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Quest for Love: True Stories of Passion and Purity

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Quest for Love tells true stories of people who gave their lives to God and how they met their spouses. The message is clear: Put God first and don't worry about "hunting" for a mate. God will give you what he knows is best for you at the proper time. Each chapter has discussion questions.
Paperback, 271 pages
Published June 15th 1996 by Baker Publishing Group (MI) (first published 1996)
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Sep 08, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: every young woman/man
one of Mrs. Elliot-Gren's best. She tells true stories of several couples who trusted God for the perfect mate and were not let down!
Since I have been married for over 25 years, why would I read a book like this? The one main reason is to learn more about faith. It takes faith to live a life that the bar is raised in such a book like this. It is not about do's and don'ts, but more about attitude of the heart, a heart after the Lord and His will for your life, and the blessing that come with it. Regrettably, many believers and non believers alike feel judged when people choose to raise the bar in their own lifes. When one live ...more
Jul 16, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Elisabeth Elliot is one of my favorite speakers (on podcasts mostly but nonetheless my favorite) and after reading this book I might even consider her to be a role-model. I read her other book Passion and Purity after hearing her speak a few times and was very touched by her utter devotion to Christ. This book was the same. Her commitment to God and her devotion to submitting her life to God entirely and her urge for other Christian women to do the same, is very present throughout the book.

Jennifer Tse
May 08, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: christianity
Quest for Love really shows how suddenly and personally God directs us to a spouse. The main theme is to be patient and wait for God’s good guidance and provision, because our Lord is the only one who knows the most compatible future spouse for us. Some of the stories can appear to be completely foreign concepts to us like arranged marriage and marriage without dating. However, you can clearly see God’s hands working in all of the relationships. Ultimately when our hearts are seeking God’s will, ...more
Haley Ellis
I didn't like this book very much. I think maybe it's just because it might be to old for me. I didn't like one particular story though. When it talked about 'Only with total dependence on God, will you ever be happy'. I dont like that. So it's saying, people who dont believe in God, or aren't really religious and like, rely on him..they are saying those people will never be happy? Like, I read that story to my sister (she's two years older then me) she understood it. She tried to explain it to ...more
AyЯa Acuña
Feb 25, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The stories found here are all amazing. They are testimonies that love can be found even if you don't date, if you put your trust and confidence to God, and prayers. It may sound weird fro christians but I hope they'd get at least the idea that they won't have to rush and that women doesn't have to run after men because if he fears the Lord and he truly loves you, he will wait. That's a proof he respects you. For the men, I hope they'll realize they'd have to do the initiation and not the other ...more
Jan 23, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book definitely gave me a lot of wisdom and hope concerning a godly, Christ centered relationship. I was encouraged by so many of the beautiful love stories of men and women who waited on Gods timing and didn't do anything out of their own strength. It inspired me to keep waiting on the Lord and continue seeking Him and He will provide everything at the perfect timing! Beautiful encouraging book! Recommend it to anyone who needs encouragement waiting on the Lord for their happily ever after ...more
Not quite as riveting and life-changing as the original Passion and Purity, but this still stands as a book I would recommend to someone who is wanting to bring their love life under God's control. This is also more of a sober read, because she addresses letters from individuals who have been burned in society's way of approaching love and are tentatively looking for other answers.

Make sure you read the other Passion and Purity before approaching this one.
If there's one thing Elisabeth Elliot doesn't do, it's pull any punches. She's quite clear about her opinions on dating, physical intimacy in romantic relationships, and the like and most of it is in complete opposition to the modern perspective on all of the above.

Effectively, this is a companion book to Passion and Purity where Elisabeth uses the story of her courtship with Jim Elliot to talk about romantic relationships. In this book, she shares some more general thoughts, but it's mostly a
Another thought-provoking, great book by Elisabeth Elliot. Quest for Love: True stories of Passion and Purity, kind of goes with her other book, Passion and Purity. I’ve read both and thought both were very good.

Quest for Love is more stories though (as you would note in the title). –Stories of cheap romances; and stories of God-written romances. Stories of people who tossed God’s rules and warnings into the wind and did things their own way; and stories of people who carefully and committedly
Katie W
This book was refreshing to read - a sharp contrast to the cheapened form of love prevalent in our society that isn't really love at all. True love involves having fun and pleasure and passion to be sure, but it's also about purity, sacrifice, hard-work, patience, respect, and the rest of the qualities mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13. That kind of love is so much more precious and persevering. God's plan for each of us, whether that means the gift of singleness or the gift of marriage, is best. If ...more
Some of the thoughts were very traditional and pretty hard to relate to after being immersed in the present culture, but I admire Elizabeth for her staunch adherence to beliefs that others might consider outdated. So, while some of the teachings seem a little too conservative for me, overall the Biblical truths that they are founded on are solid and I like the numerous Scripture references that she includes. The best part for me, though, was reading the letters from people/hearing their stories, ...more
Christina Knotts
This is an absolute MUST for every unmarried young man or woman seeking love! ;-)

When I was 14, I was feeling "worried sick" about who my mate should be so I picked up this book for encouragement. Encourage me it certainly did. I came away feeling free from worry, just like that. And all because I decided to surrender my "love life" to the LORD alone to orchestrate and surprise me with.

Still a lady in waiting, and content. :-D
Nov 17, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Read this book about 10 years ago. Never heard of it, but my fiancé handed it to me, and said, "Read this." It revolutionized my understanding of relationships. For the first time, I clearly understood my role as a man and a husband-to-be according to God's terms (according to the principles set forth in the Bible). I LOVE this book!!!! I would recommend it to any man wanting to help their relationship with their woman. AWESOME!!!!!!
Feb 01, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I liked this a lot. I don't think there were any ideas that I hadn't heard before but it's always helpful to hear something phrased a different way. My favorite part was reading the letters that she had received in the mail. Elliot did a nice job of teaching through the letters without hardly saying anything.
Clara Roberts
Jun 03, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book records stories that listerners to Elisabeth Elliot's radio show wrote to her. Elliot attempts to show one how to live the godly life. The godly life extends to romantic love. She says " in every generation there are those who not only hunger for the truth, but also search desparately for a high, even an 'impossibly' high standard."
Feb 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Just like her first book, "Passion and Purity" Elliot reminds us of timely words of wisdom when it comes to this area of life. I liked how this book presented various stories of how God worked to intersect people's lives together... and yet, there were recurring themes (such as trusting in God and not on your own judgement) which permeated the book. It was an encouraging read :)
Christin Panjaitan
Jul 04, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christianity
Based on my perspective, this book tells about how to be woman with God's love.
The author wrote her experiences since she was in school, ministry and her marriage.
She put a lot of Bible's words on her book as demonstrated her faith in God.
I recommend to every christian woman for reading this book.
This is a good book and may lead you to be the good christian woman.
Apr 08, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is amazing! I love the different stories of how God put two people together for His will. It's not just about "love stories", but the Greatest Love story ever told- God's love for all of us. It's hidden in each and every one of us, waiting to be found by us. Such as an encouraging book- to remain faithful and steadfast to the One who holds it all. :D
Oct 23, 2007 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: young women and men
This is a neat book with all kinds of stories of those who have taken the wrong road in the "dating culture" and have gotten hurt and the stories of those who have done it the "right" way and have been blessed! It is very encouraging and inspiring!
Jan 22, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-in-2007
One of the best books I’ve ever read on the subject of love between a man and a woman and how to let God be in control of our “love life”. It doesn’t offer pat solutions but causes one to really think and approach relationships God’s way. Another excellent book from Elisabeth Elliot.
Mar 17, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Elisabeth offers empathetic wisdom throughout. Bring your "love life" under the authority of Jesus Christ. Full of true life stories of Passion and Purity. I highly recommend this Biblically based book to anyone over the age of 15.
This book was a breath of fresh air to the Passion & Purity ideas after the sterility of the original book. While Elliot's story seemed very rigid, these stories were more vibrant, real, relatable. I would recommend this book over the original. ...more
Julie G
I love Elisabeth Eliot, but this book goes a little too much into her specific "rules" for relationships, which I don't always agree with. The points she makes are excellent, it just borders a little on legalism at places.
Jul 15, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Reflective Christians
This is better than its companion book, "Passion and Purity" because it gives a variety of stories that support chastity before marriage, and a Christ-centered life. Great reflection questions at the end of each chapter. Better if all the chapters included at least one story.
Sarah Ferguson
Jul 07, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I pretty much agree with almost everything she talks about in this book, in regards to relationships & such. I liked it better than Passion & Purity because it gave more practical insight into what to actually do & what to avoid in that part of every single person's life :-) ...more
Bethany B.
Jul 09, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Filled with diverse stories and down-to-earth wisdom.

Elisabeth Elliot shows that there is no formula. God is our focus and the center of any true relationship. We should be running after and trusting in Him!
I appreciated the point of view that abstinence before marriage is important. It tells of many people's experiences as they wish to be married to someone who shares their commitment to religious principles and practices.
Oct 25, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A very remarkable book containing practical principles on marriage, dating, a blibical view of the present trends and the western culture in the matter. The solution to your quest: total surrender to God and His almighty and all-knowing plan for you and your life on earth. Totally worth reading!
Apr 03, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found a great deal of insight and yet was a bit concerned with the influence Elizabeth has over younger women who may think such unchaperoned courtships maybe viable. Elizabeth warns about this but the book could have made it clearer by the choice of examples.
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