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The Longest Date: Life as a Wife

3.48  ·  Rating details ·  715 ratings  ·  135 reviews
The bestselling author of The Between Boyfriends Book and an award-winning writer for Sex and the City and Modern Family takes a hilarious, heartbreaking look at marriage

Cindy Chupack has spent much of her adult life writing about dating and relationships for several hit TV series and as a sex columnist for O, The Oprah Magazine. At the age of thirty-nine, she finally
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published January 2nd 2014 by Viking
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Colby Devitt
Feb 12, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I never thought I’d meet another woman who admitted to being bored at the Olympics of sexual gymnastics – a Ping-Pong sex show in Thailand. (I refer you to her hilarious chapter “I Find My Husband Rappelling.”) The genius of Cindy Chupack is that she makes you feel like she’s your best and funniest friend. She takes you through the highs and lows of her early married life – the initial romance, the adventure travel, health scares, money issues and the aching pain of infertility (and the “trying ...more
Dec 08, 2013 rated it really liked it
It's worth noting that I started reading this book without any prior knowledge of who Cindy Chupack is and how prolific she is. Chupack makes some assumptions that the reader does know about her background and drops some allusions to her impressive resume (Sex & The City?!). It was a nice surprise to discover that my new girlfriend (for that's how it feels to read her writing) was also famous and well-connected. :)

I read a proof of this book just a few days before publication. If it wasn't
Dec 16, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2013, arc
I won an ARC of Cindy Chupack’s The Longest Date: Life as a Wife. I have to say after realizing that she wrote for Sex in the City I wasn't so thrilled about reading it. I've NEVER been a fan of that show. After reading the first couple chapters I found out why she is an award- winning writer. Cindy’s writing is hysterical! I caught myself laughing out loud throughout the book, and then rereading those bits to the hubby. I related easily to Cindy’s journey, although I did get annoyed by all the ...more
Nov 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
I am so glad I won this through Goodreads First Reads Giveaway.

It's been a long time since I've read a book that actually had me laughing out loud. I've never read anything by Cindy Chupack - but I'm a huge fan of Sex and The City. I loved her style of writing and would love to read more from her.

It's nice to read something that describes the harsh realities of marriage. I'm not married, but I've seen enough married couples my age to know it's not easy. Cindy Chupack leads you through some of
Dec 25, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: net-galley
A series of essays on life and marriage comprise this book: written by Cindy Chupack a writer for Sex and the City. Perhaps if I had been able to pass the frequent references to her life as a successful and award winning scriptwriter, I would have felt more engaged with this story. But, in the first 5 essays, there are no less than 9 references to her “day job”, her “success” and even her financial standing because of the position: leaving me feeling less than interested in the content, as if ...more
Dec 11, 2013 rated it it was ok
I received this book through the Goodreads' giveaway program and was very excited to read it! For someone who has worked on such funny television shows, I was disappointed by how unfunny Cindy Chupack's book, "The Longest Date, Life As A Wife," was. Chupack recounted her failed marriage to a gay man and then discussed a variety of aspects of married life with husband number two. I anticipated that this book would be a non-fiction version of "Jennifer Johnson Is Sick Of Being Married", which was ...more
Dec 15, 2013 rated it really liked it
I won this book in a GoodReads giveaway. The first 3/4 of the book I was craving something more. More humor, more relatable material, even more Carrie. I loved that Cindy was telling me the truth. Marriage is hard and the beginning is quite a ride. I appreciated and wanted more of that honesty. I finally got it in the last few chapters and found myself really connecting, not in the way I had been hoping, but in a very raw way that caught me off guard. I understood by then that I needed the whole ...more
Carla Jean
Aug 23, 2015 rated it liked it
Amusing throughout, but especially poignant at the end
Jun 14, 2017 rated it really liked it
Thoroughly enjoyed this book. Anyone who is or has been married can relate to events in it.
Sep 10, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir, women-authors
I just got married in August so a memoir about being a newlywed was right up my alley. I also read Ms. Chupack's previous book about being single, and I've enjoyed her writing on various TV shows (Sex and the City, Modern Family) very much. In fact, I did feel like, in a couple of chapters, I saw where certain episodes of SatC came from.

After a short, failed first marriage (turns out he was gay), Cindy was somewhat resigned to staying single. But then she met a "bad boy" who didn't want to be
I'm not sure what I expected with this. Humour, certainly, but maybe something more biting, à la Jen Lancaster.

The writing is funny -- and good, as one might hope for from an Emmy-nominated writer -- but in a gentler way. The essays cover, more or less, the first five years of the author's marriage, gradually working their way from the lighter stuff to the stress -- and trauma -- of fertility struggles and miscarriage.

The author's husband is present as a vehicle, rather than a target, for humour
Sarah Cauble
The Longest Date: Life as a Wife is a collection of essays by Sex and the City writer Cindy Chupack. That—and the title—were reason enough for me to read this book. I laughed, I cried (okay, I just teared up), and sometimes I cringed. Don't get me wrong, many of the essays were humorous and totally relatable (eg: "...marrying someone means that even if you didn't used to want to talk to strangers, you may want to start talking to strangers, because, unlike your husband, they at least have ...more
Dec 07, 2013 rated it really liked it
I received this book for free through Goodreads First Reads. To be honest, I wasn't expecting to like it. But I did. Some parts were hilarious and made me laugh out loud while other parts were very touching and brought on the waterworks. My college English professor said that through reading and writing we learn about ourselves and others and this is how we grow. In this book, Cindy Chupack details how her and Ian have grown in their lives and in their marriage and by reading it I have grown ...more
Melissa D
Nov 13, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Winning this book through a Goodreads First Reads Giveaway was even luckier than I thought. Compulsively readable, endless entertaining, truly laugh-out-loud funny at times yet deeply moving, too-- this book is a winner! It makes sense that Cindy Chupack was a Sex and the City writer, because this book reminded me of the way I used to devour episodes of the show. I hope this is the first in a series, too!
Reading Fool
Dec 15, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: giveaways, 2013
I received this book for free through Goodreads First Reads.

Funny and engaging book. This memoir chronicles the author's marriage (about 7 years) and their quest to have a baby. No matter what your situation, whether single or married, with or without child, there is something to relate to. Chupack's writing is hilarious. This is a quick read and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Jan 05, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Absolutely loved this book! From one of the Sex and the City writers - hilarious and down-to-earth (just like her first book, Between Boyfriends)
May 10, 2015 rated it really liked it
There was quite a bit about trying to become a parent, which wasn't exactly up my alley, but Chupack still kept me engaged. I really liked her and was curious to see where her stories would lead.
Feb 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book and flew through it in 2 days (that's fast for me even for a shorter book, this is just over 200 pages).
I rarely give books 5 stars, and while I'm not claiming that this book of essays/memoir is worthy of a Pulitzer Prize, it was exactly what I was looking for and it was a REALLY GOOD version of what I was looking for.
I'd been reading a string of darker, psychological thrillers and wanted a fun break. My last attempt didn't go so well. I came across The Longest Date for a huge
Jul 11, 2017 rated it it was ok
This book fell flat for me. I thought it was going to be a more generalized comedy on marriage and the nuances of spouses. There was so much opportunity to elaborate and it just fell short. I mean the chapter on the man cold could have been genius but it was just "meh-okay"
I can't relate to infertility struggles and I can't begin to imagine what that must've been like. I thought she did a nice job summarizing the difficulties with that while keeping the light heartedness of the book.
Andrea L
Jul 01, 2017 rated it really liked it
I very much enjoyed this book and was torn between giving it four and five stars, but I didn't enjoy it as much as her previous book, The Between Boyfriends Book, and felt that this one was lacking a bit more of the humor that TBBB contained. That said, this is a touching, and at times quite funny, read that surely won't disappoint. I also felt that she did a great job of making the material accessible to anyone, of any age, regardless of marital status.
Sep 22, 2019 rated it liked it
Funny, entertaining, heartfelt. A good book. The author was a little obnoxious at times but her humor and ability to relay emotion prevailed. Her infertility struggles and overall love for her family really hit home.
Aug 10, 2017 rated it liked it
Amusing married stories from a writer from Sex and the City.
Jan 26, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: read-library, 2017
I think I expected more humor from the book.
Sep 15, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction, humor
As long as we're talking about books that there is nearly zero percent chance I would have picked up randomly based on the title/cover/marketing blurb, let us talk about The Longest Date: Life as a Wife, which is Sex & The City & Modern Family writer/producer Cindy Chupack's extremely candid account of her marriage twelve years in.

I picked up this book after hearing Chupack's interview with Anna Sale on the podcast "Death, Sex, & Money" (which, podcast junkies, if you aren't yet
Dec 24, 2013 rated it really liked it
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Disclaimer: I received this book as a courtesy of the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

"Sex In The City". That's what first caught my attention when I read the synopsis provided by the publicist. I loved the writing on that TV show, so of course I thought that I would also enjoy Cindy Chupack's writing style. Second was that crazy cover. I got a chuckle out of that. Third, being that I'm married,
Tracy Slater
Jan 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing
In general, I'm not a huge fan of essay collections and am more partial to continuous narratives, so when I read Chupak's NYTimes piece, which was excerpted from this memoir, I bought the book because I loved her essay but I thought I might not love the whole book as much.

I was so wrong - I loved the entire book.

For one, Chupak does a great job weaving the essays together so the book feels like one continuous story, and as each chapter ended, I couldn't help starting the next, and the whole
Dec 29, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: first-reads
I received a free copy of this book as part of Goodread's giveaway program. As I was not familiar with the author, I went into it without any expectations.

Admittedly, I put off reading this book for a few days after receiving it. As someone in a long-term relationship, I wasn't sure I wanted to read about the challenges of being married. I already have reservations about marriage - at this point I feel a book that lies to me about how great marriage is would be more beneficial.

However, I was
Lacey Louwagie
I really enjoying these books that allow me to get a "peek" into other people's experiences of marriage. This book is a collection of essays from a Sex & the City and Oprah relationships writer about her late-in-life marriage. For the first half of the book my judging self was on full alert. I found Cindy's snarky tone somewhat off-putting, and her husband's recommendation that she get breast reduction surgery to enhance their sex life and their joint decision to visit sex clubs in Thailand ...more
Stephanie Ward
Dec 29, 2013 rated it really liked it
'The Longest Date: Life as a Wife' is a funny and heartwarming look at one woman's life and experiences before and during marriage. The author tells stories from her dating life along with her marriage that are both laugh out loud funny and some that are deeply personal and serious. The topics range from her failed first marriage with a man who turned out to be gay, health scares, problems with getting pregnant, and dinner parties.

I was immediately pulled into the memoir by the author's writing
Nov 04, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: giveaways
I wasn't sure what to expect from this book when I entered the Goodreads contest for it. I knew it was going to have some comedy, which is always a good thing, and would mostly be lighthearted, which is again a good thing.

What I didn't expect was for Cindy Chupack to invite us into her and her husband Ian's life for 200 pages. And I'm glad I read it! This book was just a wonderfully delightful trip through the ups and downs of another person's marriage.

Now, don't get me wrong, she doesn't go
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