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Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son

4.08  ·  Rating details ·  1,586 ratings  ·  279 reviews
Raising My Rainbow is Lori Duron’s frank, heartfelt, and brutally funny account of her and her family's adventures of distress and happiness raising a gender-creative son. Whereas her older son, Chase, is a Lego-loving, sports-playing boy's boy, her younger son, C.J., would much rather twirl around in a pink sparkly tutu, with a Disney Princess in each hand while singing L ...more
Paperback, 288 pages
Published September 3rd 2013 by Broadway Books (first published January 1st 2013)
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Justin Tate
Dec 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Incredible! Lori's writing is brisk and witty, making it thoroughly entertaining as she describes her parenting decisions while raising a gender-bending young boy who enjoys playing with "girl" toys and wearing "girl" clothes.

Is CJ gay? Transgendered? Is it even fair to think about the sexuality of a three-year-old? Does he just like 'girl' stuff?

This book does a great job of showcasing the real life journey of being a parent. We, as readers, desperately want her to find the answers to these que
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Jessica Woodbury
Aug 29, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: arc, kindle, memoir
I have lots to say about this book and it's best I say it all now so I don't forget, even if I'll eventually repost it elsewhere.

First off: I am glad this book exists. I doubt there are many books out there like it. We need people to share their experiences when you feel like you have a one-of-a-kind situation because there are always other people out there going through the same thing. So I'm glad this book is here. It needs to be here.

That said, I wish this book was more than it is.

Ultimately
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Erin
Nov 10, 2013 rated it did not like it
I'd like to begin this by saying that I was a child who didn't play with gender appropriate toys. I was a girl who really, really hated girl toys. I HATED Barbie, all other dolls, had no interest in playing dress up or in hair and makeup. I did not really like or relate to other girls. Most of my friends were boys, I played with stuffed animals, Hot wheels cars, toy animals and in later years He-Man, Thundercats and Voltron. I played whiffleball and a local thing we called wall ball and I wanted ...more
Trish
Dec 04, 2015 rated it really liked it
I have always been curious about how folks discover and then adapt to some kind of specialness in their children—and admit to a real fascination with a child such as Duron’s CJ. At age 2-1/2, CJ exhibits such delight in Duron’s boxed 25th-anniversary Barbie that she opens it and…it was the toy he’d always wanted.

Duron’s first-born son, Chase, was all boy. CJ, her second-born son, had a strong affinity for girls, and girl things. Duron and her husband were surprised and not entirely thrilled at f
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* N aka Nikki
May 06, 2015 rated it liked it
I think I’m just not cut out to read books by people who view gender fluidity or (potential, perceived) homosexuality in their kids as an obstacle. As though it’s a cross to bear.

Let me start by saying that I only know what it’s like to walk in my own shoes and parent my own kids. I wouldn’t want to judge the author Lori Duron as though I know what her life feels like. We’re all doing the best we can as parents, and it’s clear she loves her kids and works hard to be supportive.

Having read a cou
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Mallory Kellogg
Aug 07, 2013 rated it really liked it
Was given a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

From the moment I read this book's title and saw those awesome pink laces, I had to read it. I wanted to know her story. And I was not disappointed. This book was terrific-tabulous! I can't say enough good about it.



So this woman has a son named C.J. who is "gender nonconforming", which simply means he's a boy that likes girl things and rejects boy things. He loves the Disney Princesses, especially Rapunzel. His favorite color is
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Hanah
Sep 15, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: lgbtq, parenting
It took me a while to put my finger on what exactly felt "off" about this book. The writer, Lori Duron, is a woman very much like me, a mother of two sons, one of whom is gender non-conforming (though in my case, my gender non-conforming boy has a twin sister to make things even more interesting). The way she approaches her son's situation with positivity, acceptance, and curiosity about the broader issues is generally good, and not all that different from the way I've done things for my own fam ...more
Nicole
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One of the most amazing, inspiring, touching, heartbreaking, nerve wracking, question-everything-you-thought-you-knew, heartwarming, soul-shattering, applaudable, hopeful, gets-you-where-it-counts books I have EVER read. I feel like this book should be a necessary read for EVERYONE, but I am willing to narrow it down to all parents, grandparents, aunts, foster parents, friendly (or not so friendly) neighbors, or anyone that has any connections with children, therapists, case workers, gender stu
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Rachel Woodruff
Jun 04, 2014 rated it it was ok
Lori Duron is a good writer I will give her that much credit. However the notion that a 2 year old knows that they are a girl or that a two year old boy is "gender nonconforming" is a bit much for me to swallow. Add that to the times when she openly writes some questionable stuff about her son and namely when she writes that if her son liked boy toys and acted like a boy she would be lost and she would lose her identity and my theory that she is forcing her son into this role because of the atte ...more
Barb
Aug 10, 2013 rated it it was ok
I think Lori and Matt Duron are great parents, they are thoughtfully figuring out how to deal with an unusual and challenging situation and are brave enough to share their experiences.

When their younger son first displays his preference for pretty, pink things they struggle with allowing him to play with girl toys and dress in girl clothes. Eventually they realize that their son doesn't have a problem rather, they and the other adults around him are the ones that have a problem (they are freaked
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Nichole Dinato
Dec 13, 2013 rated it liked it
I love Lori's blog, RaisingMyRainbow.com, so when I saw she had published a book I pre-ordered it immediately. Unfortunately, I don't feel the book was as good as the blog. The book felt rushed, and failed to ever really dig into details so that I felt like someone was just talking at me, rather than feeling truly emotionally invested in her family's tale like I do when I read the blog.

I think Lori's talent as a writer is in telling one story at a time, which is why her blog works. When she trie
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Rachael
Nov 07, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Actual Rating: 4.5

I am so SO glad this book exists. I want to tell everyone I know about it, even people who don't read.

I have absolutely nothing against the LGBT community and I am so thankful this woman decided to open up about a topic that isn't addressed as much as it is probably experienced. I love how real, raw and honest the stories were in this book. It felt so real and relatable. My heart broke for all the people in this book (dare I call them characters) at one point or another. But
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Robyn
Sep 03, 2013 rated it really liked it
During my teaching career, I have had several children who I believed to be gender-nonconforming. Although it was easier to spot the boys who were, I had girls in my class as well. I'm please to say that only one family stuck out as a family that did not support their child, meaning- I am grateful for the love and understanding of so many other families of gender-nonconforming children. Seeing a parent give their unconditional love and support should be an automatic gesture, but it isn't always. ...more
Kari
Jul 07, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2013
When I was pregnant and we found out we were having a boy, I wondered what I would do if it turned out that he wanted to be a girl. As he has gotten older, I have realized that I would love him no matter what, because what I love is that person at the core of Atticus who is. I also realize that’s easy for me to say since he conforms to a lot of gender norms (although he says his favorite color is pink). The main revelation for me in thinking about this topic is that I don’t know a lot about kids ...more
Chris
Sep 26, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: giveaway
I won this in a free giveaway from Goodreads.

I am very happy that a book like this exists. I've never read Duron's blog, but I will be after finishing this book.

Raising My Rainbow is a fabulous memoir dealing with raising a gender creative boy. At first, there was some hesitancy from myself. There was some worry that it would exploit her children, but that was all brushed aside within the first few pages. This woman loves her children, and I truly believe she's looking to help people understan
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Lablover
Jun 29, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction
I read this book in a matter of hours. This tells the story of a family dealing with the prejudices they must face while they raise their child who is "gender creative". I cried and I laughed out loud while reading it.
Lori Duron does a magnificent job explaining that she and her husband agonized over everyday decisions that most parents have no difficulty making, in addition to the bullying that their other child was subjected to and how they had to be an advocate for both children on two dif
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Ariane Trelaun
Aug 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Listen: this is what I keep saying -- Raising My Rainbow shares a subject whose time has come. And shares it in this intimate, bloggy manner, as the reader gets to know this particular family and its youngest member, CJ. I wish this book and its family so much success. Here's to an end to fear and bigotry, an end to bullying and harassment based on (perceived or real) gender difference, an end to the horrifying rate of suicide amongst LGBQT youth. On every page, I found myself just so moved by t ...more
Bill
Jan 24, 2016 rated it really liked it
I found this a very interesting book.

Slices of a life I never had (not as the mother, at least).

I am still learning very much about gender and sexual identities. It was less than a year ago that read I read my first novel with an asexual lead character. It was odd for me to see two people in love and one of them repelled by the thought of sex in that book, but I got over it.

I grew to like them.

It felt less odd with CJ, but it felt just odd enough that I could understand his mom's panic. And his
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Lace
Aug 03, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads, own
What a talented mother and writer! I am so happy I won an ARC of this fabulous book. I didn't want to stop reading about the interesting, and often hilarious, events of this family. The children are both fascinating, sweet, thoughtful and positive. I love seeing other parents' point-of-views and how people raise their kids. Lori Duron is an incredible mom. She is encouraging, strong, intelligent, and allows us to see her gender creative son the way she sees him. The way this family tackles obsta ...more
David
Sep 10, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This is a beautifully well written story. I haven't read a book when I laughed or cried as much. This is a very touching story that everyone should read.

Everyone who is, was, or wants to be a parent should read this. My Daughters are adults, and it made me wish I had done so many things diferently. This is the outline for how every parent should treat their children regardless of who that kid is. I wish every parent could be like Lori and Matt her with their children.

This is going into my top f
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Jenna Thiry
Apr 26, 2017 rated it really liked it
When CJ found a barbie in his mother's closet the whole family knew he was different. They all thought it was a phase. When he found out all the wonders of the female world, including a love for pink, barbies, and disney princesses, he began to play with his gender. While CJ is having fun exploring the world of gender creativity, his mother, Lori, tries to figure out why CJ is acting this way, and what she can do to help him. Before she consulted with a few therapists, she thought he was gay, li ...more
Genevieve Alissa
Jun 19, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
When I was in my mid-twenties, my dad told me that Ellen Degeneres coming out of the closet and my gay best friend being gay /having a boyfriend were "what was wrong with this world."  It made me incredibly sad and angry to hear him say this (not the least of which was because he still didn't know I was bisexual.)  In my opinion, Ellen and my best friend were two shining examples of what was right with the world. After finishing Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creati ...more
Angie
Jul 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
What a beautiful story.
Kimmie
Apr 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Really powerful. C.J. sounds like an amazing kid, and you sound like an amazing mom
Miriam Downey
Sep 16, 2013 rated it liked it
Read my full review here: http://mimi-cyberlibrarian.blogspot.c...

Lori Duron is the mother of two boys, Chase and C.J. Chase is a boy's boy and C.J. loves princesses and Barbie dolls. At first Duron and her husband were a bit freaked out by the way in which toddler C.J. embraced all things girlie. Luckily for C.J., Duron already had experience with this because her brother was a bit gender-creative, as she calls the phenomenon. The couple tried to figure out a strategy for dealing with this chil
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Angela

Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son is a very brave and honest account by Lori Duron. She and her husband, Matt, live in California and are in the process of bringing up their two boys, Chase and C.J. Chase is a boy who enjoys boys’ toys and traditional boys’ activities, whereas C.J. is a little boy who enjoys all things pink and purple. He loves Disney princesses and seems to identify with feminine activities and clothes.

The author became aware of the poss
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Megan
Mar 16, 2014 rated it it was ok
It's hard to write a reivew on a memoir without passing some sort of judgement on the content of the book. In my reivew of "Raising My Rainbow" by Lori Duron I will do the best I can to critique the writing and not the content; however, I can promise you I will fail. So please be aware of that.
I had mixed feelings about this book. When I first started I was in some ways scandalized not because of the subject matter but because I have strong feelings about putting sexuality labels on children- ch
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Shambhawi P.
Sep 02, 2013 rated it liked it
This book was beautiful. And unique.

I will not lie.. It was the foreword by Neil Patrick Harris that drew my attention to the book and the blurb just reeled me in. A book about a parents' adventures in raising a son who would rather be a daughter? The social taboo of this very notion was scary and I was intrigued to what the author had to say.

Duron did not disappoint. One could see her pride in her son reflected in her words, something that made me smile more than once. Her initial conflict in a
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Wellington
Sep 23, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting

Disclaimer: I don't have a gender creative son. I don't even have a son. My male dog has worn a tutu before.

So my wife's school is going to read this book, and she suggested I check it out first. OK, I'll take a look. The beginning of the book was engaging and honest about a mom who raises a gender creative son. Lori is likable enough and I grew to care for her family and story.

Chapters are really short. Perhaps, the author writes a blog so much, she's used to more blog sized writing.

I kept thi
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Leeann
Sep 12, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir, nonfiction

I first heard of this book while listening to NPR. I was so captivated by listening to the mother's story (of her son and their family) that I, the Queen of Library Books, promptly pulled the car over and downloaded it onto my Kindle. From there, I read it in two days flat.

What an exceptional, thought provoking book this is. I found myself wondering many times what I would do in the same situation and, quite honestly, if I would be as brave as the Duron family has been. Whether or not they are
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Lori Duron is the author of Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son (Random House, September 2013). The first parenting memoir to chronicle the journey of raising a gender nonconforming child, the book is based on her blog of the same name.

Duron lives with her husband and two children in a happy, messy home in Orange County.
“How come when girls play with gender it's a sign of strength and when boys play with gender it's a sign of weakness?” 15 likes
“I want them to be great people with enough competitive spirit and self-confidence to drive them to
follow and excel at their passions — be those styling hair, serving their country, performing, or driving trash trucks. I want them to have just enough competitive spirit and self-confidence, but not so much that they risk meaningful relationships and become consumed by their own self-righteousness. I don’t ever want them to feel like true fulfillment is unattainable.

I want them to fall in love with their whole heart, more than once. I want them to have a significant other in their life who fills them, completes them, and isn’t chosen out of compromise, ambivalence,or apathy. I want them to have someone whom they want to care for and who wants to care for them.

I want them to have a moral compass that works better than my own. I want them to know right from wrong, to consider other people’s feelings and the consequences of their actions. I want them to be men who do the right thing simply because it is the right thing to do.”
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