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Las Cuatro Estaciones del Matrimonio

3.93  ·  Rating details ·  2,072 ratings  ·  226 reviews
"Especialmente dirigido a Matrimonios que desean fortalecer su relacion." Gary Chapman utiliza el concepto de las cuatro estaciones para que una pareja pueda observar su relacion e identificar factores que pudieran ser utilizados para mejorar su matrimonio. Las estaciones no son etapas cronologicas sino momentos en la mente y el corazon de la pareja durante su vida al expe ...more
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Published April 22nd 2013 by Tyndale House Publishers (first published August 22nd 2005)
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May 25, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book has good intentions and an interesting premise, but I didn't really care for it. I found it simplistic, overly-optimistic, and glossing over addictions and abuse as if they were easily overcome with kind words and a cheerful attitude. Perhaps I am a pessimist, but I don't think addictions and abuse can be vanquished by false smiles and feigned words of love. Where serious issues exist, I really don't think the advice in this book should be applied. Granted, I skipped sections that bugg ...more
Aug 07, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
When the book suggested that certain marriages were in “winter” because Satan had been allowed to enter the relationship through the mechanism of premarital sex, I could no longer justify wasting my time on it.
Solid book on strengthening marriage using the metaphors of marriage seasons and a "love tank." The author of this book also wrote The Five Love Languages which he gives a quick overview of here.

Great book with a lot of practical wisdom without delving too deeply into one area. It is faith-based, and Gary is assertive enough about his faith that those that don't share his view may not be able to get past that to the lessons. But if you're a Christian, or able to read about Christian values with
Jul 24, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Publisher: Hey Gary, it looks like The 5 Love Languages of Your Goldfish is going to be a flop. Got any other money-making marriage metaphors we can saturate the market with?

Gary Chapman: Well, I have been thinking about how marriage goes through stages like the four seasons—

Publisher: *cha-ching!* Go on.

Chapman: —But it’s not a fully fleshed out idea yet.

Publisher: That doesn’t matter. We need to get this pushed out quick. What have you got so far?

Chapman: Well, I really only have the idea of t
Sep 23, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned
I found the "theme" of the book to be a bit weak and the beginning meh, but once he got to the relationship principles he was teaching it was very good. ...more
Apr 04, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a quick listen.

He also is the author of the 5 Love Languages books.

The advice given is pretty helpful in theory - implementation isn't something I can speak to yet. But there are a number of things I am going to try.

Marriages either grow or regress, they do not stand still

7 strategies for enriching your marriage:
1) Deal with past failures
2) Choose a winning attitude
3) Learn to speak your spouse’s love language
4) Develop the awesome power of empathetic listening
5) Discover the joy o
Jan 23, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a really good book on marriage. It acknowledges God's desire for people to have a good marriage (first of all) and how He has crafted each of us differently and how we should capitalize on those differences. It is good to see things that can strengthen a marriage. Chapman's approach is also that each spouse can have a positive influence on the other and that, no matter what has happened in the past, we each have a role in having a successful marriage. It really was a book encouraging he ...more
Jun 12, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I picked up this book during the $.99-$2.99 sale recently, and thought it might be interesting, particularly given its many good reviews. I had no idea at the time that it was a Christianity-based guide to marriage, so imagine my shock at the first reference to Satan entering a couple's relationship! That worldview pervades the book, so if you're a Christian, this may be the marriage book for you. While many of the overarching concepts are certainly applicable to any marriage, I found ...more
Sep 01, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone
I love this author. He makes it seem easy to be married and with 40 plus years of marriage it's someone I feel good about taking advice from. The strategies were practical and easy - my first one to take is empathetic listening. When did I forget to stop listening to my husband? If you liked the Five Languages of Love this is another book to read by the same author. ...more
Dec 30, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The imagery of the four seasons as stages in relationships is easy to remember and visualize. However, the advice in this book is so deeply embedded in Christian thought that it is likely to alienate couples who don't share the same beliefs. There are no same-sex couples mentioned and there are often remarks such as "Satan is in our relationship" or "God gave me this great marriage" that didn't really resonate with me. ...more
Kari Yergin
Jun 06, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio
Not bad for a marriage book!

Step 1. Deal with past failures. Identify,
Spoke harshly, made him feel bad, withdrew, Tell the children that you are working on your marriage and you want them to tell you about times they remembered when I was speaking harshly or doing unloving things that didn’t improve our marriage. Then ask my parents individually. don’t be defensive, listen and write it down and thank them for their honesty.
Then list all the ways he has hurt you. Starting first with an admissio
Natalie Jade
The four seasons of marriage is simply phenomenal. I will be buying it for the 3 weddings I'm going to this year, and any future weddings. A must read for anybody who wants a person in their life, married or not.

Gary Chapman has the experience, learned wisdom, and self reflection to be able to explain these beautiful and important concepts necessary for a healthy relationship.

He gives actionable steps and plenty of examples to ensure that there are no questions remaining. Chapman is certainly re
Mar 26, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was certainly the best of the books I've read lately. The four seasons your marriage goes through, really made a lot of sense to me, especially when you realize that is the way of things, it can't be summer all the time. The book had practical advice on how to bring the spring back into your marriage and I found them very helpful. The example relationships in the book were spot on when it comes to "real" marriage and the joys and frustrations associated with it.

I'd highly recommend this boo
E Way
May 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: relationships
A great Christian book about loving your spouse, and indeed CHOOSING to love your spouse. Loved the analogies of "seasons" to mark periods in a marriage in which emotions (both positive and negative) ebb and flow.

Gary Chapman persuasively outlines for anyone seeking guidance in this book, the four seasons of marriage and the seven strategies for enhancing the quality of marital interactions. So this book is not just idealistic, it aims to give practical guidance to troubled spouses all around.

Veronica Foley
Jun 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Another great book from Gary Chapman. He is good at softening the heart and encouraging healthy communication in relationships. He also lets you know it is okay to fail, and says to keep trying. He uses excellent examples and great metaphors. I definitely recommend this book! I listened to the audiobook. It was short and I think it will be helpful.
stephanie ✿
Nov 23, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was a quick listen and offered some beautiful advice on how to work with your spouse through the different seasons of your marriage. I'm not even married, but the advice this gave on how to come together and speak with one another was valuable for any intimate relationship.

Gary Chapman is a PASTOR. I'm a bit boggled at the reviews complaining that Christian ideals were mentioned frequently throughout the book. Yeah, dude. A pastor is going to make connections between marriage and what
Mark Heywood
Apr 02, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-improvement
One of the better books on the subject that I have read. Basic formula is to break marriage out into four states using the seasons as an analogy for each stage. Then the author provides a number of strategies. The strategies are pretty basic, but this is what this type of book does, remind you of the basic logical steps to solve your issues that for most of us we can't see when in the middle of our issues. I would recommend this book for someone who is at any stage of marriage (good or bad). It ...more
May 10, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
First off- Why read a book about marriage even if you have a happy marriage? Because marriage is something you can constantly work at and get better at just like you would with anything else that you do. Secondly- Does this book accomplish this goal? Maybe, not so much. While the author does give good advice and I have enjoyed his series of books on the Five Love Languages, his advice is lost in this book due to the endless string of examples he gives from couples he has counseled. Yes, some exa ...more
Sharyn L.
I think the basic messages that there may be "seasons" in a marriage, how to identify those "seasons", and how to build a better marriage are good. However, Dr. Chapman is an evangelical pastor and that is reflected throughout the book. However, it is a fairly quick listen and easy to understand. I've been married over 35 years (to the same person) and I felt there were some things I could learn.

If you are not familiar with the concepts of "Love Languages" it would be well worth your time to rea
H.M. Gooden
Jan 14, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was an interesting audiobook, although I found some of it was repetitive from reading the five love languages first. Full of practical advice, there is a strong Christian emphasis which some may appreciate or find uncomfortable but the examples given were not specific to people of any religious persuasion necessarily.
Garima Sharma
Sep 12, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Enlightening. Handy guide for newly weds.
Aug 16, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: religious-misc, self
There is a lot of useful information here, though a little is repeated (necessarily, I believe) from the 5 Love Languages. What I appreciate about Chapman is that he is not self-promoting. He's also willing to admit his is a marriage in progress. I loved when he mentioned that God is the author of diversity, and diversity (opposites) in a marriage are good. We are intended to enjoy/celebrate our spouse's differences, and when we change our attitudes to do that, our marriage will flourish. I shou ...more
There was some repetitive aspects in this read. Most of the stories used, was a useful tool to understand the seasons; however, most of them were quite a bore for my liking. There are some relationships that suffer from some type of abuse such as verbal, sexual, etc. and I believe this book tried to stay picture-perfect with minor issues shared and that needed to be worked on.

Repeated aspects: one partner may not read or attend marriage counseling, seminars, or read literature throughout most o
Joyce Day
I’m almost halfway through this book and, up til now, would have given it a 4 star rating. It uses the seasons of the year to help you understand where your marriage is right now and offers good suggestions for overcoming problems to move toward a better relationship. Even though I’m not married, I found much of the information and ideas helpful in other relationships. But then I came to the place where the author recommends asking your children for help in developing a list of your spouse’s pos ...more
May 08, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
If you've been cheated on and are looking for good practical advice, do not pass/go, read ChumpLady's blog ( or book (Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide). This book glosses over the magnitude of that kind of betrayal and gives counterproductive advice.

Some of this advice is okay, but only if you squint. If you're a fairly well-rounded and emotionally intelligent person coupled with the same, there's not much this book can teach you.

Full dis
Sheila Guevin
Apr 07, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Chapman always brings a new perspective to the table on the topic of relationships and love.

In this book, he addresses four seasons of marriage and our ability to slide in and out of any season.

Winter is a time in which the relationship is dieing. Here it takes a mutual effort to move into another season.

Spring is the starting over period.

Summer is the season in which there is much harmony love and joy.

Fall, things are starting to fall apart. The interesting thing about the fall season is that i
Oct 21, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooks, 2019
If you are a devout Christian you may like this book better than I did. While I absolutely loved The Five Love Languages and knew Chapman himself was quite devout, I felt The Five Love Languages works even if you are not; I don’t think that is the case here. I listened to the audiobook, but imagine that God or Jesus is mentioned on every page and faith and religion are an integral part for Chapman in working on a marriage (which I disagree with: I think it is completely possible to have a good m ...more
Rosa Sealy
All the typical trappings of a self-help book: never-ending cross-promotion of seminars & previous books: silly examples: and overly simplistic tips. It seems like he's talking to housewives and their football-watching husbands. It's easy to write off the steps because the examples are so unrealistic and nonrelatable however there are a ton of hidden gems. Some are extremely hard such as love your spouse despite them not being loving to you. I imagine most people reading this book are in the Win ...more
Gloria T
Jan 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really liked his marriage book and the strategies presented. I have been married for a little over nineteen years and am always learning about how to enrich my marriage. I like how the author realized there could be ups and downs in marriage and gave some good principles to follow to get it on the right path. I especially found these chapters helpful: Choose a Winning Attitude, Develop the Power of Empathetic Listening, and Maximize Your Differences. I think if all the strategies in this book ...more
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Married more than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr. Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over forty years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The 5 Love Languages®: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Millions of readers credit t ...more

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