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Salaam, Love: American Muslim Men on Love, Sex, and Intimacy

3.88  ·  Rating details ·  283 ratings  ·  39 reviews
From the editors of the groundbreaking anthology Love, InshAllah comes a provocative new exploration of the most intimate parts of Muslim men's lives.

Muslim men are stereotyped as either oversexed Casanovas willing to die for seventy-two virgins in heaven or controlling, big-bearded husbands ready to rampage at the hint of dishonor. The truth is, there are millions of
Paperback, 238 pages
Published February 4th 2014 by Beacon Press (first published January 1st 2014)
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Jan 14, 2014 rated it really liked it
I received this book in a First Reads giveaway.

Some essays were better than others - I think it gets better as it goes along - but I thought this was an interesting glimpse into the lives of Muslim Americans. It has a glossary that defines various words relating to Islam, and it seems to be targeted towards people who are not Muslim themselves but who are interested in learning about other cultures. This is not necessarily a book I would have purchased for myself, but it was a quick read and I e
Sep 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read_in_2014
Hold on, let me wipe the tears from my eyes so I can see while I type this up. Please note, the following might contain spoilers.

This book was such a pleasant surprise! I had read "Love, Inshallah," but had no idea this was going to happen. When I found it in the bookstore, I squealed in delight and rushed to the cashier. The stories were so refreshing and real, they dealt with that part of our lives most of us keep under wraps. I was so freaking pleasantly surprised to find there were stories
Feb 12, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2017, indian-asian
I appreciated this book as there are not many platforms which allow men to fully express their feelings without shame,stigma, or embarrassment. In these short stories, the men detail their very different experiences with love, loss, and everything in between. It is an honest and intimate look at what it means to grow up in an immigrant family and what it means to be a man in today's society, and in particular, a muslim man.

The greater impact of this book, however, is not necessarily its examinat
An interesting read, but I much preferred Love, InshAllah. I found the final section (Sabr: In Sickness and Health) to be the book's strongest point, and enjoyed several of the stories exploring race and sexual identity. As a whole, though, I found it difficult to relate with or connect deeply to many of the stories and found the quality of writing to be vastly inconsistent. Some stories were riddled with typos, and others were full of meandering, self-deprecating asides that made them difficult ...more
Zoya Ahmad
Interesting look into the untold stories of the love lives of Muslim men. Would recommend it overall, but I feel that the book's precursor "Love Insha'Allah" was more interesting and covered a broader range of narratives. ...more
Zainab Bint Younus
Apr 30, 2018 rated it liked it
On the heels of the popular, groundbreaking anthology Love Inshallah: American Muslim Women on Love, Sex, and Intimacy, comes Salaam, Love – the other side of the story.

As Muslim women become more proactive in sharing their voices and experiences in the public sphere, a unique phenomenon has occurred: Muslim men don’t have the same opportunity to share their own deeply personal stories. Salaam, Love is an effort to create a ‘safe space’ for Muslim men to discuss some of their most vulnerable m
Nov 03, 2016 rated it really liked it
Sweet, thoughtful perspectives of US Muslim men. The stereotype in the media sees Muslim men who wear beards, make their wives cover their hair, are very religious, could be terrorists, etc. This book is a collection of essays of various Muslim men who are in/from the US and their struggles with their searches in love, marriage, partnership, etc. Like many people, really.
Some are funny, some are touching, some are heartbreaking. Even if you know nothing about Islam and Muslims (or even the US I
mckenna ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ
This book really hit home for me. The first man I was ever in love with was a Muslim man and while we didn't end up together I was left being in love with something else, and that was the faith and culture of Islam.

At first I picked up this book to cope when we first started becoming closer as I wanted more understanding into his life and values and what I walked away with was a very full heart. This book made me cry, laugh, and feel both hopeless and hopeful at different moments. But something
Feb 10, 2014 rated it really liked it
Thoroughly enjoyed reading the diverse essays by American Muslim men in this collection about love, sex, and intimacy. I was humbled by the candor and vulnerability that each contributor shared through his writing. Feelings I know all too well having written first under a pen name and then in later editions under my own name for the Love, InshAllah book. After reading Love, InshAllah, I was left feeling hopeful about love and relationships while this book has left me reflecting deeply about the ...more
Feb 10, 2014 rated it really liked it
This was great! I enjoyed it more than Love, Inshallah. I think it was because the stories were from a male's perspective, which is not something I am used to reading. I loved the range of stories and particularly enjoyed A Pair of Photos-Ahmed Ali Akbar, Planet Zero-John Austin, Fertile Ground-Khizer Husain, and The Promise-Alan Howard. Each of these men had strikingly different experiences when it came to love and relationships, and this was a refreshing, fascinating read. ...more
Apr 16, 2014 rated it really liked it
Stories told by men of need and wanting, finding love and acceptance, coming to maturity. Women on the same path seem to place religion first in their search for love, while men find culture then religion as a relationships basis. The book provokes much thought.
Nov 03, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
This is an anthology of Muslim American men talking about their experiences with romance, something I likely wouldn't have picked up if I didn't have a class that made this required reading. Not that I have any problem with the subject matter, but because, like most people, I have middling luck with anthologies. In fact, I don't know anyone who actively seeks out anthologies or even really likes them. Most people I know just buy them because they like or recognize one or two of the authors and f ...more
Aug 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
Muslim men are often asked to comment on the politics of the Muslim world or counter-terrorism efforts in the Middle East; but rarely do we hear them recall their personal stories of courtship, dating, and romance. It’s a voice we rarely hear in this current day and age. I was overwhelmed by how honest, raw, and affectionate their narrations were. You don’t have to be Muslim to appreciate the softness and delicacy of these beautiful stories, just the fact that these intimate stories are told by ...more
After reading Love, InshaAllah, I was curious to read Salaam, Love by the same editors. While the first anthology included stories by 25 Muslim American women, the latter collection has 22 memoirs by Muslim American men.

Although it was interesting to read some of these stories, none of them stood out to me as a personal favorite. While I didn’t love this anthology (probably for the fact that I’m a woman and I could relate more to the stories in the female anthology), I still recommend this book
Aug 01, 2019 rated it really liked it
Nice collection (though I found the women’s book far stronger!). I particularly loved an essay at the beginning about a man coming to grips with his sexuality and losing his mother to cancer (which made me cry big ugly tears while on the train) and one near the middle about a Bangladeshi-American grappling with loneliness and gothok mishaps.
Feb 14, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: religious
I was curious, so I picked up this book and the American Muslim Women version too. I ended up skimming through the book though. Many of these stories were cute, and it definitely gave a platform for people to share the stories that aren't being talked about. ...more
Kiren Chaudhry
May 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Poignant, heartfelt and meaningful account of the Muslim experience. It's a wondrous thing to be seen and heard. The books also does its part in dispelling the myth of Muslimness as a monolith. ...more
Dec 29, 2018 rated it liked it
there're some gems. but mostly there're just stories about men with Muslim names. /yawn/ ...more
May 04, 2019 rated it liked it
There is no joy without sorrow. Life is full of oppositions. We are all large and contain multitudes.
Dec 31, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Although I was lucky enough to win a free copy in the giveaway for this book, I am more than willing to give my honest and straightforward opinion regarding Salaam Love. Here it goes:

For me, reading Salaam Love was one of many firsts. If you haven't already familiarized yourself with the previous anthology compiled by Ayesha Mattu and Nura Masnavi, (Love Inshallah) I would suggest that you do so. For those of you who have, you will find that yet again, Mattu and Masnavi bring us stories of love
Jan 08, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: giveaways

For disclosure purposes, I received this novel as a First Reads giveaway.

At a time when the world - and the Western world, in particular - has become increasingly disillusioned and misled with the varied Islamic cultures, this novel is an entirely illuminating read, and a necessary one at that. Through the diverse array of voices presented, this collection of deeply personal essays can do nothing but alter one's unfortunate preconceived notions of the Islamic world, with particular regards to Mu
Oraynab Jwayyed
Jul 10, 2016 rated it liked it
I enjoyed the book, especially as a woman of Middle Eastern descent curious about the inward thinking of Muslim men on relationships in general. I gave it three stars because it's not research based or out to prove anything except that American Muslim men are just as flawed and human as the next guy. I would have liked the book to address the issues that are still too prevalent in Muslim relationships, mainly the imbalance of power, sexism, and abuse. Since the authors had these men willingly op ...more
I received this book through the First Reads program. This is a book which is more interesting in conception than in the execution. The portraits of Muslim men and their relationships and sexuality is too cheery and rosy than realistic. Because Muslim men experience such a negative stereotype, the motivation of the editors is to dismiss the stereotypes and create a rosier picture. Unfortunately, happily ever after stories, one after another, is not the most interesting reading. A good attempt to ...more
Miss Susan
Feb 26, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: muslim-lead
i don't actually know how to review this: i found it interesting but i don't have the vocabulary to critically evaluate these kind of personal stories. what am i going to say, you know? i appreciate having the opportunity to see some of the range of ways men in the ummah have experienced love i suppose

sister book: Love, InshAllah: The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women edited by Nura Maznavi and Ayesha Mattu. duh

3 stars
Apr 18, 2015 rated it liked it
An interesting, and much needed, anthology. Very honest accounts of different sort of relationships, failed and successful. Some contributors were notably better writers, with more interesting stories, so some sections are more memorable than others. Overall though, an enlightening, funny, optimistic, and sometimes upsetting read. I plan to eventually read the original, "Love, Inshallah," which focuses on Muslim women's stories. ...more
Nov 22, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Refreshing perspective! Wonderful 'sequel' full of stories from Muslim men from all walks and stages of life. The themes common to both sexes are explored with humor and pathos: the balance of faith and circumstance, the concern over and respect for parental approval, the search for the familiar among the other. ...more
Feb 24, 2014 rated it liked it
I appreciate the effort to bring forth diverse stories from different Muslim men on love however, much like it's predecessor, I found the stories became repetitive after a while and some of the stories were not written as well as others. Still, props for the effort. ...more
May 29, 2014 rated it really liked it
Cute stories, nothing ground breaking but it's meant to be a short story anthology. I liked how diverse the stories wear, and the "Sabr" portion made me cry. A bit shallow but hey, it was a fun "beach" read. ...more
Rameya Shanmugavelayutham
Perhaps it is because I am a woman, but I definitely preferred Love Insha'Allah to this anthology. I did not particular enjoy the stories in the beginning of the anthology but there were a few in the middle and end that I really enjoyed. ...more
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