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Never Have I Ever: My Life (So Far) Without a Date

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"I've been single for my entire life. Not one boyfriend. Not one short-term dating situation. Not one person with whom I regularly hung out and kissed on the face."

So begins Katie Heaney's memoir of her years spent looking for love, but never quite finding it. By age 25, equipped with a college degree, a load of friends, and a happy family life, she still has never had a b
Paperback, 272 pages
Published January 14th 2014 by Grand Central Publishing
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Jan 15, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I am 99% sure Katie snuck into my room and stole my journals. This book hits way too close to home and I love it. It's nice knowing I'm not alone in a quarter century of solitude.
Jen (Feffer)
“I’ve been single for my entire life. Not one boyfriend. Not one short-term dating situation. Not one person with whom I regularly hung out and kissed on the face.”

It’s a quote from Katie Heaney’s book, Never Have I Ever, but I could have written that. Up until a certain, shockingly late point in my life, that was me. I never, never EVER had a boyfriend. In high school, in fact, I never had a date. There was nothing wrong with me; guys loved me. They wanted to tell me all about their girlfriends
Originally Posted on Confessions of an Opinionated Book Geek

4.5 Stars

Katie Heaney has never had a boyfriend. Never has she ever. She’s a virgin, she’s inexperienced and she is in her mid 20s. This is the hook of “Never Have I Ever” and it sticks through out the memoir, but it’s about so much more. It’s about a girl, a teenager and now a young woman trying to navigate a world where she seems to be the lone fish in the pond.

Katie (yes, I feel comfortable calling her Katie, because I have basically
I was always taught to administer my judgments with a pinch of salt, so picture me writing this out with an uncomfortable smile in place and an exaggerated squint. Are you picturing it? Okay, good. On with the review!

*Mr. Burns steeple fingers engaged*

I was promised that this book would blow my socks off, and even now, after having had time to reflect on the ending, the socks are still in place. Are you looking at the cover? It just oozes cuteness and likability, right? And see, that’s what ma
Monet St. Louis
Jan 27, 2014 rated it did not like it
Shelves: audiobooks, borrowing
Honestly - i was VERY disappointed in this book. I figured - noting the title - that this would be a funny story about a girl who was a shut-in nerd (like me) who has never been on a date before. again LIKE THE TITLE STATES. But no. This was a 'memoir' or a 'biography' of the author (who i have never heard before). She is i believe 26 and has never had a real boyfriend before....that may be true, but she has been on many a dates, and made out with quite a few guys, and had several relationships ...more
Jun 03, 2013 rated it really liked it
I am seriously going to buy a copy of this for all of my friends.

Katie Heaney is charming, witty and above all, brave. Throwing expectation out the window, she writes about dating life, and life in general as it REALLY is instead of how we think it should be. I think I nodded the entire time I was reading. Dear Katie Heaney, you are awesome.

(For a bit more elaboration:
Valerie Anne
Jan 13, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Never have I ever related so well to the narrator of a non-fiction book. And right now, this week of this month this year, from the very day I started it (okay like three days ago) to the day I finished it (three minutes ago) was the absolute perfect time for me to read it. Because I, who have also been more or less single for the now 27 years of my life, am usually very, VERY content with my relationship status (or lack thereof) and for some reason, last week, felt a little like I had termites ...more
Oct 08, 2017 rated it it was ok
I know that I should probably review this book with a sense of goodwill, but I just cannot find the words.
Mar 27, 2014 rated it it was ok
Read more than half of this and had to stop when I realized it was never going to be anything else. There's nothing wrong with the writing, but an entire book about someone's various crushes and brief makeout sessions, starting in kindergarten and going through age 25, and college experiences that are exactly like everyone else's college experiences? I can't believe even the people who are featured are interested in that much detail.
Initial reaction: Solid 2.5 stars. I liked some of Katie Heaney's statements about love and reflecting openly about her relationships through her life, but I was still very underwhelmed by this collective read. There were parts I just didn't connect with for various reasons that I'll expand upon in the review. One of the challenges about reflecting about your relationship history, even in a humorous, self-deprecating manner, is that it can get meandering very quickly if there's not a focal point ...more
Nov 15, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Katie Heaney in some ways is my dating soul sister. And her recounts of crushes and dates gone awry kept me laughing and tearing up in equal measure. At 25 Katie has never had a boyfriend, and very few actual dates. And I may not be in the same exact boat, but I am floating out there on the same sea. This is a book that makes me KNOW I am not alone. Heany's writing is so honest and right, I found myself nodding along more times than I can count. This is a book I could have written about my love( ...more
Jenae Williams
Jan 15, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, memoir
"Falling in love is totally unimaginable to me. I think the best things often are"

This was such a good book! As a single 20something I can relate but I think my friends who are dating (or even married) can appreciate and understand what she's talking about. Heaney does it in such a way that throughout the book I was wondering if we were the same person and if not, why we're not friends! Katie Heaney did an amazing job as a first timer. She was hilarious, witty, insightful, and very real.
Midian Sosa
Jan 03, 2014 rated it it was amazing
You guys, this book was PURE GENIUS!!

Never in my life have I felt like I could relate to a book, a person, or a character SO MUCH! And that’s what I loved the most about this, since we are talking about a memoir, you relate to an actual person!, I was like Oh joy! I’m not alone!, because, to be honest, my dating life is a thing of horror.

This book was also hilarious as all get out, and since I started reading, I immediately went on Twitter and started stalking Katie (KTHeaney) and she actually i
Jan 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Thank you, thank you, thank you Katie Heaney from writing a book that could have been possibly written about my own life. Your stories had me laughing on the subway and your honest thoughts about the hoopla that is dating and being perpetually single hit me to the core. Funny, charming and fantastic.
Jan 03, 2014 rated it really liked it
From my current "have read" and "to read" lists on Goodreads and from just plain knowing me, one would find it hard to believe I picked up a non-fiction title. A memoir at that. And a memoir from a contemporary at THAT. I don't make a habit to leave my little fictional/paranormal/romance world for much, but for this book. For. This. Book. I am so glad I did.

Katie Heaney's NEVER HAVE I EVER is the perfect book for every twenty-something or even college aged "kids" who feel a little lost, confused
Jan 03, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: ebook, requested
Never Have I Ever is the non-fiction tale of Katie Heaney that narrates her romantic life thus far- or rather, her lack there of. Humorous, honest, and more than a little sassy, Katie shares her ups and downs with dating, and shows an inside look at what a life of being single can be like. Come get acquainted with the boys she's mooned over from afar, the ones she almost kinda dated, and the friends and families who simply ask "Why don't you get a boyfriend?"

I'm going to be perfectly honest. Wha
Kristine Gift
Jan 25, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I decided that I absolutely had to read Katie Heaney's book after reading her Lighthouse chapter and Online Dating Part Two chapter online; they were so relatably and self-depreciatingly hilarious that I needed to read the whole book. Heaney met -- in fact, exceeded -- my expectations. As a fellow forever-single lady, but only 22 instead of 25, Heaney's stories (especially high school, college and beyond) felt almost like stories from my own life. Her views on friendship, her terror at thinking ...more
Danielle H
Feb 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really related to and liked some chapters of this book. I have put little pencil notes in my copy to indicate this. Because it’s hard to get older and still be single while you watch other people stop being single. And to kind of feel less and less connected to the people in your life who move on, even if some of them are people you think are always going to get the way you see the world. But saying that, I don’t know if there’s really enough content here for it to be a whole book. Because I k ...more
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OK, the title refers to me people!
Feb 21, 2014 rated it liked it
Read a Memoir

I picked this up because of a reading challenge and I particularly chose this because as an 20-ish single lady who only had one boyfriend I was so sure that I can relate with her dilemma and empathize with her which I did. The author is a witty and effective narrator. There were a lot of times that I totally understand where she's coming from especially when it comes to her frustrations with dating and of course, boys but most specially her struggles with her self worth. I also appr
Jan 15, 2013 rated it it was amazing

I feel very lucky to have read the manuscript to this book....I started late one night, and found myself laughing out loud in the dark and staying up way too late to read one more chapter, and then another. No one has ever captured the ANGST and frustration of crushes as perfectly and humorously as Katie Heaney. Anyone who has ever fallen in love with a cute stranger on a train, on the street, in class, or at work, will instantly identify with it, and laugh and cringe along with her dating misa
Jul 12, 2013 rated it really liked it
I read most of the book while commuting and people must have thought I was crazy from laughing out loud or smiling most of the time. It's comforting to know that it's not just my bestfriend and I who still refers to guys as "boys" at the age of 24. It's also reassuring to know I wasn't the only one who started diaries every single time there is a boy to write about and to only finish 1/3 of the diary.

This book should to be recommended to every girl in her twenties, whether they are in a relation
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I guess nonfiction chick-lit just isn't for me. I was more often than not bored through this entire book. There were a few points where I cracked a smile at some situation or description, but other than that it was more of a struggle to finish it.

When I picked it up, I thought it would be more just about how she was dealing with single life as a young adult, but NOOOOO. It starts out with her very first crushes in like kindergarten?? I couldn't care less about them. We all had them. And we all
Jan 15, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: real-life
I related to 90% of what what Katie was describing in this book. Maybe I didn't find it as laugh out loud funny as I had initially thought (though there were some moments that I was in tears from laughing), but it was still one of the most fantastic books I've ever read. Mostly because I could see so much of myself that I felt like it was about my life. Because I definitely find myself at 26 in the same spot as the author.

And the fact that Katie Heaney is from the twin cities too made my day! I
Aug 20, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I hope my review does this book justice because, quite frankly, this is the best book I've read this year.

There is so much I want to say about this book, but first and foremost, I feel like I have to mention how relatable it felt to my own life experiences. There wasn't a single chapter that went by that I didn't stop and think about a guy or girl friend I've encountered that remind me of this character, or a thought process the author had in which I realized I've felt the same in one point in m
Jul 26, 2015 rated it did not like it
This book should never have been written. At the very least, it should have been a blog post. The whole time reading I kept thinking: why are you writing a memoir?

I'm ashamed to say that I finished this book. It was like a bad train wreck I couldn't look away from, and I wanted to see if the end was just as bad as the beginning, and the middle. Katie writes like a whiny, nervous little girl who is immaturely obsessed with getting a date and making out with the latest drunk stranger. I know the b
Feb 03, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, on-women
HILARIOUS. I loved this book for a myriad of reasons. a) Everything was a written representation of my inner monologue. b) The bit about JTT was word-for-word something I bring up in conversation every few months. I could sue Heaney for plagiarism. But I won't because it turns out every single teenager in the early 90s was thinking the exact same thing at the exact same time. c) I had warm feelings of nostalgia - from having crushes on coffee-shop-boys to giving code names to cute campus boys , ...more
Mera Alfaro
Jan 24, 2014 rated it really liked it
"It's just that Bermuda doesn't know how to handle itself when somebody sails into it's territory, because that hardly ever happens."

I'm not a judge of book covers, but just by the looks of the cover, I was immediately drawn. Then I read the title, and I connected to it so fast. Then, I just had to read one page and I knew I was taking this home with me.

While reading this book, no matter your dating history, whether you're a "lighthouse" or a "Bermuda triangle" you will have this soft spot for K
Erin Heffernan
Jan 19, 2014 rated it it was ok
As a single 20something, I thought that I would enjoy this book so much more!! Maybe my expectations were just too high.

I like Katie's style and would probably read another book by her if she writes another, but this book was just way too long for what it is!!! There were really funny and relatable moments that made me laugh, but everything was so drawn out. Maybe this would have been a 4 or 5 star book if it was half as long. Honestly, even when I was totally feeling her pain I was totally bore
Oct 25, 2015 rated it it was ok
Shelves: women, nonfiction
For the full review, visit my blog at Belle's Book Nook

As someone who has also been single her entire life, I was really excited to read this book, to relate with Kate Heaney through it all, and maybe even listen to anything she might have to teach me in the end - some passed down words of wisdom or final thoughts on her experiences. To some extent her book served its purpose for me... but to another extent, it didn't quite fully. There was something lacking, a specialness, an authenticity that
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Katie Heaney is the author of Public Relations, Dear Emma, and Never Have I Ever, as well as the forthcoming memoir Would You Rather? (Penguin Random House, February 2018). Her writing has also appeared in New York magazine online, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, Racked, and The Hairpin, among other places. She lives in Brooklyn.
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