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Redefining Girly: How Parents Can Fight the Stereotyping and Sexualizing of Girlhood, from Birth to Tween

3.69  ·  Rating details ·  455 ratings  ·  102 reviews
Named one of Publishers Weekly’s Best Books of 2014
 All-pink aisles in toy stores, popular dolls that resemble pole dancers, ultra sexy Halloween costumes in tween sizes. Many parents are increasingly dismayed at how today’s media, marketers, and manufacturers are sexualizing and stereotyping ever-younger girls but feel powerless to do much about it. Mother of two Melissa Atkins Wa
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Paperback, 256 pages
Published January 1st 2014 by Chicago Review Press
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Heather
May 23, 2014 rated it liked it
I wanted to like this book more than I did. If it had delivered as the title promises, I'm sure I would have been able to give it a higher rating because being able to "fight the stereotyping and sexualizing of girlhood" is something I feel very strongly about. However, this book ended up falling short for me. Yes, there are some good tips, but most of the tips are simply good parenting, for girls AND boys (for example, buying toys that encourage free play and creative thinking rather than somet ...more
Kasey Jane
Mar 01, 2014 rated it liked it
How to Read About Parenting for Nonparents:
Ingredients:
Two Parts Preaching to the Choir
One Part Uncomfortable Truths
Add a dash of Things Are Worse Now Than They Used to Be

Shake until comfortably mixed. Allow to rest until it pops up in weird places like the grocery store and magazine advertisements. Shake head. Drink cocktail. Be thankful that you're childless.
Lawna
Mar 20, 2014 rated it it was ok
I have two young daughters and while I really wanted to like this book I found it to be painful. Early on in the book the author talks about not being draconian or obnoxious but the whole book are those two things with an added dose of sanctimony. I get it - media can be bad - but this alarmist attitude is based on zero academic data - but her families feelings on issues. I was hoping for more with actual study to it. She has a lot of letters from professionals in the field but the book is mostl ...more
Orenda
May 05, 2014 rated it did not like it
Quite honestly I can't read another page of this. I'm shocked that a mother with both and son and daughter would write this. While I see the importance of desexualizing "girls", she still feeds into the abyss of gender tropes (as a mother of both I'm well aware that we sexualize ALL children. Yes, boys too.) and stereotypes. I want to finish it only because I've wasted $18 on this book, hoping I would find one nugget of something new. Nope. Anyone who has invested time in gender studies knows al ...more
Becky
Mar 16, 2014 rated it did not like it
I found none of the information in this book new or groundbreaking and practically insulting. I could barley get past the prologue where she concludes that, even before she had a child, she had the "parenting thing in the bag" since she spent time as a babysitter, camp counselor and nanny. This know-it-all arrogance flows through the whole book. Any advice she offers either comes naturally or has been widely discussed among moms. She seems to spend more time promoting her brands than offering an ...more
Brandy King
Jan 01, 2014 rated it really liked it
I am a long-time follower of Melissa Atkins Wardy's work, a frequent participant in her Facebook community at Pigtail Pals Ballcap Buddies, and an academic with a background in media research. I had high hopes for this book and was excited that she would finally have all her thoughts written down for people who are new to the issue of media's influence on children. But I was worried that since I've been immersed in these issues for over a decade, this book would not offer me anything new.

I am h
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Emily Merrell
Jan 24, 2014 rated it really liked it
There are a lot of good books (Cinderella Ate My Daughter and Packaging Girlhood, for example) that give us facts about the early sexualization and stereotyping of young girls. But it's hard to know what to do to protect our daughters from t ...more
Courtney Sieloff
Dec 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This is a really fast, fun read and provides a lot of insight into a topic that can often be ignored under the mast "Girls will be Girls." Instead, this book offers tips on how to really look at the cultural influences surrounding childhood and how to be prepared to parent in a way that many of us want to. It's feminist without being "scary" for those who might be afraid of the word, and informative without lecturing. And the best part - and perhaps an unintended consequence - is that this book ...more
Jane
Mar 03, 2014 added it
I enjoyed this book. I can't remember who recommended it, but it's applicable to boys too. I like her approach, which is based on respect and graciousness.
Caitlin
Feb 20, 2014 rated it really liked it
Redefining Girly: How Parents Can Fight the Stereotyping and Sexualizing of Girlhood, from Birth to Tween is a practical, from-the-trenches advice manual for parents who want to push back against the current "pinkification" (and commercialization) of girlhood. It can often be overwhelming for parents who want to preserve and foster their girls' independence, creativity, and whole selves to know how to stand up against mainstream American culture. The strength of this book lies in its concrete ideas: how to ...more
Nancy Young
Feb 20, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This book caught my eye at the library in the new arrivals section. I am so glad I picked up this book! If you have girls in your family, or work with them in any capacity- you should really read this book. It is not about teaching our daughters to shun make-up and burn their Barbies- but about letting THEM choose what toys, colors, interests, etc they want to have. Why should little girls be limited to princess toys while the boys get to have cool Lego sets? It is all about marketing- and WE sh ...more
Malin Friess
May 22, 2014 rated it did not like it
I have two daughters (8 and 12...and Wardy's daughter is named Amelia just like mine) and find myself frequently pushing against the princess stereotype. We do a lot of hiking, biking, visiting museums...even though the girls would often rather be dancing, singing, or watching disney princess videos.

But Wardy takes things to far..

-We have a communal dress-up box and there are no rules who wears what.
-We have rainbow-colored cups, bowls, plates, and silverware that a
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Jamie McQuiggan
Jan 15, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015
I took a long read on this book. At times it made me angry (why is the world out to ruin girlhood?!) and at times it made me feel empowered to do better (like speaking out against companies that make horrendous gendered toys & clothes) I found a lot of valuable talking points here for kids, how to discuss the issues that naturally come up (so-and-so said Star Wars is a boy thing, or this toy is pink so it's for girls, etc)

I enjoy Wardy on Facebook a lot-useful and timely discussions and thi
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Gail
Dec 12, 2014 rated it liked it
In this book on the perils of modern girlhood, Melissa Atkins Wardy announces the goal of “redefining girly” so that girls can understand that “there are infinite ways to be a girl” and feel free to “choose their own paths,” and she sets out to provide “a tool kit of really practical, parenttested, and proven strategies and ideas from a mom in the trenches, help for parents to navigate through all this with their families and also practical things you can do right now to effect real change in th ...more
Katie
Oct 18, 2015 rated it liked it
Around the time my son O turned two, I noticed a shift happening in the way people spoke to him. Prior to that point, people tended to compliment his impossibly blue eyes with their long eyelashes, his sweet smile or his all-around adorableness, which, as his mother, I can objectively tell you with zero bias was off the charts. It was exactly what you'd expect someone to say about any baby, really, since a baby's entire appearance is craftily formed to appeal to adults so you don't throw them out o ...more
Kate
May 07, 2015 rated it liked it
I'm going to start with a caveat: I don't have children of my own. I am from a large family, I have done a lot of babysitting and nannying stints, but a mother I am not.

However, I am a big fan of Wardy's work on her blog, and a fan of many of the "Letters from Experts" that contributed to this book. This is a formal overview of the day to day work that Wardy does on her blog. I don't agree with her 100% of the time (things get a little slut-shame-y, which I'm not a fan of, she seems
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Savannah
Sep 09, 2014 rated it it was ok
While I agree with the premise of this book, I just don't find it to be that helpful. The author pushes her own website/store as an alternative to "media" about young girls, which makes it feel a lot like she's trying to sell something herself. She is also not entirely sex positive and engages in some slut-shaming of her own (I believe the phrase "cheap hooker" is used).

That said, there are some truths here that more people probably should be aware of about marketing and gender, especially pare
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Leila Danielsen
Jun 10, 2014 rated it really liked it
I think most people who pick this book up do so because they're already thinking along these lines; they already want to redefine "girly." So much of it is common sense. But it's great to see it laid out in a smart, easy to follow manner. And the tips on resources were great! All in all, I really liked this book and felt even more confident about the decisions my husband and I are making in terms of raising our daughter. I know I'll be referring back to this book throughout the years.
Robin
Apr 20, 2014 rated it it was ok
Typical popular nonfiction- fluffy with little substance. Sad since the premise has potential.
Jessica Charlton
Nov 21, 2018 rated it it was ok
I was curious to read this book after bringing my infant daughter into a kinder class wearing her black and yellow truck shoes. I literally had kids lining up to tell me she was wearing boys' shoes! *Gasp*

Ms Wardy is absolutely correct about the importance of media literacy. At this point in time teaching our kids how to think critically is just as important to their safety as teaching them stranger danger. Which is why I didn't like this book. It's basically an 11 chapter sales pitc
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Jessi
Jan 06, 2019 rated it liked it
Great concept with a mediocre execution. I completely agree with the reviewers who mention the excessive talking points in the book, which are impractical and unrealistic. I would love to have more scientific facts and actual studies listed in here. I also think an update would be great- in the 5 years since this book was published, we have made a little progress in some of the things the author mentions (like more STEM things available for girls, Target removing gender indicators from their toy ...more
Amandasaved
Whatever

To be honest I wanted to like this book. The first chapter was great. As out went on though I just couldn't relate. It seemed to me the author was imposing her own women centric values on her daughter even as she was saying she hoped too be gender neutral. Which causes me to ask can she even be neutral?
Kimberly
Jul 18, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book had so much potential. There is a huge problem with the sexualization of childhood, especially girls. But the book came across as sanctimonious and patronizing. There were some good points about clothes and media, but way more time was spent venting about Barbie and Disney Princesses. I ended up skimming the last two chapters because I was annoyed with the attitude.
Laura Davis
Aug 24, 2018 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: parents; feminists
This book is a good read, even if you're not a parent. However, the lack of quantifiable data (data w/stats and numbers) leaves something to be desired. At times it can feel as if that one parent on the PTSA is lecturing you, but is still a good read.
Sylvia
Feb 01, 2017 rated it it was ok
I really wanted to like this book, but I didn't find anything helpful or new. I found some of the examples for phrasing when raising issues to be patronizing. Was also annoyed by the number of times the author chose to reference her website, products, and her other undertakings.
Kasen
Jul 14, 2017 rated it liked it
This is a book that I will continue to flip through occasionally until I finish. I was really intrigued by the cover and title and the intro drew me in right away. I did take some valuable lessons away from this book, but I did find a lot of it common sense and also a bit extreme at times.
Ashley
Jul 08, 2014 rated it it was ok
I was more curious as to how this information would be presented, rather than looking for a new resource. I've been reading and actively analyzing gender stereotyping for a long time. I think this would a be a great resource for someone new to the arena. Because as the author correctly states, "once you see it, you can't unsee it". How the media and retailers are dictating childhood is awful. What's terrifying is how many parents follow along, sometimes even accepting it even tho it makes them f ...more
Carolyn Fitzpatrick
May 06, 2014 rated it really liked it
Note: Do not let the fact that this book has a girl on the cover dissuade you if you are looking for books about boys. I would say that about a third of this book applies just as much to boys as to girls.

If you picked this book up it is probably because you already have an interest in gender equality, and therefore will already be at least vaguely aware of most of the information thrown out about girls becoming sexualized too soon (and how this is not good for boys to see either), the dearth of
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Tara Anderson Gold
Dec 29, 2013 rated it really liked it
Full review from the Librarian Who Doesn't Say Shhh!

Redefining Girly is written by Melissa Atkins Wardy, owner of the website Pigtail Pals & Ballcap Buddies. This is a parenting book for raising healthy, happy, media-saavy girls in the modern age. Wardy covers everything from clothing to toys to body image and includes letters from other professionals offering advice on hot issues in parenting girls. The overall mission seeks to teach parents and children about media literacy and critica
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Janiece
Jan 06, 2014 rated it it was ok
While the main point made in this book is an exceptionally valid one – the stereotyping and sexualising of young girls is damaging - the way it is put across in this book I do have some issues with.

It is laudable that the author is spreading the message of how damaging to girls the "stereotyping and sexualising of girlhood” is, and providing tips and encouragement to challenge this. However, I have the following concerns.

1. As is typical of American self-help/pop-psychology books (and as I men
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