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Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love So Much More

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In a landmark book, an extraordinary young woman recounts her coming-of-age as a transgender teen—a deeply personal and empowering portrait of self-revelation, adversity, and heroism.In 2011, Marie Claire magazine published a profile of Janet Mock in which she publicly stepped forward for the first time as a trans woman. Since then, Mock has gone from covering the red carp ...more
ebook, 288 pages
Published February 4th 2014 by Atria Books (first published February 1st 2014)
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Max Harmony "Cis" just means non-trans; it's preferred because it discusses people in terms of who they are rather than who they are not.

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Raymond J
Feb 20, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I'm not the biggest fan of memoirs per se, and many trans memoirs are pretty dry, redundant, and focused on white trans men. I even *am* a white trans man but most of them exhausted me. I transitioned about 14 years ago, have worked around the queer community for nearly 20 years, and have recently felt a bit jaded and exhausted by the work. But in the past year, Janet Mock has really exploded into the cultural landscape and I couldn't be more grateful for the passion, kindness, and strength she' ...more
Wart Hill
A beautifully written, achingly honest story of one woman's struggle to understand, achieve, and own her truth.

Janet Mock, I salute your courage and your honesty. Thank you for writing this. I hope your story reaches Trans people - and especially Trans women - everywhere.
É O'Conghaile
May 05, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2014
Note: It has been three years since I read and reviewed this book. Re-reading my review and the comments now, I think there are a couple points where I was bit too relentlessly critical, even a bit petty. For the most part I still hold my disagreements and opposition. But for context, I would like to add that at time of reading, I was homeless. And the best thing people could offer me were useless transgender memoirs, rather than something practical to me like money and safe housing. Part of my ...more
Tori (InToriLex)
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We can all benefit from educating ourselves more about what it means to a Trans person in our society. Janet details her evolution from being a boy who knows she's a girl, to living in her truth and learning what that is. It was really jarring to imagine having to hide facets of your personality, because society doesn't believe you should have them. The violence that is committed against Trans people shows the high intolerance our society has for differen
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Carol.
Mar 29, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: autobiography fans
Recommended to Carol. by: Janet
I’ve been interested in this book ever since hearing Janet Mock talk on The Colbert Report (segment here). I loved her willingness to laugh at herself, her attempts to focus the disconcerting Colbert, her willingness to articulate identity issues on a show that specializes in sarcasm. Only in her late twenties, she’s written the story of her process of gender identity to date in Redefining Realness, an autobiography that is occasionally as telling for what is included as minimized.

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Danika at The Lesbrary
This would actually make a great introductory book if you want to learn more about trans issues or want to give it to someone you know. Mock is careful to explain concepts and doesn't assume the reader is familiar with vocabulary or basic premises. It's also, of course, well written and honest even in extremely vulnerable, difficult moments. Definitely recommended.
The FountainPenDiva, Old school geek chick and lover of teddy bears
This is a story of triumph over adversity. Of being true to one's self in a culture that devalues the lives of ALL black women. Mock stands tall, shines bright and demands RESPECT. If that bothers you, well, go read Fifty Shades of Grey.
Diana
Aug 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Fantastic memoir of a woman who was confident in her gender identity from a young age but struggled with family dysfunction, poverty, gender dysphoria and racism. Am absolutely brilliant study of trans living in the United States. I learnt a lot about trans phobia, appropriate language and everyday acceptance.
Spider the Doof Warrior
Read this book. It tells about Janet Mock's journey to self acceptance and womanhood. The way her family learned to cope. She realized she was different from an early age. Her family tried to stop her from being feminine, especially her father. She tried to repress it to be the perfect son, but it didn't work.

Soon she was able to get hormones and get closer to who she really is. It's interesting to finally see a book from a transgender perspective instead of a parent or a sibling bemoaning the l
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Karina
Jul 03, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It was great getting to know someone I admire so much on a deeper level. An incredibly raw story of finding one's own most authentic self.
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Janet Mock is a writer, TV host and advocate whose work has appeared in Marie Claire, The New Yorker, and Lenny. With a Masters in journalism from New York University, the Honolulu native worked as an editor at People.com, produced HBO’s The Trans List, hosted a series of specials for MSNBC, and appeared on OWN’s Super Soul Sunday. Oprah Winfrey has called her a “fearless new voice” and “trailblaz ...more
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“I believe that telling our stories, first to ourselves and then to one another and the world, is a revolutionary act. It is an act that can be met with hostility, exclusion, and violence. It can also lead to love, understanding, transcendence, and community. I hope that my being real with you will help empower you to step into who you are and encourage you to share yourself with those around you.” 41 likes
“I’ve heard parents say all they want is “the best” for their children, but the best is subjective and anchored by how they know and learned the world.” 33 likes
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