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How We Lived (Remembering Kyle #1)

3.79  ·  Rating Details ·  479 Ratings  ·  89 Reviews
Nineteen-year-old Kelsey Larkin’s parents uninvited her to her brother’s funeral. She just wanted to wear jeans and a T-shirt—the clothes Kyle would’ve wanted her in—not wrap herself up in death. So she watched the funeral from afar, like an outsider. Which is just how she feels.

Chase came, though, just like she knew he would. Until a few months ago, the three of them had
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Published April 28th 2014 by Entangled Publishing
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Apr 24, 2014 Pam rated it really liked it
4 stars

The day Kyle died was the day everyone’s life turned for the worst, not only grieving a brother, son or best friend, but a life lost that was full of possibilities. Grief, anger, misery all play a part in healing, but more importantly forgiveness and compassion. Chase and Kelsey lost more than Kyle that day, they lost each other and a little piece of themselves...but it was expected, after all Chase is the reason he is dead.

Shouldn’t you hate the one who killed your brother? But how come
Brothers best friend and the boy next door ? Yes, more please!

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This was a reallllly moving and adorable New Adult Romance.
I loved Chase and Kelsey - and I wish that someone would've told me to read this book before Last Wish ☺ But it's ok - there wasn't anything that I didn't understand.

Tissues might be needed! ☺



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Apr 29, 2014 Mandy rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
Wow! What an emotional story! Kelsey and Chase are both dealing with their grief of losing Kyle - Kelsey's brother. It was so heartbreaking to see what death can do to friendship and family. Grief can really change so much of your life. I felt so sad for Kelsey and her family as they struggled with Kyle's death. This story just sucked me in - it was sad but it also had hope and forgiveness. I loved that this was a dual POV- I was glad to be able to read what Chase was going through and feeling a ...more
Apr 29, 2014 Michaela rated it it was amazing
I love this book! Erin Butlers writing reminds me of Colleen Hoovers so, I like it a lot!

The whole story is really complicated and full of unexpected situations. Main heroes have the real character and fall in love really hard and that is the reason why their story is so strong and loveable!

Love it, love it, love it!

Cant wait for another book written by this new but already amazing author!

Erin, thanks for sharing this incredible story with us! Appreciate it!
» Review can also be found on Orchids & Amethysts.

Title: How We Lived
Author: Erin Butler
Rating: 4.5/5

Thanks to NetGallery and Entangled Publishing (Embrace) for giving me a chance to read this before the official release.
Nineteen-year-old Kelsey Larkin’s parents uninvited her to her brother’s funeral. She just wanted to wear jeans and a T-shirt—the clothes Kyle would’ve wanted her in—not wrap herself up in death. So she watched the funeral from afar, like an outsider. Which is just how she f
Apr 26, 2014 Jess rated it really liked it
Wow. I was pleasantly surprised with this book. When I first read the blurb for this book, it just completely intrigued me. Although it took me a little time to get round to reading this one, once I started, I just couldn't stop. I didn't have huge expectations for this novel, being that it's another NA amongst all those other NA novels out there, I went in expecting the same sort of feelings that I flit through with every other NA that I read. Except this was different, this outdid anything I e ...more
Ellen Watkins
Apr 23, 2014 Ellen Watkins rated it it was amazing
In How We Lived, written by Erin Butler, she portrayed the realness behind losing a family member too soon. I have been in Kelsey Larkin's shoes, I lost my only brother to suicide 2 years ago at the age of 38, and reading this book summed up how hard that is. It was so well written to show just what family's face when a brother/son or sister/daughter is taken from us too soon.
Kelsey is grieving the loss of her brother, and best friend, Kyle, and dealing with it the best way she knows how. Kelse
Apr 11, 2014 *P rated it it was amazing
5 "Better Get Some Kleenex" Stars

Wow. This book was really good. I love when I go into a story without big expectations, and then you are blown away. While this was a quick read for me it was rich with substance and filled with things I love like friends who find love and healing while they do it.

Kelsey is home from college because even though her brother died five months ago, they are just now able to do the service. What makes it worse is that her parents nor her have done well these past five
Funzee Shu
May 03, 2014 Funzee Shu rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

***3.8/5 stars***


Bro, I’m sorry, man. I couldn’t stay away…can’t stay away....

You shouldn't have a feeling with your best friend's sister....
You shouldn't fallin' in love with a girl which her brother killed by you....
You shouldn't want her....
You shouldn't let her know your feeling....
She's forbidden for you....
You don't deserve that happiness....
You should leave her....let her go.... couldn't....
You need her....
You need her so much like an air....
She's your reason to live....
To br
Jun 19, 2014 Nicola rated it it was amazing
This book gets all the hearts from me. Heartbreaking, heart wrenching, heart warming and heart stoppingly beautiful, I read How We Lived in one sitting and felt every moment of Kelsey and Chase's grief, pain and love. Told from both their perspectives, I held it together right until the very end and then the tears made their appearance.

"I would come here even if I had ten thousand places to go. You're the only thing that feels like home now"

It may be relatively short read, but Erin Butler has d
Tania (Real-Listen-Feel)
4.25 stars

Dès que j'ai lu le résumé de ce livre, il m'a fait pensé à Come Back to Me de Mila Gray que j'avais plus qu'adoré. Alors il fallait absolument que je le lise. J'avais vraiment l'impression que j'aurais droit à une belle histoire d'amour, mais aussi de pardon et d'émotion. Et j'avais bien raison.

Le roman débute 5 mois après la mort de Kyle, le frère ainé de Kelsey et meilleur ami de Chase. Ça fait maintenant 5 mois qu'il ne se sont pas vu ni adressé la parole, alors qu'ils étaient aupar
Apr 07, 2014 Jena rated it really liked it
I just adored this book. How We Lived takes a death and spins it into a story with so many emotions and so many individuals overcoming grief. It has such a dark feel yet romantic and sexy too and I loved the combo.

Kelsey is such a great character for so many reasons. First, there is a huge change from her in the beginning to her at the end of the book and I was so proud of her for realizing she needed to change how she was living. Next I love show she reacted with her parents. Sometime people n
Apr 11, 2014 ci rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: everyone
5 stars for opening my eyes and my heart

I LOVE Entangled Publishing and their authors. If you haven't been reeled in yet, you need to be. So many genres, so many great books!

This was my first book by Erin Butler and it won't be my last.

If you follow my reviews than you know that I don't lay out the whole plot because you can get that from the blurb and I won't leave any spoilers, so my reviews tend to be short and to the point.

A tragic accident leaves one dead and the whole town reeling. This i
May 01, 2014 Judy rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this somewhat short, but definitely enjoyable book about three best friends, a sister and a brother and the boy next door, who all grew up together and then tragedy struck. The boy next door drives the brother home from a party in honor of the brother's return from Afghanistan. Unfortunately he was drunk, skidded off the road and the brother was killed. The boy next door and the sister now have a very tentative love/hate relationship but soon their life long friendship and what ...more
Apr 10, 2014 Melissa rated it really liked it
A good new adult book complete with sadness, secrets and complicated relationships. Kelsey grew up best friends with her older brother Kyle and their next door neighbor Chase. Now Kyle is dead. Kyle was a passenger in a car Chase was driving when they hit a patch of ice. Kelsey is torn between blaming him for the accident and missing his friendship. Kelsey's parents are caught up in their own sadness and she is feeling more and more lost. When Chase shows up for the funeral, she starts to forgiv ...more
Felicia Semmler
Apr 30, 2014 Felicia Semmler rated it it was amazing
Shelves: new-adult
Really liked this book. It deals with a lot of issues young adults can relate too. Loss, drinking and driving, feeling like your lost and drowning in your own sorrow, regret, hatred, compassion. If you've ever lost a loved one this will hit close to home. I loved Chase, he is a truly goof guy leaving his playboy days behind. Kels (love that nickname) is lost and grieving the loss of her brother and really doesn't know how to handle it.
This book will make you laugh cry and even bring back your o
Jessica Figueroa
Apr 07, 2014 Jessica Figueroa rated it really liked it
Shelves: arc, netgally
What I really liked about this book was that it was short and sweet. Its perfect for when I'm really busy with school and got a few moments at a time to read. I loved the characters and loved that there was more then one point of views. I liked that the dual POV helped me understand Chases intentions and how Kelsey was doing after what happen to her brother. I loved that this book wasn't overly dramatic. I really enjoyed this book.
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Apr 28, 2014 Aestas Book Blog marked it as to-read
ADDED TO THE TBR!! “Until a few months ago, the three of them had been best friends, and then Chase made a mistake that shattered both families. But when Kelsey looks at him, she doesn’t see her brother’s killer. She sees the boy next door who’s always taken care of her. She sees home.”

This was not the easiest of reads. My heart hurt a LOT for these two people. In the end, I was so thankful for their HEA!
Mar 13, 2016 Francesca rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: new-adult
Un NA simple et mignon
Trixiter Marczak
Apr 23, 2014 Trixiter Marczak rated it it was amazing
What a wonderful story! Erin, I can't wait to read more books of yours! You truly have a way with words, how you brought Kels and Chase to life, beautiful! Loved their story!
Apr 16, 2014 Emma rated it liked it
Shelves: new-adult
How We Lived is a poignant, emotion fuelled depiction of not only love but of grief, death and bereavement, heart-breaking mistakes and ultimately redemption/forgiveness.

Chase and Kelsey have know each other from childhood, next door neighbours and best friends with Kelsey’s brother Kyle. Yet one monumental mistake leads to Kyle’s death shaking the foundation of their lives. Chase fully accepts the responsibility of his actions and the consequences. His world is torn apart from that very ba
May 01, 2014 Sleepy rated it really liked it
This was a fucking beautifully written story. Heartbreaking yet beautiful.

My heart broke for all these characters, they were all in such pain and were hurting. They lost someone they loved and didn't know how to deal.
Kels is Kyle sister and she feels empty without him,they were best friends,

Chase was Kyle's best friend almost like a brother, and he's carrying around a shit load of guilt and feels broken about everything.

Apr 15, 2014 Farrah rated it really liked it
An emotional, sweet, and wonderful New Adult romance, How We Lived was a fantastic read. I really liked this lovely book. I thought it was great.

Kelsey was a lovely heroine. Throughout the book, she struggled to move on from her brother's death. As the book went on, she became stronger and more determined to take her life into her own hands. It was a little frustrating how she would run away from facing her emotions, though. But, overall, I liked her.

Chase was wonderful. He was so sweet. From th
May 29, 2014 Lynn rated it really liked it
I am a sucker for a bad boy with secrets. And Chase is no exception. His and Kelsey's story of loss, love and survival is outstanding.
Chase was always the boy next door to Kelsey, the boy she was close to and loved from afar, but one night changed that all; the night Chase killed her brother.
Kelsey was close with her brother and his absence haunts her. Her parents have fallen into a dark place, hating each other and pretending as if their only child died. Chase keeps his distance from the family
Cocktails and Books
Apr 15, 2014 Cocktails and Books rated it really liked it
3.5 Cocktails

HOW WE LIVED is a great story about second chances. In this case, it's a second chance for Kelsey Larkin to figure out what she really wants to do, instead of following a path she had been on before her brother's death. And for Chase, it's making up for the one mistake that destroyed two families.

Kyle and Kelsey lived next door to Chase for all their lives. Kyle and Chase were best friends, but they often let Kelsey join them on their adventures. But their entire world was turned up
All Romance
Apr 30, 2014 All Romance rated it really liked it
4.5 stars!!!!


I love when you read a book, not knowing what to expect and then you fall in love with it. It's like:

That's what happened with this book.

I found myself on the verge of tears or just flat out crying at least a dozen times. But don't worry, this is totally a HEA and no cliffy.

Kelsey was such an amazing character. I fell in love with her instantly. I am very close to my brother so any story about a brother and sister being close hits me hard. I often go to thoughts o
Apr 16, 2014 Loren rated it it was amazing
Shelves: must-own-books
Words cannot even begin to describe how I felt while reading this book. From the very first sentence, I was hooked and I was more than happy about the fact. Normally, I don’t like or even read romance novels, however, when the romance is wrapped in a package as differently as this, then I cannot but help to love it. And I do realize that I say I love many books, but each one speaks to me differently.

Honestly, I didn’t expect the story to play out like it did. I’m not entirely sure what I was exp
FS Meurinne
Apr 19, 2014 FS Meurinne rated it it was amazing
Shelves: reviews, arc
"Received and ARC for an honest review"

This book got straight through me. It made me teary and squeezed my heart but I wouldn't want it any other way.

Kelsey is in a place in her life that thankfully not everyone gets to be. Unfortunately, that's not my case. I lost a sister to an accident as well, so this story really got in my heart.

I love how Erin managed it all. The reality and how well she understands and makes you feel what the characters are going through is no easy task, but she nailed
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Erin Butler is lucky enough to have two jobs she truly loves. As a librarian, she gets to work with books all day long, and as an author, Erin uses her active imagination to write the kinds of books she loves to read. Young Adult and New Adult books are her favorites, but she especially fangirls over a sigh-worthy romance.

She lives in Central New York with her very understanding husband, a stepson
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