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The Geek's Guide to Dating

3.54  ·  Rating details ·  725 ratings  ·  190 reviews
You keep your action figures in their original packaging. Your bedsheets are officially licensed Star Wars merchandise. You’re hooked on Elder Scrolls and Metal Gear but now you’ve discovered an even bigger obsession: the new girl who just moved in down the hall. What’s a geek to do? Take some tips from Eric Smith in The Geek’s Guide to Dating. This hilarious primer leads ...more
Hardcover, 208 pages
Published December 3rd 2013 by Quirk Books
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Jul 05, 2013 added it
I will admit to having not read the book. However, I was interested.. until I read the description. I'll just put it nice and simple:


Added on December 11, 2013:

Given that this short little review continues to get likes and comments, I thought I should comment further as to why I originally posted it. As of the time of this posting, I still have not read this book. I turned down the author's offer of an ARC due to having too many aggravating things going on in my life at t
Vishnu Chevli
I have taken "The Geek's Guide To Dating" by Eric Smith because of its very unique cover. Being a geek myself I was curious about book content and what would I find in this book.

Talking about context, if you're wondering what kind of geek this book is written, then let me tell you, my friend, it is written for all kinds of geek whether you are pop culture, techno or academic geeks it will work. Though written mostly is for boys, the book is written in such a way that being a girl I still enjoyed
Eric Smith
Sep 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
Shelves: wrote
Hey I wrote this like two years ago! Maybe I should give it a review. Because why not.
jv poore
Sep 11, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: young-adult, own-it
While the advice in The Geek’s Guide to Dating is undoubtedly spot-on for all single, self-professed geeks; it, in no way, should be limited to that audience. “Geek” is proudly owned by excitable, quirky, intelligent and often goofy folks; with a “proper geek” being one consumed by a particular passion. Geeks are never exclusive. This thoughtful, kind, and hilarious book is applicable to all members of society. It is a superb, subtle reminder of how to treat other people.

I’m particularly smitte
Beth Cato
Aug 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction, humor, 2013
The publisher sent me this book by accident--I was supposed to get another title--but it was really a delightful mistake. I adored this book. Even though I'm a geek, I'm not in the target demographic at all. The book is targeted for single men, though most of the information is highly relevant to women and that issue is addressed right at the start. As for me: I've been married for thirteen years, since I was 20. I don't need dating advice at this point; more like, advice on how to tell my husba ...more
Oh, me, oh, my. So seeing as I really did just read this book in less time than a day again (though not as fast as a Gayle Foreman, Alexandra Harvey, Rowling, etc) I definitely think this needs reviewing pretty much on the spot. I really want to be able to give this book five stars, because it is a truly, adorably, fabulous little book *but* (and I want to start with these to knock them out of the way as possible), this is a niche book and it gets it down a level for me.

Especially because you w
Crystal Starr Light
NOTE: Thanks to the author, Eric Smith, who saw my interest in the book and offered me a free copy for review.

How this book got into my hands is a rather fun story. I actually had never heard of it until I was perusing my library's ebook selection and saw it as an available loan. Being a geek (though not one currently in the market), I couldn't pass up the opportunity.

I also couldn't help but check it out here. It turns out, one of the most prominent "reviews" also had an interesting discussion
Bonnie Burton
Sep 22, 2013 rated it it was amazing
If dating seems more like a dismal game of Frogger instead of a fun Zelda adventure, you need to read "The Geek's Guide to Dating" by Eric Smith! Learn how to meet people in the real world and connect off-line for a change. You may even level up to a romance worthy of an RPG! ...more
Oct 17, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2013-reads

Author and Geekadelphia founder Eric Smith gained his 15-minutes of nerd fame when he found out his girlfriend was cheating on him and he sold the engagement ring he had planned to give her and bought a full set of Master Chief armor with it. He then wrote about it in a hilarious if devastating internet post entitled: Master Grief. Ring any bells? Get it, ring?

Anyway, what better person to pen a book of dating advice by a geek for a geek? O
Stay Fetters
Apr 11, 2017 rated it did not like it
"Be original and genuine... unless you truly do love piña coladas and getting caught in the rain. In that case, good luck with the pneumonia and alcoholism."

I've always thought that I was the weird nerd. The nerd who loves to read, has tattoos and would punch your face in at the drop of a line. And then I've read this book. I realized that I'm not even close. The jokes went over my head, I know how to talk to people and what the hell did those abbreviations even mean?
And yes, I searched for
4 stars

Now, I'm not really a non-fiction reader, but with its quirky title, The Geek's Guide to Dating quickly became a must-read for me. And reading it was an absolutely wonderful experience. I giggled so much. This is just a great book for anyone on the geeky side of the spectrum looking to be entertained. You might just learn something too.

First off, the structure and design of this book is absolutely fabulous. The layout is reminiscent of a textbook, but it has cute little 8-bit drawings as
Dean Tsang
Mar 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing
As I was browsing the shelves at Waterstones for a self-help book I came across this little gem. A few days later, I began reading, and once I started it became very hard for me to stop.

Before I address how much of a brilliant book this is, I'd like to express my opinion on some of the issues and criticisms relating to the concept of this handy guide. Firstly, there's the issue that the book only addresses male geeks, and ignores female gamers. Yes, I agree that it is an issue, but there is a se
Jan 31, 2014 rated it liked it
Dating is hard, no matter what your demographic, but geeks have some negative stereotypes to overcome. I picked up Eric Smith's book to see what advice he might have.

For those of you seeking your Player Two, Smith breaks down the game into seven stages, including getting your life in order, asking her out, preparing for the first date, and having the first date, as well as end-stage games such as moving in together or breaking up. Little of the material is groundbreaking, such as "Stand up strai
Michelle (In Libris Veritas)
Dec 09, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, self-help
I know…you’re looking at this and you’re not sure you even want to read the review. A self-help guide to dating…yikes! But hear me out because this one is actually really fun and actually contains helpful advice, and the best part is it’s speaks our language: Geek.

This book uses the word ‘he’ a lot but fear not geek ladies, if you have common sense you are equipped to switch out those pronouns and use the advice yourself. Also you’re probably wondering if a book nerd will relate to something tha
Feb 10, 2014 rated it really liked it
I was instantly drawn to THE GEEK'S GUIDE TO DATING. The cover is cute and, well, I'm a geek and not all that great at meeting new people. I am, however, a girl. THE GEEK'S GUIDE TO DATING is aimed almost entirely at straight guys, which is made clear inside, but not on the back copy.

Now, there are plenty of bits of advice I found helpful, but I'd've liked for THE GEEK'S GUIDE TO DATING to try to make more than a few cursory gestures toward the whole dating spectrum. (In fact, I think there is
Nov 21, 2013 rated it really liked it
If you are a geek in any form of the work either by appearance or at heart then you will enjoy this book. Even if you are not looking for someone. I am a geek in the form of a computer gamer. I have played some video games but my heart really belongs with computer games like Duke Nukem, Wolfenstein, Civilization, and World of Warcraft.

So as I was reading this book I could relate to references that the author was making on the different persona, how to approach and interact with your date, and w
Kirtida Gautam
Jul 04, 2016 rated it liked it
Shelves: chakra-3
I am a Geek. A proud Geek! My idea of romance is to watch Battlestar Galactica with my spouse who is a fellow geek. The book hit home. It's difficult for me to laugh while reading something (come to think of it, it's difficult for me to feel any emotion while reading, I hardly get emotional in general-- Han!) But this book made me laugh at least at 3 different places.
My favorite one is-- Sometimes things go well and you make a connection that leads to a free exchange of ideas (or DNA)
-- So
Maria Stanica
Oct 07, 2013 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars
Here's my video review:
Adam Di Filippe
Dec 03, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: humor
I finished this well written book in one day: it was hard(er than normal) to stop reading. The writing is as humorous as it is helpful.
Julio Biason
Mar 23, 2021 rated it liked it
I have to be honest: The first 1/3 of the book was quite boring. If you ever read any other dating-advice book, there is a lot of same tips: Listen to her, find some common ground, etc, etc, etc. All that with heavy drops of geek/nerd culture: game references, movie references, book references and the continuous use of referring to the reader as "Player One" (ok, I get it: People are trying to get their "Player Two", but heck, calm the freaking down).

The later parts are a bit better, going off t
Kiswara Mihardja
Jan 23, 2022 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
So, we both know why you’re here. You’re tired of living life in single player mode; you’re on a quest for a Player Two to call your own. ― Eric Smith, The Geek's Guide to Dating ...more
Jan 13, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Angela's Anxious Life - full review

First up... book cover. I love it so much. I think of myself as a geek and so I was in!! I mean YES! A friend, myself and my husband sat around reading this book aloud and laughing so hard.

Let me say.. I am a girl. I am a girl who is a geek. This book is not really written for girls. Just men. You can take what is written and put a girl in the place of situations... but it's still not totally for girls. There is a page that Smith writes to the geek girls readi
Jan 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
I got a copy of this book to review through the Amazon Vine program. It was a fun read. The book is aimed more at the male than the female daters, but can apply to both. I really enjoyed the sheer amount of geekiness that is packed into this book.

This dating guide is laid out like a gaming manual, which is really clever. The first chapter is “Selecting Your Character”, followed by chapters on “Engage!”, and “Do or Not Do”. You get the idea.

This book is aimed at male geeks who need help with dati
Johnny Bergman
Dec 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: own
I would not really classify myself as a “Geek” but I have some geek qualities: I love to read books, I “fanboy” at certain fandoms, collect random popular culture items (posters and cards), and you can see me at random cons throughout the year. Well, I guess I am a geek in my own right.

When I received The Geek’s Guide to Dating in the mail, I was pretty excited that I was picked to read the book. It was my first ARC that I have had the opportunity to read. Of course, I kept telling myself that I
This review is also posted at Carmel & Kyla.

*Copy provided by publisher in exchange of my honest review. This does not affect the rating or contents of my review.*


I don't usually take time in reading non-fiction books but this is going to be an exception. Why? Simply because this book is amazing. This is the first non-fiction novel I've ever read and I can say that this is a great one. I'm very much looking forward to read other non-fiction titles.

“So, we both know why you’re
Andrea (formerly Amadeus)
Jul 06, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: first-reads
I received this as an ARC from the publisher (through a First Reads giveaway.) First, kudos to Quirk Books. I've received other ARCs before but their packet was a step above the rest.

Full disclosure: I, AmadeusJenkins, am a woman reviewing books under the name of my alter ego. Although I am not a man to whom this book is targeted, I feel quite confident in my geek-dom and approached this book eager to read about geek-dating from a male perspective.

The Geek's Guide to Dating is thorough and fun
Jun 05, 2013 rated it really liked it
This book was provided by the publisher for reviewing purposes.
Love is confusing enough for the well-adjusted. For geeks, it can be downright impossible. Enter The Geek's Guide to Dating.
I'll be completely honest with you: At first, I thought this book was fiction. I had assumed upon first glance that it was a YA book chronicling the misadventures of a geek in pursuit of a girl. I was definitely wrong, and I am delighted that I was. Filled cover-to-cover with geeky anecdotes and 8-bit illustra
Jan 09, 2014 rated it really liked it
A humorous look at the quirks of dating in a chic 8-bit, nerdtastic and geekdom-y sort of way.

Much like finance books and "new" sock-knitting books - there's nothing new, it's all marketing to attract a new crowd to part the covers and flip the pages.

Now that I'm not writing on the phone, I can expand on a couple of points:

On our journey, we start out with 'classing' your character by identifying your personal geek-type so that you can figure out what strengths/weaknesses you can build on
Mimi Zane
Aug 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: own, male, one-sitting
**I received a copy from the author in exchange for an honest review**

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I saw this title on Erin (BookNut)'s Quirk Book giveaway and I just knew I had to get my hands on a copy. I mean the cover is gorgeous! I love video games and briefly glancing at this, I'm picturing my all time favorite 8 bits incl
Aug 02, 2013 rated it liked it
In The Geek’s Guide to Dating, Eric Smith teaches geek males the ins and outs of the art of dating. Using metaphors and sayings from various geek sources (movies, TV, comic books, and games), Smith takes geeks from meeting a partner through the first date and finally to the end. Each topic of dating is covered and put into geek terms so that the reader can understand and relate to the material.
I must start by saying that I am not the target audience of this book. Although I am a geek, I am marri
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Eric Smith is a Young Adult author and literary agent living in Philadelphia.

His next book, Jagged Little Pill: The Novel, a collaboration with Alanis Morissette, Diablo Cody, and Glen Ballard, will be published with Abrams in April 2022. It’s an adaptation of the Grammy and Tony award winning musical.

His latest books include You Can Go Your Own Way (Inkyard Press) and the acclaimed anthology Bat

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