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Hot Monogamy

3.67  ·  Rating details ·  64 Ratings  ·  7 Reviews
Written by Dr. Love, a sex therapist with an aptronym if ever there was one, Hot Monogamy is no contradiction in terms. Comedian Dave Barry may joke about his guide to "marriage and/or sex," but Dr. Love's book proves that becoming sensually and "sexually fluent" is a skill that can send flames soaring, no matter how long you've been a couple or how humdrum your sex life h ...more
Paperback, 304 pages
Published August 27th 1998 by Piatkus Books (first published February 3rd 1994)
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Feb 24, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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As you can guess from the title, this book is skewed towards a monogamous viewpoint. That's not really an issue for me as I tend towards monogamy. However, I thought this was a great book about how to communicate about sex and intimacy and build trust in sexual relationships. I think it has some good solid advice and some exercises to help couples relate to each other better sexually. I think a lot of the issues and ideas addressed in this book would benefit all sorts of relationships, though if ...more
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Jun 11, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've only read half of the book so far. If you're in a relationship, there are a ton of things in this book that could prove useful. Most of it isn't sexual (although there's some great stuff in that arena too). Most of what I've read so far centers on communication. Since sex is 90% mental, that makes sense. One of my favorite television characters, a certain Frank Underwood, once said, "Everything is about sex, except sex." That seems to be generally true. Much of what we do in our day to day ...more
Mar 16, 2008 rated it really liked it
Even though I am not technically in a monogamous relationship, I picked up this book at a Friends of the Library book sale. I like to read advice books by a variety of sex educators to find out what techniques are being recommended to folks.

This book has a lot of really good information, and I got a lot out of it. The number one suggestion is communication and good communication at that, not just blabbing at each other all the time. There are exercises at the end of each chapter for both members
Apr 24, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Excellent book. Pat Love is a great marriage therapist. Doug and I incorporate lots of her marriage therapy techniques into our work. Discovered this book when we were in Austin for training. It is one of the best I have read on passionate, intimate lovemaking. I think it was written in the 90's originally and republished in 2013. It has good information and excellent exercises to facilitate talking about sex, resolving differences, communicating about techniques, relaxing into fun, creating rom ...more
Jul 12, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Overall a good book for couples to read to better understand why they should be talking about sex and what they can do to better enjoy it.

There is some crude language in the case studies and some of the interventions they suggest are outdated.
The content and writing style are old-fashioned and outdated, and sometimes conflicted with more recent data in other books on marriage/sex I've read. Some of the ideas and exercises I disagreed with and some I had already thought of on my own. But I still got some helpful nuggets out of it.
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