi lebih baik dengan cara begini atau begitu yang diceritakan dalam buku.
Kemudian, saya rasa banyak kelegaan muncul dengan keberanian diri sendiri menukar bentuk pemikiran.
Buku versi terjemahan ini sangat bagus dibaca. Terjemahannya walaupun ada beberapa bahagian terasa janggal dan agak tidak kemas, tetap ia sebuah usaha yang bagus. Suntingan juga perlu diperkemaskan.
September 25, 2014
James wrote this book this his wife Claudia. There was much down-to-earth sage advice from James as usual - some of it better than others, but enough golden paragraphs here and there to make it all worth it. His wife, on the the other hand, is too abstract for my liking. I accept that it works for some people, but I'm mentally allergic to Deepak Chopra-style language and thought. I found myself painfully rushing through Claudia's parts of the book to get them over with. Towards the second half of the book, even James started to get a touch metaphysical, which was a shame. Overall, his previous book (Choose Yourself), was much better in my opinion.
January 29, 2021
"JAMES: Here’s a problem I have: I agree to things. Lots of things. Meet me for coffee? Okay. Be an advisor for my company—it will only take one hour a week? Okay. Speak at my conference? Okay. Babysit my kids? Never in a million years (okay, I don’t agree to absolutely everything)."
This is coming from a man who's allegedly in touch with his higher inner power and creativity? Maybe you have enough time and creativity precisely because of this, Mr. Altucher, a not because of your other... skills and wisdom.
Also, if it's humor, it's simply disgusting.
This is coming from a man who's allegedly in touch with his higher inner power and creativity? Maybe you have enough time and creativity precisely because of this, Mr. Altucher, a not because of your other... skills and wisdom.
Also, if it's humor, it's simply disgusting.
March 13, 2017
I only read the book because I didn't have anything else with me and I had to wait for about 3 hours in the airport. Maybe because I had big expectations about this book and because I have previously read a considerable number of motivational books and self development books, this one have not left me any new idea. A very pessimistic start and so is the end of the book. I wouldn't recommend it, it is a waste of time.
October 27, 2017
We see a tip of the cap to Eckhart Tolle and his best selling book, The Power of Now, right in this book’s title. So, it’s no surprise to find references to his Holiness, the Dalai Lama, Buddha, Thich Nhat Hahn, being “still,” meditation, etc.
The book starts with a NO Bill of Rights. Here we find 11 rights such as, our right to take OUR time, the right to healthy relationships and real love, the right to have an abundant and fulfilled life, etc.
Next, our authors, James and his wife Claudia, alternate back and forth, providing stories of the power of the word NO.
We start with some of the more obvious things where we should say NO. We should say NO to negative chatter, gossip, toxic people, etc.
As we progress through the book, we get into a bit more of the new age kind of thinking such as how saying NO to certain things helps with “mindset, abundance, gratitude, vibration” and all the familiar terms bandied about in the personal development space.
Some chapters offer practice exercises at the end. One that I found of value was Claudia’s tips for “being still.” I continue to practice meditation, but my mind races like the Energizer Bunny, so I’m still a work in progress. Claudia offers a couple of new suggestions that I’ll likely give a whirl.
This is a simple book and you might have 2-3 hours in total to get front to back. It’s extremely helpful information but most of it I’ve come across from prior reading. I desperately could have used the insight on the power of saying NO about 10 years ago, but seeing as this was only written in 2014, that was impossible!
Amazon gives this one 4.5 stars after 280 reviews. Goodreads is less generous with 3.55 stars after 952 ratings and 88 reviews.
This is my first Altucher experience and I read that Choose Yourself is a good one from James. I really enjoyed this one, especially the authenticity of authors, their willingness to share their vulnerabilities, and some of their darker days.
I give it 4 stars and I highly recommend it for anyone who needs to learn to say NO!
#FridaysFind #MIAGD #ThePowerOfNO #Altucher
The book starts with a NO Bill of Rights. Here we find 11 rights such as, our right to take OUR time, the right to healthy relationships and real love, the right to have an abundant and fulfilled life, etc.
Next, our authors, James and his wife Claudia, alternate back and forth, providing stories of the power of the word NO.
We start with some of the more obvious things where we should say NO. We should say NO to negative chatter, gossip, toxic people, etc.
As we progress through the book, we get into a bit more of the new age kind of thinking such as how saying NO to certain things helps with “mindset, abundance, gratitude, vibration” and all the familiar terms bandied about in the personal development space.
Some chapters offer practice exercises at the end. One that I found of value was Claudia’s tips for “being still.” I continue to practice meditation, but my mind races like the Energizer Bunny, so I’m still a work in progress. Claudia offers a couple of new suggestions that I’ll likely give a whirl.
This is a simple book and you might have 2-3 hours in total to get front to back. It’s extremely helpful information but most of it I’ve come across from prior reading. I desperately could have used the insight on the power of saying NO about 10 years ago, but seeing as this was only written in 2014, that was impossible!
Amazon gives this one 4.5 stars after 280 reviews. Goodreads is less generous with 3.55 stars after 952 ratings and 88 reviews.
This is my first Altucher experience and I read that Choose Yourself is a good one from James. I really enjoyed this one, especially the authenticity of authors, their willingness to share their vulnerabilities, and some of their darker days.
I give it 4 stars and I highly recommend it for anyone who needs to learn to say NO!
#FridaysFind #MIAGD #ThePowerOfNO #Altucher
July 27, 2014
"The Power of No" is a must read. It makes "no" a positive word, because it frees us up to make room for "yes." "No" is one of the shortest words in the English language , but we don't use it enough. We get overworked, tired, resentful. This book shows us just how and when to say, "no."
James and Claudia Altucher show how the "seven types of no" lead to positive things in our lives--we must use them more often. My major takeaways: 1. Say “no” more often 2. Saying “no” is a risk but it reaps a bigger reward. 3. Ask for help. James and Claudia say “help” is the second most powerful word in the English language.
I loved this book. There are activities, reflection questions, and exercises I'll do over and over again. This was one of those books that resonated personally--I felt like James and Claudia wrote this just for me. It will be a help in my personal and professional life--I will say "no" and "help" more often, and I will recognize the signs when I am not. This book is essential reading for parents, teachers, or people who overdo for others but wish they could cut back a little. As someone who falls into all three categories, I needed this book, and am grateful.
James and Claudia Altucher show how the "seven types of no" lead to positive things in our lives--we must use them more often. My major takeaways: 1. Say “no” more often 2. Saying “no” is a risk but it reaps a bigger reward. 3. Ask for help. James and Claudia say “help” is the second most powerful word in the English language.
I loved this book. There are activities, reflection questions, and exercises I'll do over and over again. This was one of those books that resonated personally--I felt like James and Claudia wrote this just for me. It will be a help in my personal and professional life--I will say "no" and "help" more often, and I will recognize the signs when I am not. This book is essential reading for parents, teachers, or people who overdo for others but wish they could cut back a little. As someone who falls into all three categories, I needed this book, and am grateful.
June 4, 2014
No. A two-letter word that can make or break who you are. A two-letter word that will lead to a happier YES.
In The Power of No, James and Claudia teach us, readers, how to connect with our true selves by saying NO to the things that may cause harm. The book teaches or reminds us that we are our own person. And no one is to dictate us what we should or should not, could or could not do. This is indeed a great book, especially for those who are trying to reach or know their true identity, for those who have been neglecting their own health, and for those who are seeking "inner" peace (ala Kung Fu Panda.. Haha!).
Please visit: Moments in Life for a full review. :)
In The Power of No, James and Claudia teach us, readers, how to connect with our true selves by saying NO to the things that may cause harm. The book teaches or reminds us that we are our own person. And no one is to dictate us what we should or should not, could or could not do. This is indeed a great book, especially for those who are trying to reach or know their true identity, for those who have been neglecting their own health, and for those who are seeking "inner" peace (ala Kung Fu Panda.. Haha!).
Please visit: Moments in Life for a full review. :)
June 21, 2015
Not bad, certainly had some motivational elements to it. I think I preferred the curtness of James more so than Claudia, who at times I found a little too airy-fairy for my liking. Raises some good ideas to put into practise for life management though. I would recommend, but probably with a small precursor of it being a tad icky at times as well as reiterating some blindingly obvious life points which may seem patronising to some.
October 5, 2017
Not at all what I was expecting. Essentially just a couple chatting about their thoughts; not really a well-thought out presentation. The female voice is difficult to understand at times in the audiobook.
September 28, 2020
I got the book recommendation from a personal development IT training. Awful book that is about meditation, Deepak Chopra, and Buddhist teaching. A waste of time and skimmed with very little value obtained from the book.
December 10, 2022
Biggest bullsh*t ever.
July 9, 2019
I don’t want to be rude but the general impression I get from this book is that the authors were high when they were writing it (or in hurry with no chance to reread what they’d written before it was published).
It’s extremely sketchy, full of generalizations and lacks proper planning. The choice of topics and their order seems completely random.
They authors often deal with deep issues (such as sex and love addiction) that deserve a separate book on 2-3 pages, presenting them in a way that you need to know what they’re talking about to understand what they’re saying.
There’s some merit to some ideas but the book is written with annoying sloppiness.
It’s extremely sketchy, full of generalizations and lacks proper planning. The choice of topics and their order seems completely random.
They authors often deal with deep issues (such as sex and love addiction) that deserve a separate book on 2-3 pages, presenting them in a way that you need to know what they’re talking about to understand what they’re saying.
There’s some merit to some ideas but the book is written with annoying sloppiness.
September 11, 2014
Have you ever found the message in a book so compelling that you want to reread it immediately after you finish it?
That’s what happened to me when I read “The Power of No” by James and Claudia Altucher.
“Saying no” usually makes us think of what we don’t want in life. However, saying no to toxic environments and people also means saying yes to the abundance that is our birthright.
There are seven facets of “No” explored in this book:
The NO that chooses life
Sometimes we adopt behaviors and attitudes that threaten our physical wellbeing and can even shorten our lifespan.
James Altucher shares a daily practice that helped him overcome a depression so severe that he considered suicide. This practice was simple but powerful: He met the needs of his body and stayed away from negativity (from internal and external sources).
“Every time I’ve lost money and love, it’s because I squandered my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health,” James writes. “Now, every day without fail, I do the Daily Practice to exercise the basic muscles of a healthy life. And it’s worked. I hope. I pray I don’t squander it again.”
What harmful habit will you quit?
The NO that brings true love, creativity, and abundance
Many of us spend a big chunk of our days with people who aren’t good for us. We suffer and hope they change, or think that something is wrong with us. Let’s say no to these people and associate with those who uplift us and bring out the best in us.
My favorite exercise in this chapter includes listing the people we engage with more than five times a week. Then, we rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how we feel after our interactions with each person, 10 being the best. Lower than an 8? That’s when we know we need to pull back from the person.
Who will you choose to spend your time with?
The NO to phony storytelling
This is about rejecting mind programs that limit our happiness.
These programs may come from the rules of society or from our upbringing. But no matter the source, saying no to what isn’t true to us will allow us to say yes to freedom.
As the authors say, “The Power of No is the power of discernment. With spiritual skepticism we develop the discernment to know which rules to say yes to, which rules to say no to, and which rules need to be completely rewritten to save the universe.”
What external expectation or rule will you eliminate from your life?
The NO to the angers of the past
This is a higher level of “No,” where we move into self-actualization. Saying no to the angers of the past means breaking from emotions than anchor us to the way things were, the way we used to be, the way we think life should be, and the way others mistreated us.
The authors recommend noticing the things we tend to passionately dislike in others to get in touch with our real selves. Why? Because these traits might live in us too.
For me, they key is to develop self-awareness.
What grudge will you choose to let go?
The NO to scarcity
Here we learn to shift our perception from lack to abundance. The process starts by paying attention to the blessings that already exist in our life.
If we continue focusing on what we don’t have, how can we feel abundant?
If we don’t feel abundant, we won’t see the opportunities right before our eyes.
What will you choose to appreciate today?
The NO to noise
Saying no to noise isn’t just about being in silence or meditating. It’s about saying no to news that scares us, gossip, and thoughts of worry, regret, or anger.
How do we do this? By changing the conversation.
In my case, I don’t invest my time watching shows or reading stories about how awful the world is. I shut down the negative noise. As a result, most of the time I live in a welcoming (not a hostile) world.
What toxic noise will you eliminate?
The NO to “me”
This means surrendering. Surrendering to whom? To the higher part of us; the part that is ready to say no.
When you say no to your ego, you say yes to you.
What part of your false self needs to go? How will you allow your true self to come through today?
The message is clear: it’s time to say no to sickness, negative environments, low-energy emotions, abuse, and scarcity.
It’s time to say yes to you.
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.
That’s what happened to me when I read “The Power of No” by James and Claudia Altucher.
“Saying no” usually makes us think of what we don’t want in life. However, saying no to toxic environments and people also means saying yes to the abundance that is our birthright.
There are seven facets of “No” explored in this book:
The NO that chooses life
Sometimes we adopt behaviors and attitudes that threaten our physical wellbeing and can even shorten our lifespan.
James Altucher shares a daily practice that helped him overcome a depression so severe that he considered suicide. This practice was simple but powerful: He met the needs of his body and stayed away from negativity (from internal and external sources).
“Every time I’ve lost money and love, it’s because I squandered my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health,” James writes. “Now, every day without fail, I do the Daily Practice to exercise the basic muscles of a healthy life. And it’s worked. I hope. I pray I don’t squander it again.”
What harmful habit will you quit?
The NO that brings true love, creativity, and abundance
Many of us spend a big chunk of our days with people who aren’t good for us. We suffer and hope they change, or think that something is wrong with us. Let’s say no to these people and associate with those who uplift us and bring out the best in us.
My favorite exercise in this chapter includes listing the people we engage with more than five times a week. Then, we rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how we feel after our interactions with each person, 10 being the best. Lower than an 8? That’s when we know we need to pull back from the person.
Who will you choose to spend your time with?
The NO to phony storytelling
This is about rejecting mind programs that limit our happiness.
These programs may come from the rules of society or from our upbringing. But no matter the source, saying no to what isn’t true to us will allow us to say yes to freedom.
As the authors say, “The Power of No is the power of discernment. With spiritual skepticism we develop the discernment to know which rules to say yes to, which rules to say no to, and which rules need to be completely rewritten to save the universe.”
What external expectation or rule will you eliminate from your life?
The NO to the angers of the past
This is a higher level of “No,” where we move into self-actualization. Saying no to the angers of the past means breaking from emotions than anchor us to the way things were, the way we used to be, the way we think life should be, and the way others mistreated us.
The authors recommend noticing the things we tend to passionately dislike in others to get in touch with our real selves. Why? Because these traits might live in us too.
For me, they key is to develop self-awareness.
What grudge will you choose to let go?
The NO to scarcity
Here we learn to shift our perception from lack to abundance. The process starts by paying attention to the blessings that already exist in our life.
If we continue focusing on what we don’t have, how can we feel abundant?
If we don’t feel abundant, we won’t see the opportunities right before our eyes.
What will you choose to appreciate today?
The NO to noise
Saying no to noise isn’t just about being in silence or meditating. It’s about saying no to news that scares us, gossip, and thoughts of worry, regret, or anger.
How do we do this? By changing the conversation.
In my case, I don’t invest my time watching shows or reading stories about how awful the world is. I shut down the negative noise. As a result, most of the time I live in a welcoming (not a hostile) world.
What toxic noise will you eliminate?
The NO to “me”
This means surrendering. Surrendering to whom? To the higher part of us; the part that is ready to say no.
When you say no to your ego, you say yes to you.
What part of your false self needs to go? How will you allow your true self to come through today?
The message is clear: it’s time to say no to sickness, negative environments, low-energy emotions, abuse, and scarcity.
It’s time to say yes to you.
For more inspiring articles, podcasts, and other resources for success and fulfillment, visit my website
www.cloriskylie.com.
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.
October 20, 2021
Terima kasih Penerbit X atas naskhah resensi untuk buku terbitan Buku PTS ini. Resensi yang ditulis datang dari hasil pembacaan & pemerhatian saya sendiri, tidak dipengaruhi oleh resensi berbayar.
Berkata YES bukanlah bermaksud semua perkara akan jadi positif. Ada masanya kita kena tahu dan perlu utk mengatakan NO. Masalahnya, bila??
Dlm buku ini, para penulis membahagikan cara penguasaan utk berkata NO kpd 7 bab. Sekiranya anda mengikuti perkongsian ringkas saya sebelum ini (di Tiktok/ Instagram @sugarspicewhatevernice), pernah saya nyatakan bahawa buku ini ditulis oleh 2 org, James & Claudia Altucher yg merupakan pasangan suami isteri.
James mendominasi perkongsian di dlm buku ini berbanding dgn Claudia sebanyak 70%.
Menurut pengamatan saya, James lebih byk berkongsi tentang teori & praktikal. Walau bagaimanapun, analogi yg digunakan tidak terlalu tepat & pengalaman hidup yg diceritakan juga tidak mampu menyentuh hati saya. James beberapa kali mengatakan dia gagal dlm pekerjaan, namun saya tidak berasa simpati terhadapnya. Ini kerana James tidak menceritakan dgn penuh apa yg terjadi menyebabkan saya kurang faham dgn tindakan yg dilakukan utk berkata NO. Malah, isi dari perenggan ke perenggan seterusnya agak kurang berkaitan. Jujur saya katakan, sedikit canggung utk dibaca.
Mungkin kerana ini karya terjemahan? 🤷🏻♀️
“Ahli Kimia muncul ketika kita terus berlatih & memerhatikan semua peristiwa yg akan berakhir dgn malapetaka di dunia” - muka surat 138
Ahli Kimia? Saya rasa ‘survivor’ lebih tepat
Berbeza dgn tulisan Claudia yg lebih teratur, menceritakan pengalaman hidup terlebih dahulu sebelum merungkai isi yg ingin disampaikan. Sebagai guru yoga, Claudia bijak mengaitkan proses meditasi yoga dlm mengurangkan “kebisingan” dlm kehidupan. Kebisingan yg dimaksudkan ialah berita buruk, kritikan, gosip, makian & cacian dsb
Saya belajar banyak benda dari setiap bab (boleh baca di ‘Twitter thread’ saya), terutamanya dpd latihan yg disediakan. Sesetengah latihan itu menarik, contohnya
- menulis emel kpd org yg pernah membantu anda
- senaraikan org yg anda ptt kekal berhubung & yg ptt dielakkan
- membersihkan minda bwh sedar
- cuba ‘skull-shining’ 🧘🏻♀️
Tak nafikan, ada yg ‘mediocre’ krn boleh dicari di mana-mana laman sesawang. Dan ada juga yg tak masuk akal 😅
Apapun, saya merasakan buku ini kurang memberikan hujah yg bernas dlm menguasai berkata NO kerana tidak ada byk kepelbagaian dlm isi (saya boleh Google) & beberapa contoh yg diberikan kurang relevan. Saya juga merasakan penulis sedikit tergesa-gesa dlm menghabiskan karya ini.
Tp bolehlah dijadikan sbg bacaan pertama utk org yg baru berjinak-jinak ke dlm pembacaan bukan fiksyen ☺️
Berkata YES bukanlah bermaksud semua perkara akan jadi positif. Ada masanya kita kena tahu dan perlu utk mengatakan NO. Masalahnya, bila??
Dlm buku ini, para penulis membahagikan cara penguasaan utk berkata NO kpd 7 bab. Sekiranya anda mengikuti perkongsian ringkas saya sebelum ini (di Tiktok/ Instagram @sugarspicewhatevernice), pernah saya nyatakan bahawa buku ini ditulis oleh 2 org, James & Claudia Altucher yg merupakan pasangan suami isteri.
James mendominasi perkongsian di dlm buku ini berbanding dgn Claudia sebanyak 70%.
Menurut pengamatan saya, James lebih byk berkongsi tentang teori & praktikal. Walau bagaimanapun, analogi yg digunakan tidak terlalu tepat & pengalaman hidup yg diceritakan juga tidak mampu menyentuh hati saya. James beberapa kali mengatakan dia gagal dlm pekerjaan, namun saya tidak berasa simpati terhadapnya. Ini kerana James tidak menceritakan dgn penuh apa yg terjadi menyebabkan saya kurang faham dgn tindakan yg dilakukan utk berkata NO. Malah, isi dari perenggan ke perenggan seterusnya agak kurang berkaitan. Jujur saya katakan, sedikit canggung utk dibaca.
Mungkin kerana ini karya terjemahan? 🤷🏻♀️
“Ahli Kimia muncul ketika kita terus berlatih & memerhatikan semua peristiwa yg akan berakhir dgn malapetaka di dunia” - muka surat 138
Ahli Kimia? Saya rasa ‘survivor’ lebih tepat
Berbeza dgn tulisan Claudia yg lebih teratur, menceritakan pengalaman hidup terlebih dahulu sebelum merungkai isi yg ingin disampaikan. Sebagai guru yoga, Claudia bijak mengaitkan proses meditasi yoga dlm mengurangkan “kebisingan” dlm kehidupan. Kebisingan yg dimaksudkan ialah berita buruk, kritikan, gosip, makian & cacian dsb
Saya belajar banyak benda dari setiap bab (boleh baca di ‘Twitter thread’ saya), terutamanya dpd latihan yg disediakan. Sesetengah latihan itu menarik, contohnya
- menulis emel kpd org yg pernah membantu anda
- senaraikan org yg anda ptt kekal berhubung & yg ptt dielakkan
- membersihkan minda bwh sedar
- cuba ‘skull-shining’ 🧘🏻♀️
Tak nafikan, ada yg ‘mediocre’ krn boleh dicari di mana-mana laman sesawang. Dan ada juga yg tak masuk akal 😅
Apapun, saya merasakan buku ini kurang memberikan hujah yg bernas dlm menguasai berkata NO kerana tidak ada byk kepelbagaian dlm isi (saya boleh Google) & beberapa contoh yg diberikan kurang relevan. Saya juga merasakan penulis sedikit tergesa-gesa dlm menghabiskan karya ini.
Tp bolehlah dijadikan sbg bacaan pertama utk org yg baru berjinak-jinak ke dlm pembacaan bukan fiksyen ☺️
August 11, 2014
I've always been a bit of a pushover. Often I’d find myself agreeing to things I didn't want to do, didn't have time to do, or because I was afraid the person who was asking for the favor would not like me if I said no. I've changed in many ways and I am much more confident and okay with telling people no, yet, sometimes I feel I still struggle with this.
I was excited to read The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness by James Altucher and his wife, Claudia Azula Altucher. I am always looking for ways to change and shape myself for the better.
Unfortunately I was a bit disappointed with this book. While I can see how it can be a helpful book, perhaps its audience is those who are at a very different point in their life than me.
The book is told in a conversational format with certain chapters and sections switching between John and Claudia. It’s a mix of personal stories, general advice, and what has worked for them. Along with this are exercises at the end of most of the chapters.
While I've always approached books that are “self-help” in general with the attitude of taking what worked for me and leaving the rest, I found myself leaving..quite a bit of the book behind. It was unfortunate that this book did not resonate with me as it has with so other people. Perhaps I am just at a different point in my life where I don’t need a book such as this one to guide me.
I believe their personal stories that comprise much of the book could be good anecdotal advice and I do think that if you were extremely shy, not confident, or just extremely afraid of life this book could be a good starting point if you need outside validation that it is in fact okay to say “no” to things that drain your life.
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.
I was excited to read The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness by James Altucher and his wife, Claudia Azula Altucher. I am always looking for ways to change and shape myself for the better.
Unfortunately I was a bit disappointed with this book. While I can see how it can be a helpful book, perhaps its audience is those who are at a very different point in their life than me.
The book is told in a conversational format with certain chapters and sections switching between John and Claudia. It’s a mix of personal stories, general advice, and what has worked for them. Along with this are exercises at the end of most of the chapters.
While I've always approached books that are “self-help” in general with the attitude of taking what worked for me and leaving the rest, I found myself leaving..quite a bit of the book behind. It was unfortunate that this book did not resonate with me as it has with so other people. Perhaps I am just at a different point in my life where I don’t need a book such as this one to guide me.
I believe their personal stories that comprise much of the book could be good anecdotal advice and I do think that if you were extremely shy, not confident, or just extremely afraid of life this book could be a good starting point if you need outside validation that it is in fact okay to say “no” to things that drain your life.
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.
November 15, 2021
Aku suka petikan pada cover buku "The Power Of No", (edisi bahasa melayu) ini yang mengatakan "Ungkapan ringkas yang mampu mengubah kehidupan kita menjadi lebih tenang dan bahagia". Kerana sejujurnya aku dahulu adalah orang yang sangat susah berkata "tidak" kepada orang lain.
Tetapi apabila aku belajar untuk berkata tidak pada permintaan orang lain yang aku tahu, aku tidak mampu untuk lakukan. Hati aku rasa sangat lapang dan aku tidak terbeban dengan permintaan yang aku sendiri tak mampu tunaikan.
Apa manfaatnya kita berkata "ya" pada permintaan orang lain, tetapi diri sendiri rasa terseksa, rasa terluka, rasa stress. Lebih baik berkata "tidak" pada permintaan yang mampu melukakan perasaan kita sendiri. Walaupun berkata "tidak" ini sebenarnya sangat berat untuk diucapkan. Tapi untuk kesejahteraan diri kita, tidak salah untuk berkata tidak 😉
Kita juga berhak berkata 'tidak' kepada diri kita yang berpura-pura menjadi orang lain semata-mata untuk disukai oleh insan lain. Tetaplah menjadi diri sendiri di hadapan orang lain, tidak kiralah apa pun personaliti kita. Jujur dengan diri kita sendiri dan terima apa-apa sahaja personaliti diri kita sendiri. Berpura-pura ini juga sangat meletihkan sebenarnya. Just be yourself okay, 🥰
Cuma ada beberapa bahagian dalam buku bagi aku yang kurang dienak dibaca bagi mereka yang berusia kurang 18 tahun. Kerana buku ini merupakan buku terjemahan, maka ada situasi penulis menonjolkan kebiasaan bercinta dalam kalangan orang barat.
"Berkata tidak juga merupakan satu tanda self-love pada diri kita"
Secara keseluruhan, buku ini merupakan buku motivasi dengan isi yang menarik. Jika mahu belajar berkata 'tidak' kepada orang lain. Maka boleh cuba membaca buku ini.
Terima bukupts dan penerbit_x atas pemberian naskah ini dan tahniah kerana berhasil menterjemahkan buku ini ke dalam edisi melayu.
#winabookreview #pts #malaysiamembaca
Tetapi apabila aku belajar untuk berkata tidak pada permintaan orang lain yang aku tahu, aku tidak mampu untuk lakukan. Hati aku rasa sangat lapang dan aku tidak terbeban dengan permintaan yang aku sendiri tak mampu tunaikan.
Apa manfaatnya kita berkata "ya" pada permintaan orang lain, tetapi diri sendiri rasa terseksa, rasa terluka, rasa stress. Lebih baik berkata "tidak" pada permintaan yang mampu melukakan perasaan kita sendiri. Walaupun berkata "tidak" ini sebenarnya sangat berat untuk diucapkan. Tapi untuk kesejahteraan diri kita, tidak salah untuk berkata tidak 😉
Kita juga berhak berkata 'tidak' kepada diri kita yang berpura-pura menjadi orang lain semata-mata untuk disukai oleh insan lain. Tetaplah menjadi diri sendiri di hadapan orang lain, tidak kiralah apa pun personaliti kita. Jujur dengan diri kita sendiri dan terima apa-apa sahaja personaliti diri kita sendiri. Berpura-pura ini juga sangat meletihkan sebenarnya. Just be yourself okay, 🥰
Cuma ada beberapa bahagian dalam buku bagi aku yang kurang dienak dibaca bagi mereka yang berusia kurang 18 tahun. Kerana buku ini merupakan buku terjemahan, maka ada situasi penulis menonjolkan kebiasaan bercinta dalam kalangan orang barat.
"Berkata tidak juga merupakan satu tanda self-love pada diri kita"
Secara keseluruhan, buku ini merupakan buku motivasi dengan isi yang menarik. Jika mahu belajar berkata 'tidak' kepada orang lain. Maka boleh cuba membaca buku ini.
Terima bukupts dan penerbit_x atas pemberian naskah ini dan tahniah kerana berhasil menterjemahkan buku ini ke dalam edisi melayu.
#winabookreview #pts #malaysiamembaca
November 22, 2021
Belajar untuk kata ‘No’ ni salah satu tip produktiviti yang sangat efektif.
Dalam buku ni, penulis menerangkan ‘No’ yang menyentuh 7 aspek berbeza.
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Apa yang menarik tentang buku ini?
• Penulis menceritakan pengalaman peribadi dengan mendedahkan kelemahan, kisah-kisah pahit dan bagaimana penulis memperbaiki situasi sukar itu berkali-kali.
• Penulis sentuh tentang keperluan, keinginan dan kepuasan fizikal, emosi, mental dan rohani serta kesannya kepada kesihatan mental secara peribadi.
• Banyak latihan yang praktikal untuk bantu orang yang susah berkata 'tidak'.
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Kenapa perlu baca buku ini?
Kita perlu tahu, 'tidak' bukan perkataan negatif sekiranya kita guna sebagai 'perisai' daripada perkara buruk.
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Buku ini sesuai untuk anda yang:
• Susah tolak ajakan atau permintaan daripada orang lain.
• Ada masalah untuk jadikan diri sendiri sebagai prioriti.
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Jujur kata, saya hadapi cabaran untuk baca buku ni.
Terjemahan bahasa Melayu tak capai nuansa (feel) yang ingin disampaikan melalui versi asal.
Lagi-lagi bahagian yang cerita fakta-fakta.
Isu typo lagi - saya agak terganggu bila jumpa ralat sana sini.
.
Rate saya?
Hmm … not bad.
Mungkin sebab expectation agak tinggi sebelum mula baca buku ni.
.
Saya hargai keunikan buku ni; penulis selitkan ayat-ayat 'sentap' di hujung sub bab.
Penulis pecahkan situasi-situasi yang manusia biasa hadapi sepanjang hidup kepada sub bab.
Memudahkan kita untuk membezakan jenis-jenis 'tidak' bergantung kepada situasi.
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Ada juga perkara yang ditulis saya rasa perlu dihadam dengan berhati-hati, terutama hal yang tak selari dengan apa yang agama kita ajar.
Maka anda baca nanti bolehlah tapis sendiri. Orang kata buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih.
Dalam buku ni, penulis menerangkan ‘No’ yang menyentuh 7 aspek berbeza.
.
Apa yang menarik tentang buku ini?
• Penulis menceritakan pengalaman peribadi dengan mendedahkan kelemahan, kisah-kisah pahit dan bagaimana penulis memperbaiki situasi sukar itu berkali-kali.
• Penulis sentuh tentang keperluan, keinginan dan kepuasan fizikal, emosi, mental dan rohani serta kesannya kepada kesihatan mental secara peribadi.
• Banyak latihan yang praktikal untuk bantu orang yang susah berkata 'tidak'.
.
Kenapa perlu baca buku ini?
Kita perlu tahu, 'tidak' bukan perkataan negatif sekiranya kita guna sebagai 'perisai' daripada perkara buruk.
.
Buku ini sesuai untuk anda yang:
• Susah tolak ajakan atau permintaan daripada orang lain.
• Ada masalah untuk jadikan diri sendiri sebagai prioriti.
.
Jujur kata, saya hadapi cabaran untuk baca buku ni.
Terjemahan bahasa Melayu tak capai nuansa (feel) yang ingin disampaikan melalui versi asal.
Lagi-lagi bahagian yang cerita fakta-fakta.
Isu typo lagi - saya agak terganggu bila jumpa ralat sana sini.
.
Rate saya?
Hmm … not bad.
Mungkin sebab expectation agak tinggi sebelum mula baca buku ni.
.
Saya hargai keunikan buku ni; penulis selitkan ayat-ayat 'sentap' di hujung sub bab.
Penulis pecahkan situasi-situasi yang manusia biasa hadapi sepanjang hidup kepada sub bab.
Memudahkan kita untuk membezakan jenis-jenis 'tidak' bergantung kepada situasi.
.
Ada juga perkara yang ditulis saya rasa perlu dihadam dengan berhati-hati, terutama hal yang tak selari dengan apa yang agama kita ajar.
Maka anda baca nanti bolehlah tapis sendiri. Orang kata buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih.
August 27, 2014
There is an admirable level of honesty the authors bring to this book. I would highly recommend it to anyone who is suffering from depression or high levels of stress. A caregiver type of person, who is always taking on more and more responsibility without taking care of themselves would also greatly benefit from reading The Power of No. Besides the lessons from author's personal experience, this book offers many powerful insights and several helpful tools for quieting the mind and getting to what is really important to you and your goals in life. Ultimately The Power of No, is not really about the things you say "no" to, but rather about defining what you're allowing and giving up trying to control (and obsess over) the things that are out of your control. The Power of No is a great read, and I take offense to the amazon reviewers who gave it a negative review without bothering to read the whole book. I was given a free review copy of this book by Hay House Publishing, I was not financially compensated in any way, and the opinions expressed herein are my own personal opinions which I reached after reading the entire book, like a responsible reviewer.
February 14, 2017
Notes by Derek Sivers:
Quite scattered book, but inside the mess was a nice reminder of the importance of saying no to anything that doesn't serve you well.
Highlights:
Decide who in your life drains you of energy, and then purge them so you can soar.
The best way to negotiate is to take the time and space to determine what is best for you. You succeed by saying yes only when you are ready and the conditions are right.
In removing yourself temporarily from the situation, you reduce the supply of yourself. In basic economics, value is a function of supply and demand. When supply goes down, value goes up.
To stop negative chatter: Imagine someone you love. Imagine what you would say to him or her. Now say it to yourself.
I wrote down ideas every day for articles I could write and businesses I could start.
If you don’t exercise the idea muscle, it atrophies just like any other muscle. And it atrophies quickly. You must work the idea muscle every day to turn into an idea machine.
Being clear about which relationships and which people we let into our lives is the key to access our creative forces.
Filtering the people we allow into our lives is probably the most important factor in determining whether we will live a happy life or not.
The primary people in your life: Rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how you feel after your interactions with that person, 10 being the best. Anyone lower than an 8, begin to pull back from. Lower than a 5, stay a little farther away from. It doesn’t mean you cut people off completely if they rate low on your list. This is a dimmer switch, not an on-and-off switch.
Nobody had been on that date that night. As far as I could see, two bodies were out and about in Orlando, but no souls. Gary and Lisa were not there; rather, it was two sets of rules playing against each other, two books filled with instructions, pick-up lines, controlling strategies, and a ten-step guide. I had never been present on a date either. I had never met a man without having an agenda.
Women will also tell you who they are in this way. Actions, words, being on time or not, playing games or not, all of these details reveal us. People who are disrespectful or manipulative early on are likely to continue the pattern. Take them at face value.
Whenever I feel abused or disrespected, I go into a cycle of thinking that is difficult to stop. You think again about the person, whisper in your head somewhat louder, “No.” And then louder. And then actually whisper it aloud. You will eventually stop thinking about that person.
Jealousy is the road map to the place where I feel unloved.
“Think of your life as a train station,” I said. “You are on the platform and you see a train approaching. You really want this train to be your train. You like the way it shines and how it seems so cool and strong - you are convinced it is the one that will take you home. And so you start making signals to it, and then you even start jumping up and down close to the tracks. “But this train is not meant to stop here. The conductor of the train is confused. She starts to slow down and wonders what you are doing. She is nervous. “Sensing that the train is not stopping, you jump onto the tracks, to the horror of all the people around you, and make even bigger arm signals while you jump up and down. By now the horrified conductor is calling the police and pressing all sorts of red buttons. Emergency vehicles are arriving on the scene. Everything is coming to a halt. “Meanwhile, the train that is meant for you, the one that is your train by divine design, is right behind this one. Only you cannot see this because you are too busy causing unnecessary drama. “Your train is waiting somewhere, feeling lonely, unable to pull into your station. The conductor of the train that is meant for you wonders what may be causing the delays. She longs to arrive home, and all the while it is you who is causing the traffic jam, because you just can’t stop jumping up and down.” To say no to self-sabotage, get out of the train tracks and accept the flow of life. Let the train continue, wish it well as it leaves, and trust that yours is coming.
The next time someone has an opinion you strongly disagree with, try this: Don’t argue; it’s pointless. You will never change their mind. Let them state their opinion. Try to learn one thing from it. Try to respect one angle of their point of view. Everyone just wants to be heard. Listen.
Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. When you agree to do something you don’t want to do, you will resent the person who asked you to do it.
There is a psychological law that says we all tend to follow our own ways of thinking without changing because we want to appear “consistent.”
You have to domesticate your brain the way you domesticate a dog.
The useful/not useful technique: With each thought that comes up, label it either useful or not useful.
Saying no to others means first saying no to your brain - to the anxieties and the regrets and the not-useful thoughts.
Attempt one week of living without any complaints whatsoever.
There are “rules” to follow if you want the girl or the guy to like you and love you. What happens when she finds the real you is another story. By that time there might not be a real you anyway.
Between black and white there is a beautiful spectrum. Not of grays but of all the colors of the universe.
Everywhere you go there are rules and there are gatekeepers of those rules: total strangers whose job it is to prevent you from doing something you want to do. Showing compassion toward those gatekeepers will allow those gates to magically swing open more often than you can possibly hope to expect otherwise. Why? Because the gatekeepers are not used to receiving a sudden onslaught of compassion or genuine love.
Ask yourself, What do I really need to understand? And be quiet. Listen for the answers.
How do you recognize an abusive person? These are some of the most common ways:
a) They try to make you feel guilty.
b) They try to make you angry.
c) They try to make you afraid.
d) They try to make you feel wrong.
e) They try to make themselves the victim.
How do I feel about myself when I am around this person? Do I feel good about myself? If the answer is no, you know you need to move away from the person.
Many people say, “Live life like it’s your last day.” It’s everyone else you need to think about. Treat everyone else as if it’s their last day. Try to help them be less stressed. Try to fulfill their dreams for the day. You don’t talk badly about someone about to die. Really listen to them. Learn from them.
Honesty to a point. I will never harm anyone.
Whoever needs to manipulate is actually in the weaker position.
Everything you say might seem to them like a suicide note, when I first started revealing the most intimate issues of my life.
Notice those things that you tend to passionately dislike in others. These traits live in you, too. They are the part that you’d rather not look at. Ask the question, “Where am I like this?” To keep living in scarcity is to reject the next phase in our evolution.
Clichés exist for a reason: they contain the seeds of truth.
Write a things-I-did list at the end of the day.
The people who use luck as an accusation who will never have it.
Luck is something that is earned, and once you have earned it, you will always know how to get it back. You will say no to the people who try to bring you down, who try to use their own bad luck to control you
Luck equals (1) diversification plus (2) persistence. Diversification means coming up with a thousand ideas and implementing the 1 or 2 percent that seem reasonable. Persistence is a sentence filled with failures punctuated by the occasional success.
When you are speaking with other people, silences are good. Pauses mean love. Rushing our words means fear. It shows our inability to pay attention, that we don’t want to let anything in, we must fill in the silences, and we think we know better.
Lead lives that teach by example, that show instead of tell.
Sit. For one hour. All at once. Every day. Be silent, and let your thoughts go.
Silence works. Nobody can teach anyone how to do this.
Be careful that your definition of minimalism doesn’t border on a sort of material anorexia, where you deny yourself the small celebrations that life wants you to have.
Silence is the sign of a professional. You know not to ask a professional what he’s working on. What he’s seen.
The less supply you give of your words and wisdom, the greater value that wisdom will have.
The less you talk, the more the brain conserves its energy for when words are important.
Before, during, and after you think, say, or do anything, determine if it will harm someone.
To practice positive thinking on legitimately bad situations will only make you more stuck.
When you go on a long trip, you see the road in front of you. You trust that if you stay on that road, you will get to where you need to be. You don’t try to see the end of the road. You surrender to the fact that the road knows better than you what is at the end of it.
Outsource 90 percent of mentorship to books.
Time it takes to reinvent yourself: five years. Here’s a description of the five years:
Year One: You’re flailing and reading everything and just starting to do.
Year Two: You know who you need to talk to and network with. You’re doing every day. You finally know what the Monopoly board looks like in your new endeavors.
Year Three: You’re good enough to start making money. It might not be a living yet.
Year Four: You’re making a good living, and you can quit your day job.
Year Five: You’re making wealth.
When people say, “It’s not about the money,” they should make sure they have a different measuring stick.
Take your favorite story by your favorite author and type it word for word. Ask yourself why he wrote each word. He’s your mentor today.
If you want to start a business, write all the specs and details of the idea for your business.
How do I know what I should do? Whatever area you feel like reading 500 books about.
Use your spare time to reinvent. Reinvention is collecting little bits and pieces of time and carving them the way you want them to be.
Say no to the superfluous distractions because you must find some time for you.
After books, you can read websites, forums, magazines. But most of that is garbage. Start with 500 books.
Sleep is the number-one key to successful health.
Remember the last day of school, there was this massive feeling of “Who cares?” because there was nothing left to care about. No exams, no assignments, no boring classes. Death. It’s like the last day of school all over again.
Quite scattered book, but inside the mess was a nice reminder of the importance of saying no to anything that doesn't serve you well.
Highlights:
Decide who in your life drains you of energy, and then purge them so you can soar.
The best way to negotiate is to take the time and space to determine what is best for you. You succeed by saying yes only when you are ready and the conditions are right.
In removing yourself temporarily from the situation, you reduce the supply of yourself. In basic economics, value is a function of supply and demand. When supply goes down, value goes up.
To stop negative chatter: Imagine someone you love. Imagine what you would say to him or her. Now say it to yourself.
I wrote down ideas every day for articles I could write and businesses I could start.
If you don’t exercise the idea muscle, it atrophies just like any other muscle. And it atrophies quickly. You must work the idea muscle every day to turn into an idea machine.
Being clear about which relationships and which people we let into our lives is the key to access our creative forces.
Filtering the people we allow into our lives is probably the most important factor in determining whether we will live a happy life or not.
The primary people in your life: Rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how you feel after your interactions with that person, 10 being the best. Anyone lower than an 8, begin to pull back from. Lower than a 5, stay a little farther away from. It doesn’t mean you cut people off completely if they rate low on your list. This is a dimmer switch, not an on-and-off switch.
Nobody had been on that date that night. As far as I could see, two bodies were out and about in Orlando, but no souls. Gary and Lisa were not there; rather, it was two sets of rules playing against each other, two books filled with instructions, pick-up lines, controlling strategies, and a ten-step guide. I had never been present on a date either. I had never met a man without having an agenda.
Women will also tell you who they are in this way. Actions, words, being on time or not, playing games or not, all of these details reveal us. People who are disrespectful or manipulative early on are likely to continue the pattern. Take them at face value.
Whenever I feel abused or disrespected, I go into a cycle of thinking that is difficult to stop. You think again about the person, whisper in your head somewhat louder, “No.” And then louder. And then actually whisper it aloud. You will eventually stop thinking about that person.
Jealousy is the road map to the place where I feel unloved.
“Think of your life as a train station,” I said. “You are on the platform and you see a train approaching. You really want this train to be your train. You like the way it shines and how it seems so cool and strong - you are convinced it is the one that will take you home. And so you start making signals to it, and then you even start jumping up and down close to the tracks. “But this train is not meant to stop here. The conductor of the train is confused. She starts to slow down and wonders what you are doing. She is nervous. “Sensing that the train is not stopping, you jump onto the tracks, to the horror of all the people around you, and make even bigger arm signals while you jump up and down. By now the horrified conductor is calling the police and pressing all sorts of red buttons. Emergency vehicles are arriving on the scene. Everything is coming to a halt. “Meanwhile, the train that is meant for you, the one that is your train by divine design, is right behind this one. Only you cannot see this because you are too busy causing unnecessary drama. “Your train is waiting somewhere, feeling lonely, unable to pull into your station. The conductor of the train that is meant for you wonders what may be causing the delays. She longs to arrive home, and all the while it is you who is causing the traffic jam, because you just can’t stop jumping up and down.” To say no to self-sabotage, get out of the train tracks and accept the flow of life. Let the train continue, wish it well as it leaves, and trust that yours is coming.
The next time someone has an opinion you strongly disagree with, try this: Don’t argue; it’s pointless. You will never change their mind. Let them state their opinion. Try to learn one thing from it. Try to respect one angle of their point of view. Everyone just wants to be heard. Listen.
Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. When you agree to do something you don’t want to do, you will resent the person who asked you to do it.
There is a psychological law that says we all tend to follow our own ways of thinking without changing because we want to appear “consistent.”
You have to domesticate your brain the way you domesticate a dog.
The useful/not useful technique: With each thought that comes up, label it either useful or not useful.
Saying no to others means first saying no to your brain - to the anxieties and the regrets and the not-useful thoughts.
Attempt one week of living without any complaints whatsoever.
There are “rules” to follow if you want the girl or the guy to like you and love you. What happens when she finds the real you is another story. By that time there might not be a real you anyway.
Between black and white there is a beautiful spectrum. Not of grays but of all the colors of the universe.
Everywhere you go there are rules and there are gatekeepers of those rules: total strangers whose job it is to prevent you from doing something you want to do. Showing compassion toward those gatekeepers will allow those gates to magically swing open more often than you can possibly hope to expect otherwise. Why? Because the gatekeepers are not used to receiving a sudden onslaught of compassion or genuine love.
Ask yourself, What do I really need to understand? And be quiet. Listen for the answers.
How do you recognize an abusive person? These are some of the most common ways:
a) They try to make you feel guilty.
b) They try to make you angry.
c) They try to make you afraid.
d) They try to make you feel wrong.
e) They try to make themselves the victim.
How do I feel about myself when I am around this person? Do I feel good about myself? If the answer is no, you know you need to move away from the person.
Many people say, “Live life like it’s your last day.” It’s everyone else you need to think about. Treat everyone else as if it’s their last day. Try to help them be less stressed. Try to fulfill their dreams for the day. You don’t talk badly about someone about to die. Really listen to them. Learn from them.
Honesty to a point. I will never harm anyone.
Whoever needs to manipulate is actually in the weaker position.
Everything you say might seem to them like a suicide note, when I first started revealing the most intimate issues of my life.
Notice those things that you tend to passionately dislike in others. These traits live in you, too. They are the part that you’d rather not look at. Ask the question, “Where am I like this?” To keep living in scarcity is to reject the next phase in our evolution.
Clichés exist for a reason: they contain the seeds of truth.
Write a things-I-did list at the end of the day.
The people who use luck as an accusation who will never have it.
Luck is something that is earned, and once you have earned it, you will always know how to get it back. You will say no to the people who try to bring you down, who try to use their own bad luck to control you
Luck equals (1) diversification plus (2) persistence. Diversification means coming up with a thousand ideas and implementing the 1 or 2 percent that seem reasonable. Persistence is a sentence filled with failures punctuated by the occasional success.
When you are speaking with other people, silences are good. Pauses mean love. Rushing our words means fear. It shows our inability to pay attention, that we don’t want to let anything in, we must fill in the silences, and we think we know better.
Lead lives that teach by example, that show instead of tell.
Sit. For one hour. All at once. Every day. Be silent, and let your thoughts go.
Silence works. Nobody can teach anyone how to do this.
Be careful that your definition of minimalism doesn’t border on a sort of material anorexia, where you deny yourself the small celebrations that life wants you to have.
Silence is the sign of a professional. You know not to ask a professional what he’s working on. What he’s seen.
The less supply you give of your words and wisdom, the greater value that wisdom will have.
The less you talk, the more the brain conserves its energy for when words are important.
Before, during, and after you think, say, or do anything, determine if it will harm someone.
To practice positive thinking on legitimately bad situations will only make you more stuck.
When you go on a long trip, you see the road in front of you. You trust that if you stay on that road, you will get to where you need to be. You don’t try to see the end of the road. You surrender to the fact that the road knows better than you what is at the end of it.
Outsource 90 percent of mentorship to books.
Time it takes to reinvent yourself: five years. Here’s a description of the five years:
Year One: You’re flailing and reading everything and just starting to do.
Year Two: You know who you need to talk to and network with. You’re doing every day. You finally know what the Monopoly board looks like in your new endeavors.
Year Three: You’re good enough to start making money. It might not be a living yet.
Year Four: You’re making a good living, and you can quit your day job.
Year Five: You’re making wealth.
When people say, “It’s not about the money,” they should make sure they have a different measuring stick.
Take your favorite story by your favorite author and type it word for word. Ask yourself why he wrote each word. He’s your mentor today.
If you want to start a business, write all the specs and details of the idea for your business.
How do I know what I should do? Whatever area you feel like reading 500 books about.
Use your spare time to reinvent. Reinvention is collecting little bits and pieces of time and carving them the way you want them to be.
Say no to the superfluous distractions because you must find some time for you.
After books, you can read websites, forums, magazines. But most of that is garbage. Start with 500 books.
Sleep is the number-one key to successful health.
Remember the last day of school, there was this massive feeling of “Who cares?” because there was nothing left to care about. No exams, no assignments, no boring classes. Death. It’s like the last day of school all over again.
January 12, 2022
The Power of No (Edisi Bahasa Melayu terbitan PTS Publication)
James Altucher & Claudia Azula
Buku pertama tahun 2022. Kita selalu ucap "ya" walau hakikatnya "ya" itu memakan diri sendiri.
Kita sangka ia satu tindakan positif dan baik, hakikat nya kita menipu diri sendiri. Ia adalah 'toxic positivity'.
"Dikalangan pemain catur, pemain poker, pemain saham di Wall Street dan Main Street, ada satu ungkapan,
"Hanya pemain yang bagus akan bernasib baik."
Mengapa mereka berkata begitu? Kerana orang yang
bernasib buruk akan selalu mengejek.
"Kamu menang hanya kerana nasib baik."
Orang yang menggunakan nasib baik sebagai tuduhan. tidak akan pernah memilikinya.
Nasib baik adalah sesuatu yang diperoleh. Oleh itu, ketika mana kita telah memperolehinya, kita sudah pun mengetahui cara untuk mendapatkannya semula.
Kita akan berkata 'tidak' kepada semua orang yang cuba menjatuhkan ataupun mengawal kita kerana mereka tidak mampu mendaki ke tahap kita yang sekarang."
#Letsاقرأ #syawalbookreview
James Altucher & Claudia Azula
Buku pertama tahun 2022. Kita selalu ucap "ya" walau hakikatnya "ya" itu memakan diri sendiri.
Kita sangka ia satu tindakan positif dan baik, hakikat nya kita menipu diri sendiri. Ia adalah 'toxic positivity'.
"Dikalangan pemain catur, pemain poker, pemain saham di Wall Street dan Main Street, ada satu ungkapan,
"Hanya pemain yang bagus akan bernasib baik."
Mengapa mereka berkata begitu? Kerana orang yang
bernasib buruk akan selalu mengejek.
"Kamu menang hanya kerana nasib baik."
Orang yang menggunakan nasib baik sebagai tuduhan. tidak akan pernah memilikinya.
Nasib baik adalah sesuatu yang diperoleh. Oleh itu, ketika mana kita telah memperolehinya, kita sudah pun mengetahui cara untuk mendapatkannya semula.
Kita akan berkata 'tidak' kepada semua orang yang cuba menjatuhkan ataupun mengawal kita kerana mereka tidak mampu mendaki ke tahap kita yang sekarang."
#Letsاقرأ #syawalbookreview
May 17, 2014
No is such a little word that holds so much power and can be the pathway to health, freedom and abundance. Why is it so hard for us to say no? Because growing up we are taught to be nice and saying no can seem so unaccommodating. So, we say yes to relationships we really do not want to be in; events we do not want to go to and jobs we hate but have to pay the bills, so we feel there is no other way.
James Altucher is the REAL DEAL and my favorite motivational go-to person. My life continues to change with each of his books. If you are tired of living an unfulfilled and unhealthy life, The Power of No, is exactly what you need to create a better future for yourself.
For the complete review, please check it on my website: http://mybookhabit.com/the-power-of-n...
James Altucher is the REAL DEAL and my favorite motivational go-to person. My life continues to change with each of his books. If you are tired of living an unfulfilled and unhealthy life, The Power of No, is exactly what you need to create a better future for yourself.
For the complete review, please check it on my website: http://mybookhabit.com/the-power-of-n...
February 22, 2015
I listened to the Audible audiobook. I may have enjoyed it more as I found the authors' joint reading of the material to be less dramatic and more sincere than it might have seemed from a hired voice performer (in this one case).
I found the overemphasis on abundance as material wealth a little uninspiring, but as the authors addressed this emphasis and pointed out that you can work toward whatever makes you feel wealthy I was able to put this aside more easily. Lots of good advice, and as with many books on self-improvement, that advice is often confirmation of what you already know but forget to implement.
I do intend to try and implement some of the ideas taken from this book, and I think it was worth the five hour investment of my time.
I found the overemphasis on abundance as material wealth a little uninspiring, but as the authors addressed this emphasis and pointed out that you can work toward whatever makes you feel wealthy I was able to put this aside more easily. Lots of good advice, and as with many books on self-improvement, that advice is often confirmation of what you already know but forget to implement.
I do intend to try and implement some of the ideas taken from this book, and I think it was worth the five hour investment of my time.
August 3, 2016
ARC form Net Galley for a non-biased review.
Before you start reading this book make sure you learn to use the highlight and note function on your e-reader. Or if you have a physical copy go to your local office supply store and see if they have gallon buckets of high-lighter. I swear my Kindle glowed a little brighter when I was reading this insightful manifesto.
In a yes, yes world we are reminded of the power of no and how much we can accomplish when we learn to embrace no. This is one of those books that I will read again and again.
Top Hat Reviews
Before you start reading this book make sure you learn to use the highlight and note function on your e-reader. Or if you have a physical copy go to your local office supply store and see if they have gallon buckets of high-lighter. I swear my Kindle glowed a little brighter when I was reading this insightful manifesto.
In a yes, yes world we are reminded of the power of no and how much we can accomplish when we learn to embrace no. This is one of those books that I will read again and again.
Top Hat Reviews
September 1, 2014
I'm torn on the rating for this one, since I do love James Altucher's other books, and the parts of this book that were solely his had that same quality. However, the switching off of chapters between James and his wife and co-author, Claudia, made for a schizophrenic reading experience. Also, perhaps as a consequence of this conceit, there was a lot more "woo-woo" than I've come to expect from a James Altucher book. There's some good stuff in here, but I can't wholeheartedly recommend it.
October 18, 2015
I just didn't connect with this book. Although their were a few tidbits that resonated with my life, overall I felt the authors were on a different plane. One of my favorite quotes, "When you have a tiny, tiny piece of crap in your soup, it doesn't matter how much more water you pour in and how many more spices you put on top. There's crap in your soup."
February 7, 2017
I've read many, many, many books on metaphysics and/or self-help. Some of them are brilliant. Unfortunately, this is not one of them. I liked Claudia Altucher's input but didn't feel I learned anything from this book.
January 3, 2019
A short—but unbearable long—series of magic thinking and if-you-wish-it-hard-enough-will-happen ramblings. I don't know how I get to the last page.
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