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Bringing in Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story

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In February 2011, Sara Connell’s mother, Kristine Casey, delivered the greatest gift of all to her daughter – Sara’s son Finnean. At that moment, 61-year-old Kristine – the gestational carrier of Sara and her husband Bill’s child – became the oldest woman ever to give birth in Chicago.

Bringing in Finn is the incredible story of one woman’s hard-fought and often painful jou
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Paperback, 336 pages
Published October 8th 2013 by Seal Press (first published September 1st 2012)
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Doreen
Aug 10, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Incredibly moving tale of a 61-year old mother who offers to carry the child of her daughter and son-in-law, who've had great difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term. I sympathized very much with Sara Connell: my own relationship with my mom was fairly distant, and it did improve vastly after the birth of my first child. Ms Connell charts the trials and emotional upheavals of finally bringing Finn, her child, into their lives with an honesty that is compelling and raw.

And yet, and yet. While I f
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Jill
Oct 20, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book!! I couldn't put it down. I read it in a week, and I never read books that quickly.

One aspect of the book that really stands out is the author's sensory descriptions of Chicago's weather extremes. I could almost feel the gusts of cold winter winds hitting me as she described them. The oppressive heat of Chicago summers also hit home.

Of course the book is much deeper than just its setting. The author really opens her heart in describing the joys and pains she experienced throu
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Elizabeth Moeller
Aug 18, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was totally prepared to hate this book. The tabloidy premise, which is a non-fiction account about a woman who has difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term and uses her mother as a surrogate, could have gone horribly wrong in a lot of different ways. However, what I discovered was a very thoughtful account of the desire to mother that led the author to this very unusual decision.

The author is a life coach and speaker by trade which is probably why the book is so grounded in terms of her abilit
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Paula Reyes
May 04, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Captivating and heart wrenching account of the struggles of infertility, miscarriage and stilbirth yet a love story of a couple who promised and remained committed through their journey and its ups and extreme lows. The "big picture" being their key word to remind themselves to stay focused and thankful. A mother's love is unending and one mother wanted so much for her daughter to feel that love in her arms gave her daughter the ultimate gift.
It was hard to put this one down and it keeps me won
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Courtney
Aug 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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It is simply an amazing story of pain, triumph, the mother/daughter relationship, and the ability and imperfection of the human body.

I do feel like Sara went through more pain, jealousy, and stages of grief during her mother's pregnancy than she let on. From personal experience I know how hard it is to see other people, especially those close to you, pregnant and having children when you have lost a pregnancy or baby.

*** This book might hit a nerve if you are annoyed by people who mistrust mode
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Morgan
May 04, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found the "scienecy" explanations of the process of IVF to be a bit boring as it was familiar. I think from the time that the book was published to now there has been a lot more conversation about fertility challenges and the process of IVF, thanks to women like Sara sharing their stories. I would have liked maybe a bit more technical explanations. I could feel Sara's woundedness through her writing in that in the early parts of the book I could sense the victim perspective. By the end I think ...more
Beth Baier
Apr 12, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This amazing book is a well-written story that made it hard for me to put the book down. It is a first-person account of a woman who has tried everything to have a baby. When her 60-year old mom steps up and offers to carry her baby as a surrogate, I was moved by the unconditional love and strong bond between mother and daughter.

I really enjoyed the author's descriptions of Chicago's weather extremes. I could almost feel the gusts of cold winter winds as well as the oppressive heat of Chicago s
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Kelly Audiogirl.booking.it
3.5 star book. Interesting story about a women's journey thru infertility and surrogacy. I know how painful infertility issues can be and when you add the physical and emotional pain of treatment as well as the financial burden it really is so difficult!! I thought the story got a little tedious at time but I had such compassion for all that she went thru I was glad to read thru her journey and learn of the final out come. What a gift surrogacy was in this case particularly beautiful blessing!!! ...more
Debi
May 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Talk about emotional! This book pulls at your heart strings in every way imaginable. I can’t even count how many times I got misty eyed while reading this. This book is incredible in the way that the journey this family endured was both difficult and amazing and a genuinely unique experience while still reading like a work of fiction. The descriptions and the details makes you feel like you were a part of the story. Very beautifully written and such an incredible book. A must read for those intr ...more
Gayle
Dec 21, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Although the story is memorable, reading it is exhausting. I feel for all that Sara went through during her fertility journey, but I also worry about Finn in the coming years. It comes across that Sara still has a lot of work to do on herself and her emotional needs and perceptions? Will she visit these difficulties on her son???
Beth
Nov 21, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Another hard one to review. Ultimately a touching story about motherhood; becoming a mother and mother/daughter relationships. But the detached version of how it was told did not make me a great ally of the author. Almost gave up in the first portion questioning how completely out of touch and remote the perspective was.
MH
Dec 15, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Loved it, medical descriptions included. Fascinating view of infertility issues and how they're dealt with. So glad Sara's mom was able to be the surrogate. The whole story left me on a real high. ...more
Jess
Apr 05, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I loved the surrogacy story and was touched by the grandmothers willingness to help her daughter become a mother. However, I couldn't connect very well with Sara. I cried during her stillbirths and miscarriage, but I feel like maybe her writing style wasn't suited for me as a reader. ...more
Vicki Klemm
Dec 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Amazing story. Kristine an incredible, selfless woman. I hope that Sara can overcome her feelings of not being a “whole” woman. My adoptive mother never did and she had insecurities that she took out on us, her adopted daughters. We are more than our reproductive organs!
Jamie Maier
Jul 25, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I experienced most, if not all of this.
Laura Simon
May 12, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Great story!
Kris
Aug 05, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Was good but a little too “Zenish” for me, bordering on losing credibility.
Sandy Hogan
Apr 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Couldn't put it down!

An amazing and emotional rollercoaster ride! Inspiring and courageous! A heart wrenching journey of infertility and an amazing surrogacy journey!
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Swat
Jun 21, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A beautiful book about motherhood described in 3 generations
Patricia
Nov 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great Writing! Really Enjoyable!!!
Karen
Nov 23, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
What an interesting story.
Tiffany
Apr 11, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So interesting- I couldn’t stop reading!!!
Joy
Sep 08, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book made me laugh and cry! Though I cannot imagine wanting a child as much as Sara Connell, I would never have thought to include my mother in such an intimate experience.
Bllu Catalano
A touching read to share with family, especially mothers and daughters, Bringing in Finn, delves from an unusual angle into family connection. For most of the story we follow Sara and Bill as they navigate the road to having children. They begin like most married couples, full of hope and simple dreams. Starting a family seems like a wonderful, essential step in their evolution. Yet, harbingers lie in the background, ignored or unknown. Sara comes to the table with ghosts that sneak out; now tha ...more
Crystal Otto
Oct 08, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Book Review: Bringing in Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story
by Sara Connell

Review by Crystal J. Casavant-Otto

Bringing in Finn is truly an amazing story that many women and couples can relate to. Around half of all fertilized eggs die and are lost spontaneously, before a woman even knows she is pregnant. Once a woman knows she is pregnant, the miscarriage rate is more like 15-20%. These statistics seem staggering, but yet very comforting. As a woman who has experienced several miscarriages, I
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Kathleen Pooler
Nov 07, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The idea that one’s own mother would offer to be a surrogate for the child you can’t have seems insurmountable, especially since the mother is in her 60s. Add to that the conflicted relationship with this mother. Sara Connell tells her remarkable, true story of surrogacy in a believable and heartfelt way. It goes beyond surrogacy though as it addresses how a conflicted mother-daughter relationship transforms into a strong, loving bond as they prepare for the birth of this long-awaited child. It ...more
Stephanie
Oct 19, 2013 rated it really liked it
Bringing in Finn is one woman’s true account of her struggle to get pregnant and have a baby. After countless heartaches, lost pregnancies, and IVF (in vitro fertilization) treatments, Sara and her husband, Bill, knew they still wanted to have a child, despite having no success as of yet. Eventually, her 61 year old mother became a surrogate and carried their son, Finn, to full term for them.

This was a fascinating story. Not only was it incredible that Sara’s mother became a surrogate for her ow
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Sherrey
Oct 17, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
Bringing in Finn is not just a story about a couple who desperately want a child. Nor is it a story intended to only detail their struggles, disappointments and attempts to conceive. It is about so much more than that.

Sara Connell brings to the page a story of extraordinary love that encompasses and bridges a conflicted relationship between a mother and her daughter.

Connell's desire for a child is reinforced by her husband's mutual wish to grow their family. What seem like insurmountable odds wo
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Debbie
Feb 17, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a very touching book, felt like you were right there experiencing it with them !
Susan Bazzett-Griffith
Sara Connell's journey to become a mother was fraught with difficulty and heartbreak and eventually healed by her own mother's selflessness and offer to be a surrogate for her daughter. That was the best part of this book-- the epilogue with the interview with her mother. That said, there is nothing particularly wrong with this memoir other than the fact that although, I too, have suffered infertility and losses, I was not able to identify with this author, who is very into "signs" and holistic ...more
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