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How to Love

3.70  ·  Rating details ·  17,195 ratings  ·  2,327 reviews
Reena Montero has loved Sawyer LeGrande for as long as she can remember: as natural as breathing, as endless as time. But he's never seemed to notice that Reena even exists until one day, impossibly, he does. Reena and Sawyer fall in messy, complicated love. But then Sawyer disappears from their humid Florida town without a word, leaving a devastated—and pregnan
Hardcover, 389 pages
Published October 1st 2013 by Balzer + Bray
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Adrienne Dalmazio not that the book does or doesnt answer the question but it an amazing book all around. i loved it so much never a waste of time. i could read it over…morenot that the book does or doesnt answer the question but it an amazing book all around. i loved it so much never a waste of time. i could read it over and over again
Rhiannon Back 16 when she gets pregnant and 18 when he returns.
This book is suitable for teens as it is not graphic when explaining. there is underage drinking, dr…more
16 when she gets pregnant and 18 when he returns.
This book is suitable for teens as it is not graphic when explaining. there is underage drinking, drug use and sex but none of that goes into detail. (less)

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ohhhh this book has so much potential to be a real heartbreaker, but sadly, its just not quite up for the job.

its strength is not shying away from difficult topics that teens do have to deal with - pressure to go to college, pregnancy, drugs, underage drinking, peer pressure, etc. quite often YA stories feature picturesque teens as they are a little easier to read about, but this story is frustrating, messy, and real. and i think it could have had a great impact if there was more character deve
Wendy Darling
I think a large part of whether this book works for you may rely on whether you find Sawyer LeGrande charming. And I do not.

And while I'm prone to be pretty forgiving with girls who don't always make smart choices, I was constantly frustrated with Reena, too. Make him work for it, honey. And it is NOT OKAY to (repeatedly) act in a way that is hurtful to other people, particularly if you know what it's like to be hurt yourself.

I'm surprised at how negatively I feel about this one, given the sea
Aj the Ravenous Reader
Jun 01, 2016 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Aj the Ravenous Reader by: Marla Mei

This book sucks big time! It made me say the words “dumb” and “stupid” in several places and several times. It made me shake my head so hard, it felt like it was going to come off. It broke my heart. It made me shed tears and in the end it made me grin-this goofy grin. And that’s why it sucks because it made me feel all these emotions I wasn’t planning on feeling and in my vocabulary, when a book does that to you, it’s definitely good!

I know you probably peg me for an angsty reader and you proba
Aimee ♥ | Aimee, Always

***Warning, this rant will contain spoilers for How to Love and some angry GIFs. A very incoherent rant will be coming your way.

This was me when I finally got to buy this book since there was a sale at our local bookstore:

But then, I realized something as the book went on. The title of this book--yeah, it doesn't work. At all. Instead of How to Love, I strongly believe this boos should be entitled How to Cheat and Be a Whiny Little Girl.

See, in both the "before" and "after" timelines, Reena
Jun 02, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: arc, bea13, physical-arc
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How to Love could have easily been a 4—or maybe even 5—star book, but there was one massive problem: Sawyer. Sawyer literally stole those stars one by one. POOF! GONE! He just chipped away at them every time he pulled a dickhead move that made me want to pummel his face in with rocks.

How to Love started out pretty strong for me. I had kind of a morbid interest in it, very similar to My Life After Now by Jessica Verdi. Teenage pregnancy? I was curious. I w
Whitney Atkinson
Jul 31, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2015
3.5 stars

It's so hard for me to collect my thoughts about this book. I nearly unhauled this and at this point, I'm unable to determine if whether I should have or not. I kept this because I've never read a book on teen pregnancy before, and I really wanted to try this. I fell in love with the writing of this book. Katie Cotugno isn't necessarily the most brilliant writer, but she makes such clever analogies and her sentences flow so well that I was really rather impressed. And usually I hate now
Rating: I am SO VERY CONFLICTED ABOUT THIS BOOK. Honestly, getting my thoughts in any kind of order seems to be impossible. It's almost like I hated and loved this book in equal measure. In the end, I feel like the strengths of this book are so strong that they outweighed the negatives. The first half of this book is sensational. The second half made me mildly crabby.

In an effort to make my thoughts more orderly, I'm going to impose some order on this review.

I loved: The writing. How to Love is
Nov 06, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya-contemporary
I did not expect to like this book as much as I did. It was gripping and adorable. The characters were definitely very flawed but I still enjoyed it none the less.
Joce (squibblesreads)
Teens making out against a wall. Character makes joke about terrorists. Then asks another character "are you one of those people who are really sensitive about terrorist jokes?"
The scene was pretty much left at that. I tried to continue but I'll cool it w books w privileged characters that make offhand remarks about terrorism with not a smidgen of recourse either directly or indirectly. Hard pass.
Edit: I read a tiny bit more and it doesn't seem as though this character is made out to be villain


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The end made me so damn happy for Reena and Sawyer.

This book was not perfect. It has some shortcomings, but personally I thought this book was great. I think it dealt with the topic of teenage pregnancy realistically. I should know because I have been in that situation. I have been Reena at some point in my life, and I could definitely say that most of the situations Reena went through in this book was accurate.

I've read a couple of negative reviews about this
enqi ☁️✨ (hiatus due to college)
the most beautiful and heartbreaking masterpiece of a contemporary i've read this year.

Jaime Arkin
I seriously have started and stopped writing this review about 4 times. I'm sucking it up now and completing it though.

Every once in a while I read a book that totally exceeds anything I was expecting… a book that leaves you practically speechless with how incredibly it is written and the story it tells. That is what How To Love was for me. I’m not entirely sure what I can say about this book right now, so forgive me if none of this makes a bit of sense.

First of all, it’s told in a wonderfull
I'm sorry if this comes out as a rant.. You have been warned..

Nothing really happens exactly..It's just day to day mundane things except at the end there was a bit of drama. There's no hook to keep you reading. I pushed this aside twice and picked it up again just so I can find out if he changes. There are chapters of her going to the mall and shopping and cooking food. It's super mundane and utterly boring. I also don't like the Before and After chapters because it breaks the momentum of whatev
Rachel Maniacup
Jun 18, 2016 rated it liked it
Recommended to Rachel by: Aj the Ravenous Reader
This is my first book of Katie Catugno,and I must say that this author is a talented writer because she writes beautifully..I just didn't like the story line because it didn't much portrayed what the title says(and it's the title that captivated me into reading this). I'm not being judgmental but I guess,I have high hopes and expectations when it comes to contemporary. I thought,the story would flow similarly to "Before We Were Strangers" or something like the "First Comes Love"series-these are ...more
4 stars
Review to come

OMG you guys! This book totally cured my slump! Absolutely surprised at how good this one was! I really only have one rant (but it's sort of a big one) and tbh it's mostly personal preference (but it's keeping me from giving this 5 stars). I definitely recommend this book to the contemporary lovers out there! <3
Sep 01, 2015 rated it liked it
True rating 2.5

A few days ago I read a review that made me think about my rating system, I don’t remember the reviewer’s name so if you’re reading this (which you’re probably not) message me so I can tag you. Okay, so the reviewer said something about how people mostly lower their ratings based on characters’ stupid decisions and not the writing-style nor the world-building. Okay, so I admit that characters have a huge role in my rating, but it’s not the only thing I look at whilst rating. I lo
May 21, 2013 rated it really liked it
Okay, so this wasn't the light, cute, fun read I was looking for, but wow, this book was pretty good. What a great story that realistically portrays a situation that happens all-too-often in a way that captures your heart.

The reason I liked this story so much was because it wasn't about a girl in a rough or trashy neighborhood that got pregnant by the typical bad boy. Serena and Sawyer are from devout Christian families, and they deal with issues that real teens deal with - whether it's Serena's
May 06, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: arc, own, audiobook
Don't let my 3 stars sway you against this one. How to Love is a pretty good book for many reasons. First it touches on a subject I personally have not often come across in books - teen pregnancy. I found this was handled realistically and fairly. I also really enjoyed the way it was told in past and present perspectives, allowing us to slowly unravel the messy, emotionally conflicting details of Reena's relationship with the father of her child - Sawyer. We learn how it started, but most import ...more
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Oct 21, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2013
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Reena has dreamed of two things her whole life – getting away from her hometown of Broward, Florida and getting together with Sawyer. Little does she know that when dream #2 comes true, it will be Sawyer escaping, leaving Reena left behind to raise his baby. A couple
Aug 30, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: why-the-hype
It's no secret that I struggle with romance. I'm just as prone to swooning as any other girl, but perhaps I'm just more picky about who I swoon over. Or maybe it just takes more for a romance to really click for me. Whatever it is, How to Love, failed to impress me. Not only did its love story fall flat, but its tale of redemption didn't tug at any heartstrings whatsoever. Although I believe that Cotugno's debut novel manages to cover a plethora of topics with poise, its prose lilting and imposs ...more
Dec 09, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: audiobooks
3.5 out of 5

I wasn’t sure if I liked this book in the beginning but once it picked up, I quite enjoyed it. There are a few parts that didn’t sit well with me but otherwise it was great.

The story is complicated and messy but in a good way. It was relatable to say the least. Reena and Sawyer had history and can’t seem to leave it behind them. They both made mistakes in past and are trying to learn from it. I really liked their characters.

It was an amazing contemporary read. It will make you lau
Mar 17, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: romance, ya
2 stars

Writing this mini review FOR A SECOND TIME because GR is a bitch and deleted my first review

There are a very small number of female MCs that I want to bitch slap. Really, most of the books I read (98% at least) have awesome female characters. They are either 1) badasses, 2) become badasses, or 3) Elizabeth Bennett.

Our MC Reena here didn't make the 98%.

And don't even get me started on Sawyer.

I don't even think I can write a full review at this point. I really did not like this b
So... How to Love.
More like How to Be Infatuated With an Egocentric Jerk And Make One Bad Decision After The Next And Ruin Your Life.

I don't know, man. Does hating the main character and nearly everyone in the novel is enough reason to hate the book? *shrugs*
Okay, Lamar. What did you love about the novel?
The writing was good.
The exploration of a real, raw issue was interesting.
I liked Shelby, Aaron, and Soledad.
The color of the cover is beautiful.


He wanted so bad to be th
Mar 10, 2015 rated it really liked it
3.75/5 stars
I wasn't sure what I was going to think of this book, but I ended up enjoying it. Besides a few things, it was great.
May 13, 2013 rated it it was amazing
So I hugged the book after finishing it... For 1 minute straight while lying on my bed... I just can't form the words to express how much I loved this book <3 Katie Cotugno, I love you


I really really don't know where to begin with this review or how to express how I felt about this book. If you already scrolled down, you would have noticed that my rating for How to Love is an "All time favorite" and if you are a frequent visitor on our blog, you'd also know that we rarely ever bring that
May 17, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorite, own
How To Love is by far one of the best debuts I've ever read. I truly had no idea what to expect from Katie Cotugno and I was completely blown away.

How To Love almost fits into the new adult category rather than young adult. It's a much more mature story than normal YA books and I loved it. Younger readers can certainly get away with reading it (although there is drug use/alcohol use/sexual content) and older readers such as myself can truly enjoy it. While Sawyer and Reena are both in their tee
Ashley DiNorcia
Jun 27, 2015 rated it it was ok
Shelves: fiction-fiction
I don't know. The only thing I really felt while reading this was "wow is this how everyone I know felt while I was dating that ridiculous douchebag all those years ago?"

The before and after perspectives worked for me in this book. Getting to see how the characters have grown yet stayed the same added to the story. I wasn't particularly bothered by Sawyer's shittyness, because honestly, I've known people like him and it happens and I don't mind seeing realistic yet aggravating characters in book
May 27, 2013 rated it liked it
Maybe if I'd taken the time to read the blurb or ask what How to Love by Katie Cotugno was about, I wouldn't have read it. Or maybe morbid curiosity would still have gotten the better of me, but I'd have had an easier reading experience for being prepared.

Because there are some books you read for the pleasure of losing yourself totally, of becoming an entirely different person in a different time and a different reality. And there are some books you read to catch a glimpse of yourself in the mir

Beautiful & achingly realistic tale of young love & its aftermath

Very rarely does a book impress me, satisfy me, and affect me emotionally as much as Katie Cotugno's debut novel, How to Love, did. This novel is a beautiful and achingly realistic portrayal of one couple's doomed teenage love affair, the aftermath, and their eventual coming to terms with one another.

HOW TO LOVE stands out among the crowd of other YA contemporary novels most notably due to Cotugno's lyrical, evocative writing.
Jun 05, 2013 rated it it was ok
Reviewed @ Enticed by Books

     What an utter disappointment! How To Love was one of my most awaited reads of 2013, everything about this book, from the cover to the premises to the early feedback screamed that it was the perfect book for me. Second chance romance! Hell Yeah! That is my favorite type of romance and there has never been a time where I disliked a book featuring that, but I guess there is a first time for everything. How To Love and I started off at the wrong foot; from the
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Katie Cotugno is the New York Times bestselling author of messy, complicated, feminist love stories. She studied Writing, Literature and Publishing at Emerson College and received her MFA in Fiction at Lesley University.

Katie is a Pushcart Prize nominee whose work has appeared in The Iowa Review, The Mississippi Review, and Argestes, among others.

The great loves of her life include child's pose,

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