Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad” as Want to Read:
Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad

4.23  ·  Rating Details ·  117 Ratings  ·  32 Reviews
As a teenager growing up in the 1980s, all Jerry Mahoney wanted was a nice, normal sham marriage: 2.5 kids and a frustrated, dissatisfied wife living in denial of her husband s sexuality. Hey, why not? It seemed much more attainable and fulfilling than the alternative coming out of the closet and making peace with the fact that he d never have a family at all.

Twenty years
Hardcover, 296 pages
Published May 8th 2014 by Taylor Trade Publishing
More Details... edit details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about Mommy Man, please sign up.

Be the first to ask a question about Mommy Man

Community Reviews

(showing 1-30)
filter  |  sort: default (?)  |  Rating Details
Drew Tappon
May 06, 2014 Drew Tappon rated it it was amazing

I know, I know -- I'm a biased reviewer since I am lucky enough to be married to the guy who wrote this book -- and I'm, perhaps, a little-too-close-to-the-subject-matter, but I'm also relieved because it just saved me years from having to try (on my own) to recount the story of how we decided to become parents relying on my dim-witted brain. (Jerry is a much more reliable witness to the process.)

I think what Jerry has done was turn a very personal story and elevated it to a big, funny, messy, h
Melissa Klug
Mar 30, 2014 Melissa Klug rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2014, 2014-favorite
Sometimes you get the major win of "the right book at the right time," and for me, this is that book. As I'm currently in the middle of my own surrogacy adventure, this book was perfect for me--BUT I think it's a great read for a wide variety of audiences, and will find fans in people who have no direct ties to a situation like theirs. It is a charming, sweet, and funny story of two dads and their quest to have a family via a surrogate. Mahoney is a great writer, and he manages to find the humor ...more
Apr 02, 2014 Laona rated it it was amazing

Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad by Jerry Mahoney

This book was absolutely wonderful -- it takes an incredibly skilled writer to make us roll on the floor with laughter through the many tense moments along the way to daddy-hood. There are many opportunities to read adoption and surrogacy stories, but this is the first time I wished I could be there with the author and his partner throughout their odyssey. As the Bio/Memoir Collection Development librarian for our lib
Gregory James
May 06, 2014 Gregory James rated it it was amazing
I read this book in two days, and while that may be common for you voracious readers, I usually take two months but I could not put this book down. Somehow Jerry Mahoney manages to balance LOL scenes with tender moments with ease. It really is unlike anything I've read before. Cannot recommend highly enough, and you can thank me after you read for yourself.
Kim Geer-marchetti
Mar 25, 2015 Kim Geer-marchetti rated it it was amazing
I can’t remember the last time that I read a book in two days. I felt a compelling stake in the story since two of its key players are connected to a community that I have spent the last twenty years serving. But this Jerry guy was all new to me. I had been following his hilarious blog “Mommy Man” and could identify with his parenting ups and downs. But in the book, the reader is invited to get to know him on a much more personal level: growing up with him as a teen, seeing him come out of the c ...more
Feb 02, 2014 Louise rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, humor, arc
The title of this book is a bit of a misnomer because it's mostly about how the author's early gay life from coming-out to meeting his current boyfriend to meeting his surrogate and then finally meeting his children. When I read the title, I thought it would be more about the childcare part, but maybe I was wrong.

On a whole, this was an entertaining and enjoyable read. Mahoney has a way with describing people and awkward situations that made me chuckle. Unfortunately, maybe because I'm such a cy
Jennifer Lavoie
This book was simultaneously hilarious and heartbreaking. There were moments I was laughing out loud, and then five sentences later bawling my eyes out. In this absolutely unforgettable book, Jerry Mahoney documents the trials and tribulations he and his partner Drew face when they decide to have children. It's more than that, though. Jerry tells readers briefly about growing up and coming out as gay, meeting Drew, and their journey together. So really, it's a love story. It's a love story betwe ...more
Sep 03, 2016 Melissa rated it it was amazing
Full disclosure: I know these people. I like these people. My daughter adores the children whose conception and birth story is told in this book. All that said, I loved this memoir. From Jerry's no-fireworks coming out story, to dating failures, to meeting and falling for Drew, and finally bringing Sutton and Bennett into the world, the book is incredibly sweet, funny, and candid. I wiped off tears many times. Families come in all shapes and sizes, and they come together in all sorts of differen ...more
May 12, 2014 Kari rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2014
Mommy Man is the story of Jerry and his partner Drew and how they got together and decided they wanted to have kids. They chose surrogacy and I enjoyed the discussion of the fertility issues because I have several friends who have done IUIs and IVF as well as some LGBT friends who have adopted or used sperm donors. The story pretty much ends with the birth, so it’s not about parenting as much as it is about becoming parents. I really did laugh and cry while I was reading it. I read this on Mothe ...more
May 09, 2014 Alina rated it it was amazing
If you thought you knew what it takes to have a child, think again! In his new book, Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad, Jerry Mahoney takes readers inside the lives of modern couples and their struggles to start a family in this day and age. Humorous, yet chock-full of in-depth information, Mommy Man is the must-read for parents-to-be, and for those trying their chance at parenthood. For the intended audience, Mommy Man is the perfect gift for Mother's Day, and any ot ...more
You'll laugh, you'll cry.

I knew how it ended and still, I couldn't put it down, wondering what was going to happen next. Jerry is a great writer and I really enjoyed reading his family's story.

(And as always, I don't give star ratings to books I'm working on.)
Jan 01, 2015 Debby rated it really liked it
Shelves: own, first-reads, 2014
I won this book through Goodreads First Reads program, however, the review is all me.

Jerry Mahoney tells a very serious story, in a not so serious way. While it may have been hard at the time he was living it, he retells the journey he and his partner took in having a child with humor. I've never really wanted children so it was hard for to relate to their yearning, but I enjoyed the book all the same, and it really got me thinking. I pondered the idea of donating eggs after this, to help anothe
Jun 03, 2014 Amber rated it it was amazing
I received a copy of Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad as a part of the LibraryThing Early Reviewers club.

Let me just start by saying I loved this book. It was really fabulous, incredibly funny in some places, incredibly heart-warming in other places.

This is the story of Jerry’s life. It includes small sections on growing up, finding himself, and how he met his partner, Drew. It goes on to include how they decided to become parents, and going through finding a surro
Jul 13, 2014 Emily rated it it was amazing
Haha! Drew's comment-just as I'd imagined. Now onto the review..I love the use of humor throughout. It definitely kept things interesting, and at times I would think to myself "DID THIS REALLY HAPPEN?!" I found myself rooting for these men I don't even know personally, desperately wanting things to work out in their favor. I picked this up at my local library by pure chance and I'm very thankful I got my hands on it. Just from skimming from the first couple of pages, I kind of fell in love with ...more
Jun 01, 2014 Lisa rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
First: I received this book for free through Goodread First Reads

Second: I was excited when I won this book because I am a fan of the author's blog and was really looking forward to reading this story. Having read the blog and knowing there was a (spoiler alert) happy ending helped with some of the more tense nail-biter scenes. Not that you have to have any prior knowledge to enjoy this book! All you need to know is that this book will make you laugh one minute and cry the next. At least thats w
Ashley Jonas
Oct 21, 2014 Ashley Jonas rated it really liked it
This book was adorable! I read it in less than a day. I sometimes like to choose books that are a little out of my usual reads (yoga, personal development, happiness, etc) and this was a great pick. It was a great escape from my regular routine. To be honest, I picked this book off the new shelf at the library because I thought the cover was cute. Kudos to the illustrator! The author did a great job illustrating the difficulties of same-sex parenting, but at the same time keeping it light-hearte ...more
Tommy Paige
May 24, 2014 Tommy Paige rated it it was amazing
It was around 11am when I started reading it... A little over 12 hours later and I had finished. I couldn't put it down. I read so obsessively my son kept sighing in the background. I cried, hyperventilated, felt that pit in your stomach with the bad news, and felt relief with the good news. I laughed so hard I scared my daughter. I went back and reread chapter one out loud to my husband and had him spellbound. Jerry is a fantastic writer with a spellbinding story of love and loss, setbacks and ...more
Debbie Manning
Jun 17, 2014 Debbie Manning rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this book. I was very lucky to win it. The story draws you in, and really makes you care about Jerry and what happens to him. Like everyone else, he has plenty of ups and downs in his life, but what's really special, is the way he handles them. It's a story about a man and his relationships with some very interesting people. His dating stories made me laugh out loud. This really was a "good read".
Sep 01, 2015 Jo rated it it was amazing
Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad is a story that is becoming more common each year as two same-sex partners seek parenthood options. The humor expressed in the book makes it a funny one and one I enjoyed.

My thanks to Jerry Mahoney & Goodreads First Reads Giveaway for my copy of Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superday.
susan gibbs
Apr 02, 2016 susan gibbs rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved it!

I started this book at 5pm and finished at midnight, it's that good. It's an awesome and amazing story of a family happening. I laughed through most of it then it was like I was living it. There's nothing more incredible than parenthood and I was delighted to read the story of Jerry and Drew and their children.
Joe Mastrangelo
Jul 05, 2014 Joe Mastrangelo rated it it was amazing
This book is awesome and hilarious. A true testament to what family is all about, unconditional LOVE. I haven't read a book that pays tribute to the bond of family as much as this since Mario Puzo's, The Godfather.
Jul 17, 2014 Turi rated it it was amazing
Shelves: bio
Absolutely five stars. Hilarious and heartwarming. Made me laugh and choked me up. And Jerry, if you're reading this - all-caps Jessica completely cracked me up. Brilliant.
Dec 21, 2014 Miriam rated it really liked it
Shelves: kids, memoir
Very sweet and lovely.
Aug 18, 2014 Sarah rated it it was amazing
Such a heartwarming and hilarious book. I probably cried through the last 50 pages. A must read.
Dec 31, 2014 C.G. rated it it was amazing
An excellent book for anyone who wants to laugh and cry along with the author's journey through surrogacy. Jerry and his partner Drew had some detours and difficulties on their way to having the children they had never dreamed of as young gay men, but *spoiler alert* they ended up with an adorable set of fraternal twins. The road wasn't easy but Jerry looks back on it with humour and thankfulness.

I highly recommend this book even if you don't have children.
Feb 05, 2016 willowdog rated it liked it
When Dave and Jerry's biological clocks start ticking, they investigate various methods to make their dream of family come true. They choose gestational surrogacy often witty, the trails of the process become very clear.
When Dave and Jerry's biological clocks start ticking, after investigating various methods, they choose gestational surrogacy to make their dream of family come true.
Dec 01, 2015 Bryan rated it liked it
This story was lovely enough for me to overlook the fact that I never quite clicked with the author's sweet yet dorky sense of humor. A fast, touching read. (I had to deduct a star for that "practical joke" at the beginning though-- it was actually pretty offensive and I didn't care for the fact that that went unacknowledged)
Jul 12, 2014 Tienyin rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting, lgbt, surrogacy
A cute book in the theme of Dan Savage's "the kid" and BD Wong's "following foo". Ultimately not as funny as Savage or as heartrending as Wong, but still a really good read and an interesting account of yet another way families are made.
Feb 20, 2016 Lindsey rated it liked it
3.5 stars. Pretty good, but got pretty long. I really thought more would be about after the kids were born.
Jeny Quine
Jul 12, 2014 Jeny Quine rated it it was amazing
A wonderful book for anyone who has taken the crazy journey to parenthood, no matter what path you chose - traditional or non-traditional. Funny and touching!
« previous 1 3 4 next »
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Be the first to start one »
  • Wonderland
  • Body Counts: A Memoir of Politics, Sex, AIDS, and Survival
  • Mordred and the King
  • Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is
  • Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?: Confessions of a Gay Dad
  • The Twilight Gods
  • A Matter of Disagreement (Mechanical Universe #1)
  • Bending The Iron
  • Lake Thirteen
  • Ink & Flowers
  • Journey's End (The Harvest #2)
  • Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son
  • The Good Shufu: Finding Love, Self, and Home on the Far Side of the World
  • In and Out (Men of Smithfield, #4)
  • By the Creek
  • Where's Wally? The Totally Essential Travel Collection
  • My Mantelpiece: A Memoir of Survival and Social Justice
  • Portside
Jerry Mahoney is an award-winning comedy writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times and Westchester Magazine and on the Lifetime Moms website. He’s the author of the popular parenting blog Mommy Man: Adventures of a Gay Superdad, which was named one of the Top 10 Humor Blogs by He lives in New Rochelle, New York with his husband, Drew, and . . . well, the rest is quite a stor ...more
More about Jerry Mahoney...

Share This Book

“I read my email aloud to hear how it sounded, then I read it again in a British accent to make sure it didn’t come across as pretentious.” 4 likes
More quotes…