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Man Up!: Tales of My Delusional Self-Confidence

3.87  ·  Rating details ·  3,727 Ratings  ·  343 Reviews
"Some people call what happened to me 'a lucky break.' Sort of, but I don't really believe in luck. I believe in Oprah, which is why I quote her all the time. I once heard her say, 'There's no such thing as luck. Luck is when opportunity meets preparation.'"

In his first book, Ross Matthews tells readers what it means to "man up" -- to realize, no matter how hard you may ho
Hardcover, 241 pages
Published May 7th 2013 by Grand Central Publishing (first published January 1st 2013)
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This book almost killed me it is so funny! Ross is fantastic and he can put together some totally terrific tales talking tricks - well you get the idea, phrases with the same letter. Ross basically was handed a chance to be famous and he simple stepped up and did it. It's such an amazing event. He was supposed to be there. Thank you Jay Leno for giving this guy a chance. Ross is truly a funny guy. I knew him from Rupaul's Drag Race and now I know he is great on our own. Pick it up.
May 07, 2013 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2013, humor
Ross Matthews is right about one thing – any self-confidence he feels about his writing skills is without a doubt delusional. He’d have to be out of his mind to think that readers will actually be entertained by the garbage he passes off as a book.

These comedic memoir-esque type books seem to be growing in popularity these days, but I still consider some of Chelsea Handler’s and David Sedaris’ works to be the golden standard for this genre. That said, many people have come close to replicating a
Dian Romonosky
Jan 08, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Only took me a few days to read, mostly because I finished about half of it on a 5 hour plane ride. To sum it up, Ross and I would totally be best friends. The way he writes is very much like my thought process and there were multiple times that I would find myself laughing out loud. It was also very interesting to see how he got his start on Leno, showing that hard work can actually pay off....or just being at the right place at the right time, all while letting your personality show through.

An abbreviated version of what I just wrote: I didn't actually finish this book. I skipped the last disc, but I'm counting it as read AND giving it 3 stars, because I did enjoy what I got through. The biggest setback for me was what a big fan of alliteration Mathews is, and that got grating. Plus, the last disc started with a chapter about Madonna, and I kind of just didn't care.

That being said, I really did enjoy this audiobook overal
Oct 29, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audible
I love Ross Matthews, another comedian I was introduced to through Chelsea Lately. Every round table he was on was already 1000 times better than usual. This book definitely doesn't disappoint.

Ross is the sassy gay man that every girl dreams of having as her best friend. This book gives you insight as to how Ross went from sassy twelve year old to Hollywood red carpet correspondent. Every step of the way is fascinating! If you have the chance, download the audiobook. Not only do you get his humo
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From being bullied as a kid to breaking into stardom as “Ross the Intern” and everything in between – Ross Mathews shares how he has “manned up” to various situations life has thrown him.

I’m not a Leno fan (but I can’t WAIT for Fallon to take over the timeslot, baby!) and have a love/hate relationship with Chelsea Handler (specifically, I hate her face and her voice, but I love reading her books), so my knowledge of Ross Mathews is fro
Heidi The Hippie Reader
I've been reading a lot of heavy stuff lately and I needed a bit of fluff. I'd venture to say that there are very few books as fluffy as this one. :) It's one silly bit after another and it's just what I needed.

Ross skates across deeper issues a couple of times (he mentions that he lost his father at a young age) but he doesn't go into it, instead he talks about overdosing on THC when his father was dying in the hospital. So, though there are no great introspective moments in Man Up!, it is perf
Had I the good sense to stop after one disc, this may have been a 3-4 star review. For the record I think Ross is adorbs. His writing, not so much.

The narrative was just way too bogged down with superlatives, exaggerations, cheesy alliteration, and long-winded lists of synonyms. When every single detail is THE most/best/craziest thing you've ever seen in the whole wide world/your entire existence, NOTHING seems important.

This was a completely hilarious read with a sprinkle of very heart wrenching moments. I really liked how Ross wrote as if he were having a conversation with the reader. I thoroughly enjoyed this book from cover to cover. Not to mention I have an autographed copy, which made it even cooler.
I love this guy! He's so funny and sincere. Reading this book was just like listening to his podcast or watching him on video. I'm sad there wasn't a little more depth to this book but it was still just a fun time reading it!
Ross the Intern, on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno that is how I first became aware of this funny amazing human being. He was this laughing, shining man who almost floated across the stage with enthusiasm. I fell for him and watched for him everynight. He is a talented, a remarkable voice and an excellent interviewer. he is able to get 'stars' to say and do the most 'human' things.
As I read the book I was struck by how difficult his road has been. He was bullied as a child, and tried to fit in,
Dec 31, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ross Mathews is not the type of celebrity that one can be sure everyone knows about. I wasn't a regular "Tonight Show" watcher, but came across him in bits and pieces on internet clips. He's as charming here as he appears on television - stand up comedians usually don't translate into funny in books, but there's something about Ross's child-like persona that I totally buy and enjoy.....this wasn't great literature, of course, but a good distraction for waiting rooms and the like.

So, if you are
❤Marie Gentilcore
I completely enjoyed this book. It made me laugh so hard right from the beginning. I became a fan of Ross Mathews earlier this year when he appeared on Celebrity Big Brother. He is such a fun person to watch so I was eager to read his memoir. I was not disappointed. I enjoyed the audiobook version and it was delightful to hear him talk about his childhood and his start in show business. I read that he is working on another book and I will happily pre-order it as soon as it is available!
Jun 25, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not sure about these kinds of books anymore. I usually get so excited to read books written by people who I find just so funny! For example: Ellen DeGeneres, Tina Fey, Chelsea Handler, Mindy Kaling.. So far it hasn't been working for me. I have been disappointed more than anything.

I love Ross Mathews. He's hilarious and I just love how he owns himself and doesn't care what other people think. I was excited for this book because I figured he was going to knock it out of the park! Well... I
Sep 18, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ross Mathews is best known for his role on Jay Leno, Chelsea Handler, his new talk show 'Hello Ross', and his high-pitched, unique voice. I first saw Ross Mathews on Chelsea Handler's show and instantly fell in love with him. He's sassy, witty, funny and embraces his homosexuality. He's my ideal best friend. And somehow this book made me like him even more.

Ross Mathews just found a way to find humor in everything and he can now look back on embarrassing or bad moments and laugh. He also found a
Fran Court
Mar 11, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I gave this 4 as I love Ross and love his story but it was quite short and light, I'd have liked it to be a little bit meatier but still enjoyable.
Adam Webling
Man Up! Tales of My Delusional Self-Confidence is a must read for all Ross Mathews fans. Full of stories from across his life, Man Up! will fill you with lots of things you never knew about him. It expanded on stories I’d heard on his podcast and definitely revealed things I wasn’t expecting. And, of course, it was all told with his trademark humour that had me giggling to myself as I turned each page.
May 20, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: autobios
I loved this autobiography. I took it on vacation and finished it up when I got home. I have loved Ross ever since he was Ross the Intern on the Jay Leno show. He hails from a town less than an hour away from where I grew up in WA state. The book was just like him-funny, energetic, and over the top. I LOL'd in many places and it was just an easy fun read!
Jun 19, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: bios
I've read a ton of these types of books and usually end liking the author a lot less afterward (Ahem...Tina Fey)...

But this book was actually pretty funny...laugh out loud funny at some parts (pot butter). Worth the's a quickie, not too deep and I actually like him a little more now.

Helps if you know who Ross is though...the voice is killer...even just in print
May 08, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-on-kindle
Not as many laugh out loud moments as I'd expected. Ross Matthews always cracks me up on Chelsea Lately and still does but this book didn't blow me away. Maybe I should have gotten the audio book. Reading his book in my mind in my voice just didn't do it justice.
Jamie Lehessalo
Sep 16, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was a great read, kept me laughing every time I picked it up. Ross Matthews's writing style made me feel like I was literally having a conversation with the TV personality I have come to love. Great light read with an underlying message we all need - just go for it!
May 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: keeper
I love Ross Mathews! This book about some of his adventures in life is great fun, but also inspirational, with lots of life lessons about accepting yourself as you are.
Megan  ~The Never Ending Book Basket
I have not laughed as much reading a book ever in my life. I don't think I have even smiled as much as I did reading this book. This book was pure enjoyment. It was hysterical, it was funny as hell, and I love Ross Matthews with all that I have right now. His memoir was everything I needed. It made me laugh my ass off, it had so many unforgettable stories that were equal parts ridiculous and fun and perfect, and it was him all the way through.

Man Up follows him through so many different parts o
Dec 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Natosha Ann Locken

Ross’s voice is clear, fun, and upbeat. He is the pinkest pink in the rainbow, and reading this book will bring brightness to your day that you didn’t know you needed. I truly, truly, truly loved this book and I can’t recommend it enough 💖
Side note: I got 100% on the quiz at the end.
Kaycee Mohr
Aug 01, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was a hilarious read. I've always liked Ross Mathews and I just had to read his book. He really does make you feel like you are best friends with him. I also loved how he described his relationship with his parents and how they always made him feel like he could be his true self. Great read!
Oct 22, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you are gay, if you know someone who is gay, if you feel like and outsider you must read this book. It is a heartfelt but tough and sweet at the same time book about growing up gay and wierd in a not so accepting world and the courage and guts it takes to do it. I loved it, read it.
Christina Bayko
Mar 24, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nope
I love Ross, but this "memoir" was pretty hard to read. As a fan who listens to his podcast "Straight Talk with Ross," I was expecting "Man Up!" to capture Ross' humour, wit and intelligence, and it did none of that.

The book was too over the top in a lot of ways; too many cliches, too many hyperboles and too much content that just was not interesting (i.e. the Gwyneth Paltrow chapter). Chapter after chapter seemed to dumb down Ross, and was a poor reflection on who he is and what he has accompl
Vivian Adram
Mar 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
OMG I'm in love with this guy! Ross Mathews! You're such fun. Now you're my 'super star best friend' aim in life! xxx
Nicki Ramos
Jul 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Loved this book! Such an easy, lighthearted, fun read. I enjoyed learning more about Ross’ upbringing, and having it told from his flamboyant point of view makes it that much more entertaining.
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