Unremarried Widow: A Memoir
I didn't intend to read Artis Henderson's memoir in one sitting, but it commands that much attention.
An unflinching account of married life in the armed forces, Henderson's book shows what it's like to love, and lose, someone whose life is not entirely their own.
Artis was hyper-educated and slightly cynical about love when she met Miles at a joint called the Library, but found herself quickly enamored. She was a feminist with big dreams; he was a Republican and a pilo ...more
What is perhaps most remarkable about Henderson’s memoir is that she keeps you reading with bated breath even th ...more
Artis Henderson's husband, Miles, a soldier on deployment in Iraq, loses his life in 2006 when his Apache helicopter crashes. What grabbed me was the title and it's image, seeing Artis not as a young ...more
I can't quite put my finger on why I'm disappointed with this book. From the description, you expect it will be sad: A newlywed Army wife loses her husband in the war. The death of the pilot soldier recalls the death of her pilot father when she was 5. Her widowhood recalls that of her mother. I was hesitant to read this book, because I thought it would make me weep. But I felt no urge to cry. I spent more time trying to figure out why the couple got together in the first place, and why/how they...more
Category – Memoir Publication Date – January 07, 2014
This is a book that should be given out by our military to all women who have lost their husbands, sons, and boyfriends in the service of their country.
Artis Henderson met her husband, Miles, when she needed to add meaning and purpose to her life. Miles was in flight school for the Apache helicopter and would be deployed to Iraq at the completion of his schooling. Artis ...more
"Unremarried Widow" is an unrelenting love story. The courtship and marriage of Artis and Miles Henderson is the stuff of which dreams are made. Poignant, vivid, engaging. "Miles, a man of gentleness and courage, whose goodness emanated from him like heat." A compelling look at military life -- the moves, the friends, the time-fillers, the homesickness, the loneliness.
And then grief. "Good grief"? There is no ...more
The basics: After surviving the plane crash that killed her father when she was 5, Artis Henderson recounts losing her husband during a helicopter crash in the Iraq War.
My thoughts: I'm a huge fan of The New York TimesModern Love column. When I heard Artis Henderson, whose Modern Love column I cried throughout, published a memoir expanding on the topic of losing her husband, I knew I wanted to read it, even if war widow memoirs aren't ty ...more
Artis and Miles meet in a very conventional way,at a club. At first sight the attraction between them was evident. They do the usual dancing,flirting,and the first awkward kiss. It was no looking back after that.
Army life proved to be stressful in their lives, moving from here to there. But their biggest challenge came when Miles was deployed to Iraq. Despite his excellent t ...more
This non-fiction story of love and loss is written by a woman who the Army didn't come naturally to, a woman who loved a man. Despite his job. (In fact, she REPEATEDLY referred to the army posts as "bases." C'mon! Get it right! My army wife brain screamed at her each time. Whatever).
I'm somewhere between crazy Angela Ricketts from "No Man's War" and this memoir.
I love my husband of 12 years more than the army. And I can ...more
I received Un-remarried Widow as a ARC from Goodreads.
I was so excited when it arrived in the mail.
As the sister of two soldiers,and the close life long friend of another I knew that the story would not only appeal to me, but that I would immediately care for the real "characters".
I always enjoy reading someones memoir. I like to step inside of their life and to learn how they made their way through their grief, triumphs, problems and journeys. Th ...more
For 5 minutes and $5, a psychic forecast that Artis should "pack her cowboy boots because her life and love would be out West."
Aris was a free spirited, wanna be writer, who wanted to travel the world She met Miles Henderson at a club in Tallahassee, Florida. He was an Army pilot learning how to fly helicopters and to protect his country. They traveled together from Army camp to Army camp and got married three years later. Deployed to I ...more
In 1985 Atis was severely hurt in an airplane accident that claimed the life of her father. What she couldn't understand as a child was why her mother seemed to make her father disappear, giving away a ...more
As Henderson states in the beginning of her book, the story is told through her own eyes, to the best of her ability. Of course, all of us tell our stories that way - we see the world as we are, not as it is, so the famous quote goes. I do believe that she absolutely adored her husband and was completely in love with him. Though they seemed to have little in common, they clicked a ...more
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However as time went on I sensed a lot of selfishness: wanting to move in separate locations only months into marriage, her regret of not getting a life she chose, and a complete shutdown with her friend Teresa sought help in discovering if their husbands death was wrongly classified.
I could've also done without the frequent generic a ...more
I get many ARCs at conferences and most I read and pass along, but this one I plan to keep and read again.
In the book, Artis refers repeatedly to her dream of becoming a writer. Well, this memoir certainly proves that she is one and that she h ...more
Artis and Miles Henderson, an Army pilot, were just beginning their lives together when tragedy struck. All was not idyllic -- Artis was having trouble adjusting to Army life and beginning to wonder whether she'd made a mistake. But in her grief, Artis feels again, this time painfully, the love she always had for her husband and the promise of their life together, now forever g ...more
Miles enlisted in the Army because he wanted to protect his country; he stayed and did his job through the roughest times because if he didn’t do it ...more
This is her memoir, told her way, and I respect that, but I found myself with a lot of unanswered questions/ gaps in the story. There were many times when someone or some event would be mentioned and seem significant, but then we never heard about that person/ event again. (What ha ...more
BookPage Review by Kelly Blewett
Unremarried Widow describes the heart-rending love affair between the author and her military husband, Miles, who died in a horrific helicopter crash while serving overseas. It’s obviously a sad story, and Artis Henderson wisely chooses not to tell it in chronological order. Her narrative begins in the early days of their marriage, then lurches forward to the accident, then back to their meeting, and then even further back to an ai ...more