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No Tears for My Father: A true story of incest

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Trapped in a web of deceit and confusion spun by her father from the age of 11, the author shares her true story of incest in the hopes that by coming out from under years of sexual abuse, other victims will be encouraged to do the same. This is an important, no-holds-barred book complete with graphic scenes and language because "that’s the way it happened and that’s how i ...more
Paperback, 1st, 291 pages
Published July 29th 2013 by Viga Boland
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Melissa Foley
Aug 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
"Your book was amazing. I was enthralled, in tears, near vomiting, and happy. Your book had me right there with you. I felt every hit. I cried when you were crying. Amazing Viga, amazing"

Probably THE best book I've read in a long time; Viga Boland captures your heart right from the first page with her satire of an old woman in an oversized parka. What follows next is indescribable as a reader and MUST be seen/read first hand. In this thoughtful, difficult to say the least, written memoir Viga ta
Heather Lamb
Aug 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Women, men, parents, therapists
Recommended to Heather by: Victoria Boland
Our minds don't easily process depravity, but Viga Boland takes us there in her heart and gut-wrenching memoir and haunting poetry of incest and abuse in "No Tears for my Father". Her goal is to teach us to see what we don't want to see and moreover, to do something about it. Viga encourages us, with raw honesty and without self-pity, to speak up and root out these sadistic psychopaths who operate behind a veil of secrecy and an illusion of decency. She takes us right there--and then lifts us ba ...more
Sep 28, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction

Viga Boland is an online friend that I met because we are both advocates for ourselves and for other survivors of incest. When I heard that Viga was writing her memoir, No Tears for my Father: a true story of incest, I told her I wanted to read it and would do a book review afterwards.

As Viga says on the back of her book " 'Victims' own voices are the best weapons against child sexual abuse.' " In some ways, Viga tells my story. In others, Viga's story is distinctly her own and no one else's, as
Kate Walker
Aug 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Honestly Unforgettable
You might forget a few of the books you pick up this year. But you won’t forget this one. No Tears For My Father is a true story of child abuse, written with an honesty almost as unbelievable as the story itself. As I read, I kept wanting this story not to be true. But truth has its own ring that writers of fiction cannot achieve.
Author, Viga Boland, tells of thirteen years of her life from childhood to young womanhood, during which time she was abused by her father almost
Samreen Ahsan
Oct 29, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: e-library
There're some books which you can never get over with. I believe 'No Tears for my father' is one of them. Every night I read a few chapters and kept wondering that it all 'actually' happened to someone. I'd have forgotten it after a few months if I had known this book was fiction but the sad part is, it actually happened to someone - someone who had the courage to survive after so many years - someone who was brave enough to run down that scary memory lane again to write everything - and someone ...more
Joe Anne
Aug 24, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: All victims of sexual abuse
Viga Boland has finally told her captivating tale of the fear and shame felt by untold millions of girls around the world. Incest is a heinous crime that has been kept hidden throughout history. The monster perpetrators have been protected because the people around them refuse to face the truth. They are more concerned about their own dignity than they are about the victim who is helpless, frightened, confused, hurt, and ashamed.

As Viga told her story, it took me back in time to when I was a gir
Aug 20, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
This book is a powerhouse of emotion. I have read many, many books in my life, but there have been just a small number that I was so drawn to that I had to keep reading without putting them down even once; this is one of those jewels. I was drawn to Viga's story not only by the complete honesty in the sharing of this deep and painful part of her life, but also by her ability to draw me into her story as if I was living her life right along with her. As I read along, I was her. I felt her fear, h ...more
Bonnie Virag
Jan 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Bonnie by: A friend
The author’s heart wrenching story of sexual abuse – by the very person whose role in life is to protect and keep her from harm; is none other than her father. It is difficult to comprehend how a loving father – during his daughter’s childhood, suddenly turns into a sex-crazed monster when she enters puberty, completely destroying any vestige of self-respect and pride she has for herself. Just when she is ready to blossom into a young lady, he crushes the life out of her. It is mind boggling the ...more
Billy Morgan
Aug 11, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I am the first male reader to review “No Tears for My Father” on this page. I’m sure any other male who appreciates a true, superbly written, powerful human interest story would find the book as difficult to put down as I did. After receiving it by post yesterday lunchtime I finished reading the book this morning at 4 a.m., unable to sleep until I had read to the end.
Not only should the general public find the book absorbing but it should be very helpful to readers who suffered the psychological
Jenny Hayworth
Sep 30, 2014 rated it it was amazing
A raw honest telling by the author of a childhood lived in fear suffering sexual abuse from her father and her whole life controlled by him until the day she was loved enough to walk away. My heart ached for her as I related at times to the all too familiar disgusting toilet dreams and the all engulfing shame and self blame. The telling of survivors stories is so important so that other survivors can feel less shame when they see put into print that which may have been too scary to acknowledge a ...more
Melanie Mcnamara
Aug 02, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Having met the author of this amazingly painful makes it possible to believe that people can heal after being physically and emotionally tortured for years by the person who promises to love them and take care of them. Viga shines ....her smile and her beautiful personality helps to erase the discomfort that you feel reading about the horrific childhood that she had. Seeing her today makes me believe that survival is possible for any injustice that we experience in our life. Childhood ...more
Lee Anne
Nov 15, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I couldn't stop reading this book. All the while I was waiting for Viga to finally have her say, to have a voice. I was hoping someone would help her...This is a powerful story, heartrending but inspiring at the same time. Many people may want to read this book in order to really understand the tremendous courage incest survivors must have in order to survive and to make a new life. The intermittent poetry is piercing and somehow reassuring at the same time. I am grateful that the author shared ...more
Nov 30, 2013 rated it it was amazing
First of all I loved reading this book! It shows how such things as incest and abuse are happening in today's society and how no one wants to speak up on it. It was truly inspirational to me that Viga was able to open up and write something so personal for all to see. It made me feel as though I couldn't put it down, it was so raw and it sent chills down my spine as I read it. I couldn't wait to turn to the next page and finish the book all the while hoping that it wasn't true. If you haven't re ...more
Jessica Snyder hannie
Sep 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I'm truly thankful for this book. Viga writes about the raw, ugly realness of incest and abuse. She gave us, as victims/survivors, the ability to realize that our stories can and should be shared in the hopes of healing and inspiring others. This is a book for those sweet souls who have been abused AND for people who have not experienced abuse. Viga has shattered her silence and found her voice magnificently, and my prayer is that all victims/survivors may follow in her footsteps!! You are a tru ...more
Sherri Goldberg
Aug 22, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Just finished reading Viga Boland's book No Tears For My Father. OMG. Brutally honest...couldn't put it're an inspiration...without you I never would have gone public with my own story of incest. Thank you for being so courageous & brave. Thank you for being a mentor & someone I look up to. Btw, I love the photos of you & your family! I strongly recommend all survivors to read this book!
Zarae Kilanatlar
Jul 10, 2014 rated it it was amazing
As hard as it is to read (because of the topic and how close it hits personally) it is worth reading. The courage of the author to share her dark secret and her skill to put it words is inspiring. and as she also puts it, survivors are the best against the battle of abuse.
Cyndi Ingle
Sep 10, 2013 rated it it was amazing
How does a woman maintain her sanity and self-esteem and survive years of unspeakable mental, physical and sexual abuse by the very person who is supposed to care for her and guide her development into a healthy adult? Where does she find the inner strength to face her painful past, and to start an online support group for other survivors of incest? What leads this same powerhouse of a woman to write her first book, describing the abuse in graphic and heartbreaking detail?

In the case of Hamilton
Jul 14, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is the most poignant story I have ever read and I will never forget it. Viga writes so well and so realistically that I felt as though I was right there with her through every imaginable emotion.

And although her despicable father brainwashed her into thinking she was ugly, she was and is a beautiful woman. Her pictures as a child, then as an adolescent, and finally a young woman show her beauty shining through in spite of the devastating life she lived behind closed doors as her father sat
Mary Graziano
Oct 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Viga Boland presents to us No Tears For My Father, a true story of incest. Her memoir about the life she endured, the secrets that were kept about the incest, abuse and cruelty that took place by the hands of her so called “father” a Jekyll and Hyde personality, a “typical” family life that everyone thought they led. Who would have guessed the secrets that she had hid inside herself.
As I read through Viga’s book, I had to stop reading it and put it down, because I could relate to things said and
Oct 02, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I took 2 days to read this personally autographed book of a friends tragic childhood.I have to say that Day1 was pretty tough,I was brought to tears after relating SO much with Viga's younger years,so much so that I had to write them down...from Pages 1-147 it was like she was writing MY story of sexual abuse...only difference was that I had multiple abusers from my grandfather,step-father,his son & even my mother til I was 10,to my father,2 brothers,uncle & mother's boyfriends til I was ...more
Debbie Turner
Sep 19, 2013 rated it it was amazing
The day my copy of this incredible story arrived, I unwrapped it from it's package and immediately my eyes fell upon the inscription on the inside cover. A personal thank you from the author herself. Viga Boland is a beautiful woman "inside and out" and shares her story from a place deep within her heart and soul. I could not put this book down until I was finished reading it in it's entirety. It just happened that it was a rainy, cold and gloomy day when I broke the spin on my copy and that set ...more
Daliah Husu
Mar 26, 2016 rated it it was amazing
No Tears for My Father A true story of incest by Viga Boland

“"No Tears for My Father" is a continual emotional journey that keeps the reader engaged from beginning to end.”

-Daliah Husu-
(Author of “I Am Woman: Surviving the Past, the Present, & the Future”)

Rarely will you encounter a book that can make you feel a character’s every emotion so candidly and vividly, as Viga Boland’s "No Tears for My Father". From the start, Boland draws the reader into the heartbreaking and brutal reality that is her life as a young girl and as a young adult. Throughout
Going into this book I knew I wouldn't like it. Because how could one like a story like this? The content of this book is so tragic that the rating system on Goodreads doesn't fit at all. How can I say that a book about someone's suffering is amazing? Knowing these things actually happened to someone, I can't just stash it away in my bookcase and rate it a "good read". This book is so far from "good", it is so much more than that.

After reading this I feel like I wanna cry for forever more, and
Cheri Arlenghi
Jun 03, 2014 rated it it was amazing

Cheri Arlenghi

Hi Viga.

Well, where do I start and what do I say? I read your book over two nights, crying as I read it. I don't want to patronise you or make you think I pity you, but what an incredible person you are! How you found the strength to write about your experiences, I will never know, but maybe it was cathartic in a way. I am just so pleased that you found John and are spending so many happy years together.

I worked with a young man, ******, who had been sexually abused by his father,
Paula Turner
Jun 30, 2015 rated it it was amazing
"No Tears For My Father" is a testament to the human spirit. Not only, is it a compelling read filled with graphic details of Viga's sexual, mental and spiritual abuse at the hands of her monstrous father for over 11 years, but it is a memoir which also offers hope to all those who have experiencd such shameful torment. Viga held her secret for forty years until, encouraged by her family to write this important work. It is only in reading "No Tears For My Father", that one is left incredulous th ...more
Michelle Randall
Reviewed for Readers Favorite.

No Tears For My Father is a non-ficton book, and that being said there are some readers that can not handle the subject matter of the book. Viga Boland recounts her life with an abusive father, not only physically but sexually as well. She does not sugar coat the truth, but she does not get graphic just to sell books either. She walks a very fine line between the truth and reality, and she does so very well. This book follows her from her earliest memories until she
Christine Larsen
Feb 25, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Viga Boland's passionate words describing her sad and terrible journey through her 'growing-up' years, creating an amazing depth and breadth of feelings in her reader's heart and soul.
There is overwhelming sadness that incest and this kind of emotional and physical brutality can exist, hidden beneath such outward charm and seeming affability of the perpetrator.
There is a feeling of great awe that anyone can survive with any semblance of sanity or ability to live any kind of life at all. And ext
Dawn McCarthy
Aug 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Viga IS Beautiful....inside and out!
This book is an amazing example of the strength of the human spirit. The author's almost conversational tone in the book makes you feel that much closer to her and therefore the reader feels even more outrage and sadness for little Viga. I don't think I have read a book where I have felt like I really know the author, that is how much she leaves bare. Her tone in addition to her photos and poetry accomplished that 'I feel like I know her' feeling. Many times,
Aug 24, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I am a big fan. This book was a roller coaster of emotions. I was enthralled and captivated with one quality, Viga possesses, sheer strength. There is nothing better to heal a broken heart or shattered spirit than by being honest with every detail, good or bad, which we experience. There are no good reasons under the sun to protect evil. I was so proud of Viga when she gathered enough inner strength to face her father. I am a firm believer that we are all equal when it comes to our feelings. we ...more
Rebecca Blissett
Nov 17, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I fully intended to put this book down and go to sleep, instead it is nearly 230am and I am writing a review. This book was painfully honest in places with the portrayal of the abuse that occured, but anything less would have belittled and diminished the horrific experience that Viga endured.
The tears flowed as I looked at the stunning young woman cutting her wedding cake, tears from relief that she was finally free from her father, and tears for the young woman who could not see herself as bea
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No Tears for My Father (3 books)
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