Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “He & She” as Want to Read:
He & She
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

He & She

by
4.06  ·  Rating details ·  125 ratings  ·  86 reviews
*** 5-star Silver Medal winner in the 2014 Readers' Favorite Annual International Award Contest ***

What does a man do when nothing tastes good anymore? he finds She.
A Web photo of a dominatrix sends a man in midlife crisis on a last-ditch attempt to feel truly alive one more time, even if it kills him.

"... a stylish piece of literary fiction... intellectually engaging
...more
Paperback, 376 pages
Published October 25th 2013 by Wayne Clark YUL/NYC (first published October 12th 2013)
More Details... Edit Details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about He & She, please sign up.

Be the first to ask a question about He & She

Community Reviews

Showing 1-30
Average rating 4.06  · 
Rating details
 ·  125 ratings  ·  86 reviews


More filters
 | 
Sort order
Start your review of He & She
Leslie OBrien
Feb 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Wow! Words can’t possibly express the depth of emotion I feel after reading this book. The title, cover and description don’t do it justice. The story is told in flashback. The range of emotions (or lack thereof) that K experiences as he’s going through life are far-reaching. From apathy to the spikes of a man clearly in love, mostly with a dream. But what, to me, this book is mostly about is desire. Actually that barely plumbs the depths of the level of longing, of craving, the steps K would ...more
John Phiser
Jun 24, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Skillfuly done, thought-provoking
he&She by Wayne Clark is a truly fascinating story – from the prologue which simultaneously shocks and provokes sympathy the book follows the life of Kit Cayman as his world lurches from one disappointment to the next failure. Despite a promising university education he ends up working as a waiter, and eventually becomes a translator, though not of literary works as he’d dreamed, but translating management or technical documents day after day. In his
...more
Jay
Feb 09, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a really interesting book for anyone who is interested in delving deeper into human sexuality and need. I imagine the book could be compared with the 50 Shades of Grey series, but I actually found it to be much more readable. I discarded the first Grey book after about five chapters and never looked back.

This is immensely readable and brings us to a place that a lot of people find themselves in. Maintaining sexuality and desire mid-life and really all through life. It explores need,
...more
Danny Tyran
Jun 10, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: bdsm, d-s, f-m, i-have-one
This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here.
Grady
Feb 04, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Riffs on aging, altered needs, and pushing boundaries

Canadian author Wayne Clark has been around - as a journalist, a reporter, and editor, a freelance writer and translator, a copywriter, and an astute observer of life in all its permutations. He travels (all over Canada, across the pond to Germany and Holland, and down in the third American level of Mexico), he sees, probably fantasizes a lot. Stir that pot and out comes a novelist who takes risks and makes them pan out for him. he & She
...more
Marta Tandori
Aug 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Kit Cayman, although hardly straddling the middle-age hump, appears to be going through a mid-life crisis. He’s a translator by day in order to pay the rent and a frustrated musician wanna-be whose friendship with his neighbor, LeBron, is a love/hate relationship. On the one hand, LeBron is a musician with whom Kit can converse about his love for music but on the other, LeBron is doing what Kit wishes he had the balls and talent to do. Kit is becoming frustrated and unsatisfied with his life and ...more
Anishella Jb
This novel portrays a man living through the best and worst times of his life. It had me wondering about which of his life experiences (mine as well) had more meaning in the end. I think we only truly know in retrospect.

What made me love the book was the way it made me feel I was face-to-face with someone's life. It was a bit like reading a diary. You get easily attached to the main character, although I felt like shaking him at times. I think the book reflects how diverse our sexuality can
...more
Jami
Jul 16, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
he and She by Wayne Clark
This is a great book about BDSM, its subculture, explains some of the language throughout, and gives the reader a realistic view about how paying for a Dominatrix is much different than being collared and owned by one permanently. I highly suggest this book.
This beautifully cruel novel begins with Kit (otherwise known as K-man or simply K throughout) in the hospital, bitterly angry as he has suffered a stroke and has damaged the whole right side of his body. The only
...more
Sojourner
Mar 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: reviews
he & She by Wayne Clark is a thoughtful, deep, intense and sensual portrayal of a man living through the best and worst times of his life. It is a book that will leave you conjecturing about life’s experiences, and if they have any meaning at all. This is only possible on hindsight, and for many, living in the present never really gives the best position to view life unfolding.

Wayne Clark deserves much kudos for crafting a story that is both fascinating and insightful. It makes you feel come
...more
Caroline
Nov 17, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Reading this novel sheds light on a reality about the pressure men face when aging surfaces and more viciously, when their sexual needs are not traditional. In other words, through the main character, it becomes evident that there are men out there who have so called ``perversions``, who are nevertheless not crooks, and who are also loving and sensitive. Being different is condemned not only by society but also by loved ones, products of conventional thinking. It is important to realize that ...more
Lisa Sandberg
I was provided a free copy of this book by Reading Deals for an honest review.

What do I say about this book? I really liked some parts of this book, didn't like some and didn't understand why some of the stuff was in the book.

This is about a gentleman that has a fetish. He finds a domme to fulfill that fetish and falls in love. I felt sorry for him to a point because all he wanted to do was love her, all the while knowing he couldn't.

He finds others to help with his fetish, but always comes back
...more
Ben Jr.
Dec 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love honest books, and Wayne Clark does a great job with showing the vulnerability of men with his award winning novel “He & She.” In this masterfully written story, we are taken into the life of Kit Cayman. Wayne’s detailed portrayal of Kit’s internal struggle to understand himself and overcome his struggles, easily draws readers in. It’s that honesty that makes this book a great one. The story is told through a flashback style. It was a perfect blend of fiction and erotica and I can’t ...more
Jane
I want to send my thanks to Wayne Clark and to Goodreads First Reads Giveaway for the copy of he & She that I won in the Giveaway.

Kit, the main character is interesting in all the layers of his personality that are revealed from the start to finish of he & She. He is a freelance translator, a part-time musician and coasting through life with no major accomplishments and stuck in a rut of his own devices. He sees a picture on the Internet and starts to explore alternate lifestyles. The
...more
Joy
Nov 27, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: give-aways
I won this book from a goodreads giveaway. It's kind of hard to categorize but I guess erotica fits best although there isn't a lot of explicit sex. It kept my interest even though you know what will happen to the main character because the author gives that away in the beginning. This is a well written book and if you like this kind of story you will probably enjoy this.
Gill's Great Book Escapes
I loved the honesty in the story, it pulls no punches and has a sadness about a life that can never be.

It is a slow starter, but stick with because all of the emotional turmoil that you are enduring at the beginning is very relevant to the life of Kit.

The main character, Kit Cayman is a middle aged man lying in hospital paralysed the only thing he can do is masturbate. Such despair surrounds him as he rejects everything around him. From a beginning of the end, we look back on what brought K to
...more
Pankaj Goyal
Mar 17, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
He & She by Wayne Clark is a book which compels you to think hard. While the book will leave you unsettled, it will be in a good way. Adulthood has been described by psychologists where the individual has a maturity and an ability of independent decision making. With the use of this insight into human nature, the reading of Wayne Clark’s He & She certainly gets a new dimension. This is the story of Kit Cayman (or K) who extensively indulges in sexual fantasies. Fantasizing about sex for ...more
T.C. Mill
I was very excited to win this one through a LibraryThing giveaway. It’s more of a literary novel that incorporates BDSM than an erotic novel, but still very much in line with my interests. The prose is deftly crafted, the plot…well, again, it’s a literary novel, but the action is never stuck in a rut without the author intending it, and the characterization is fascinating.

Literary novels about older men rediscovering their zest for life through sex, usually with a younger woman, can carry some
...more
Kelly Smith Reviews
Growing numb to life, to his on-and-off girlfriend of many years, his career, even Scotch, a man turns fifty. He is a translator who can no longer dream of translating beautiful works of fiction. He is an amateur musician who can no longer dream of expressing his life on a higher plane, without words. As he glares inside himself he sees little but his declining sexuality, his crumbling hold on life, a growing list of failed relationships, and a darkening well of loneliness.
Stumbling upon an
...more
Bernadette Robinson
Please ignore length of time taken to read, as I had to put the book on hold while others took priority unfortunately.

My thanks to the Publishers and NetGalley for the opportunity to read this in exchange for an honest review.

I gave this a 7/10.

This is the story of K a middle aged man who's life appears to be going nowhere fast. With little chance of finding a meaningful relationship he tries to find solace on the Internet. He develops an unhealthy interest in a young woman with a penchant for
...more
Veritas Vincit
With all of the hype surrounding the recent popularity of 50 Shades of Grey and other adult-themed literature, it is no surprise that the genre would be expanded into newer, older, and stranger directions. Wayne Clark has taken that topic and put it in the perspective of an older man. However, the protagonist doesn't strike the reader as a sexual being, nor as a particularly driven or motivated man. I don't know if the book is autobiographical, but it is certainly written with passion. It is a ...more
Jan Heart
Jun 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A rich experience for the reader.

he & She is a good, skillfully written book, following the life and loves and obsessions of Kit Cayman. We actually meet Kit as he lies half-paralyzed in hospital after a stroke. He's masturbating, the only sensation he can still control. He's angry, frustrated, resentful. The tone of his story is set. It charts his life from his early working life post-college, through the jobs he does as a freelance translator, moving from New York to Montreal,
...more
Davidantman
Aug 31, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are currently many B.D.S.M books on the market, due to the vast success of the 'Fifty Shades of Grey' series. However, many of these novels are written by women to fulfil their deepest desires; for example Christian Grey is a good-looking, smooth, well-groomed millionaire that sweeps the heroine (Ana) off her feet. This device has been used from Jane Austen's character of Mr.Darcy, to the millionaire played by Richard Gere in Pretty Woman.

However, as a male reader, I found these characters
...more
Ian Miller
May 28, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
They say the skill of a reviewer is judged by the reviews of that which he does not like. So, with trepidation, I think Clark has nailed this story, which is essentially a third person reminiscence of the life of "He", generally referred to as "K" in the story. Before buying the book, use the "Look inside" feature and read the first excerpt, which involves an elderly K lying in a hospital bed, one wrist broken, and he is using his other hand to masturbate. This should let you know whether the ...more
Reader Favorite
Nov 15, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Reviewed by J. Aislynn d'Merricksson for Readers' Favorite

Wayne Clark’s he & She is a wonderfully introspective novel. Kit Cayman is a middle-aged man whose life has fallen into a soul numbing rut. He is a man going through andropause, the masculine equivalent of menopause. A translator by day and amateur musician in his free time, Kit has reached the point in his life where he questions the choices he has made that led him here. He feels unfulfilled. A chance glimpse of a beautiful young
...more
J Aislynn d'Merricksson
***This book was reviewed for Readers' Favourite.***

Wayne Clark’s he & She is a wonderfully introspective novel. Kit Cayman is a middle-aged man whose life has fallen into a soul numbing rut. He is a man going through andropause, the masculine equivalent of menopause. A translator by day, and amateur musician in his free time, Kit has reached the point in his life where he questions the choices he has made that led him here. He feels unfulfilled.

A chance glimpse of a beautiful young woman
...more
Lynda
Nov 24, 2013 rated it really liked it
Imagine a time in your life when you felt overwhelmed by everything and the feeling of despair laid deep within you, take this impression and multiply it a hundred times, you have now entered Kit Cayman’s life. His despair grew more expansive and became less manageable as he drifted through his life and the only way to alleviate his mind from dwelling on it was through alcohol abuse which further deepened his anguish. “he & She” was an introspective look at a man of 50 years dissatisfied ...more
MzMonka
Jan 30, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
At first glance this book seemed like any run of the mill midlife crisis man looking for something in life. Once I started getting into the book it was more than that, not because this isn’t true but because this story takes you through the entire journey from “death” to “life” and a few other places. I tend to favor books that take place in New York but this is only because it’s my home town. This book was not any different, I could picture the streets, sights and sounds and the author does a ...more
Heather Osborne
Nov 12, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Reviewed on behalf of Readers' Favorite

he & She by Wayne Clark is a curious exploration of one man’s adventure into BDSM as a submissive. Kit Cayman works as a translator from home, making his own hours, and generally avoiding the 9-to-5 rush around. He prefers his life that way, and it suits his needs. An amateur musician as well, Kit often connects with his upstairs neighbor to have ‘jam sessions.’ However, Kit, also known as K, feels his life is missing something. After admitting to his
...more
Kieran
Sep 02, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The opening pages of He & She are breathtakingly remorseful, exploring the last sexual remnants of a man who has lost all but his instinctive need to pleasure himself. At the end of this passage, his nurse sums up the point of the imagery, that in this man’s old age his memories and all else that gave his life meaning has faded. All that remains is his most base ambition.

This is how we are introduced to a novel which explores the needs of the main character, K, to reinvent himself in the
...more
Fav Reads
Nov 15, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Reviewed by Kayti Nika Raet for Readers' Favorite

Wayne Clark's he & She is an intriguing work of literary fiction. It opens with a man on the cusp of death before going back to reveal his journey before that moment. It's almost a reverse coming of age story of the main character, Kit Cayman, who has spent the last fifty years mostly ambling through life, buffeted along by the tides of time that no longer match the idealized version that he had hoped for himself. Numb and lonely, he happens
...more
« previous 1 3 next »
topics  posts  views  last activity   
Shut Up & Read: {Read It & Reap 503} he & She by Wayne Clark 6 125 Dec 13, 2015 12:56AM  
Shut Up & Read: Literary Erotica Available For Review 2 9 Apr 01, 2015 02:18PM  
Goodreads Authors...: Literary Fiction Available For Review 1 17 Mar 01, 2014 09:36AM  
GOOD REVIEWS: Desperately Seeking Reviews 6 62 Jan 02, 2014 11:45AM  
207 followers

Readers Favorite Winner

Wayne Clark is the author of general fiction novel Hollywood via Orchard Street, historical fiction novel That Woman: Beating the odds in Colonial New York, and literary-fiction novel he & She.

Award-winning author Wayne Clark was born in 1946 in Ottawa, Ont., but has called Montreal home since 1968. Woven through that time frame in no particular order have been interludes in Halifax,
...more
No trivia or quizzes yet. Add some now »
“Relationships weren’t ocean liners with stabilizers. They were flimsy affairs. No, they were more dangerous than canoes. They were kayaks, two-seaters that overturned with every careless comment, each intimation of indifference. You spend half the time upside down, under water. It takes a lot of skill to get right-side up before the relationship drowns.” 2 likes
“Then he became an adult, technically at least. And there were moments, danceable ones, but they came farther and farther apart. There were long stretches when life was almost flatlining. Only sex could fine tune the fibrillations of his heart. The pulse would return.” 0 likes
More quotes…